Happy Hump Day!! I have to confess that I am feeling a bit overwhelmed and depressed so this post is hard to write. However I pulled out a book from my nightstand that I kind of forgot that I had “The Good Sex Bible” by Judy Batyra and Nitya Lacroix. This book is good! Some great photos and great suggestions. I am not copying anything they wrote because my ADD is in full gear and I don’t have the attention span to really research today but OMG these photos were great to spark my ADD brain and inspiration!

So I decides today to write about bondage. Have you heard the Rhianna song “S & M” This is kind of my theme song. It is my dance on the bar song and get flirty song. There is a line in the song that says “I may be bad but I’m perfectly good at it. Sex in the air but I love the smell of it. Sticks and stones may break my bones but chains and whips excite me”. The thing about bondage or S & M is that I don’t (and I’m sure all women are like me, not really) really like it rough, I like it just rough enough to say it is until I am really turned on and horny. You have to work up to it. I like the feel of the whip but only when I am turned on. So men, don’t go in and whip your wife before she is turned on and ready. We have a whip that has little plastic hair like things that doesn’t really hurt at all and sometimes doesn’t hurt enough when I’m really horny. My point is that it is all relative.

Tie up your lover, for added bonus get a blind fold too. Start soft and sultry lick her up and down suckle a bit on her nipples then blow on them watch them get firm and then play with them some. Kiss them some more. Lick your way down her body, remember she will be tied up so she can’t hold you there longer or move away from you. Pleasure her until she is writhing to touch you. The idea of someone pleasuring you is amazing and awesome but it is a different animal when you can’t touch back, or you know you like to add certain stimuli and you can’t, it is such an enjoyable painful predicament (that’s a good thing).

If you want to include a whip, start off whipping her thighs then work toward her ass. A swift crack in the ass at the right time is ecstasy. Just remember that we women are finicky and sometimes, if you don’t time it right it is less than enjoyable but the key is to get her horny enough for you foreplay is the key. Don’t get discouraged or upset if she doesn’t like it (the spanking or whipping) and don’t force the issue. If she says she doesn’t like it, don’t spank her with the whip or not. She may have some underlying emotions (or history of abuse) about being hit that you don’t know about it may be good to talk about it later but not in the moment just go back to licking her clit and all will be good (as long as you haven’t pushed the issue so tread lightly my friend. Maybe even talk to her about it first and if there is any reservations at all about whipping or spanking stick with the bondage only).

One thing that is also very enjoyable is nipple stimulation. I love the idea of nipple clamps, I even have some. The sensation a woman gets when her lover is giving her oral and playing with her nipples is sensational. But her lover probably only has two hands and if you want to add some penetration while laying down the cunnilingus then you need help. Enter Nipple clamps! Such a good idea however some nipple clamps clamp harder than others so be careful. There is that fine line of pleasure and pain (and it is oh so amazing when you find it) but it is a very fine line and nothing kills a mood like too tight nipple clamps, but a fast acting woman can unclamp them and it’s on like nothing happened and then she is longing for the whole package of nipple stimuli, cunnilingus and penetration…so she tries them again… Just try them! Consider buying some that are adjustable tension, wish I knew they had that option when I bought mine! (I will try to update my amazon store with some.)

So there is a bit of help on getting started tonight! I am excited for this one and I know I will have time for this one tonight as we are skipping our date night tonight and moving it to tomorrow. So when the Hubs gets home late from teaching tonight I will be handing him the bondage kit (which can be as simple as a few sheets or towels) and a blindfold (bandanna) and I am sure he will figure out the rest! My nipples are getting hard just thinking about it (TMI?). Have fun with it but as I always say be respectful. If you are into it more than your partner be mindful and don’t pressure them into it. Take baby steps maybe try the whip but no bondage or vise versa you will get adventurous and grow and strengthen your relationship with respect first then everything else follows! Be patient with your more prude than you partner he/she will get there one day but not if you push him/her! I was once a very prudish girl (a long time ago) and look at me now! Now I am craving crazy wild sex to help induce a bit of an attitude adjustment for me! I’ll let you know if it worked. I am sure it will! Expect lots more cuss words and craziness from me, I am at the wound up tight and need to let loose stage of stress! Thank goodness I have a blog and the Hubs to be able to release that energy!

Enjoy!

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