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Check in On Goals

16 Tuesday Jan 2018

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Tuesday Tuesday Tuesday! It was a good fairly productive for me in the Earl household! I had some personal appointments this morning AND got some work done in between which is a big deal for me! I struggle with small tasks in between other things. For me I have to focus on one thing to accomplish and, if I don’t think I have enough time or will get distracted or if it won’t get done in time, I usually choose to skip the task until I can focus on only that one thing.

Today I decided to just get it done. I get overwhelmed easily and have a hard time breaking down what needs to be done and how to accomplish the goal and have a hard time with time management. It’s because of ADD. You see, people with ADD, their frontal cortex (part of the brain that organized tasks) does not function the way people without ADD does. We struggle breaking down simple tasks, prioritizing things into a list based on importance and struggle with time management. So for me to get shit done in between two different appointments in two different places, for me is a big deal. High five to myself!

How are you doing on your goals this year? Here is an update on some of mine:

I also, today, got in a good run (slow, but still good). I got in 4+ miles for a total of 7+ on the month. I have a goal of 50 miles this month…if I am going to accomplish that I need to get my ass running every day! I have made it to the gym only once a week so far got to get more committed there to hit the twice a week mark.

Sex everyday has been going well. We haven’t done it every single day but have made up for missed days with a couple 2 a days right now we are a day behind, we will get there I’m not worried. Just looking forward to a day we can have a two a day.

Washing Clothes: I have done a load of laundry every day. Today I started the Hubs’ work pants in the laundry without him even having to tell me he has no pants to wear tomorrow (he has a stack of clean and folded pants in his closet) and now all the laundry hampers are not even close to over flowing!

Also, Couch cushions got readjusted and fluffed to look neater yesterday. The house got vacuumed, dishes caught up by the time the kids went to bed! It feels good to have that accomplished and check things off the list everyday.

What kind of sucks is my work schedule has been way slow, possibly reasons why I have had so much time to get housework done. I am working toward being on top of things around the house and carrying that on when business picks up. Small steps forward everyday! But I want more work to help with the family finances…

Dry January… still dry and for the Hubs too! Yay us!

I’m working on motivation to get it all done workout, clean, sex everyday and follow through with all of my Goals! And get more business! Maybe should have made business goals for 2018….

How’s everyone else doing?

#SLWC2018

Plan Focus Give Grace

26 Sunday Feb 2017

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Hello Readers,

I have to confess, I have had a rough go lately. The Hubs and I have been struggling. It’s hard for me to write encouraging posts when I don’t feel so positive it is hard for me to write positive without feeling like a fake. So, with that said, I am feeling more positive, I know that I may be having some sort of depression or anxiety and need to pay attention and not get lost in it. I am going to be going back to counseling on my own and I will be checking in with my GP about some tummy issues I’ve been having, to keep my health a priority and take care of me. As a person, as a mom, as a wife and a health care provider it is hard to serve in your roll if you feel down and ineffective. Like they say it is impossible to serve from an empty vessel.

empty-vesselIn my life in the last week I have had some clarity of mind to realize I need to focus on me. Not in a selfish way where you are “more important” than your family, that you are charged with taking care of, but in a way to be the healthiest you so your family can have a healthy mom, healthy wife and your clients can have a healthy provider coming from a place of love and caring. I have been so bogged down with stress in life that I am complaining a lot, offended easily and my brain gets flooded and I get angry easily. So much so that I don’t really recognize myself and then when the hubs and I get into “special moments” I feel like I turn into some monster that is not me! Then it spirals out of control! So I am taking control of me. Part of that is me getting back into blogging here. I want to encourage people who are or have been in my spot. Also it helps me to get my feelings out and helps me to help guide myself in a positive way, not just my readers. Plus entertaining readers with my Hump Day Challenges is a passion of mine that I have missed the last few weeks.

Another part is getting back to my life. I have been working a lot and losing site of what really matters. My work matters but there is a balance that needs to be heeded. A balance of working in my business (doing massage) as well as working on my business (admin stuff like billing and marketing). I love networking for marketing and I have a lot of friends that I network with but that networking time needs to be just that and sometimes the balance of networking and socializing line blurs and loses potency.

So to deter the blurred lines of friend time and networking time I plan to be more active in my life with friends. We all struggle balance with work and fun but it is important to stay in touch with your “people”. You know, the ones who can figure out your drunk text typos and actually answer or support you in those moments! So one part of this gaining balance and getting back to me is scheduling girlfriend time as well as date nights and family nights! All three is important as important as work time.

Another part is planning house work time. This is harder for me because really, who wants to do the bull shit tasks of cooking, cleaning and grocery shopping? Especially after work and taxiing around the kids after a full day of work? But if you ignore it or don’t plan it you end up with those “special moments” with the Hubs that no one really wants! So this next sentence is very important, You must plan with your family! Everyone in the family has a responsibility  for how the house runs! The Hubs and I have had some conversations on this and although we haven’t really planned it all out, we have made huge gains in this area. The Hubs has started helping with dishes and putting laundry away. There is much to be said about a person who actually steps up to handle the things that they hate not being done versus just complaining about it! So: MAKE A FAMILY PLAN ABOUT HOW YOUR HOUSE WILL BE RAN AND EVERYONE CONTRIBUTE! Talk about it and follow through.

So to sum up this long post:

  1. Take care of you if that means going to the doctor, counselor, journaling, exercising, What ever it is, make time!! My plan get back to counseling, exercise everyday (at least cardio), get to doctor about tummy issues, have grace with myself when I am overwhelmed!
  2. Schedule and stick to it you work and admin time in your business! My plan just get it admin and massage time on the books and don’t waiver regardless of the client and their schedule, make my schedule and family time as important as theirs. Balance!
  3. Schedule Date nights, family nights and time with “your people” My plan: Schedule girlfriend time once a month, Date nights weekly and actually go, Family nights or outings weekly
  4. Schedule House work and responsibilities! Everyone has a responsibility to participate it is not all on mom regardless if mom is a working mom stay at home. We need to teach our kids they have to contribute as well as the husbands. Talk about it and make a plan! My Plan: schedule family menu planning meetings, utilize Clicklist with preplanned menus. Give kids chores and follow through with them to do it on schedule before practices and dance.
  5. GIVE GRACE! Let everyone have a little grace with heavy stress load times of homework, busy work days and heavily scheduled tournaments or competitions. Everyone is trying hard to motivate through life! We all want what’s best for our family and ourselves and sometimes we need to take a nap instead of vacuum! As long as we are all doing our best when our family needs help lets lend a helping hand they will do the same for you when you need! Help each other out to get to the goal and enjoy the good moments like the tournament wins and realize sometimes those things come when the house is messy, but when those moments are over and we have down time we can catch up when we need to! As long as there is not mold growing on the dishes and the house isn’t burning down and there is a dance to watch or a game going on…take it in! Enjoy these busy crazy moments building a lives, growing children into adults, growing a business and creating a life! Make it happy!!!

Live the life you’ve imagined because remember in your dreams you saw the results not the work that it takes to get there! FOCUS on what is important. Family, friends, lives, and moments are important! Money and dishes and laundry will go away savor moments with your people!!!

#Live2017

 

Target: Moms

18 Friday Mar 2016

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So the other day I was chatting with the person I hired to make a logo for my massage business and she asked who is your target market? My first response was people interested in health and wellness and fitness. I kind of rambled a bit but it came out that moms are my target. She had to convince me of this one being a good idea after the fact too. She said you have to have a target. You get those people’s attention and they will tell everyone else they know.

In BNI today we were tasked with telling a story that will make people cry. My story was about self care about people who walk in my office and can barely move and walk out chatting and smiling because they feel better. Then talking about how we tend to neglect our selves and our families especially those who have a business and those who take care of others for a living. Mom’s tend to out the kids, the husband,the house, their job and friends before them. They feel guilty going to the gym and/or going to get a massage for an hour and then spending the money on them. I used to say to moms in my momand fitness class “Your child’s mom deserves to be taken care of” for some reason when you look at it like that it makes you feel better. Why has self care become such a luxury eyes of us moms?
It is important to take care of ourselves. This body we have is the only one we get! We need to teach our kids that taking care of self is the most important and how important it is to be you best advocate for health. This is why moms are my target. I want to help teach this phenomena and hopefully end the self destructive behavior of putting everyone else’s needs above our need to be healthy in our own body!

#Recommit2016

You Need You

01 Tuesday Mar 2016

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Today felt like a very productive day! Happy Tuesday! I had a massage worked on getting some paperwork stuff taken care of and I went grocery shopping! For the first time in a while I went grocery shopping, have planned meals for the week and feel like I can really get this whole working mom thing done!

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The power went out all over town tonight because of the wind and crazy weather here in town. Which kind of thwarted my plans to get some more shit accomplished around the house. I was going to try to get the pantry organized. The house has been clean-ish and I am not super behind on the other chores, laundry is even partially caught up. (Time to get a house cleaner hired tobget the deep cleaning, that I don’t have time for, done.) Thanks to the kids doing the chores of folding clothes when I tell them to. I finally feel like I have a plan and a schedule or at least I am getting stuff done! I am feeling happy about that and after the last few days I have needed a boost!

Sometimes we all just have to put our nose to grind and get our work done. Just getting up from the couch and doing dishes, laundry and cleaning up after meals are cooked and consumed. And sometimes you have to realize when you are doing or expecting too much! I was doing too much before I quit at the bar! I now have more time to get meals done and meals cleaned up (maybe one day the Hubs and/or the kids will help with that) and this week, I even had time to grocery shop for a real week of groceries! My massage schedule is a bit slow this week compared to last week though, so there is a bit of a delicate balance and trade off!

Being a successful mom is hard. Being a working mom is hard. Being both is hard. Knowing how to define “successful mom” is really, impossible. We all have expectations and desires. Those of us with lower self esteem and insecurities and anxiety struggle defining success because we are always trying to be better because we think we are not good enough! We are perfectionists. Well, we are good enough! Our children are breathing, our house isn’t burning down. Our husbands bellies are full and later our vaginas will be! That is success my friends. Try not to over expect things of yourself you are doing so much and that hour you spent watching HGTV or Say Yes To The Dress was well deserved and even more, much needed! We are raising our future, we want our children to have it better than us! Let’s teach our children to be realistic and honest with themselves! We cannot do it all, most of us cannot afford a house nanny that will do everything June Cleaver did and we need energy to help with homework, to clean house, take a shower and fuck our partner at night! We can’t do everything and not feel bitter!

So, don’t over extend yourself, your family needs you! You, need you. Be kind to yourself, always do your best! I promise you are good enough, teach your family that! If they don’t tell you, I guarantee, they know it!
Love yourself!

#Recomitt2016

Ask For Help

25 Monday Jan 2016

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Today I feel like I am a bitter angry working mom. Last week I increased my massage schedule to take some evening appointments while still working my bar job Tuesday 6-close(2AM) and Friday (4-9P). I was at my massage office Friday at 8:45am, Sick on Thursday, Wednessday at the massage office 10am until almost 7pm, Tuesday had and appointment in a town 30 minutes away, and Monday at Massage office until almost 7pm again. I have also had to figure out when to cook dinner, when to clean up breakfast and lunch messes from the AM before we leave for school and work. Get the kids from school and to afternoon/evening activities and try to actually get groceries to make said meals I need to cook and clean up after. Oh yeah and by the way I am a wife too. My kids both have neck issues going on so most nights that we have time to sit and watch TV I am working on their necks or the husbands neck or his feet ect. I also need time to take a shower (which shamefully only happens about 3-4 times a week) and do do hair and make up, two days this week I went au natural.

Are you tired yet after reading that? Is it just me or am I doing way too much and have no time to clean house or vacuum or fold or put laundry away. Fast forward to this weekend. I make breakfast every morning for the fam Saturday the plan is to go right to batting practice for the boy, dance rehearsal for the girl, watch a movie after then go shopping for make up for the girl while the boy had to go to Fielding practice in the evening. Sunday it was make breakfast for the fam, take the boy to Little League try-outs because The Hubs was sick with a fever and by the time we got home the boy was also running a fever. After we got home the Girl and I took a run to the store for Gaterade and a few groceries to get us through the week. When I got back I clean up breakfast dishes, stove top and counter tops, made lunch (pasta) for the hungry family. Watch some of the NFL games on today (mostly through the mirror into the family room as I was cleaning the kitchen and cooking most of the day) and then Make dinner, boiled and BBQ brauts cleaned up the dishes and mess from that. All the while I was cleaning, folding laundry in between taking out trash ect, you know normal mom stuff. Now I am up blogging but waiting for laundry to get done so I can kill this left sock pile in the laundry basket. The Hubs went to bed early.

Please help meAll the while getting more and more bitter that I have had to been busy working as well as taking care of my family duties and no one has even offered to help out with the normal everyday stuff like dishes! Today I washed dishes left over from this week. We hand wash all of our pots and pans and Knives so there was a few stacked up from yesterdays breakfast Fridays dinner and even some prior to that. I feel so annoyed that the Hubs feels the need to point out things I miss like dropping a grape on the floor when packing a lunch but can’t help with the one pot from a random Tuesday night dinner that I end up washing it Saturday afternoon! I am turning bitter about working and still being the sole homemaker! Not to throw him under the bus, I don’t really ask him for help I just wish he would offer. Or at least see it needs to be done and just do it. I know I am not alone feeling like this I hear many moms say the same thing about the husbands even the moms who don’t work outside the home.

I created this though. I don’t ask for help. I feel bad asking for help. I am scared that he is going to judge me and say I haven’t been pulling my weight so he doesn’t feel the need to do anything because he makes 4 times the money I do which earns him the ability to only work 8 hours a weekday and I have to do everything else. In his defense here he has said “if you ask me to do something I will do it.” Which about 75% of the time he does. Many times I ask for a hand at something and I end up doing it because he didn’t get to it by the time I wanted it done, and I never told him when I wanted it done I just went ahead and did it. However, there is a big part of me that feels so annoyed that I even have to ask! Today as I stood in the kitchen cleaning the dishes and preparing meals the kids got all comfy on the floor when I walked out the family room even if I had time to sit on the couch and watch TV with them there was no where for me to sit because the kids got all comfy on the floor with our couch cushions and the other chair is covered with mine and the Hubs’ clothes that need put away. I was going to say thanks for saving me a spot but I wanted to stay quiet and not freak out at everyone for taking me for granted. But it did kind of stew in me and ended up coming out in an explosions later.

If he works late I try to make sure there is dinner for him or I will offer to cook for him when he gets home. He doesn’t think of that when I work late, but he is not a homemaker I can’t expect that of him. If he has a rough day I listen to him, it seems he gets annoyed listening to my frustrations of a long day, or he tries to tell me what to do instead of just letting me vent. I try to do things his way so his life is easier, I fail most of the time! I have a rough time doing things the way he wants them because my brain works so differently. However I try to make it so he doesn’t have to do anything, he works hard at his job I want home to be his rest place. I don’t ask him to even take out the trash (only occasionally) but honestly with the trash, he usually does take care of getting the garbage cans to the road on Monday morning. I want to be the wife that keeps his home happy for him but I don’t want to be the wife that disappears behind mounds of dishes and loads of laundry. I don’t mind doing it (I hate it but don’t mind) I just don’t like not getting noticed for it or not getting appreciation. Don’t tell me I have been distant when it’s because I am in the kitchen cleaning up especially when I come out of the kitchen I only have gotten half of it done! I need him to notice me working hard at those things. Maybe notice me in the kitchen and come chat with me while I finish, avoid critiquing me about how I am clean just come and keep me company. I do that with him when he has outside projects or is working on the cars and things like that.

I am working hard at being a happy homemaker and a happy working mom but I do need help. I need to stop thinking that the family will just do it, or will offer to help out when they see the mess or me working on it. They will happily sit and watch a movie while I vacuum right around them. Ask and you shall receive! Ask before you get pissed that you aren’t getting help. If you can’t ask leave a nice little note that says “I hope you enjoy dinner please show your appreciation by kindly cleaning the dishes including the dishes that were dirtied to create this meal.” That would probably work better than blowing up at them after they have watched you clean all day on Sunday while they watch two football games and napped off a fever.

I really need to figure out how to ask for help and how to get it and how to not get pissey when asking! I am feeling bitter and angry and I hate that! I makes me more bitter and angry! So time to clear my head! Start with a clean slate and go through and edit this blog as it is much of a rant I should edit out the part that throws everyone under the bus and focus on the solution and that is asking for help, and being specific. “Can you please wash the dishes before you go to bed tonight?” I don’t think “assigning chores” will work I have to be specific everyday because we all have crazy schedules and we just can’t do it that way. We have made agreement before like you do this I do that and it never works out one person always feels like the other isn’t pulling their weight so the other gives up. It needs to be daily and adjust daily depending on schedules. Maybe a white board where mom writes what she needs help with each day and everyone has to do a certain number of tasks that day.

When I am working only one job this will be easier. But as with every change and in the process of change life gets harder. One more week like this, hopefully we will make it through the week! Something has got to give or the Hubs and I will not make it! We have to make it! It is not an option. This is only temporary!!!

#Everyday2016

 

Family Connections

18 Monday Jan 2016

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Happy Monday! Today has been pretty nice. I finally feel like I have a track that I am on and it is the right track. My kids had the day off, the Hubs and I both had to work. The girl had dance rehearsal (gearing up for competition season) and the Boy and the Hubs and I went outside and practice some baseball techniques. I had 3 hour long appointments today and have now started scheduling evening appointments. As I have stated in prior posts I am quitting the night job at the bar and am going “Full Time” at my massage office. Full time for an LMP is 20 hour long appointments a week. My hope is that I will do 5 massages Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays then 2 and 3 or so on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Thursday mornings I will do massage then my BNI meeting at noon and volunteer at school Thursday afternoons. Tuesdays we’ll just see what comes up. I have 5 scheduled already for this Wednesday. After today I feel like it is doable to have the family eat dinners together and create a culture of togetherness with my family.

Dinner togetherOn the Homefront we will have to kind of adjust our normal dinner plans. Since this school year has started I have not got a routine going. The Girl has to be at dance at 4 M, W, & F and 5 and 5:30 on T and Th. The boy has practice or matches during wrestling season at 6. So my plan for work is I will finish my afternoon appointments by 2:30ish and then start evening appoints around 4:15ish and be done by 7ish. We will shift to the kids having good hardy and healthy snacks before practices and then have late healthy dinners after practices. That just means I have to have them planned out and quick to make so we are eating no later than 8:30 and kids can get into bed. But I want to have family meal time, with the whole family. I want family meal time to be fun and relaxed and a time where we can connect. I also want my kids to get to bed at a decent time as well but healthy dinners have not been happening in this household and my kids are getting to the age that they need good nutrition modeled for them because it is too easy to just grab fast food.

I can do this! These next two weeks are going to be a bit rough doing both working at the bar and expanding my massage schedule. But it feels so much better right now that I know I am not aimlessly going through life to just make money that we have not idea what is going on. I have felt so disconnected lately and I hate that! I want my kids to remember time eating dinner telling stories and eating healthy real whole foods. Not eating whatever was easy to grab and eat in the car. I am going to have to plan and that is tough for me! I really need to make it a priority to have dinners prepped. I have a feeling my crockpot will be coming in handy and/or caseroles that can be thrown in after I get off work before we go pick up the kids. As soon as I figure it out then it will be baseball season and practice schedules will change and it will be a new plan. But you have to work with what you have.

For me family is important. We are busy but I know that we can make this work. It really is only temporary soon, before we know it our kids will be grown and we will wonder what happened to them and how they grew up so fast. I want to participate in their lives so that is why we are making family dinner time a priority. Homework may have to wait some nights and they may have to stay up late or get up early to finish. We will spend more time as a family and that will make us stronger!

I know I can do this it is important to have that connection and with some work we will make it happen and it will be good!

#Everyday2016

Self Care Everyday

02 Saturday Jan 2016

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take-care-of-youToday is the second day of the year! I still have no idea what my yearly goal will be. I need to go for a long run to think it out I think. I definitely need to make me priority. I need to refocus on fitness. I have my normal two half marathons scheduled but I want to accomplish more this year. I am going to put the effort into Everyday 2016. I am going to focus on Sex everyday with the Hubs. We are actually going to do it for real this year, But I am not going to make it put too much pressure on us. I have spoken with the Hubs and he agrees. But I feel bad not making up a new 2016 challenge. As much as 2015 was a success in the #Everyday2015 we did not make it everyday having sex. The first day we missed was Valentines Day because we got home late and tired and maybe had a few too many to drink. Then some frustrations of normal life and arguments ect made a challenge in the middle of the year.

We as a couple are planning to focus on “More kissing” and less arguing. We had a better 2015 than 2014 in that arena but we had a few big fights that we over reacted and blew up some in front of the kids. We need to stop that. Communication and patience and calmness and understanding of each other needs to happen. I know when I get flooded I need time to breath and calm down. The Hubs has a hard time stopping or pausing for that to happen so the whole thing escalates. We both need to work on our rolls in those moments.

Self care needs to lead the way, both of us. Both people in a relationship need to be healthy coming from a spot of selfcare and wellness. It is ones own responsibility to take care of ones self! We cannot expect our spouse or lover or partner or best friend to make us feel better or treat us better. It is our job to keep our self healthy. As they say you can’t serve from an empty vessel. Do what you need to feel grounded and centered especially in challenging times and/or times of conflict. Be it getting a massage, running, meditation, seeing a counselor, singing, playing an instrument, tinkering on a project car, building a model airplane or flying a kite do what you need to keep you happy. Do what makes your heart happy. Especially if you have a job that drains you or that does not exactly do that for you, it is your job to fill you heart and soul, no one else’s!

It is all part of a delicate balance that is life. Taking time for you sometimes takes time away from you family. It is important to use that time wisely. This is a tight rope walk that I have not learned how to manage very well. 2016 I will work on figuring that out and share my findings with you. It is tough to be mom (or dad), employee, business owner, homemaker and prepare and eat healthy foods, get kids to activities in the evening, monitor homework do housework, take time with your spouse, watch your favorite TV show and take time for you! But it is a job we need to take time to take care of ourself. Just schedule it in your day.

So go forth in 2016! Take care of yourself! Fuck your partner everyday! Be happy take care of you!

#Everyday2016

I Want to Be Bold

29 Tuesday Dec 2015

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http://www.yourtango.com/experts/pleasure-mechanics/prostate-orgasm

So here is a link for an article about Prostate orgasms. How do we feel about Prostate Orgasms? I have blogged about and challenged about Anal sex but never really approached the subject of prostate orgasms. We have experimented with some Anal play for the Hubs but honestly… I am the one a little freaked about it. I don’t really know why it would be cool for the Hubs to have a body cringing Orgasm the way I do on a regular basis. Girls get these great G-spot orgasms why can’t guys have these kind. Why be weirded out? More tomorrow guess what the Hump Day Challenge will be….

So this link came from a reader.

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I love getting comments and links from readers! I am a new blogger, or at least I was a year ago. I am enjoying blogging! It is almost time for my #Everyday2015 to be finished. Now what? I love this gig (wish I could get paid for it). When I started I had contemplating publishing it into a book. But that was when I was a stay at home mom inspiring other “just moms” to be happy and content with being “just a mom” but things evolved as the year went on. I currently don’t know if what I wrote this last year is book worthy t has evolved and changed and subjects like today are fun and exciting but then there are the diet posts and the kid posts and the Hump Day Challenges and all of it. It is an awesoem body of work I love it and I am pretty sure I will continue into 2016.

So readers, what do you think? What topics should I tackle in 2016? What subject should I focus on? Am I too random? Do you love the randomness? I want to inspire and encourage and be me!

Do I have time? I did this year so I might as well just make it part of my life now right? I want to write about crazy shit, fun stuff, educational stuff, entertaining and even sometime sad and moving! Am I porn? Am I a mom blogger? Do I have an identity crisis? You only have an identity crisis if you don’t know or like what you are! I am part porn, part fitness blogger, part mom blogger and inspiring self love to everyone! That’s what I am and I will continue that in 2016!

Tell me what you like I may consider your POV and give more of that or I may just keep doing what I have been and that is being me! (Hopefully with less typos!) I may need a new tagline…

#Everyday2015

You Can Always Be Better

28 Saturday Nov 2015

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Hello Saturday! We have almost nothing scheduled. The Hub’s and his buddies played their turkey bowl today. I normally like to go and watch and see the guys but I decided to be more responsible and stay home and clean. My house needed some time from me cleaning. It still needs more but my attention span is over it. I still have to put a ton of laundry away. Maybe I can get the hubs to help with that!

This is going to sound weird but it was actually nice to get some time to clean up my kitchen and my house. All I did was dishes wipe down counter tops and dinning room table ect. I have a couple piles of paperwork to go through but it was nice to be cleaning I enjoyed the homemaker feeling again. Then I got sad that I don’t have more time to do that stuff. I enjoy the extra money I make working my two jobs but I wish, schedule wise, I had more freedom or could figure out how to better to manage my time!

Being super busy does not help. Every weekend we have stuff to do. Today is abnormal that we have nothing planned. Next weekend is show weekend and also a banquet for football volunteers that I have been very involved in organizing and they are on the same night! Shit! How am going to be two places at once? I guess I will be late to the banquet and hopefully there will still be peopleAlways compete be better there that I want to see and that there will still be food there! The event runs 5-11 and the show starts at 6 and I think it is supposed to be an hour and a half. So I am thinking we could probably get to the banquet by 8:30 or 9:00. Then Saturday we have a bazaar fundraiser that I am supposed to be sewing some hand warmer covers to sell for fundraising for dance but I think this year we will skip it. Our fundraiser for dance is me working two jobs! But I like doing crafty things so it is sad that I don’t really have time for it right now.

Anyway I am enjoying this down time I have today. I love being busy but I also love being able to fill my time with cleaning when I want to or crafting when I’d like to. I miss making cakes for everyone’s birthdays too. But I have to say is I am happy to be able to help financially with the family maybe one day I will be an owner and can hire people to work for me and then maybe, work less and do more of what I want… that will probably retirement! I don’t want to sound like I am complaining, I am not! I love my life. I love my family. We all should be happy where we are and do our best to be where we want to be but in the meantime love the life we have. I love my work, I love being busy, I love being able to have my daughter in dance, my son active, have season tickets and nope have to worry if we can afford new shoes. I do still take the time for myself to dance and enjoy life (I, like most people, should probably take more time for self care). Life is good! That doesn’t mean I want some things to be different or better. It’s that ‘Always Compete’ motto in life there is always room for improvement, never settle but always work hard to be better!

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Cleaning Out the Closet

11 Wednesday Nov 2015

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Today I organized my closet! I wish I took a Before pic but did not. The above is part of the after I feel like I was very productive today! I have a confession, I hired a professional organizer! We emptied and reorganized my closet in 3 hours. I was money well spent! I plan to keep it this way and springboard off to be a more organized working mom!

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