It has been a while since I have written. There are many reasons, the obvious or easy answer is I have been busy. The real answer is I haven’t felt that I can be honest or real and that is tragic in this blog. I have not been what I would call happy. I have missed writing and I feel like getting away from writing has separated me from some of my feelings, honestly. It has bee hard in the Earl household lately. The Hubs and I have struggled. I believe we are getting back on the right track however. When I started this in 2015 I vowed to Sex Love and Washing Clothes everyday (#everyday2015). I was writing this blog to help teach women that being just a mom and wife was okay and to give purpose to myself, so I created Sex Love and Washing Clothes. It superficially helped my relationship back in 2015, gave the Hubs what he desired (more sex) and gave me purpose in my writing ans sharing my story with others like myself who needed to feel whole and were “just a mom.” Well, part way into that year I went back to work because I wanted to help our family afford a new car and help take pressure off the Hubs for the whole financial liability. So I went from being a stay at home mom to being a working mom and at one point I was working two jobs. To say the least the focus of my purpose got lost. It took a turn away from the original purpose and life got in the way…
I still did Sex Love and Washing Clothes everyday in 2015. In 2016 we kept it up pretty well and then I went into private practice and had many struggles to stay happy in our relationship. We spent 2017 trying to figure out how our family could survive with my being in private practice and decided I should work from home. So in 2018 I have been working my private practice from home and starting to feel settled and good together again. It has been rough. Many days I have thought about just giving up and writing a divorce blog. But we are stubborn and won’t give up that easily. Which brings me here today. Writing for me has been to justify my feelings and process my emotions. I just bought the book by Daniel Goleman called Emotional Intelligence. I am familiar with Emotional Intelligence and it is very important to understand that it comes from within.
In relationships understanding your emotions, where they come from and the fact that you are solely responsible for them is a valuable lesson. What you do with your emotions is on you. Being happy makes you more desirable and makes more people want to be with you. You have to own your happiness. Your partner can contribute to that happiness but they cannot provide that happiness, it’s a hard lesson sometimes to learn but once learned both people in a relationship can take their happiness to the next level. I am ready for the next level. Let’s do this and see what kind of sex comes out of it… I am ready to get back to writing about the crazy things in life and inspiring lovers to take it to the next level!
We are looking forward to changing our ways and living happy! Join us friends, it’s a choice come along with our journey!
#Change2018
Today is the second day of the year! I still have no idea what my yearly goal will be. I need to go for a long run to think it out I think. I definitely need to make me priority. I need to refocus on fitness. I have my normal two half marathons scheduled but I want to accomplish more this year. I am going to put the effort into Everyday 2016. I am going to focus on Sex everyday with the Hubs. We are actually going to do it for real this year, But I am not going to make it put too much pressure on us. I have spoken with the Hubs and he agrees. But I feel bad not making up a new 2016 challenge. As much as 2015 was a success in the #Everyday2015 we did not make it everyday having sex. The first day we missed was Valentines Day because we got home late and tired and maybe had a few too many to drink. Then some frustrations of normal life and arguments ect made a challenge in the middle of the year.
So for a bit of a review of 2015. Last year I had decided to Have sex, wash clothes/clean house every day. I was sure it would help my relationship, and house organization skills ect. Well I blogged everyday. I had sex most days but I am not certain that it made my relationship better. I think my relationship is better today than a year ago but we still have rough times. I think sometimes the pressure of sex everyday put a lot of pressure to make sex a great big thing and one or the other of us expected more than what we got. So that caused some tension. However we learned that being intimate, loving each other happens in many ways. Great sex is a good part of a good relationship but you don’t have to have it everyday. Sometimes just a snuggle or blow job is fine….
So his suggestion was strip Yahtzee. In the past we have played strip Wii tennis, the obvious one of strip poker…the possibilities are endless! Maybe if you play Monopoly every time you land on their property you strip. Ooh that’s my Boardwalk and I will take your shorts for rent! You slid down a slide yep that’s your pants! Climb a ladder in Candyland? Not without taking off your bra first! Playing Sorry…. you know what to do. Just pick a fun board game or video game the two of you can play and interact together while playing. There has to be a win or lose option. Every time you lose you take off a piece of clothing. If you want to add something you can add that the winner gets to choose which piece of clothing. For your comfort feel free to turn up the furnace for a while during your game. You will be more comfortable if you are not cold. If you are lucky enough to have a sexy or X-rated board game drag it out after the kids go to bed (they probably already are) and play!
