Monthly Archives: November 2016

Be Thankful

24 Thursday Nov 2016

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​Happy Thanksgiving. We want to thank Toby and Fred, our two Turkeys who sacrificed all for our Thanksgiving dinner. Toby got to smoke in the Traeger, and Fred got cooked in the deep frier. Here are pictures of Toby and Fred post cooking. Thank you Toby and Fred. You both tasted yummy and created mouth watering, orgasmic like flavor in our mouths! To Toby and Fred, thank you!

Fred who was Deep Fried

Toby who was smoked in the Traeger

For real though, I am thankful for yesterday, today, and tomorrow. Yesterday was a rough day. Today is a reminder that every moment in yesterday was yesterday. Today is a new day. Most bad days will end, and there will be a tomorrow. Worrying about tomorrow just ruins today. If today is bad, just remember there is always (not guaranteed, but most of the time) a tomorrow. Tomorrow is a new start, and promise of a new day. 

So, if yesterday was bad, LEAVE IT THERE!  If today is bad, take solace and find peace that tomorrow is a new day. When tomorrow becomes today we can throw away the toils of worrying, put tomorrow in the past and live today. We can leave behind the stress anger and negativity of yesterday, and enjoy this moment. Relish in the sun on your face or the rain washing your spirit clean. Rain or shine there is something to be thankful for in today! Live today, that’s all that matters and it’s all you can control!

Happy Thanksgiving readers, I am thankful for you coming to read my thoughts inspiration and encouragement. Love yourself and love your family. Take nothing for granted. Even the shittiness in a given day, there is no good reason to toil about yesterday or tomorrow. Today is a gift, Be thankful.

Rise Above the Negative

21 Monday Nov 2016

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Hello friends! Last week was rough for me! I am rising above the negativity and coming out of those ashes! I know that we mom’s expect much more out of ourselves than we should. Many times, we expect even more from ourselves than our worst critic. Sadly, sometimes, that critic lives with us and is one that we love most and the one we don’t want to let down. Which is why we are so hard on ourselves. Little does that critic know he or she, his criticism, is what not only drives us and motivates us to do better but also and more likely is what drives us to fall into dark places, kills us on the inside and shakes our confidence. 

So this quick post is to say to you, rise above you mom or sister or whoever is hard on you, magnifying you minor faults, most of all rise above that voice in your head shouting out your major faults! It’s time to realize, we are all worthy of the crown we wear! Yes we all wear a crown! We are all queens of our own universe and we are our best ally! So stop cutting youself short, stop focusing on the negative don’t letting them in your head! Don’t believe everything you think! You are not that bad you are the queen

Try to find a way to shake off their words and negativity and find positive. Call your friend who supports you. Go chat with you brother or dad instead of your unapproving mother. Have girlfriend time (or guy time if your a dude reading this post). Distract yourself away from the negative. Whoever that critical family member is trying to help you be better. But you can’t hear that it’s best to get away to distract yourself away from the negative situation. Read mom blogs like this one to remind yourself that you are normal! We are all normal and we are all queens! Our crowns do t always have jewels sometimes the have gray hair or as a friend of mine states Sparkly hair and sometimes it’s a ponytail thrown up.in a baseball cap! Wear it proud. 

This critical loved one, they have a dark story and tjays where their negativity is coming from there. They probably need support and positivity in their life as well but you focus on you. They are not ready to focus on themselves maybe they don’t know how. Let them be. Share only love that is the only way to break the cycle, get yourself the loving support that you need and love your loved ones back. Break the cycle of negativity and Rise above!

You don’t have an alien living in your house, you doing just fine! You are the queen, keep it up! 

#Rise2016

XXX-Fantacize Role Play-XXX

10 Thursday Nov 2016

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Todays Hump Day Challenge is to be adventurous in a story. Do you have or does your partner have a fantasy that you just can’t bring yourself to do. My challenge for you today is to talk about the story of your fantasy not in a way to actually make it happen, just to dream about it and get turned on and make it a sexy time with your lover. If you have always fantacized about having a night with LL Cool J (who hasn’t, the way he licks his lips and he so hot!) After you two have decided to participate in this Hump Day Challenge when you are ready to get started, tell your lover a detailed story what LL would do to you. Maybe it’s your man who is telling you the story of what LL would be doing to you as he acts out the story. This may be a good way to explore that threesome fantasy without actually having to have the threesome. Your mate may actually like the idea and realize that it might not be so bad after the acting out and hearing the role they would play in it and how it would make you feel. However, the intention of this challenge is not to get your way or convince your partner to have said fantasy, it’s to give you the chance to vicariously live it and enjoy that fantasy. 

Does you man dream of a threesome with you and a hot super model? As you tell him the story act out as much as you can and let him just close his eyes and imagine he is there with you and her. Maybe it’s you wanting to fuck Captain America, get him the costume and play dirty with him. Stay open mined and relax. Don’t read too much into how much he enjoys the idea of you being someone else or having another lady to pleasure him. The same way he is not judging you when you are not so secretly fantasizing about Captain America.

Let it open your mind and his. Relax and don’t judge. If you get uncomfortable subtly veer the conversation or story to a place that your comfortable. Only go to where you both are comfortable! Don’t push and don’t ask to do it in real life this is for fantasizing. I believe it can be a real valuable tool to help with low libido and lack of interest. Sometimes sex gets hard to accomplish in the rat race of life, use these ideas to spice up your sex life. 

Just relax and have sex! The physical act of sex releases happy chemicals and hormones in you brain that combat stress and frustration. Endorphins can even affect pain levels so all of these are good reasons to have sex, and enjoy sex and put in the work for your partner to be satisfied during sex. Visualization and fantasy can be valuable but make it clear where the fantasy line begins and reality line ends. Be honest and clear with your boundaries and respect your partner’s! Now, go get that sexual release and enjoy the destress benefits! And enjoy the fantasy!

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Ruby’s New Focus Tool

06 Sunday Nov 2016

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Today we spent the day cleaning. I love when my husband helps to get the house cleaned and organized, but I also hate it when he does too. Most of the time, the Hubs and I clash on so many levels. He doesn’t understand why I can’t focus and I can’t understand what the heck he is doing and how the fuck I am supposed to do it his way!!! Today was a little different. We had a good day and little stress and no blow fight! Which is very surprising because we are oil and water when it comes to cleaning and organizing, but I am not complaining. I even got to watch my husband vacuum at the end of it! My bathroom that we have been remodeling is done and my bedroom is clean! We pulled everything out of drawers and reorganized everything. The Hubs even went through the gun safe and under the bed. I handled the stuff that got takend out of the medicine cabinet and the drawers of the new vanity. So everything is back in the bathroom area.

I also went through my night stand. It has two drawers in those drawers I found everything from old receipts from 1999 to sex toys. I also found index cards from Kinesiology class in massage school and yoga flash cards. There were a lot of books on a lot of subjects from sex to yoga to old Bible studies I did when my kids were babies. There was also a baby shoe and burp rag from the baby years. I loved going through all of it. There was also some costumes (If you can call the small pieces of fabric that) old creams and flavored lotions. Basically my whole sexual history in a nutshell was right there in front of me. Was pretty entertaining remembering where I came from. I was a very sheltered and prudish when The Hubs and I first got together. I have bought books about giving blow jobs, to anal sex and lotion products to go with it, and now here I am writing a blog about sex and relationship.

The Hubs and I have been through some rough spots but where we are now has really reassured me that we are doing at least some things right. We spend a lot of time together. Today we even cleaned together! We love having sex together. Maybe today we worked so well together because we started the day by having sex before we started cleaning! I don’t know if that was it or not that made the Hubs more patient with me than normal or maybe I was more focused than normal or we have been able to figure out jobs for me to do that I can do that works with my brain beter than we usually do. I think it was the sex. Maybe that’s a new ADD treatment that I need! Regardless, it worked.

Maybe what worked was one of my tasks was to go through my night stand and here is a sample of what I found in this pic! Maybe one reason I could focus was because this stuff is so interesting and fun to go through! 

#Washingclothes2016

FUCK IT! BE YOU!

03 Thursday Nov 2016

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Hello blog family! If you are reading this you may be one of the followers who have been missing me! I apologize for my lack of keeping up. I am trying to figure out my schedule and get back to blogging regularly. It has been a struggle these last few weeks. I love my blog I love being the person I can be here. No judgements no holding back just raw real Ruby is what you get!

The last few weeks life has been rough. Just like yours I assume everyone’s has! Between business owning, house cleaning (that never looks clean) and remodeling a bathroom, being a mom and Massage Therapist, Coaching and a slew of other things life has been…Life!

I’ve struggled recently toiling over what people think of me and to that I say Fuck it! I am Ruby I will be who I want when I want and I am not always the same crazy drinking swearing lady you read here, sometimes I’m a caring sweet mommy or a sexy wife or a prudishness dance coach, a professional and many other things depending on the hat I’m wearing! That’s my choice and  my decision. I am going to appreciate that and love it and own it! You should too Be You!

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