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40 Days to A Better Connection

07 Tuesday Mar 2017

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40-day-challengeSo this post was supposed to happen Wednessday! This previous Wedness was Ash Wednessday. Every year Catholics and some others of Christian faith participate in giving something up for Lent. Lent is the time that Jesus spent away praying before he was crucified. (I never “celebrated” Lent my family did not participate so this is all I gather from the outsiders point of view.) So now in the time of Facebook and social media I see posts every year of friends who are giving up social media or chocolate or French fries or some who vow to do something good for themselves. Every year for the last few years I have toyed with the idea to do “Lent” but have never followed through. So this year since I remembered it on a Wednessday I am making it a bit of a hump day challenge! Lent is 40 days Jesus spent 40 days and 40 night praying. It’s about 6 weeks until Easter. 6 weeks is a very biblical time frame if you haven’t figured it out there is more than science around why so many programs to better yourself are 6 weeks long.

So here goes let’s do Lent Sex Love and Washing Clothes style! We are going to break it down here:

Sex: Fuck as much as you can. Everyday if possible but realisticly most of us won’t. So, Do every Hump Day Challenge and have sex as much on the off days as you can! But EVERY DAY sext your lover! Especially if you can’t fuck! Send a dirty picture, maybe it’s your boobs maybe it’s a sexy story you tell or a full on play by play text/sext story! It can be a shot of your naked boobs, your naked pussy or a sexy shot of your cleavage. You go to the bathroom how many times a day? Take your phone at least once and grab an opportunity to take a naked or partially naked picture.

Love: Say “I love you” EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Kiss goodnight, go to bed at the same time, go on dates and/or write love notes! Love notes via text or hand written…BOTH! For some of you this is easy, if it’s not easy I bet you can remember a time when it was. Do you know what will make it easier again? PRACTICE!!! So get to showing love ladies and gents!!! This should be easy it just takes effort and time it really is not hard to say I love you or to write a love note! Take time and write a few when you have a little time and use them under your partners pillow or in their lunch box. When you don’t have time to write on paper…write a text telling them you favorite thing about them!!

Washing Clothes:  This is the tough one! Make a commitment to wash clothes everyday. If this is easy but you and the spouse fight about dishes then make a commitment to do the dishes. Remember when I started this I said “washing clothes” is a metaphor for all the house work and homemaking tasks that need done. If you really need to vacuum everyday do that but make it the same thing everyday! My kids do the dishes and The Hubs really wants the laundry to not get out of control and yes two years after starting Sex Love and Washing Clothes I still need to work on the actual washing of the clothes, so that is my task. I will be starting a load of laundry in the morning (FUCK I already forgot today) then in the afternoon transferring it to the dryer and in the evening the kids will be able to fold and then I will put my clothes away… Or some way or another I will wash clothes and get them put away. No more laundry piles regardless of clean or dirty until after Easter…

So there your have it for Lent you are doing Sex Love and Washing Clothes! …We are doing Sex Love and Washing Clothes! I need a boost in my relationship I think this will help. It is a focus on eachother what better way to reconnect than to Sex Love and Washing Clothes. Everyone in the relationship is working at bettering it! It a relationship focus not a me or you focus! Let’s do this and by Easter let’s check in and see how it helped!

Good luck Challengers here we go!

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Plan Focus Give Grace

26 Sunday Feb 2017

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Hello Readers,

I have to confess, I have had a rough go lately. The Hubs and I have been struggling. It’s hard for me to write encouraging posts when I don’t feel so positive it is hard for me to write positive without feeling like a fake. So, with that said, I am feeling more positive, I know that I may be having some sort of depression or anxiety and need to pay attention and not get lost in it. I am going to be going back to counseling on my own and I will be checking in with my GP about some tummy issues I’ve been having, to keep my health a priority and take care of me. As a person, as a mom, as a wife and a health care provider it is hard to serve in your roll if you feel down and ineffective. Like they say it is impossible to serve from an empty vessel.

empty-vesselIn my life in the last week I have had some clarity of mind to realize I need to focus on me. Not in a selfish way where you are “more important” than your family, that you are charged with taking care of, but in a way to be the healthiest you so your family can have a healthy mom, healthy wife and your clients can have a healthy provider coming from a place of love and caring. I have been so bogged down with stress in life that I am complaining a lot, offended easily and my brain gets flooded and I get angry easily. So much so that I don’t really recognize myself and then when the hubs and I get into “special moments” I feel like I turn into some monster that is not me! Then it spirals out of control! So I am taking control of me. Part of that is me getting back into blogging here. I want to encourage people who are or have been in my spot. Also it helps me to get my feelings out and helps me to help guide myself in a positive way, not just my readers. Plus entertaining readers with my Hump Day Challenges is a passion of mine that I have missed the last few weeks.

Another part is getting back to my life. I have been working a lot and losing site of what really matters. My work matters but there is a balance that needs to be heeded. A balance of working in my business (doing massage) as well as working on my business (admin stuff like billing and marketing). I love networking for marketing and I have a lot of friends that I network with but that networking time needs to be just that and sometimes the balance of networking and socializing line blurs and loses potency.

So to deter the blurred lines of friend time and networking time I plan to be more active in my life with friends. We all struggle balance with work and fun but it is important to stay in touch with your “people”. You know, the ones who can figure out your drunk text typos and actually answer or support you in those moments! So one part of this gaining balance and getting back to me is scheduling girlfriend time as well as date nights and family nights! All three is important as important as work time.

Another part is planning house work time. This is harder for me because really, who wants to do the bull shit tasks of cooking, cleaning and grocery shopping? Especially after work and taxiing around the kids after a full day of work? But if you ignore it or don’t plan it you end up with those “special moments” with the Hubs that no one really wants! So this next sentence is very important, You must plan with your family! Everyone in the family has a responsibility  for how the house runs! The Hubs and I have had some conversations on this and although we haven’t really planned it all out, we have made huge gains in this area. The Hubs has started helping with dishes and putting laundry away. There is much to be said about a person who actually steps up to handle the things that they hate not being done versus just complaining about it! So: MAKE A FAMILY PLAN ABOUT HOW YOUR HOUSE WILL BE RAN AND EVERYONE CONTRIBUTE! Talk about it and follow through.

So to sum up this long post:

  1. Take care of you if that means going to the doctor, counselor, journaling, exercising, What ever it is, make time!! My plan get back to counseling, exercise everyday (at least cardio), get to doctor about tummy issues, have grace with myself when I am overwhelmed!
  2. Schedule and stick to it you work and admin time in your business! My plan just get it admin and massage time on the books and don’t waiver regardless of the client and their schedule, make my schedule and family time as important as theirs. Balance!
  3. Schedule Date nights, family nights and time with “your people” My plan: Schedule girlfriend time once a month, Date nights weekly and actually go, Family nights or outings weekly
  4. Schedule House work and responsibilities! Everyone has a responsibility to participate it is not all on mom regardless if mom is a working mom stay at home. We need to teach our kids they have to contribute as well as the husbands. Talk about it and make a plan! My Plan: schedule family menu planning meetings, utilize Clicklist with preplanned menus. Give kids chores and follow through with them to do it on schedule before practices and dance.
  5. GIVE GRACE! Let everyone have a little grace with heavy stress load times of homework, busy work days and heavily scheduled tournaments or competitions. Everyone is trying hard to motivate through life! We all want what’s best for our family and ourselves and sometimes we need to take a nap instead of vacuum! As long as we are all doing our best when our family needs help lets lend a helping hand they will do the same for you when you need! Help each other out to get to the goal and enjoy the good moments like the tournament wins and realize sometimes those things come when the house is messy, but when those moments are over and we have down time we can catch up when we need to! As long as there is not mold growing on the dishes and the house isn’t burning down and there is a dance to watch or a game going on…take it in! Enjoy these busy crazy moments building a lives, growing children into adults, growing a business and creating a life! Make it happy!!!

Live the life you’ve imagined because remember in your dreams you saw the results not the work that it takes to get there! FOCUS on what is important. Family, friends, lives, and moments are important! Money and dishes and laundry will go away savor moments with your people!!!

#Live2017

 

XXX-Pop Quiz-XXX

26 Thursday Jan 2017

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Happy Hump Day! The purpose of Hump Day Challenges is to create more connection with your lover. So today is a POP Quiz with your lover. It’s a STRIP POP QUIZ. You know your lover if you know each other well you can make it every

Ask these questions to him or her or make up your own questions.  You can change the order of questions if you’d like just make sure you ramp up to sex. The way you are going to ramp up to sex is you are going remove clothes every wrong answer (if you think your partner will struggle you can change the rules and take off clothes every right answer depending on how quickly you want to get naked). For every wrong answer tell you lover the correct answer open up the conversation and learn about each other! As he answers then you answer for him so each question you will both be answering each question as you go along, it’s no fun if only one partner gets naked and the other doesn’t. This will open up some lines of conversation and help you connect on another level other than just sex on this Hump Day. Also feel free to look at the parts of body as clothing is removed and insert any form of foreplay as desired but focus on the questions and enjoy the conversation however it may be hard (pun intended) but you have to balance the conversation with the sex:

Here are some questions in no particular order except for the last two:

  1. What is my favorite color?
  2. What is my favorite food?
  3. What is the anniversary of our relationship? (the answer is not marriage it is when you started dating or the party you met at or your first date)
  4. Who is my best friend?
  5. What is my favorite activity or game to play?
  6. If we could travel anywhere for a vacation alone with you where would I choose to go?
  7. What do you think was my favorite trip or day or experience that I have had with you?
  8. What is my mom’s name?
  9. What is my dad’s name?
  10. What makes me smile the biggest?
  11. What is my favorite movie?
  12. What is my favorite song?
  13. If I was a stripper what would be my theme song?
  14. What is my favorite sexual position?
  15. What is my natural hair color?
  16. How do I take my coffee?
  17. What is my favorite breakfast meal?
  18. What is my sign?
  19. When is my birthday?
  20. Am I an introvert or extrovert?
  21. Am I more modest or exhibitionist?
  22. Do I enjoy these questions and this conversation or am I ansy to get down to business of humping?
  23. Are you ready to get down to business?

After you decide your ready to get down to business start with your partners favorite foreplay. Hopefully you will have already started some of it during the game as your lover got naked. Feel free to talk during sex (I am not much of a fan of talking during sex but today will be an exception) keep the conversation going if you like. Feel free to just fuck and not talk after the conversation if you prefer. Get to know each other this will help you want to have sex more when you feel more connected!

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Impact 2017

02 Monday Jan 2017

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You are someone’s greatest gift! I read this on a Junior High School billboard, it inspired this post. That person may be your mom or dad or it may be your spouse or child. It may also be someone you don’t talk to anymore, someone you met just once and smiled at or said something nice to. We impact people in so many ways. Some that we ourselves will never understand how what we did or said was meaningful in their life. So in this first blog of 2017 I say to you: how are you impacting people in life? Are you leaving the impression you wish to leave?

#2017

Rough week

09 Friday Dec 2016

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I’ve had a rough week. I miss my people and miss blogging. I am trying to fit it in my life more. However this week was rough. There is so much I want to write about and then I stop myself if I write about it it will be team and I am not ready for that! So I will leave you with this. I’m trying to be positive, there are so many negative places to go. I promised a friend I would take care of myself, I am. I promised myself this blog would be to help and reach out to others and that I wouldn’t miss too many days! So here’s a quote to think about and let’s raise our glasses to keep on keeping on. Don’t give up on yourself people. Love yourself respect yourself and love each other! 

I Want to Be Better

18 Sunday Sep 2016

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goals-exciteI know I have been MIA! I apologize to those who like reading my posts and to my faithful followers. I am really working on getting into a routine to keep my blog up to date and keep inspiring and entertaining people. My goal is to inspire couples to have more sex and to be more connected and to stay together, support each other, and love each other more. It has been about a week and a half since I wrote. The Hubs was gone all last week, I conducted Drill Team tryouts and did the normal stuff I do every week. It was a good busy week. The boy’s football team had a bye this weekend but we all went to the afternoon games this week. It was fun to just watch football and not really be connected to a player. I mean I am connected too all our teams in our league but it was nice to be sort of neutral.

The hubs and I had some catching up on connecting this weekend since he was gone all week. We had a slight little argument when he got home. Not too shocking because we usually do. Whenever one of us leaves or comes back we usually go through a bit of re-connecting and getting back on the same page. It’s normal and usually doesn’t last long but it sucks. It’s from stress and we just take too long to recognize it until we are both arguing and then realize we are making the same argument and the one who lets their ego go first is the one who creates change and stops the argument. We went out for a few drinks had some hot tub time and then some alone adult time.

I really missed him. I have said this before he had some mad skills when it comes to oral sex. It makes me inspired to get better at blow jobs. I have books and have researched but really probably what I need is to practice. I know this sounds weird and maybe a little TMI but oh. my. word. my husband deserves it. When our sex life got really good is when he got really good at oral! So it is my goal and my task to myself to work on this and get better! I love the pleasure I get from him and I only hope I can return the favor. I am sure he is satisfied, I know he is but I just want to accomplish this so I can reciprocate better and more.

So this week’s goals are to get more organized and write more, give more blow jobs and really work on figuring out what he likes and what works for him. And getting in my workout!

So, what are your goals in life right now? We all have to be focused on what we want to accomplish and what we want to get better and sup[ort our selves and our family. If you know of something your partner is working towards, a goal they are trying to accomplish, support them. Notice them when they are trying and give feedback. Don’t pressure them and don’t criticize them when they are not doing the best at achieving the goal. Build them up, I guarantee they know what they are slipping on they need to know someone notices the good things that are working.

#Goals2016

 

Productive Weekend

06 Tuesday Sep 2016

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Happy Monday, wait, it’s Tuesday! Happy Tuesday! This was Labor Day Weekend. Did you get in some end of summer R&R? Or were you uber productive and finished cleaning out the closets before the kids go back to school? We had a very chill weekend. The kids went to Gma’s one last time before they leave for AZ for a few weeks and the Hubs and I just relaxed. He had worked Thursday night all night. He went back to work Thursday evening at 10pm and then came home at 11:45 Friday morning. We had originally planned to go away one last weekend camping at the ocean but being up all night working has a way of altering those kind of weekend plans.

dream hungry demonsSo instead, Gma and Gpa came to get the kids so they could “steal” them for the weekend. I was quite thankful because  I needed an adult only weekend kind of a break. Gma and Gpa picked up the kids around 11am then the Hubs and I went back to bed when they left. We slept, fucked, watched football, fucked some more, then got out of bed had dinner and did it all again. We met up with friends we haven’t seen in a while Sunday evening and then Monday we went shooting.

We had a very productive weekend. Not in a sense of getting things accomplished but we made some really good connection, with each other. No doors to lock, didn’t have to be quiet and didn’t have to be anywhere! It was a relaxing chill weekend. No washing clothes, no schedule, no demands except the way we felt about each other. We had lots of sex this weekend. I did get a few ideas for Hump Day Challenges but do you think I wrote them down or remember my ideas at all? Not currently, I will get better at writing things down one day! We had a great reboot this weekend.

The Hubs and I really needed a reboot kind of weekend. Not really because things have been bad (although it has not been smooth sailing) but because we are busy. It’s hard to stay connected when you are going in so many different directions and have schedules and other people that take priority just because of the demands of the schedule of life. When this happens we all need to get grounded and focus on priorities and give each other a little grace. The Hubs and I talked this morning about not letting the busy-ness and demands of kids, school, work, jobs, coaching duties get in the way of knowing that we love each other and staying connected. We all get tired but we all need to take the time to nourish our relationships.

One day there will be no kids to take to practice and work will slow down and we may even retire, we need to make sure that we still know and love our partner, when life slows down, that’s when life will get really good. I am not saying mine is a model relationship, we have our problems and struggles. We still have more good than bad and nurturing our relationship is important to us. We do that by taking weekends like this one. I would love to do it once a month but that is just not realistic, but when I start to see and feel that lack of connection, arguing over washing clothes and just that bluh feeling about my relationship that is the time to look at the calendar, contact one of the Grandparents or some really great friends to take the kids so we can have adult time. Sometimes we go away and sometimes we send the kids with Gma but we get alone time!

We also take a date night, every week. Right now we are on Tuesday, it is our weeknight date night. We usually also do get in a Weekend date night as well. I know there are many people who judge us and how much we go out and take date nights and weekends sans kids. But, I really think it is important for every marriage or partnership to have that time. When the kids are grown and gone we need to still know and love the one we met and had those said kids with.

It is important to take the time to nourish the relationship with your lover and almost as important to teach your children how to do that. Children see us fighting, I know studies show we shouldn’t fight around our kids, we try not to, but let’s be honest they see it, they need to see us make up and they need to see us loving each other as well. It is important to take care of ourselves individually as well. I want to inspire you to take the time to take care of your relationship with your lover. One of the easiest ways to do that is to have more sex! If you can’t get away or have no one to take care of the kids, lock your bedroom door turn up some music and enjoy the naked physical love of your partner. I promise it is well worth it even when you are tired!

Go make connection with your mate, have more sex! Of course being nice, helping each other cook and clean and keep up with the tedious tasks of a busy life helps too, but there is nothing like having a great relationship with you spouse and having great sex with them as well!

#Havesex2016

Weekend Getaway Sex!

26 Sunday Jun 2016

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It’s Sunday! The Hubs and I went away for the weekend. I stayed home sick with oain from a bladder infection Friday so we even got out a little earlier than planned. We headed south to Portland. It was a fun time and a nice escape. We started the mini 7 day sex challenge Thursday (which was a struggle with a bladder infection) so actually we started it Friday.

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We had a great sex-e-scape thus weekend. We did it when we woke up Friday morning at home, before we went out to dinner Friday night, then  in the morning Saturday, before we went out Saturday Night and then when we came home Saturday night after hanging at the clubs, as well as before we left this morning! We went to bed early Friday (weird for vacation but the Hubs worked all night Thursday git home at 4:15am) and I was not feeling well still and had to pee every 5 minutes slept in and got up around 10:30 Saturday. We had a really relaxing weekend! Not super touristy it adventurous but filled with sleep and sex which for us is somehow what we needed!

So now we are heading home north on I-5 we have a baseball party tonight, so I have a dish to make and some shopping to do on the way home for drinks and plates and napkins etc for the party. We are chilling contemplating our life quietly as we drive. Sometimes recently we get to over thinking our life and over analyzing and causing stress. Hopefully we will stop doing that because that is a sorce of stress we don’t need in our life right now.

The Hubs and I are as always working out some kinks in life that cause stress. Since it is summertime we have got to organize life so house cleaning gets done, laundry gets done etc. I have been working so much and have so much other commitments it has been rough around the house lately! Probably way past time to schedule a house cleaner to help out! And to out together a chore chart!

But for now I am going to sit back enjoy the tunes and the ride in the car just relaxing before I have to get home and cook and unpack and get ready for a baseball party! How is everyone doing on the Mini 7 day challenge? I think the Hubs and I have completed it with the amount if times we fucked this weekend but we will continue and today is set up to be another two-a-day!

#Recommit2016

This Does Not Happen Often

05 Sunday Jun 2016

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I haven’t wrote since Thursday! It’s Sunday night! I was having crazy head anxiety Thursday. Friday, the Hubs and I had a talk. A talk that started off and sound very similar to fight! But things settled down and we actually had a good talk where we cleared the air and made progress instead of fighting in circles like we used to! (What the fuck changed that? I think we are maturing in our old age.) Anyway it was good to get on the same page and not have lingering issues that didn’t get resolved.

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The Hubs was sick last week. He is still not 100%.  I am a bit worried about him. He doesn’t get sick often and it doesn’t normally last. This is stomach stuff. I’ve been feeling frisky and he is feeling too sick to want to even have sex! This is a man who does nothing but think about sex with me. He still is making comments about how he loves my sexy body but climbs into bed lays down and closed his eyes. Sadness. Not only for me and not getting my sexual energy out but for him that he is feeling that bad.

This weekend was a fun chill weekend. We had two baseball games time with friends at their lake house and some family time outside this evening. It’s been a great weekend. My running buddy feels better so she and I finally got together this morning, after almost a week, and got in 5 miles which felt amazing! We are meeting tomorrow AM at 5:30.

So there is a quick synopsis of my normal chill weekend. What did you all do? I hope yours involved more sex than mine but there was a whole lotta love here in the Earl household. And there was even some washing clothes, I caught up and we folded and out away the massive piles of laundry. My countertops are visible now and there is food here for dinners through Tuesday! It was a successful Love and Washing Clothes week, sex was there but not as much as I’d like and not as much as the Hubs would like but he just can’t get past this tummy issue. (I’m making him go to the Dr if it doesn’t clear up in the near future!)

I’m going to snuggle my naked body against his (as long as it’s not too sweaty) and try to sleep. Tame this sexual energy and get some rest for the work week!

#Recomitt2016

Expectations, Anxiety and

02 Thursday Jun 2016

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It is the day after my birthday, the hubs came down sick yesterday on my birthday and even stayed home sick today. I hate to admit it and feel bad but this time I got super irritated about it. I mean can’t I just have a special day. I know he didn’t do it on purpose and I normally don’t respond like that.

I feel and I know I sound super selfish. My birthday is never made a big deal about by the Hubs. I learned at 22 that if I want to have a party I have to plan it myself or have a girlfriend do it. At 22 I said to the Hubs, “I don’t care what we do. I want to hang out with our friends and I don’t want to plan it.” The day before, I believe my birthday that year was even on a Friday, he finally called everyone and invited them to get together and hang out. Everyone was busy already so no birthday party for me. So, since then I decided well, I will make the plans myself. Which I have done.

Normally, because of that experience that year, I plan some time for myself to just do me on my birthday. But this year is different. I am a full time working mom . I had 6 appointments at the office The Girl had dance, the Boy had a baseball game, I had my dance class that I take. There was no time, I hadn’t made dinner plans nor had I been to the grocery store in a while so there wasn’t much to even cook at home. When I asked what the plan was for dinner he answered with “well do you want to run through a drive through or something?” I was appalled on my birthday he hasn’t even considered what to do for dinner so I didn’t have to worry about it?! I know I was being unfair. I did not really know how sick he was feeling he seemed fine. Then at home he basically sat down on the couch and crashed. I cleaned, vacuumed the house (so glad I did) did laundry. The Kids helped by making grilled cheese sandwiches for dinner. I was sitting on the couch lonely onme of picking a fight but quickly backed down. He never quickly backs down. I was feeling sad, lonely, anxious. He was feeling sick. He has some digestive  my birthday writing the Hump Day Challenge alone.

Tonight has been similar but it is not my birthday. My husband does not get sick much and it usually takes a lot to get him to not go to work and not want to spend time with me or not want to even have sex. So then I go into crazy head mode. Why doesn’t he want me. Why isn’t he thinking of me? Why doesn’t he understand that all he had to do was not make me make the dinner plan on my birthday. It only takes something small to impress me but it takes something. Is he talking to someone else? Does he not want me anymore? Am I too high maintenance because I want some special treatment or consideration when it’s my birthday?

99%All of those things are my anxiety and what I call Crazy Head Ruby. I am pretty sure I have written about it before. These are the things that women (I am sure men do it too but I would guess many don’t admit it) think when they don’t know what is going on and there is someone acting different. (I do this with my friends too it is not exclusive to the Hubs). It’s anxiety. I wish I could shake it. I tried breathing but I cried over it this morning. We got in a little argument but settled pretty quickly. Is the Hubs learning to get me better and sooner or is he just not caring about me enough to fight? He did accuse stuff going on it comes in waves so he feels fine and then all of a sudden gets the sweats and has to run to the bathroom. Which is why it is so hard for me to know that he was sick.

Bottom line, self care and communication. He should communicate better with me how he is feeling. I want more of a connection with him, like when he decides to stay late after practice with the Boy throwing the ball around vs having to call to make sure they didn’t crash in a ditch somewhere. I want him to understand me I am needy. It sucks sometimes how needy I am, it is what it is! Finally I need to take care of me. I know I am needy. In the future maybe I should just block out my schedule on my birthday so I can do something for myself. A long run, pedicure of get my own massage. That way when the Hubs forgets to even get a card, cake or flowers or make a dinner plan, I can be satisfied that I did have a good birthday, not just another normal day and not affected as much.

I hate crazy head days. One of these days I will figure out how to conquer them. As for now, I will go try to enjoy this alone time by going to bed early-ish. I have a date with my running shoes in the morning (did I mention my running buddy is also sick, yeah, she is so hence the loneliness). Good night all. Take care of you. Make your plans for you and don’t expect others to read your mind. The majority of this frustration is my expectations of the Hubs that are unrealistic and frankly unfair so I have to do better at taking care of me.

#Recomitt2016