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Check in On Goals

16 Tuesday Jan 2018

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Tuesday Tuesday Tuesday! It was a good fairly productive for me in the Earl household! I had some personal appointments this morning AND got some work done in between which is a big deal for me! I struggle with small tasks in between other things. For me I have to focus on one thing to accomplish and, if I don’t think I have enough time or will get distracted or if it won’t get done in time, I usually choose to skip the task until I can focus on only that one thing.

Today I decided to just get it done. I get overwhelmed easily and have a hard time breaking down what needs to be done and how to accomplish the goal and have a hard time with time management. It’s because of ADD. You see, people with ADD, their frontal cortex (part of the brain that organized tasks) does not function the way people without ADD does. We struggle breaking down simple tasks, prioritizing things into a list based on importance and struggle with time management. So for me to get shit done in between two different appointments in two different places, for me is a big deal. High five to myself!

How are you doing on your goals this year? Here is an update on some of mine:

I also, today, got in a good run (slow, but still good). I got in 4+ miles for a total of 7+ on the month. I have a goal of 50 miles this month…if I am going to accomplish that I need to get my ass running every day! I have made it to the gym only once a week so far got to get more committed there to hit the twice a week mark.

Sex everyday has been going well. We haven’t done it every single day but have made up for missed days with a couple 2 a days right now we are a day behind, we will get there I’m not worried. Just looking forward to a day we can have a two a day.

Washing Clothes: I have done a load of laundry every day. Today I started the Hubs’ work pants in the laundry without him even having to tell me he has no pants to wear tomorrow (he has a stack of clean and folded pants in his closet) and now all the laundry hampers are not even close to over flowing!

Also, Couch cushions got readjusted and fluffed to look neater yesterday. The house got vacuumed, dishes caught up by the time the kids went to bed! It feels good to have that accomplished and check things off the list everyday.

What kind of sucks is my work schedule has been way slow, possibly reasons why I have had so much time to get housework done. I am working toward being on top of things around the house and carrying that on when business picks up. Small steps forward everyday! But I want more work to help with the family finances…

Dry January… still dry and for the Hubs too! Yay us!

I’m working on motivation to get it all done workout, clean, sex everyday and follow through with all of my Goals! And get more business! Maybe should have made business goals for 2018….

How’s everyone else doing?

#SLWC2018

Plan Focus Give Grace

26 Sunday Feb 2017

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Hello Readers,

I have to confess, I have had a rough go lately. The Hubs and I have been struggling. It’s hard for me to write encouraging posts when I don’t feel so positive it is hard for me to write positive without feeling like a fake. So, with that said, I am feeling more positive, I know that I may be having some sort of depression or anxiety and need to pay attention and not get lost in it. I am going to be going back to counseling on my own and I will be checking in with my GP about some tummy issues I’ve been having, to keep my health a priority and take care of me. As a person, as a mom, as a wife and a health care provider it is hard to serve in your roll if you feel down and ineffective. Like they say it is impossible to serve from an empty vessel.

empty-vesselIn my life in the last week I have had some clarity of mind to realize I need to focus on me. Not in a selfish way where you are “more important” than your family, that you are charged with taking care of, but in a way to be the healthiest you so your family can have a healthy mom, healthy wife and your clients can have a healthy provider coming from a place of love and caring. I have been so bogged down with stress in life that I am complaining a lot, offended easily and my brain gets flooded and I get angry easily. So much so that I don’t really recognize myself and then when the hubs and I get into “special moments” I feel like I turn into some monster that is not me! Then it spirals out of control! So I am taking control of me. Part of that is me getting back into blogging here. I want to encourage people who are or have been in my spot. Also it helps me to get my feelings out and helps me to help guide myself in a positive way, not just my readers. Plus entertaining readers with my Hump Day Challenges is a passion of mine that I have missed the last few weeks.

Another part is getting back to my life. I have been working a lot and losing site of what really matters. My work matters but there is a balance that needs to be heeded. A balance of working in my business (doing massage) as well as working on my business (admin stuff like billing and marketing). I love networking for marketing and I have a lot of friends that I network with but that networking time needs to be just that and sometimes the balance of networking and socializing line blurs and loses potency.

So to deter the blurred lines of friend time and networking time I plan to be more active in my life with friends. We all struggle balance with work and fun but it is important to stay in touch with your “people”. You know, the ones who can figure out your drunk text typos and actually answer or support you in those moments! So one part of this gaining balance and getting back to me is scheduling girlfriend time as well as date nights and family nights! All three is important as important as work time.

Another part is planning house work time. This is harder for me because really, who wants to do the bull shit tasks of cooking, cleaning and grocery shopping? Especially after work and taxiing around the kids after a full day of work? But if you ignore it or don’t plan it you end up with those “special moments” with the Hubs that no one really wants! So this next sentence is very important, You must plan with your family! Everyone in the family has a responsibility  for how the house runs! The Hubs and I have had some conversations on this and although we haven’t really planned it all out, we have made huge gains in this area. The Hubs has started helping with dishes and putting laundry away. There is much to be said about a person who actually steps up to handle the things that they hate not being done versus just complaining about it! So: MAKE A FAMILY PLAN ABOUT HOW YOUR HOUSE WILL BE RAN AND EVERYONE CONTRIBUTE! Talk about it and follow through.

So to sum up this long post:

  1. Take care of you if that means going to the doctor, counselor, journaling, exercising, What ever it is, make time!! My plan get back to counseling, exercise everyday (at least cardio), get to doctor about tummy issues, have grace with myself when I am overwhelmed!
  2. Schedule and stick to it you work and admin time in your business! My plan just get it admin and massage time on the books and don’t waiver regardless of the client and their schedule, make my schedule and family time as important as theirs. Balance!
  3. Schedule Date nights, family nights and time with “your people” My plan: Schedule girlfriend time once a month, Date nights weekly and actually go, Family nights or outings weekly
  4. Schedule House work and responsibilities! Everyone has a responsibility to participate it is not all on mom regardless if mom is a working mom stay at home. We need to teach our kids they have to contribute as well as the husbands. Talk about it and make a plan! My Plan: schedule family menu planning meetings, utilize Clicklist with preplanned menus. Give kids chores and follow through with them to do it on schedule before practices and dance.
  5. GIVE GRACE! Let everyone have a little grace with heavy stress load times of homework, busy work days and heavily scheduled tournaments or competitions. Everyone is trying hard to motivate through life! We all want what’s best for our family and ourselves and sometimes we need to take a nap instead of vacuum! As long as we are all doing our best when our family needs help lets lend a helping hand they will do the same for you when you need! Help each other out to get to the goal and enjoy the good moments like the tournament wins and realize sometimes those things come when the house is messy, but when those moments are over and we have down time we can catch up when we need to! As long as there is not mold growing on the dishes and the house isn’t burning down and there is a dance to watch or a game going on…take it in! Enjoy these busy crazy moments building a lives, growing children into adults, growing a business and creating a life! Make it happy!!!

Live the life you’ve imagined because remember in your dreams you saw the results not the work that it takes to get there! FOCUS on what is important. Family, friends, lives, and moments are important! Money and dishes and laundry will go away savor moments with your people!!!

#Live2017

 

Ruby’s New Focus Tool

06 Sunday Nov 2016

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Today we spent the day cleaning. I love when my husband helps to get the house cleaned and organized, but I also hate it when he does too. Most of the time, the Hubs and I clash on so many levels. He doesn’t understand why I can’t focus and I can’t understand what the heck he is doing and how the fuck I am supposed to do it his way!!! Today was a little different. We had a good day and little stress and no blow fight! Which is very surprising because we are oil and water when it comes to cleaning and organizing, but I am not complaining. I even got to watch my husband vacuum at the end of it! My bathroom that we have been remodeling is done and my bedroom is clean! We pulled everything out of drawers and reorganized everything. The Hubs even went through the gun safe and under the bed. I handled the stuff that got takend out of the medicine cabinet and the drawers of the new vanity. So everything is back in the bathroom area.

I also went through my night stand. It has two drawers in those drawers I found everything from old receipts from 1999 to sex toys. I also found index cards from Kinesiology class in massage school and yoga flash cards. There were a lot of books on a lot of subjects from sex to yoga to old Bible studies I did when my kids were babies. There was also a baby shoe and burp rag from the baby years. I loved going through all of it. There was also some costumes (If you can call the small pieces of fabric that) old creams and flavored lotions. Basically my whole sexual history in a nutshell was right there in front of me. Was pretty entertaining remembering where I came from. I was a very sheltered and prudish when The Hubs and I first got together. I have bought books about giving blow jobs, to anal sex and lotion products to go with it, and now here I am writing a blog about sex and relationship.

The Hubs and I have been through some rough spots but where we are now has really reassured me that we are doing at least some things right. We spend a lot of time together. Today we even cleaned together! We love having sex together. Maybe today we worked so well together because we started the day by having sex before we started cleaning! I don’t know if that was it or not that made the Hubs more patient with me than normal or maybe I was more focused than normal or we have been able to figure out jobs for me to do that I can do that works with my brain beter than we usually do. I think it was the sex. Maybe that’s a new ADD treatment that I need! Regardless, it worked.

Maybe what worked was one of my tasks was to go through my night stand and here is a sample of what I found in this pic! Maybe one reason I could focus was because this stuff is so interesting and fun to go through! 

#Washingclothes2016

“THAT” feeling

07 Saturday May 2016

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I feel like I am in “THAT” moment when you realize you are working so hard and going in the wrong direction! On so many at forms in life right now! Things are so close to being so great and the bam something shitty happens or something amazing happens which keeps me doing the same dead end shit!!!

It’s time for me to get grounded and focused and take some big risks!  What are you holding back on? Let go folks,et loose spread your wings with me and let’s grow!

In the mean time go have sex!!!

#Comitt2016

Chill to be Productive

10 Sunday Apr 2016

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Happy end of the weekend. Oh sad!

less stress more sexThis weekend has been pretty calming and relaxing for the Hubs and I! The kids have been gone with Grandparents since Wednesday. I had a long day at work on Friday but since then it has been very relaxing. We had no schedule this weekend. We went to a detail shop where they had a car show, then drove the new car around to get help break in the engine. We took it easy yesterday. Then today we did some work around the house before the kids got home.

It’s amazing how not having a schedule is so affective on you sense of relaxation. It was very nice to get some stuff done around the house without having to finish in time for {fill in the _____}. The Hubs did some outside yardwork and I worked on some deep cleaning inside. It is nice to get stuff done on your own schedule. It sucks because it has to be done anyway but it is definitely nice to be able to go at my own pace for once. Which my cleaning pace it not very fast but it was nice to make progress! Then when the kids got home they folded clothes and got that task done too, YAY!

This weekend felt very productive, it was but really maybe I have such a positive feeling because the Hubs and I got in some pretty good sex too. We had morning sex both Saturday and Sunday. I know this may be TMI but that is not new for this blog. I know this weekend was productive but it’s not like we have been working and accomplishing a lot everyday just been on chill mode everyday. Maybe it is that euphoric and positive energy that is the byproduct of good sex. Who knows, does it matter? No. I think it is a little bit of both. Oh to have a calmer life and no schedule and be able to be in chill mode all the time…I guess that might be what retirement feels like!

Moral of the story:  Have more sex!

#Recommit2016

 

XXX-Dirty Dishes-XXX

30 Wednesday Mar 2016

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Does your partner wash the dishes?

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While she is doing dishes (even if its not dishes make and effort when she is washing her face at night or when she’s brushing her teeth, make a romantic moment out of a chore) walk up behind her, wrap your arms around her and caress her. Not too tight so she can still finish the dishes. Pull her shirt off and play with her tits. Still, don’t constrict her movement she may get upset and thwart your efforts if she has to finish them in the morning! As soon as she outs that last dish on the drain board turn her around and kiss her start a big male out session. Take the rest of her clothes off miss and lick her whole body. Take her to bed and give her a proper thank you for taking care of you dirty dishes….

Be dirty with her! Give her a big O, she deserves it! Always appreciated those who clean up your mess!

#Recommit2016

Feels Like Christmas Eve

19 Saturday Dec 2015

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Up till 5am last night. Now we are trying tobget the kids packed to go to Grandma’s for 5 days and get ready for a secret trip that they don’t know about for Christmas. We still need to pack, wrap Christmas presents that should be been do e already bit you know me… I am super tired.

We have a Seahawk’s game tomorrow. We will leave here early like at 7am which means get up at 5:30 or 6am! Drive around to the kids’ Great Grandparents then head to the game. Come back to grandparents out kids to bed at an early bedtime and then wake the up at 2am to tell them their surprise!

I am so excited I can hardly take it! I have almost blown it a few times today, the Hubs too! It has been a bit tough getting the kids to seriously pack. Their Grandma’s always have extra of everything…

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I have so much to I don’t have time to write too much. I am surviving this evening on a Rockstar and shipping on a Sin-namon Roll Drink (Sinfire and Vanilla Cream Soda). We got invited to a party but will be staying home because we need to do as I stated above Clean Wrap and Pack. And have time to have sex because did I mention we are staying with the In-laws on our trip in their RV.

It feels slightly like Christmas Eve which is when we usually wrap gifts and clean. So Merry Christmas everyone! And to All a good night!

#Everyday2015

Get The Help You Need to Manage Your Stress

13 Sunday Dec 2015

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Stress build up until you diffuse it or it boils over or explodes like a volcano. I have been stressed a lot lately and today it kind of exploded! This year was supposed to be about mastering the Stay At Home Mom Role and modeling and inspiring other stay at home moms! It turned into going back to work to help our the family financially as we decide to buy a new car.

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I over did it with the job thing! I took on a job doing massage back at the Chiropractic Clinic I worked at before. Then a few weeks later I took on a job bartending since my massage work days were on slow days at the office. Then my massage job picked up and then slowed down and now picked up again. With school, kids activities, and Homemaker work I just can’t handle both jobs! I don’t know what to do. What’s going to happen when the massage job has a slow time? If I am busy and work a full massage schedule, there is absolutely no reason for me to need to work more. However, if my schedule slows then I would need to supplement my income. I really enjoy both jobs and have fun doing them both but I cannot be emotionally where I want to be for my family! I am stressed and overwhelmed and just not myself.

If I quit working at the bar will that change enough to make it so I can be the mom and wife I want to be? I do feel like I am getting in a routine with my massage schedule and am feeling good about where that puts us financially. I am also feeling deflated at the bar job and thinking it might not be for me. I do love my bar job but recently some changes that have happened has affected the amount of tips I make as well as my work environment. I am glad to not have to work weekends any longer, but I miss my family when they are all home. I work two nights a week Tuesday 6p-2am and Friday 4p-9pm. I miss being there for the dinner and sports and seeing my husband when he gets off work. I am thinking of putting in notice this week. I can work through the holidays and then beginning January only doing massage. Maybe I will stay on for just a late night Friday and/or a special event person occasionally.

I just don’t know what to do! Why can’t life be easy?! Maybe I need to find a working mom blogger who gives advice about this. I obviously am struggling being an inspiring working mom to other moms!

Best I can say today is go with your gut. Problem for me is I don’t ever know what really is my gut saying. So do what feels right. What is the most important thing to you! Let your life show that! If your kids are important but you are not doing what’s best for them then your priorities are out of order.

So for me my priority is my family, my husband, and self care. Currently working two jobs, that is not what my life is exemplifying! We have survived with just my husband’s income we could again if we needed to! But we are taking our kids on an epic vacation for Christmas and we did repairs to our car with out going into debt and we have been slowly picking away at the HELOC and Credit card bills. Soon we will have enough money to finally finish our bathroom and all of that while not stressing about paying all the bills. I am happy to have contributed financially to the family for that, but my stress level is boiling up to the top and I have got to get a handle on it.

I probably need to ask the Hubs and kinds for more help around the house but I also need to get organized and feel I can’t ask for help without having my shit in order! Which is untrue! You can ask those that live in your house and eat the food you prepare and wear the clothes you launder to help you, with all chores around the house! No reason to feel bad!!!!! Get the help you need and learn to manage your stress. Don’t over schedule yourself! Love yourself and give yourself grace!!!

#Everyday2015

Fun Times and Needing to Plan!

06 Sunday Dec 2015

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What a fun day! Today was the tree lighting festival in our town! The Girl’s dance team always performs at it. Their studio is down on the Main Street through downtown and they have giant windows in the front studio. So they perform in their studio and we watch from the sidewalk outside. It’s like watching them in a snow globe. It is a fun performance! So we got to see her dance twice today!

The boy started winter baseball camp this morning too! He was very excited to get up early on a Saturday and go play baseball. He and I were going to do the Jingle Bell 5k but when he was going to baseball it was so rainy be decided he didn’t want to. Which I was glad because I had a late night and a rough morning!

We had the volunteer banquet for Pee Wee Football. It was a lot of fun. It got over at 11 and then we went to one of the coach’s house for an after party. They have a fire pit so we sat around the fire and told stories and laughed…. and drank…

It was a blast but like I said made waking up this morning a bit rough and I needed Alieve! I basically lost my motivation to go running not to mention I needed to clean the house as we are having people over for the game tomorrow. Seahawk’s Party!!!! I used the running time to nap! I know bad excuse but, I needed to take care of myself and not beat myself up about it! I did need some time to relax!

I will get back into running and do races again, soon! Just as soon as I get a handle on life. With work and kids and husband responsibilities it has been rough for me to get a handle on balance and house work and scheduling exercise healthy eating and sometimes even grocery shopping! I was feeling like I almost got a handle on how to be a stay at home mom/homemaker, but still didn’t have it.

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And now, I am trying to figure out this whole working mom/homemaker thing and I have no fucking idea!!! I am trying I know I need to make better plans and schedules but when do I have time to plan out and schedule that planning time? One of these days I will get it… Or the kids will graduate or we will retire…it might take me that long!

I just got a breakfast casserole put it in the crock pot for tomorrow’s early game. Now I am going to go snuggle my husband and we have our ritual pregame sex to do and some more cleaning to do and he is sleeping through the F1 race on DVR that we were watching…. Oh well he needs a nap before we get it on!

#Everyday2015

You Can Always Be Better

28 Saturday Nov 2015

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Hello Saturday! We have almost nothing scheduled. The Hub’s and his buddies played their turkey bowl today. I normally like to go and watch and see the guys but I decided to be more responsible and stay home and clean. My house needed some time from me cleaning. It still needs more but my attention span is over it. I still have to put a ton of laundry away. Maybe I can get the hubs to help with that!

This is going to sound weird but it was actually nice to get some time to clean up my kitchen and my house. All I did was dishes wipe down counter tops and dinning room table ect. I have a couple piles of paperwork to go through but it was nice to be cleaning I enjoyed the homemaker feeling again. Then I got sad that I don’t have more time to do that stuff. I enjoy the extra money I make working my two jobs but I wish, schedule wise, I had more freedom or could figure out how to better to manage my time!

Being super busy does not help. Every weekend we have stuff to do. Today is abnormal that we have nothing planned. Next weekend is show weekend and also a banquet for football volunteers that I have been very involved in organizing and they are on the same night! Shit! How am going to be two places at once? I guess I will be late to the banquet and hopefully there will still be peopleAlways compete be better there that I want to see and that there will still be food there! The event runs 5-11 and the show starts at 6 and I think it is supposed to be an hour and a half. So I am thinking we could probably get to the banquet by 8:30 or 9:00. Then Saturday we have a bazaar fundraiser that I am supposed to be sewing some hand warmer covers to sell for fundraising for dance but I think this year we will skip it. Our fundraiser for dance is me working two jobs! But I like doing crafty things so it is sad that I don’t really have time for it right now.

Anyway I am enjoying this down time I have today. I love being busy but I also love being able to fill my time with cleaning when I want to or crafting when I’d like to. I miss making cakes for everyone’s birthdays too. But I have to say is I am happy to be able to help financially with the family maybe one day I will be an owner and can hire people to work for me and then maybe, work less and do more of what I want… that will probably retirement! I don’t want to sound like I am complaining, I am not! I love my life. I love my family. We all should be happy where we are and do our best to be where we want to be but in the meantime love the life we have. I love my work, I love being busy, I love being able to have my daughter in dance, my son active, have season tickets and nope have to worry if we can afford new shoes. I do still take the time for myself to dance and enjoy life (I, like most people, should probably take more time for self care). Life is good! That doesn’t mean I want some things to be different or better. It’s that ‘Always Compete’ motto in life there is always room for improvement, never settle but always work hard to be better!

#Everyday2015