For the record, I am sitting on the couch before the school day starts and watching Top Gear with the boy. To piggie back on yesterday’s blog that I don’t get to watch what I want to watch when anyone is home. Yes, I could tell him no, but why I am writing, wait he needs to clean his room!!!!

Happy Hump Day everyone! Today’s Hump Day Challenge involves Mirrors! I love mirrors, not just because it is erotic when in the bedroom. I just always have! I remember as a kid sitting in my house talking to my brother (who is 14 years older) and he accused me of looking at myself in the mirror the whole time we were talking. I was probably 7, he was right. I was embarrassed and from then on I have tried to hide the fact that I can’t stop looking at myself in mirrors. People who know me, does it work? Are you convinced that I don’t stare at myself in mirrors? I was sitting with dance teachers one day at a bar that had a mirror behind the shelves of bottles. And yes we all were looking in the mirror! That was the first time in my life that I didn’t feel abnormal or embarrassed about it. Except when I used to teach group fitness best thing was the mirror and the microphone, oh yeah the workout too… But all of those instances I was fully clothed. When I discovered mirrors with sex…OMG! We were renting a condo that had closet door mirrors next to the bed, highly recommend it if you have sliding closet doors, upgrade to mirrors. One day I glanced over to the mirror and got super hot. I tried to hide my excitement at first then the Hubs encouraged me that it was okay. It was like we were staring in our own porn movie only live!

First let’s talk about mirrors and most women. I would say most women have body image issues. Mirrors can be a good way to break through those, but you must tread very lightly. Don’t sneak it up on her. She will dry up and get frigid as soon as she sees it! Talk about it. If you have a particularly self-conscious lady try this. While she is standing in front of the mirror at the end of the day, brushing her teeth, washing her face or taking her make up off, come up behind her and start complimenting her. Caress her breasts and touch her body. Begin undressing her and saying how much you love looking at her body. Tread lightly my friend, smile, show her love and that you enjoy seeing her, as clothes come off you may expose scars, stretch marks and ripples that she is uncomfortable with and she may think are hideous. Use this time to gently encourage her to let you see her. The more we see ourselves and focus on the good about our body the more we accept the whole thing. It may take time. Turn her around to face you and watch her back side as you make out then take her to bed.. This is such a touchy subject (body image) to some women but it is a giant step forward in self/ body acceptance and good way for her to love her body and yours.

I just have to say mirrors while you are making love really enhance the experience. I am a self-conscious woman. I know my husband loves my body and I try to listen to him when he talks about my parts that he likes. When we are having sex in front of a mirror I know the parts that make me turned on and I focus on those. I like watching our hips move together in missionary. So I focus on my hips. I think I have a cute booty so I like watching that too. I have large natural breast which in certain positions to me is not attractive so I avoid looking at them in those positions because he like them, if I am watching I will change my position to something that I like to look at. My self consciousness distracts from the eroticism of the act.

I have always wanted a mirror on the ceiling. If I could put one up without having too much judgement about it I totally would! I have tried to figure out how to do so and fit it in my design subtly but I have not figured it out. Here are a few placement ideas:

Next to the bed as in closet door mirrors or a full length mirror propped on chairs next to the bed you can see full body bump and grind from the side and then rotate 90 degrees and watch him entering her. Every angle of sex is sexy in some way. Watching your lover go down on you watch your rib cage arch as you get close to climax.

Stand behind her at the vanity mirror, slowly undress her (she could turn and undress you as well or you could just come up to her naked) trace her body with her hands. As you tell her what your favorite part of her is touch it caress it and gently kiss it. Tell her a story of how erotic it is to just see her. Let her stand and watch as you take her nipple into your mouth. Ladies your hands aren’t tied behind your back so feel free to touch and play with his body too.

In front of a full length mirror ladies bring your man in front of it, clothed or not. Take your clothes off slowly and erotically let him touch you as you expose naked parts of your body to him or get down to it fully clothed for a quickie. With him facing the mirror so he can see, undo his pants and take him in your mouth. He may already be nice and hard and firm. Give him an amazing blow job while he watches your head move and listens to you working his cock. For added pleasure stand bent from your hips straight legs spread so he can see your womanhood opened up and even maybe get a glimpse of your boobs peeking out.

With a mirror at the head of your bed ride your man. You can just ride in the missionary position and watch yourself grind on your lover. You can also sit up and ride cowgirl style. You will see what he means by I love watching your boobs when you ride me. Caress your breasts for him watch his head rise up and suck on them. Turn around and let him watch the southern area in the mirror too.

I love mirrors, you may too, after this especially. There is not wrong way to use them in sex. If you like close-ups, or your man does, get a small mirror and hold it down to see a close up of him entering you. Be careful not to be to mechanical about it. Be spontaneous and have fun! Get creative. Sneak into your closet with a full length mirror and give him a quickie blowjob during a commercial break! Work quick and lock your doors and no one will even know where the two of you went for a few minutes. It will surprise him and with the mirror to be able to watch you (turn your head a few times so he can see your taking his hard member into your mouth) it will be quick and unexpected and spicy! So many options maybe try a few throughout the week!

I am so excited and I am now re-hashing my ideas of a ceiling mirror for my bedroom. Even a wall mirror next to my bed. I have thought of many ideas and not followed through however I do have a full length mirror that is not mounted that we play with every now and then. Especially if you are modest and don’t want anyone to know why you have that mirror I highly suggest this option! You can bring in dining room chairs to prop the mirror on and move it around the room…or even around the house! I love mirrors!

To prepare especially if you are self conscious check yourself out in a mirror! Look at what you like and not at what you don’t like. You may have saggy boobs but cute nipples, focus on those cute nipples and ignore the rest cup them with your hands to help distract you from how they hang. You may love the look of your neck but not your waist. You may like the look of your forearms and wrists…find something that you like and admire it, give yourself time looking at your to see what you like. I guarantee your partner likes a lot more than that, don’t steal the chance for them to look at you because of your body image issues! Take time everyday looking at yourself and finding the good things you like! Let that time grow and soon you will only see what you like. Fall in love with you the way your partner does. Lock doors be proud of how you look in the mirror with or without clothes and take advantage of the eroticism in it! Have fun fellow Sex Love and Washing Clothes-ers!

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