Todays Hump Day Challenge is to be adventurous in a story. Do you have or does your partner have a fantasy that you just can’t bring yourself to do. My challenge for you today is to talk about the story of your fantasy not in a way to actually make it happen, just to dream about it and get turned on and make it a sexy time with your lover. If you have always fantacized about having a night with LL Cool J (who hasn’t, the way he licks his lips and he so hot!) After you two have decided to participate in this Hump Day Challenge when you are ready to get started, tell your lover a detailed story what LL would do to you. Maybe it’s your man who is telling you the story of what LL would be doing to you as he acts out the story. This may be a good way to explore that threesome fantasy without actually having to have the threesome. Your mate may actually like the idea and realize that it might not be so bad after the acting out and hearing the role they would play in it and how it would make you feel. However, the intention of this challenge is not to get your way or convince your partner to have said fantasy, it’s to give you the chance to vicariously live it and enjoy that fantasy. 

Does you man dream of a threesome with you and a hot super model? As you tell him the story act out as much as you can and let him just close his eyes and imagine he is there with you and her. Maybe it’s you wanting to fuck Captain America, get him the costume and play dirty with him. Stay open mined and relax. Don’t read too much into how much he enjoys the idea of you being someone else or having another lady to pleasure him. The same way he is not judging you when you are not so secretly fantasizing about Captain America.

Let it open your mind and his. Relax and don’t judge. If you get uncomfortable subtly veer the conversation or story to a place that your comfortable. Only go to where you both are comfortable! Don’t push and don’t ask to do it in real life this is for fantasizing. I believe it can be a real valuable tool to help with low libido and lack of interest. Sometimes sex gets hard to accomplish in the rat race of life, use these ideas to spice up your sex life. 

Just relax and have sex! The physical act of sex releases happy chemicals and hormones in you brain that combat stress and frustration. Endorphins can even affect pain levels so all of these are good reasons to have sex, and enjoy sex and put in the work for your partner to be satisfied during sex. Visualization and fantasy can be valuable but make it clear where the fantasy line begins and reality line ends. Be honest and clear with your boundaries and respect your partner’s! Now, go get that sexual release and enjoy the destress benefits! And enjoy the fantasy!

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