Today is hump day! Happy Hump Day! I love hump day! I love saying “happy hump day”. I like the little mystery of the word hump.  Hehe, I get kind of giggly like a Jr High Schooler when someone says happy hump day or even when I say it. Because for me, Hump Day means “hump” as in humping, having sex, intercourse or you know my favorite word…Fucking! Yes, everyday is hump day for this girl, now, but before Sex Love and Washing Clothes started the Hubs and I were still, almost daily people, but if we took a day or two off due to being tired or busy or lazy we would usually pick back up on Wednesday because, duh it’s hump day, you have to! So for my blog and to keep things exciting, I am going to try to have challenges or suggestions every Hump Day.
This hump day I will start off easy-ish, however I do understand, for some it will be super tough for many different reasons, some simple and some deeper. You may have to figure out how to power through and really work through your issues. Most of us have done this one, and hopefully at least you have experienced it. This is my February 4, 2015 Hump Day Challenge: pleasure your lover with your mouth and then let them return the pleasure! If you are cringing or holding back because of childhood or religious shame issue or you think it’s dirty or the taste doesn’t suit you or you just can’t “do it” …Power and/or work through it and just do it! There should be no shame in doing what you want with and for your partner in your bedroom. Especially if it feels good and you both enjoy it. Everyone has there likes and dislikes, give it a good honest college try and decide for yourself. Let your inhibitions go, no one is watching (Lock your door) and no one will know. No one is judging, if it feels good, your doing it right. If it is not feeling right, partners, speak up give suggestions or at least let your partner know what is not working. If you are the one giving pleasure and your partner gives you feedback, don’t get defensive or take it personal, the goal is for your partner to enjoy what you are doing to them. Communicate, enjoy your partner, feel free to laugh at yourselves when you can’t seem to get it, basically, RELAX!
Now when I say pleasure your lover, it does not have to be start to finish. Feel free to work into it. It’s called foreplay, start out with a sweet kiss when you first see your lover tonight. Then a longer kiss and really get into that make out session don’t be afraid to grope and/or pet (you know heavy petting) your partner. Your kissing and making out will help warm up your jaw and lubricate your mouth so you are ready to go down. When you get there think about as making out with you husband’s cock, husbands make out with your wife’s pussy…oooh can I say those things? Yes, I can! I just did! And you can do those things too! I like the warm up of a make out because it starts that connection and I love love love to kiss and make out especially when it progresses to more than just a make out session. Oral sex takes you places you may never have been! If you have been there, you know what I am saying, maybe it’s just been a while, maybe not just take advantage of this hump day challenge. Oral sex is something that is fun, erotic and sexy and it creates a different kind of connection, both on the emotional and physical level. When my husband pleasures me like this I usually get to the place where I lose all inhibitions around sex. I get dirty and loud and feel sexy and I talk dirty and say things I would not any other time. He loves that sexy part about me, which is probably why he is so giving and lets me experience it so much! Being in that moment of sexual ecstasy you lose those inhibitions it is kind of like being drunk, but it is healthy, does not kill your liver and you could drive after, but who would want to. That is what I am challenging you to do to your lover tonight! Relax enough to lose your inhibitions when it is his turn to please you. If you get really adventurous, you could try going down on each other at the same time. Some refer to it as 69ing (I personally am not a huge fan of 69ing the positioning is hard to get and I like to focus on what I am doing and what is being done to me and I lose the ability to focus when I get to that sweet spot). Whatever you do, relax, enjoy it and let go!
A few tips, I am not a sex expert I am just a wife who has read a few books and articles and got feedback from my husband, don’t be afraid to do a google search for help, just go into a private browser so when your kids go on your computer they won’t accidentally follow your search.
On the man,
  • Be careful with your teeth, relax your jaw, take breaks, use your tongue and lick up and down like a lollipop, it doesn’t have to be sucking and all deep throat all the time
  • Don’t worry about being quiet, feel free to slurp and gag and be sloppy, guys like that sound. 
  • Wrap your hand around the shaft and stroke up and down and around. 
  • Play with his balls a little he will like that too 
When going down on her,
  • Make out with her pussy. 
  • Use your tongue all over down there, but don’t be afraid to suck a little on the clitoris, 
  • Add a little finger (or two or even a toy) inside her to stimulate the G-spot as your make out with her down south region. 
  • Try humming or grunting , the vibration of your voice humming or grunting will make your lady’s eyes roll back and be ready, she may grab your head and/or pull your hair! 
For both
  • Nipple stimulation goes well with oral sex for both men and women
  • When your partner is working on you feel free to touch the giver, be sexy and be connected, men, be careful not to push down to hard on your partners head while some might like it a lot but it will possibly make her gag and clench up and you may feel her teeth. Communications is key here. It is probably a bit of a turn off her.  Let your lady run her mouth up and down on your shaft at her pace.
  • Run your fingers through your partners hair and maybe even pull it slightly. Grasp and play with their earlobes too, that’s sexy
I hope this helps excite your hump day and your sex life. If there are any of you who are once a weekers, or less (gasp) try my Hump Day Challenges! You never know you may find something that you both like! The Hump Day Challenge is just a suggestion. There is no way it can be done wrong unless you don’t have fun or if you don’t try it or if you end up in a fight (relax and go with something you are both comfortable with). You don’t have to go start to finish orally to successfully complete this challenge. You just have to try! Enjoy your mate love him/her see if you like to pleasure or be pleasured more, you may be surprised. Focus today on pleasuring your partner make him/her feel that ecstasy that leads to a release and the inhibitions go away and your see the real person you are with. You express your love for him/her and he/she expresses their love to you in a raw and real way. Let that draw you closer hold on to that feeling and that will keep you strong in your relationship. Love you lover with all your heart soul and mind and today also with your mouth!
#Everday2015
P.S. Update From yesterday: Today I don’t feel as productive as yesterday. I don’t feel the drive I felt yesterday. However I don’t feel completely downer as I have normally. Today is Wednesday, my volunteer day at school, so I don’t have the freedom of having all day to get shit done. So like normal, I tend to look at my schedule as full when really I was today only at school until 11:30. And even if I was there longer, I need to remind myself that there is still a lot that can be done even in a short 15 minute span of time around the house. For Sex Love and Washing Clothes I think I am going to start making checklists or guides for myself to help accomplish stuff during the week. Especially since I will be also rejoining the ranks of working moms again. WHAT?! Yes, you heard that right, I am going to go back to work at the office I recently (last April) left to focus on my family and house. I will be there Tuesday and Thursdays during school hours so I don’t have to worry about childcare ect. So all the more reason to get my shit together so I have a better guide and plan to get stuff done.
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