Enjoy This Moment!
31 Saturday Jan 2015
Posted #Everyday2015, #GoHawks, Be You, Football, Seahawks, Sex, Sex Love and Washing Clothes
in31 Saturday Jan 2015
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in30 Friday Jan 2015
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29 Thursday Jan 2015
Posted #Everyday2015, #GoHawks, Be You, Love, Seahawks, Sex Love and Washing Clothes
in28 Wednesday Jan 2015
Posted #Everyday2015, #GoHawks, Lock your door!, Sex, Sex Love and Washing Clothes
inHappy Hump Day everyone! On Wednesdays I usually try to have a “Hump Day Challenge” or a topic on Sex (some weeks it comes up more than others). I am kind of struggling drawing a Seahawks and/or a Superbowl reference here to! It is Hump Day of Super Bowl Week! The Seahawks are in the Super Bowl prepping for a repeat as we speak. It is competition Wednesday! How can I draw the Seahawks, Super Bowl, Hump Day, Competition Wednesday and Sex together without it feeling like a stretch?….. I’ll try, here goes nothing
How are we all doing on the #Everyday2015? Is anyone still in it? Have you done “it” 28 times this year? Well, I have! Sometimes I feel full of shit for writing this blog. When the Hubs and I are in daily life of normal family type things that are less than glamorous and we seem or feel in that moment less than happy, it is tough to spend any more moments trying to please the man (or him trying to please me.) We have done it though. We powered through a few nights and came out the other side and guess what, it made us closer and we are happier for it. We get into spats or mini sometimes major arguments that start because of thoughts like this: “I know I am working harder than he is because I am in here the kitchen cooking and cleaning after a day of grocery shopping, organizing, volunteering at school and then going to get the kid from practice getting their homework done and off to bed and finally at 9 or so I can sit down next to him and relax”…all the while he is thinking he is working harder than I am because he is getting up early going to work everyday then coming home and fixing the broken washing machine and then going to take a kid to practice and then finally at 9 he can finally sit down… Our stories are not very different. In actuality they sound very similar right? Well we have to stop being selfish! Both stories are right but why do we find the need to compare how hard we are working against how hard our spouse it working! I guarantee you are both putting in the same amount of effort. Maybe not on a physical level and maybe not completely even across the board everyday but you are both giving your lives 100% to your family in one way or another!
Let’s take an example of our team! The Seahawks started out the season 3-3 and then went to 6-4. That was right about when analyst and band wagoners were counting them out. It was also right about when the team leaders got everyone together for a player only meeting to recommit to each other. They started playing the game FOR each other! Not just for themselves, not even for the win, for the love of their brothers. We all know how that ended(Superbowl baby!). When you stop looking over your shoulder and comparing what you are doing vs what your teammates are doing you. You get better. You can’t control them anyway. You can only control you. If you know your teammate is giving 100% every play you don’t want to be the guy to take a play off and give up a big play. You would let him down. You want to be the guy following the play through so you can help block or catch a tipped ball. When a teammate needs help you help him out you do it because you know he would do it for you! That is when you become unstoppable. That is why I believe the Seahawks will win the Super Bowl! The Defense has the back of the offense. Those players play for each other each play individually for the rest of the team. They have short memories of dropped balls and mistakes they are always looking at the goal that is a team win! They do not point fingers at the guy who dropped a ball or missed a tackle. They maintain trust, that when needed, that same teammate will come up big! Seahawks will win as team. We as couples and families need to win as a team
At sometimes during this month of Sex, Love and Washing Clothes I have thought that this was the answer to true happiness. It has not been bad for my life but it also has not been a magical pill, we still have to the work, just like we did before! When the Hubs and I start keeping tally of what you did for me or what I did for you things go bad. As I am sure that happens to you too! We all need to remember we are on the same team. Yes right now I may be dropping the ball a little more than you or maybe you feel your spouse doesn’t help out enough. Maybe your spouse is waiting for you to ask. It probably is miss communication and sometimes if you are like us trying to talk about that miss communication only creates more miss communication. Show your spouse you care about what is bothering them.
“In every complaint there is a deep personal longing.” ~John Gottman
Pay attention to your partners complaints what is there deep personal longing that they are needing to communicate but can’t figure out how. Maybe they need more connection, maybe they are overworked at the office, maybe stressed about finances or maybe they just don’t feel like you pay attention to them enough. Try to talk to them but also if you listen to their complaints (don’t take them personal it’s about them not you) and see if there is a way you can help come to a solution, ask them if there is a solution they are looking for. One solution may just be to have someone who will let them complain or even complain about the same thing along with them. That may help to bridge the divide that daily life stress causes!
My favorite advice: When in doubt have sex. Grab some erotic pictures off the internet, read erotic stories or make up your own with your mate. Get out the sex dice and put aside your differences and have a crazy fun romp. If time is an issue, go to bed earlier or invest in a lock for your door crank up the TV to muffle the noise and tell your kids you are off work for the night! But get in that positive touch somehow! Remember the person you fell in love with. The overworked under paid and overextended dad of your kids might not be too attractive right now but put him in a room with no distractions and give him your 100% naked body attention you may remember what the real Bare Necessities of life really are! So will he,hopefully he can turn off his brain for it, don’t take it personal just give him time and be patient.
Go get you some tonight folks! Be in this moment like it is a 2 minute drill at the end of the 4th Quarter for the win of the Superbowl! It is competition Wednesday, make it competition worthy. If you want to compete with your spouse here are the parameters who can make the other one cringe with excitement better faster and longer hold it there for you to catch up and together let it go for a Score!
Go Hawks! Go Families! Go Couples!
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27 Tuesday Jan 2015
Posted #Everyday2015, #GoHawks, Be You, Football, Love, Sex Love and Washing Clothes
in“You don’t feel in Beast Mode. It feels you.”
26 Monday Jan 2015
Send in the troups if you don’t hear from me off to tackle the Master Bedroom!!!
26 Monday Jan 2015
Posted #Everyday2015, #GoHawks, Be Present, Family, Football, Love, Seahawks
inOne Week until Super Bowl 49… GoHawks!
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24 Saturday Jan 2015
Posted 15 Minute Writing, Kids, Love, Raising Kids, Sex Love and Washing Clothes
inStart 1:15pm:
So yesterday I wrote I want to write about crazy shit! Well today I am doing crazy shit with my writing. And that is I am trying to finish my writing in 15 minutes. Last night was The Boy’s Birthday Sleepover. So that is the Crazy Shit I am writing about.
Now, I love my Boy, and the friends he had over, however I am so not made for boy sleepovers. They were crazy! Running around crazy like. Everything turned into a wrestling match. Even a soak in the Hot Tub I look out and they are tackling each other trying to hold their heads underwater. I went out and said “don’t horse around” and knowing that 9 year old boys need a little more detail than that I said “No tackling or dunking” and then look out 5 minutes later and they were tackling so I go out again and they said, “we were wrestling not tackling” Oh my word…. I felt like the mom constantly telling them what not to do.
The Boy has had sleepovers before but not with more than 2 kids and usually it is with Sports team kids, and 2 out of 3 sports the Boy plays The Hubs coaches. So the kids have a little more respect and understanding, or at least they know how to listen and know what Coach expects. These boys were a bit of a challenge. Not bad kids by any means, kids who seemed to be trying the rules a little. To see how far they could go, well, in this house we have a lot of rules! We decided a long time ago that rules will stay the same whether friends are here or not! So, most friends have figured that out, but note to self, don’t have a sleepover with friends who have not, or who have not been over to the house by themselves. In the future rule will be they have to have been here for a one on one sleep over first or be an extreme circumstance. That way they know what to expect and then they won’t come in and try to rial up the crowd against the rules. Not that that happened on purpose it just seemed like it.
“You know what your worst enemy is, it’s your big mouth” a quote I just heard over the TV, Hubs and The Boy are watching Patton. This statement is so true. The Boy and a few of his friends should have learned this by now but they are still working on it. This weekend’s sleepover involved quite a few big mouths. You know the type someone who ALWAYS wins Madden at home and are good football players who have played in the past but stopped, then you realize they may have never touched a football.
It was a mini testosterone fest, basically. It reminded me of a stories from guys weekends and bachelor party repeats that I have heard. Here is one from a few years ago, now this is what I can piece together it should make for good reading but I cannot guarantee the validity or truth since I was not there and we all know how boys like to embellish stories and omit or add a few details here and there. It is pretty fair to say most testosterone fests go like this or similarities run strong at least. Friend J starts trash talking Friend K and after a few words back and forth Friend K takes it personal and gets his feelings hurt and charges Friend J and ends up crashing through the mirrored closet door of Friend J’s hotel room (who btw got out of paying for it with a BS story about being drunk need to take a poop and tripping while trying to maneuver around the bed, hotel said no problem sir, we just want to make sure you are not hurt..aka they didn’t want to get sued”) {running out of writing time} Bottom line is, a 9 year old sleep over is nothing different from a bachelor party except there are chaperons and the 9 year old are just learning to try to find a place for their testosterone filled selves to fit in. And with that will come some growing pains and mini probably some major fights. I need to channel The Hub/s Best friend’s dad who used to make the Hubs and his best friend always shake on it and be friends. Boys recover from these things pretty easy though right. Lessons learned this weekend all in all it was fun!
Time’s up…now I get to spell check right?….
P.S. I am so glad that this house will be kid free tonight We all know I need it!!!
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Writing done at 1:31pm Editing done at 1:47
23 Friday Jan 2015
Posted #Everyday2015, #GoHawks, Dance, Don't judge me, Love, Sex, Sex Love and Washing Clothes
inHappy Blue Friday!!!! Go Seahawks (yes I know it is a bye week but for Superbowl Baby!!!)
I am really enjoying my 2015 blogging adventure! I have been doing a bit of trying to sound intelligent and knowledgeable and like I know what I am talking about but I sometimes I feel like I am full of shit! I just watched an episode of Girls Guide To Divorce (which I have never watched and never wanted to kind of because I don’t want it to be foreshadowing since I am writing this blog about marriage and love and sex and Abby is writer who wrote a marriage book and then got a divorce don’t know much more about the story) but something struck me of what Abby said. She pitched an idea(I think for a new book I only caught about 45 minutes of this particular episode) to her friend and her friend laughed at her and then Abby went to …. “I am full of shit” and the friend said YES! Go with that! She did. Abby’s pitch was basically “I want to write about crazy shit” and the people in the board room loved it.
When I started this blog I wanted to write about my marriage that has been held together with some crazy shit! The hubs and I get told a lot that we are a perfect couple, truth is I think they are right, but we are sometimes the perfect couple storm too. We like to socialize together. We rarely go out on Girls Night Out or Guys Night Out, actually the Hubs is usually invited to Girls Night Out because he will drive me home for one, and he is a lot of fun to hang with, the girls like him around he makes us laugh and he will even chat with the girls about girl stuff and he is the type of guy who is not afraid to go to the store just to buy Tampons for me. I always crash, and by crash I mean I am invited to, Guys Night Out because I am kind of one of the guys too. I like football I know football just as much or more than the guys I was even a proxy Fantasy Football drafter when one buddy was TDY for work. We have fun together we don’t get jealous we are both kind of flirts but respect each other as well. The Hubs does not like to dance much. He will if I ask nicely or if he is drunk enough or in the right mood. But we have a few friends who do like to dance and will dance with me. I always ask the Hubs before I head out on the dance floor with another man. He usually looks at me funny and says “why are you asking me?” For me it is because I respect you and want to put it all out there so you know what I am doing and there are no surprises.
It’s fun times like this that make our relationship so fun and our lives happy. Fun is a big reason to be happy. Spending time with your spouse or partner is a good way to build connection. You do not have to be attached at the hip! That is what confuses a lot of people sometimes though but it shouldn’t. People need to be secure in their relationship. I think that is one reason we are so happy and have so much fun. I love the nights when we meet up after being in two different conversations and say…”fancy meeting you here!” Then we snag a kiss and maybe cop a feel and then go back to our respective conversations or activities. I like dancing and girl talk, he plays cards or outside games and/or BBQing with the boys. We are the perfect couple because we are secure with each other and love to spend time together with our family and friends and also have great time alone together too!
I too want to write about the crazy shit. I have some crazy stories (there are way more crazy rumors floating around out there about me so don’t get any ideas, can you hear the Katy Perry music too) but I have to figure out how to fit them into the context of a blog and get the details right, you as the reader need it to make sense and that may be hard because many of my stories are like listening to a group of giggly drunk girls explain what their giggly inside joke just was about…let’s see if I can actually write about that stuff and make sense..might be fun… But we have to remember I am not a writer but I have 342 days left this year to work on it! And Don’t judge you know you have these stories too! Go have fun with you lover this weekend! I plan to!
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22 Thursday Jan 2015
How are your 2015 goals doing? Did you really set out goals for 2015? It is the third week in January, Thursday. We are only 3 weeks into this year that is about 5.7% into 2015. It seems like it has been forever since New Years Day. So much has happened. The Oregon Ducks won the Rose Bowl and a spot in the National Championship and then lost that game. The Seahawks played in and won two play off games including a second in a row NFC Championship Game. The Boy has wrestled in 4 matches won 8 and lost 3 bouts, 4 or 5 of them he has pinned for the win. The girl has finished her competition solo and her costume has arrived it is gorgeous and she is more gorgeous dancing in it. I have had my first ever official migraine (sucked) and I have gone most of these 22 days of January without alcohol and carbs and sugar (I got two waiver days for Playoff games and a few quick bites that no one will ever know). The Hubs starts his apprentice class that he teaches next week and has an instructor meeting tonight. The Hubs and I had a great start and then had our first fight last weekend but are still in a better spot than ever. Our kids have spent a weekend with Grandma Great and one with Gram and Gramps. We have had the Boy’s birthday party and sent kids home because he was puking so we will do it again this weekend. The Girl has had the disappointment of stupid 10 year old girls who can only be friends with once person at a time and had her sleepover with her bestie canceled due to her brother being sick. Point is 2015 is in full swing and the “New Year” feeling has faded into the normalness of real life. Right?
So how are we doing? Sex Love and Washing Clothes was, no IS my goal. The Hubs and I have kept up on our part of the sex everyday! I have not exactly kept up the washing clothes everyday, but I have not given up. I love everyday with my whole heart. Even when it doesn’t seem like it I am making decisions out of love, love for my family, my cause, school, sport, kids, teachers, husband family etc…even if in reluctance I make every decision for the love of something! It happens about this time maybe sooner, every year the “New Year” feeling fades. The excitement of that “change feeling” wears off, the desire for change fades. Our motivation fades sometimes moment after we see a great inspiring presentation. In the moment of that presentation we were captured with hope and inspiration! Then reality sets in we have to be home to take the kids to practice and make dinner in 20 minutes and you forgot to take out the chicken from the freezer….So we end up falling back into our rut that we intended to get out. That feeling of being in a rut is what gave us the original desire for change, and there we go right back into it!
Yes that is what happens when life gets in the way! Ruts are hard to get out of they are easy to just follow along and get pulled wherever they lead. There have been days this year (in only 22 days) that I have wanted to say “Fuck It” I am throwing in the towel everyday for a whole year is too long! Obviously I kind of have done that with the whole cleaning thing but I have refocused and continue to try to make new strides everyday. But the first word in this blog is not cleaning for a reason. It is sex, and that department we have stayed to the course everyday! I really do love sex with the Hubs and he does too, so that makes it much easier. So it really is not hard, in theory, to keep doing it because obviously sex is fun, but we all know that we want to just go to sleep sometimes especially when tired or sick or have a rib injury (yes, I have an NFC Championship game war wound and just laying down hurts). I have stuck it out because I committed and I want to see what it does if I actually keep a resolution? (Should I use that word?) Has that ever happened? That anyone has kept a resolution?! EVER?! I have 22 days and counting!
Piggy backing on yesterdays post stop letting life get in the way and steal your passion! Stop being a nay sayer and giving in! You can keep the passion and inspiration! You can do it AND get the family fed dinner and get the kids to practice on time! It just takes determination, dedication and desire (and a maybe little planning depending on your goal)! Do you really have desire for change in your life? Routine and ruts are easy, even if you don’t like them. If you have been doing it that way for a while you have to go through the change and sometimes it causes what I refer to as growing pains. I have quit so many diets, workout programs and organization projects and even jobs because of said growing pains. But, this year in 2015 I plan to push through! It’s kind of like going through hell to get to something better. There is a country song that says “if you’re going through hell keep on going. You might get out before the devil even knows your there”. So, keep going until you create a new routine that includes the positive changes, it may even be easy one day! At the end of 2014 you set out to accomplish something in 2015 you said that you would do it on New Years Eve! You were inspired by stories of accomplishments of 2014 and probably stories of failures in 2014 so let’s do 2015 better. Maybe you were inspired by the Champagne or the Ducks or Ohio States win on New Years Day. Regardless something inspired you hold onto that inspiration don’t ever let it go!
Those Chinese lanterns we sent off on New Years Eve, went up and kept going, none of them turned to you and said that is too hard or too much! We had dreams and plans and desire and maybe unrealistic expectations but let’s make those reality with the work we put in this WHOLE year!!!! Never give up on those dreams! 2015 is 12 months, 52 weeks, 365 days. It has only been 22 days, you still have time you can still get on track don’t give up!
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