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Cleaning house until it gets done! AKA probably all day!

31 Tuesday Mar 2015

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So I am taking a quick break…at least I thought a quick break to call on a medical bill that should have been paid but wasn’t. Well the stupid company had their shit out of sorts and were out of network and can’t figure out how to submit it properly after I have told them at least five times. Then they decide that customer service doesn’t exist and are rude to me all the while I am dealing with this on my quick break that turned into an hour on the phone dealing with a big company overtaking a smaller company that didn’t get their paperwork done and there was a lapse in there credentialing and now this is my fault and they are doing me a favor by “discounting” their services but I have to submit paper work proving they screw shit up! Yeah not a happy camper! What the fuck happened to customer service?Or businesses who actually took care of their business instead of just billing customers just in case they didn’t notice and decided to just write the check to make it go away?!Clean house all day

Yesterday I told the Hubs I could get the house cleaned in one day so, yeah I needed that hour that I lost and I don’t have time to spend on blogging about it I have to go finish cleaning! I am making good progress though! More later maybe!

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Fresh Start, New Adventures, Enjoy Life

31 Tuesday Mar 2015

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Happy Monday! Today was my first official day working at the office! I am so glad to be back I love that my “boss” is happy to have me back too. It is nice to be missed and be welcomed back. I had 3 massages today! It was a great day! I am so happy to be restarting this journey working at this Chiropractic office! I love it there! I feel like I am home.Monday frest start

There are always growing pains. Since I left this office they have implemented a new charting system. With macros and computer stuff! I need to write my own macros, I guess. I cannot decipher those of the other massage therapist’s. So I got the info to get into the system to watch video tutorials to write my own. I am hoping to maybe go in tomorrow and do that since I have no appointments on the books as of yet. I was a little scared and overwhelmed that I was going to mess something up today! I have done my job, as a massage therapist, for 16 years and every new location I am a little nervous, today was no different. I don’t know why they basically begged me to come back. I wasn’t nervous about my massage, I was nervous about the charting program. Which was not as hard as I thought but was much harder than it should be because there are these little macros and hot buttons that are set up by the other LMP. She put her notes on hot buttons and she and I must not chart the same way. I will learn how to write these new ones and get my system in and it will be easy peasy. I am not worried.

Today being Monday makes it a great day to start this new journey! I am so excited. On top of my office job, my friend who is a bartender is trying to get me to apply for the job for Friday night late shift bartender. I have always kind of wanted to be a bartender (well, since I started drinking and enjoying cocktails at about the age of 30) I think it would be fun. But also I think it may seem more fun than it actually is. I would sign up right away if the Hubs would promise to be there with me every Friday night! Maybe they could hire him as the security bouncer for Fridays….there is so much about that that seems awesome and so much that sounds so wrong! Bar-tending on a Friday night if busy I could make $200 or more in tips. Not to mention I would work with one of my super cute fun friends. Just think even if I made $100 in tips that would cover dance tuition for the month or the car payment for the car we are wanting to buy in the spring. It may burn us (or me) out though but there is a big part of me that thinks one night a week, Easy Peasy. Lot’s of things going on in my head could this be our financial answer for the car, dance, extra cash a fun adventure for Friday nights…. Maybe it is too good to be a good thing. You have to deal with drunk people, liquor license, checking IDs, small town issues in small bars, over serving…. and the list goes on….

Somethings to think about… I love being a massage therapist and I think I am good at it. I love being a mom. I don’t NEED a bar-tending job but I could have one night a week make an easy hundred bucks…. IDK sounds too good to be true, probably because I am not a bartender. I like to drink cocktails. I like to try new things and I think I would like creating new drinks too. I think it would be fun. The owner of said bar and I were talking one night about me trying to do a dance thing where I would teach/lead dance routines similarly to a Zumba type class. My idea would be to do a “group dance routine” or two at the top and bottom of each hour. I used to teach Zumba so it would be similar to that. I could do that in between slinging drinks. Ooh and to top it off the shift I would work would be 9-2 so the kids would basically be in bed already or we could drop them off at Grandma’s on the way to the bar. Hmmm maybe fun, for a while anyway! I would love to help my friends who owns the bar get some more consistent business in there on Friday nights also.

I have another friend who is slinging mascara and I am considering joining her team as well. I am already doing this Essential Oils Business with Young Living. I am planning to focus on it more to increase my “team” but I am not a good sales person and I don’t really know where to go. I am planning on doing some more training in the EO world and my team leader has published some recent what to do at each “level” of team membership/leadership. I have some new team members that are excited and I also have some great leads, it’s just I don’t know how to follow up without feeling like I am bugging them about Oils to “finish the deal” and actually sign them up to purchase their own oils. I love my oils I have had some amazing success with oils and have shared them with many people who have not “purchased” yet or who had another friend who they bought theirs from. Slinging drinks seems much easier than the work I need to put into this type of business. I am not a sales person. I am a sharer. I know there is a way to make this business work this way. Just need to follow through. If I do it right it will be a few years of work that will work for me for years to come…OMG I sound like an Amway person! Again Slinging drinks sounds easier!

So many irons in the fire gotta watch that but also everyone has to sacrifice for something. No one can have it all. If we want the fancy car, nice stuff at the house and designer clothes (that we buy at TJ Maxx) and to go on vacations that double as Dance Competititions and some that aren’t dance competitons and if we want to go to the Superbowl next time the Seahawks are there, we need to make some sacrifices. I would rather not make the Hubs take night calls he already works enough and no one wants to give up there activities and the kids are just getting more expensive as they get older! Boy was I wrong thinking that after the baby stage it would get cheaper. “Older kids won’t need carseats and strollers and stuff so it will be less expensive when the get older” …boy was that a myth I told myself!

So what your saying is I can’t have my cake and eat it too? Big major bummer! I will find a way! I will! I will! I will! We, the Hubs and I, are determined, we know what we want and we will get it. One way or another! We will do it together and we will make these decisions together, at least that is what I want to do! Make plans and make it work for both of us and the kids and enjoy this life right now! We don’t have to wait for retirement to have what we want, we just have to be creative! We can do it, together! I am looking forward to some fun times with the Hubs and I want to enjoy this life with our kids before they have their own and we go, wait what happened?! Planning we just need some planning.

little things in lifeTo the Hubs: First of all, baby, don’t get all crazy. I am not making plans here I am just venting out what is in my head! We will make these decisions together and we will enjoy this life now! I love you!

We only have one lifetime let’s enjoy every minute of it, and in the not so enjoyable minutes let’s focus on the big picture and focus on the goal of why we are putting up with the annoying life altering for the moment tasks. Stay focused on the prize! Don’t forget to watch the dance and enjoy each moment for whatever it is!

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So Glad for Spring Break

30 Monday Mar 2015

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It is Spring Break! It has been a busy weekend! The Girl had her last competition of the season! I love watching her dance, I am going to miss that! She was great! We were all having high hopes of great scores overall awards and the call “3rd Place with a Gold” …I hate judges! My Girl was awesome she did everything her teacher asked straight back leg in her lunges, ‘when you snake from this move to this move,’ she was fierce on that stage, might have been the best run this year. Apparently the judges were looking for something else or just don’t know a good dancing 10 year old when they see one. Oh well, I know and she knows she did great! It will be interesting to see the judging sheets with their comments!

To add to the fun this weekend, yesterday, I was driving my car and clipped a corner curb thing and gouged my tire! WTF?! Who gouges a tire while driving around the corner?! Well, sitting here talking with a friend these curbs are particularly different there is a high point between the ramps that go to the cross walk in each direction. Anyway the Hubs had to drive home with the car fix the sidewall and I went to get him with the truck we made it back to watch the end of dance down and awards last night. But we missed our daughter’s audition dance that apparently she did awesome but was not selected (shocking)! No worries, she is amazing in our book and I think she knows she is too. I sound very bitter about judges but she really is amazing, what parent doesn’t think that?

So after the car issues and scoring sadness this morning we took the kids to a feel better lunch/dinner with Grams and Gramps and sent them home with them! We are sitting at our favorite watering hole with adult beverages sitting in front of us, just because we can! We are kid less for a few days! We both …actually we all …need a break! No kids for us, no dance, no sports for the kids we all get to rest for the week. Aside from, I start back officially at my Massage office tomorrow and The Hubs has to work but we are officially on parental vacay! No kids in the house means no closed doors, or having to be quiet when we romp! Maybe just maybe we can get one day of just being in bed having day sex all day! I am hoping to have at least one day to not have to get out of bed! I will probably be missing them by Tuesday bit will enjoy the alone time!

Happy Spring break everyone!!

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Happy Spring Break Everyone!!!

Productive, Everyday Boring LIfe =Happy

28 Saturday Mar 2015

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Happy Saturday Morning! I think this morning has been the most productive this whole week. Well around the house anyway. If you don’t call getting kids to school on time to doctors appointments on time ect… Today I got up, started laundry (as usual…or not as usual) made bacon and scrambled eggs with cheese for the fam, (a breakfast burrito special order for the Hubs) cleaned up the stove and dishes and electric grill for the bacon. I had to iron The Girls costume, had the kids fold a load of laundry. The Hubs is our spraying moss killer on the shed roof ( I am perched by the window so I can call 911 if he falls) and the boy and The Hubs got in some Xbox time as well as we all sat around the table for breakfast this morning! That is after sleeping in until 8! Great start to the weekend here at the Earl household!

The Boy has baseball practice today and the Girl is on day 2 of Dance competition! We are all meeting this afternoon at the competition and staying over there tonight. The kids will have some time to play in the pool (there is some downtime from dance Yay!) the boys may go into Seattle to watch a Secret to Being Happylaser light show, they do that on occasion when the girl is at a close competition. Then tomorrow the Girl Competes her solo for the last Scheduled time this year unless she goes to Nationals. We haven’t decided on that one yet. She wants to win a scholarship to Nationals with her solo this weekend. I don’t even know if this competition does that, but she is trying anyway!

Then after dance tomorrow the In-Laws are taking the kids home for spring break! Yay! The Hubs and I finally get some down time. I am hoping it lingers over the weekend so we can really enjoy. If not the Hubs has teased about maybe taking a day off during the week. Guess what is on the agenda for that day? You guessed, we are not getting out of bed! Maybe for a snack but not at least until 2 or so! I am so excited for a break!

So we are right in the middle of normal everyday life! There is a really weird part of me that is kind of loving it! For at least this morning the kids are happy the Hubs is happy we are all feeling pretty happy up in here! Even in the dull moments of life we all must sit back and just enjoy the fact that we have life and can breathe! Just that is a blessing!

Spring break is beginning and I am so in love with my life and family! Go find something about yours that you enjoy and soak it all in today! Spread a layer of love over everyone even when you are in the middle of boring normal life!

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Guilty, I Hate Cleaning

27 Friday Mar 2015

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Dull womenHappy Friday everyone! I am doing a 15 minute writing today. I spend so much time writing I love it but it really takes a lot of time sometimes so I set a timer. I have done this before but I think only once.

Yesterday the Hubs said to me “You will do anything to get out of house work won’t you?” Um in a word, “yes” I said. Yesterday was a beautiful day. I did wash some dishes put in some laundry in and a few miniscule things. It was gorgeous outside. Mid 70s and for western Washington that is a great day let alone the fact that it occurred in Mid March! So I decided to go outside and wash the car and I even washed some of the mildew-y green stuff off of our camping trailer. The car washing took a bit longer than normal due to the fact that the kids were simultaneously running a Lemonade Stand. They made $12.50 on the day (they are going to reinvest and run it this summer, little entrepreneurs). We served a few landscapers a family on a bike ride a friend and a couple people walking by. It was a great day to be outside. My car needed washed but yes they make these things called car washes that you can pay to go to and it takes a fraction of the time. They do not do as well but The Hubs’ point was that I was avoiding doing “my work.” Guitly!

Don’t tell anyone, but if I am honest I do this kind of a lot, I have even painted a room in my house to avoid doldrums house work. I do love being a mom and love being at home and love that my husband is a good provider that I do not have to work. As part of Sex Love and Washing Clothes was to encourage me and stimulate me enough to do house work and to write about it. However, I still hate it and make excuses and/or reasons for doing other things. Forgive me for sounding dumb or complaining for a second. Housework is not “stimulating” to my ADD brain. If you have ADD or know about ADD you will understand what that means. I love having a clean house I would prefer not to do it though.

I don’t feel accomplished after a long day of cleaning. I don’t feel good that I got shit done. Why? Partly because it doesn’t stay done. My son used to clean his room and then wouldn’t play with his toys for a day or two because he didn’t want to clean it up again…I am slightly ashamed that he must have got that from me. I wish he wouldn’t have! I spend one day a month deep cleaning my kitchen, I pull out the stove and fridge and sweep and scrub the floor under them. The night I do that I will usually try to do take out of go out for dinner so I don’t mess up my beautifully clean kitchen! What is wrong with me?! I do want my house clean I am not afraid to do it or lazy, I just hate the act of cleaning it I would rather paint a room or even do windows or run a marathon without training =pain! I do want to have desire to go clean the countertops in my bathroom. What’s funny is when I am staying at a hotel or in our Camping Trailer I clean up every night. I make things tidy. I will fold up my clothes and neatly put them in the suit case or hang them up. When I am home I peel my clothes off and throw them behind my bed where no one can see them (not even me). What gives? Why can’t I have that level of organization when I am home in the place I live everyday?

What does that say about me? It says I would rather go wash my car in the sun. It says I would rather blog about how much I hate it than actually doing it. I would rather live in the moment and get something out of it and apparently I don’t think getting a clean organized looking kitchen is good enough to get out the moment.

My timer just went off Booo…. let me finish this off now I was on a roll! Bottom line is yes, the Hubs was right. I will do anything to avoid housework. With that being said, I don’t have dirty dishes strewn all over my house, my mess is contained to the areas things belong. There are always clean clothes for everyone to wear you just may have to search through the pile of clean laundry. I sort my clutter piles on the counter top, you know the kids school work and mail you don’t want to throw away, I straighten them up so that it doesn’t take over my whole counter top! I do the deep cleaning often I have it set on my calendar. Do you pull out your couch (Giant Sectional) monthly? I do. Do you pull out your fridge and stove and clean under and behind and on top of it once a month? I do. Can you even pull out your fridge without something falling off of it?! I can. My house is cleaner and neater than it ever has been. I do vacuum at least weekly! I do laundry everyday (just don’t get it put away everyday). I dust about one every two weeks or less but at least monthly or when I start seeing dust on the Xbox. I do hate house work but I do it! Not as efficiently as I could or as much as my Sister In Law used to when you could eat off of her floors but my house is livable. Most days you can eat at the table. I do things with my kids they are busy and sometimes I have to wash a pan in order to cook.

Does this make me lazy? No. A bad housewife? Maybe. A bad wife? No. A bad mom? No. It means I live my life and what is important are the people and the events in my life if I have time to have a spotless house I will but if it means going to find socks in the dryer that’s okay too. I will love myself through it all. My husband loves me, I know he wishes I was more organized and more of a neat freak but in the end he still loves that he is married to me. Messy house and all… Some ladies have an awesome clean house but their husbands probably complain about other things. Ruby, stop comparing yourself to other wives and/or moms.

I will continue to love my husband and be sexual with him everyday and I will continue to Wash Clothes everyday, I will try to get them put away too. I will continue to be sexual with my husband everyday EVERYDAY! And be adventurous and love and enjoy it whether there are dirty clothes on the floor or not! I will continue to be in the moment with my kids and volunteer at their school and go to assemblies whether there is house work to be done or if I get it done at breakfast. The dishes and dust will always be there I may not always have my family here we are human there are no guarantees and I would rather wash my car while the kids run their lemonade stand than stay inside vacuuming! I want to love my family and enjoy life! Live Laugh Love! There is a reason Washing Clothes is listed last in my blog it is important but not more than everything else!

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I Do Care, But Not Enough To Let It Change Me

27 Friday Mar 2015

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Happy Thursday! Do I still have readers out there? After yesterday’s blog I was worried I may have turned a lot of people off. The thing with putting yourself out there is that you really have to not care what people think of you when they don’t agree. Not take it personal if they don’t like what you have to say. The Hubs was talking about  a friend of his that he went to high school with yesterday. She apparently has been out of work for a while and is pretty good looking and she decided to send in pictures to some bikini coffee places to get a job there. The Hubs says “Wow, how cool is that for her to just put it out there that like that, BAM. Good for her for just being honest and not caring what people think of her…” then he paused and said “Well, it’s probably not much different from you and your blog. Especially today!” Why yes, I was thinking the same thing as he was talking. Good for you girlfriend, if you have a body for selling coffee in a bikini go get you some coffee girl!

The problem with not caring what people think about you is that you have to actually not care. The reason we blog is to have people reading it. If I don’t have anyone reading it, will that change anything? No. But if I am honest I do care what people think. I want them to respect me and my writing. I also would like them to me as well but I will settle for respect. They don’t have to agree with what I am saying or even like it. But if I am honest I do kind of care what people think. But I don’t care enough to make it change me!what people think

I like to be honest I want to encourage wives and husbands to work on the hard stuff in their marriage and have sex to increase that togetherness. For me sex has really helped my marriage. So many marriages are stale! Having sex only once a week, once a month or even sometimes less than that! The one thread that has held my relationship together when we were both just about checked out was that we had good sex. Even if you don’t have good sex yet, you have to start somewhere and bad sex is still better than no sex!

Sex is one thing we do that both of us are in the moment. We put aside the arguments, the disagreements and get into the moment. We feel our bodies we try to put aside expectations, sometimes it is hard even during sex but we try to, and do accomplish it with sex, most of the time. We are learning to do that more often in other arenas in life as well. Sex has been what taught us to do that. Subconsciously, it was not on purpose but that is what worked for us it might work for you. Since I started Sex Love and Washing Clothes and the Bare Necessities of having sex everyday our lives have been…in a word better, much better. Daily getting the positive connection that comes with sex, positive skin to skin touching, feeling good, the feel good hormones released in our brains when we orgasm all of that has value and we have been getting it everyday! What are you holding back for?

Here I am justifying yesterday’s post with my mantra of Sex Love and Washing Clothes! I don’t need to do that. My views and your views do not have to be the same. You can still respect me even if you think Anal Sex is evil.  Right?! I say yes and for my purposes, that is all that matters to me. So take this from me, go have sex everyday (or at least more than you do now). If your marriage is stale if you are less than pleased with sex give it up to your lover try my challenges and relax Sex everydayand enjoy those feel good chemicals that are released when you and your lover are together and touching and loving and orgasming! I want to help marriages all over and for me that starts by encouraging good sex! I am not a therapist, you may need one but first get naked with each other and touch each other and kiss and insert parts into each other and feel you body and enjoy it!

Keep Calm and Have Sex Everyday!

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XXX-You Can Be My Back Door Man-XXX

26 Thursday Mar 2015

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Happy Hump Day everyone! OK so I teased it the other day and I am finally (sorta) ready to write about this topic: Anal Sex. Actually I am not, I have been procrastinating all day! Why?! Probably the same New Adventuresreason you all just gasped because for some reason it is one of those unmentionable, unspeakable even taboo topics. Now before your stop reading and start judging me, read the rest. I have not only decided to just write about this topic I have decided to make it a Hump Day Challenge. Now back down fellas and ladies RELAX.

The topic has long been a bit of a Taboo. Especially for your’s truly here. It took me a lot of convincing and a lot of research to make sure I wouldn’t be in adult diapers forever! That was a main concern of mine. I don’t know what changed me. WebMd for one and other articles and books I read written by Anal Sex experts. I used to be a prude when it came to everything sex including anal sex. (Underscore used to as in past tense, not anymore!) My husband, however, was not. His first sexual experience was with a girl who would only have Anal Sex, at a very young age might I add. When we first started having sex (remember he was my first) I was not super comfortable with the idea of sex at all, let alone anal sex. When he said anal sex, I was like “WTF is he in the closet and really gay?” (Actually it would have been more like “Oh my word” I was a prude when it came to cussing too.) Contrary to what my young inexperienced self thought, that is not it either. Many straight men (and women too) enjoy and desire anal sex, it is very normal.

Maybe I should have worked up on this subject rather than throwing it into a Hump Day Challenge right away. We will ease into this settle down ladies and gents. Let’s start with saying there is no such thing as Taboo! There are no forbidden things here, here being in your bedroom or where ever you choose to privately do it. Anal sex can be very enjoyable, and it can be excruciatingly painful! (I have experienced both). Since we were young when we got married, I was very inexperienced and did I mention we were young? My husband was less than suave, patient and slow about approaching the subject… Let’s just say with experience, age and maturity on both sides of this relationship we have come to really, REALLY enjoy anal sex. You have to RELAX, you have to be ready for it and it has to be mutual decision. You cannot sneak up on you lover and shove it up there!

You must go slow be soft use lots of lube! The anus does not self lubricate the way the vagina does. This may be the biggest help for you to understand if you are just getting started having anal sex. I have experimented with a lot of different lubes my favorite is Jo Premium (you can buy it from my amazon store click on the link to the left in the sex section). I suggest that you start with some fore play. There are a lot of nerve endings in the area. Use lube, even when just starting foreplay near the back door have your fingers lubed up, some saliva from so good oral will do fine too.In Bed

If you are not into full on anal (at least not yet) make this challenge an anal play challenge it does not have to be all anal! You all know I am pro oral sex. I love the licking of all things sexual! Both ways. Ladies your man likes his balls licked and may also enjoy some anal licking.

Start off today’s adventure with some fun foreplay. Licking sucking fingering more licking. Some pre-grooming in the area may help the giver feel more comfortable and less squeamish (I personally am not a fan of hair down there at all, but that might be just me). If you get into some really good oral use the fingers to slide into the vagina and play with the G-spot use those fingers around the opening of the back door. Just feel it, let her feel it what it feels like. As you are still licking and sucking her gently push on her opening and on into her back side. She may get excited or may back off. Please, it should go without saying, make sure that she is into this and ready for it. Don’t make it weird and awkward. Don’t sneak up on her, if you do she will probably lock that back door and throw away the key! If you do it right she will be in heaven!

Once you two get comfortable with the fingering part (try one in each hole that DP affect is a really nice feeling for her) try a little pressure against her back entry with your manness. (This is where it gets weird trying to figure out positioning and such but try to be a comfortable and relaxed as possible) figure out which position you want to try from. Doggie is the most obvious that people think of. In my experience it is the most uncomfortable however I have heard some women prefer it because you can stimulate her G-Spot from that angle and an anal G-spot orgasm feels amazing for both participants. Try spooning the lady can lean back into him and control the speed and depth and the man can also push towards her slowly as well, and it kind of limits how far he can actually go in. We have had success with man on top ladies legs kind of up and she relaxes her legs down on him and he pushes into her (this may be a bit advanced for beginners it is a little confusing and tough to see where you are going but it is my preferred position) then he can lean down on you and rub up on you chest to chest in a missionary position. You can also try girl on top cowgirl style this way she controls how fast he enters her and can rock forward and fuck chest to chest (I am a huge fan of chest to chest fucking, back door or otherwise).

Bottom line as with every week when I do these Hump Day Challenges there are two of you, you both need to be into it. If he is timid take it easy if she is scared try the oral with a little anal licking and fingering around it no insertion yet. I highly recommend you leave you judgments outside! Forget how Taboo it might have been before you gave it a try. Anal sex is not just for birthdays any longer ladies! I am telling you anal sex orgasms feel amazing not just to me but to the hubs as well. We all enjoy making our lover orgasm we get pleasure by pleasing each other. When I finally relaxed and enjoyed anal and the Hubs saw me have my first “Anal O” he was so excited that I finally enjoyed it he was in awe! If we smoked cigarettes we probably would have lit up! (I’ve never understood that smoking thing but I think you know what I mean.)

If you are one who is a little timid and scared of Anal Sex for many reasons here is a link to an article that I think you would like it’s kind of a Girls Guide to Anal Sex. I had some of the concerns about anal sex when I first started and I go back and forth on some of them occasionally. Biggest thing you have to have consent, you have to use lube. You have to be all in. Meaning if you don’t relax enough you won’t enjoy it. If it hurts you are probably doing it wrong but just remember the more you relax and the more you are into it the better and smoother it will be. Use these articles, books, and good lube (lot’s of it) and love to communicate in a way that both people feel comfortable.

If you don’t want to do this challenge your wimps way out is Oral with Fingering. I hope I did not just lose a bunch of readers I hope you give a new thing a chance and enjoy. Remember everything is not for everybody! Go at your own pace and that of your lovers as well. Que up some fun porn that the two of you like, drink some grape vodka, get loose and have fun back door or front door. Sex is sex and it all feels good! Have some fun good sex tonight lovers!

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Leave Your Sparkle

24 Tuesday Mar 2015

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Busy long day today which equals a short post from my phone, maybe will add more later. It is Talent Show Try-Outs today. It is so fun sitting here watching kids put their talents in front of other kids! There are kids who are more and less talented, all so cute. I love watching them show off their skills (or lack there of). I was a kid with talent and always wanted to get up on stage but was scared to. When I did I would hold back a little like some of these kids today and never made the show.

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My message today is to never hold back! All of the kids in the talent show are like Rock Stars in school. Even if they are “not that good” all the other kids in school want to be like them. The Ines who get up and dance and let their hair down! Don’t ever be afraid to get out there. To steal a line from the Boy’s Monologued “LEAVE YOUR MARK” however perfect or imperfect it is! Put a smile on you face and show on stage how much you love doing what you do, be it dancing singing, entertaining or even just signing those papers at your desk job so someone else can!
Secretly I think these teacher judges are enjoying their “American Idol”-esc type experience. There are three of them commenting on each number just like these teachers are rock stars too!

Don’t ever be afraid to do your thing, leave you Sparkle or you mark, strut your stuff and be amazing in everything! I love it. So fun! Go out and live out loud! I wish I had the boldness these kids do when I was their age! I am proud of my kids that they are both auditioning. The boys is doing something different this year and he kooks nervous but I am proud of him for trying something different! I love my kids! Back to the show 😉

Experience Pays Off Trust It

23 Monday Mar 2015

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So, today, I believe I became a censoring mother! I participated in censorship of my daughters outfit. This sounds much worse than what it is. My daughter came out in cute white leggings with a big coat and long shirt on. As a mom only through half cup of coffee I said…”lift up your shirt” ….”turn around” You could see her blue flowery undies through her pants. Not quite as easily as you could see my green polka dots when I was in Jr High when I tried to wear the same type of pants, but no, my daughter will not be wearing see through pants. I gave her a choice, change your pants or wear shorts or a skirt with them. She wore some super cute shorts over her white leggings. I have done this before, I ‘accidentally’ wore those white pants (actually I think they were shorts) because I thought I was being funny. I think I subconsciously wanted attention, and I didn’t really even know it. I was a goody two shoes looking to turn some heads just because it would be unexpected from me! I don’t really know why I wanted attention for wearing see through pants with green polka dot undies as a teenager. Probably the same reason I thought it was funny to wear a shirt that said “unbutton my fly” (for the record it was when Levi’s was doing their button fly jeans that were very popular). My mother was not home when I left for school which was why she did not intercept me wearing these things.childhood experience

So is the Girl searching for attention? Why would she? She is a dancer she is on stage a lot! Hmmmm… I probably shouldn’t be over thinking this. I did have to squint a bit to see the color in her undies through those white leggings. She may have really been innocently thinking they were fine. She is just 10. When I pulled my white pants trick I was in Jr High (Maybe even high school) I was thoroughly embarrassed by the end of the school day actually even before first period. My Friend, probably frenemy, the bully-ish type girl who noticed that you could see my underwear. No snickering behind my back flat-out “OH MY GOD RUBY, I CAN SEE YOUR UNDERWEAR!” “WHY WOULD YOU WEAR THAT, WITH THOSE UNDERWEAR?!” “HERE TAKE MY JACKET I AM MUCH TALLER THAN YOU, YOU CAN WEAR IT ALL DAY SO YOU AREN’T FLASHING YOUR UNDERWEAR TO EVERY ONE IN THE HALLS!” When I left the house and thought of wearing it, I thought people would look and snicker and probably not say anything just…. I honestly don’t know what I was thinking but that moment at the beginning of the school day with my ‘Miss Know-it-all’ always perfect ‘friend’ I wanted to DIE!

I was the type of kid who always was good. I got good grades. I wasn’t so perfect or amazing that I got noticed for it but I wasn’t bad enough to get extra attention from the teacher either! I was kind of lost in the crowd. I always tried hard to be great and do what is right and I wanted to be noticed because of it. I wanted my teachers parents and friends to notice me for me. I rarely raised my hand in excitement to get chosen. I was always kind of prim and proper. But the kids who raised there hands with excitement they couldn’t contain always got chosen before or instead of me. I was always doing what I was supposed to, rarely got in trouble or called out in school. I was hidden in the hallways under the mask of doing what was right all the time, not needing too much help and sometimes I would fabricate random questions just to be able to get a response from my teacher! I was always hoping for “Wow, what a great questions” but I usually got something like “well, that really is not relevant right now don’t worry about that at this time” So not only did I not get validation that I was a good thinker, I got shot down and my questions weren’t even answered. Probably their way to get me to stop asking questions.

When I was 16 I ran for the Royalty Court/Parade Float Princess and Queen in our small town. I was crown 2nd Princess. I was happy with that I just wanted a crown to ride on a float wearing a Tiara and pretty dress is every girls dream getting to wave to small children and them being excited to see a “Real Princess” was pretty cool too. That helped me with my ‘poise’ and my self-confidence and helped me to break out of the quiet wanting to be noticed self. I always enjoyed talking and being in front of people but never really had confidence to put myself out there. I would wait to be spoken to or asked to speak but as an adult I have learned I need to open my mouth to be noticed. You can’t get noticed unless you let people know you want to be. You have to say “I want to do it” instead of expecting someone to say “Hey, she’s good at this let’s have her do it” You have to put yourself out there! The people making decisions need to hear you say “I want to do that!” “I am good at this!” In a perfect world the people making important decisions would choose who is good and would do a great job, but really people go the easy route. If someone says “ooh ooh ooh pick me!” that often times is who they will pick because it is easy!

When I turned 30 is when I turned in to ‘Me’ I finally realized I didn’t need to impress anyone. And even if I did impress someone, that really matters not! When you impress someone, sometimes that translates into a job or opportunity but usually you have to put your name in. No one will say I think she would be good they will say “Who wants to?” And if you don’t say “ooh ooh ooh pick me!” Louder than someone else chances are you will be overlooked, again! So from about the time I hit 30 I have been more about, What do I want. Who I am and Do what I like. I have stopped caring what others think about me, for the most part. Now, at 35, if I want to wear white pants and green polka dot underwear, I will! (But still will not let my 10-year-old). And the girl who asks why I will either ignore she doesn’t deserve a response from me. I know who I am, I know what I like (for the most part) and Fuck it if no one else likes that or approves! I am a grown woman who is allowed to do what she wants.

I wish I had more confidence as a child/teen. My kids have the “ooh ooh ooh pick me!” excitement in them, sometimes. And then sometimes when it matters sometimes the girl steps back and is ‘just a girl’ in a room and I want her to show off her skills. (Mostly with dance) They Boy, sometimes, thinks a little too highly of himself, but honestly when I step back and reflect on my life I think a little of that may have been a positive thing that I could have used in my life. So with the Boy I should probably just let him be who he is, with both kids I should. Teach him and The Girl to love themselves and be proud of who they are and know what they are good at. But there is a fine line between arrogance and confidence and I want to teach that too!

Anyway as I ramble through this post I have learned that today I have had the opportunity to remind myself that I do know something about raising kids I have done that before (been a kid). That through my experience I can lead my children through life from experiences that I have had. I need to trust my gut sometimes. Sometimes it will lead my astray and lead me to be overprotective and over react, other times it will help save them from embarrassment of someone pointing out that everyone can see their underwear! I am feeling boosted in confidence as a mom today! A great way to start off this Monday!

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Randomness Sunday!

23 Monday Mar 2015

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Hello it is Sunday! I am writing this blog post while the Dug Out Buckets, that we Mod Podged, for the Boy’s baseball team dry. I Decoupaged the logo and their name on each one. The buckets are for the boys to keep in the Dug Out at their spot in the line up for their gloves, water bottles and mitts to maybe go into. They needed names because it also marks their spots. I was going to have a friend cut out vinyl letters for their names and she had an issue with her cricket and also had a minor emergency and couldn’t do it. So today another friends suggested to Mod Podge them. I think they worked out pretty well. Other than the paper got air bubbly and is wrinkled in spots but I think it make the cobra logo look kind of mean.

Last night we had the party for the Hub’s birthday! We had so much fun. I made three lasagna! Got a compliment from one friend, who actually taught me how to make sauce from scratch, that he loved my sauce! Everyone loved the food! We hung out and talked and laughed stood around the fire outside, played Cards Against Humanity and Laughed so much! Have I mentioned we have great friends. There were probably about 15 or so of us here it was nice to be back together! I wish we had a compound we could all live in and we could see each other and visit more often but we don’t so we have to savor the moments we get to be together! I think went to bed around 3 or 4 am!Plenty of sleep

The Hubs is still wanting his special birthday sex! He has gotten sex, pretty good sex, many times since his birthday however he has a special request. Tonight is it. You would think that with as much sex as we have, that I wouldn’t need to “be prepared” for “birthday sex” however, because we do have so much sex (horrible problem to have) it takes some extra effort and creativity to be awesome every time. How to make great sex even better or special is a little tough sometimes. But I think I will manage.

Today I am struggling with write about. Weekends are tough for me because I like to spend my energy with my fam! So I will keep you posted on how our “birthday sex” goes and maybe do research for this weeks Hump Day Challenge….ooh are you ready to get more dirty and/or kinky? Yes, there is a lot more dirty that this blog can get! some may call even use the word taboo even. Are we ready for that … let me see if I am ready for that! Stay tuned and at least check back in for the Hump Day Challenge on Wednesday!

Oh hey, I started an Amazon Store! You can click on the link in the sidebar. I have selected a few things to highlight for my readers in it. I have it divided it in three categories. Can you guess what they are? Sex, Love and Washing Clothes…duh! These products are not mine and I am not sponsored or paid by the creators to advertise them and I have not used every one of them so there is no guarantee or implied endorsement of any kind from me specifically. I will however get a kick back (in single digit percentage points) from your purchase. It is just a way I am looking into helping my family out financially… If you would like to check it out I appreciate it! Right now I have put up a few Sex Dice, a Laundry Sorter, a few books. Watch for things that I refer to in my writing I will try to add things that I like and use as time goes on. Most items in my store will be things I have either used or would use, and have some sort of relevance to my life and this blog. Contact me directly if you would like me to try your product or add something in my store. I don’t really know how to advertise or monetize my blog but I am learning and who knows maybe I will be able to send my kiddos to their summer camps and nationals from the extra kick backs…????

Have a great day peeps! I will think of that Hump Day Challenge on my Birthday Sex Date with the Hubs!

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