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24 Wednesday Jan 2018

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oral sexHappy Hump Day! Today’s Hump Day Challenge kind of pairs with last week. Last week it was all about the boys, this week it is all about the girls. Lets start with getting a manicure. Go to the nail shop, there they will not only file and trim your nails but soak your hands and soften the skin on your hands to be smooth as silk. When your lady gets ready you are going to give her the lick of her life.

When you go down on her as your face closes in on her pussy, consciously breathe out while approaching her luscious lips to lick. That will draw her brain’s attention down there and she will just notice that something amazing is about to happen. Softly start kissing and licking her outer labia, work your tongue in between her luscious lips and find her clit. Play with that for a bit, you will feel it firm up, if it hasn’t already. Feel free to add some humming or moaning as you go along. The vibration will add yet another level of stimulation. As she is getting going and to add even more sexual stimulation, use your hands to touch her body. Touch her everywhere, but some maybe even most, women really like their nipples stimulated when they get oral, but don’t ignore the whole boob. Caress it, her whole boob, in your hand and then with two fingers roll the nipple around and rock your finger back and forth on her nipple, alternating this will be best. You will feel her body writhe with pleasure under you and she may even start grinding on your face.

If you are worried that you don’t know what to do, pretend you are making out with her, just like you would kiss her. Suckle, lick, suck and then when you are ready to take it to the next level, insert a finger (or two) in her pussy. Keep licking and keep your other hand caressing her breasts and stimulating her nipple. As she gets even more into it you keep your tongue going, she may even be grabbing your head and pressing it into her, insert another finger into her pussy. Feel her G-spot it is a bumpy area inside of her vaginal canal, on the front side of her body. Now, walk yourself up her body and kiss and make out with her, insert your cock inside of her and fuck her for a little while, but do not let her come yet, unless you plan on giving her multiple orgasms.

Before she climaxes, go back down on her finger her while you lick her and stimulate her sexual region. Make sure your fingers are super wet with saliva or even  considering grabbing some lube for the next step; gently insert a finger in her ass. (If anal play is new to her start with your pinky because it is small,  this is where the manicure comes in handy the anal canal is super sensitive don’t want to scratch her that will really turn her off to anal play and maybe all together.) Don’t need to worry about moving that finger much maybe a little back and forth or gently with the whole movement of her body and your whole hand. Keep your tongue going and keep a finger in her pussy as you add the anal play. Check in with her or at least make sure she is enjoying it. The Double penetration is sure to send her over the edge! The key is to go slow and make sure she knows what you are doing especially if it’s new. If you do it right she will be grinding on your face and you will have the taste of pussy juices on your upper lip for the rest of the night. And hey, maybe you will get a returned favor (but please don’t ask her for it, let her enjoy her “O” the same way she let you last week, let her offer it to you).

The combination of fingering her and oral is sure to get her going even if she is not that into sex! She will go from stressed to impressed by you in just a few licks and finger strokes. I prefer to finish with my man in my pussy and he knows that so that is how we do foreplay, but you are free to explore with your lover and decide how to go about this. Don’t hesitate to make oral a regular occurrence in your sex sessions. It is a great way to get your partners body going. My body, like many other women, tends to need a little more assistance getting horny than the Hubs, like most men you just say sex and they are standing at attention, and this is a go to for him and I top be on the same page. Honestly it is one reason we have such great sex. I remember when he got good at it and it is when our sex life hit the next level! I hope you enjoy it as much as we do!

#SLWC2018

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10 Wednesday Jan 2018

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Give her an orgasmHappy Hump Day! I am still working on getting writing in my schedule before the end of the night! Once again today here I am at 10:03. Anyway update from yesterday it was a bit of a downer but later in the day after the couch sucked me in for the morning in the evening I went for a 3 mile run and felt much better. I didn’t want to stop and I wanted to go again today however schedule did not allow it! I went running in the evening and it was dark and I survived. We have a nice well lit running/walking trail along the water downtown so I felt pretty safe down there! So there I know I go in the dark and be safe. There is nothing like a runners high!

Well actually yes there is the feeling you get from an Orgasm that leads me to the Hump Day Challenge for today the first of 2018 (since we started SLCW Monday). Todays challenge is to get to the big “O” this may sound strange if you and your partner are always on the same page and orgasm together every time and are both as satisfied as the other. I love sex with The Hubs. He is great at taking time on me to make sure I get off and enjoy what we are doing. However as we get older and busier and life happens my mind gets side tracked and my body doesn’t always respond the way it should. I am pretty sure I am not the only one. So sometimes we either fake it, or just let our partner know the body is not working so go ahead and finish so we can get to sleep or because the longer you are taking the more stressed you are about it and just want to satisfy your lover and give him what he deserves for all the effort he is putting in.

So today you must fuck your partner until you both come! Remember it is not a rule that you come at the same time or even the same way. Some women cannot orgasm with intercourse. Some need your tongue to get the wetness flowing and a little G-spot stimulation to finishe the deed. While others need to self stimulate or many other combinations of those and many other methods. Remember for women the biggest sex organ is her brain, the one that won’t shut down counting chores that she needs to do and trying to remember what she needed at the grocery store. Give her permission to stop thinking.

Men are usually the easier sex to SEX. Some men however need a little more as well. Oral goes a long way, so does dirty talk. Tell him how hard and how big he is and how great he feels inside you. Let him see you! Visual stimulation is huge for men much more than women so if he needs help leave the light on! Feel free to move around positions places to allow him to fuck you, positions and even if he needs to give some self stimulation today’s hump day goal is for both to have orgasm while you’re fucking each other but that may not mean there is no self stimulation. Remember there are no rules! Anything goes as long as you both Get Off!

Cheers to your “O”!

#SLWC2018

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25 Wednesday Oct 2017

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Happy Hump Day!! I don’t know about you but I have had a long day! Not in a bad way but just long. I got to have lunch with the Hubs and watch the Girl perform. At some point today I had a feeling come over me, one that I have experienced for a while off and on, and that is that I have no idea if I am doing ok or not. I have been a bit cranky this afternoon and feeling a bit inadequate…which is making it tough to write this blog today!

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Today is Hump Day and last week I made the decision to writing and to start it would be a Hump Day Challenge at least once a week. So, here I am trying to write a hump day challenge be inspiring and sexy. So here goes…

Just FUCK! Tonight go to bed and have sex with your lover. If you have to do it just because I said so. It is Hump Day after all! Sometimes the best feelings come from just having sex. First the power of being naked is overwhelming. Skin to skin contact affects the brain and your hormone levels. Just rub his back as he lays there. Feel with your hands the curves and bumps and crevices. Cup his ass in your hand feel her breasts as your rub from her shoulder down her chest to her smooth belly. As the skin to skin contact arouses you, move in closer. Wrap your arms around each other and feel your whole bodies touch every inch of your body touch.

Use your fingers, your hands, even your feet to feel your partners body. Then climb on him and ride his big cock, men hold her hips and watch her as she rocks back and forth. Then lean down on him and let your breasts rub against his chest. Feel how his chest hair tickles your nipples just right. Allow your sense of touch to open up and feel. Stop thinking and just feel!

Don’t wait for your partner to tell your they want to have sex, don’t expect them to ask if you want to or even tell you to. Just touch him. Touch her softly move in for the kiss as you feel how good it feels to touch, do more! Until you are fucking!

Enjoy your touch let it lead to sex! Go soft, slow and accept what happens. Don’t expect your lover to do anything in return give them pleasure and take pleasure in that. (I bet she will enjoy returning the pleasure, but do not expect it! Love on her as she loves on you and then you both will have a great love experience!

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18 Wednesday Jan 2017

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shower-hump-dayHello readers! Happy Hump Day. Better late than never right?! Especially since it has been a little bit since I wrote! I am not gone just busy and working on organization! I will get this whole working mom, business owner, wife and blogger thing down if it kills me!

Today’s Hump Day Challenge is inspired by our weather here! It has been pouring down rain! something like 2-3 inches in the last 24-48 hours. We here in the Seattle area get really annoyed and tired of the rain but there is something really detoxifying and cleansing about  water running down your face and flushing the soul. So today’s Hump Day Challenge is to have sex not in the rain (that would be weird but pretty hot so if you want go for it!) but to have sex in the shower. Turn on the water stand close to your lover and feel each others skin on skin. Rub your bodies together like your spouse shoulders then neck and kiss with the water coming down over you. As you make out with your lover under the shower head think of that water as cleansing your relationship flushing out the doldrums of every day life and filling it with fresh love and excitement!

There are steps and cool apparatuses you can buy for foot supports and hand holds go for it check out our A-store link on this page where you can purchase some. I have found that lifting a leg on the side of the tub (if you have a tub in your shower) helps open your pussy up to your lover. He can grab you leg and enter you as he wishes. Make sure you have somewhere to balance and are grounded it is slippery on the shower floor be careful. Keep towels handy so that when it gets hot and heavy you can towel eachother off and climb into bed to finish off. You will love licking the water off your lovers body and you will feel refreshed loved and inspired by your cleansing hot and sexy experience with your lover in the shower!

Be safe and sexy relax and lock the door because you will get clean, refreshed detoxed and filled with love and more with this challenge! Now go take your shower!!

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01 Thursday Dec 2016

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Hello Hump Day Challengers! Something occurred to me today and I don’t know what to think about it. Since I became a more busy working mom my prudishneas has came out more. When I started this blog I was more forward and unafraid to speak (blog) how I feel and just out it out there in thebficking world to see. Using foul language and coming up with sex challenges just flowed out of my brain and onto the page through my keyboard. Have I exhausted my sexual creativity? Am I destined to be a prude the way I was raised? Or am I a busy tired mom that I created this blog for to combat the tiredness and staleness in a relationship that tends to happen with busy couples? I might be thatast mom but I will not give in and I will note let that business win and ruin my relationship or blog. 

So here is my h ump day challenge. I received the above meme from a friend of mine. She captioned it with tonight is not THAT night for me. I responded with well, it is Hump Day!! 

With all of that in mind, here is my challenge to you. Fight that urge to be tired and stale. Turn off you device that you are reading this, turn off the TV go to bed. Or turn on a sexy movie or pull up some porn for inspiration with your lover and get it on. My plan is to publish this blog, take my clothes off and climb o top of my husband. You could cuddle next to you lover play with yourself under the blanket you are covered up with and put your fingers under his nose he will smell your pussy juices and probably suck your fingers for a taste. Or whisper sweet nothing’s like “let’s get away from the kids and fuck!” However you do it please turn down the noise of busy lives, kids, housework that needs to be done, and go fuck! Fuck untik you both come maybe one or both of you will twice! 

Stop letting”LIFE” get in the way of your sex life! Use today to fick each other! Happy Hump Day!

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Ruby’s New Focus Tool

06 Sunday Nov 2016

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Today we spent the day cleaning. I love when my husband helps to get the house cleaned and organized, but I also hate it when he does too. Most of the time, the Hubs and I clash on so many levels. He doesn’t understand why I can’t focus and I can’t understand what the heck he is doing and how the fuck I am supposed to do it his way!!! Today was a little different. We had a good day and little stress and no blow fight! Which is very surprising because we are oil and water when it comes to cleaning and organizing, but I am not complaining. I even got to watch my husband vacuum at the end of it! My bathroom that we have been remodeling is done and my bedroom is clean! We pulled everything out of drawers and reorganized everything. The Hubs even went through the gun safe and under the bed. I handled the stuff that got takend out of the medicine cabinet and the drawers of the new vanity. So everything is back in the bathroom area.

I also went through my night stand. It has two drawers in those drawers I found everything from old receipts from 1999 to sex toys. I also found index cards from Kinesiology class in massage school and yoga flash cards. There were a lot of books on a lot of subjects from sex to yoga to old Bible studies I did when my kids were babies. There was also a baby shoe and burp rag from the baby years. I loved going through all of it. There was also some costumes (If you can call the small pieces of fabric that) old creams and flavored lotions. Basically my whole sexual history in a nutshell was right there in front of me. Was pretty entertaining remembering where I came from. I was a very sheltered and prudish when The Hubs and I first got together. I have bought books about giving blow jobs, to anal sex and lotion products to go with it, and now here I am writing a blog about sex and relationship.

The Hubs and I have been through some rough spots but where we are now has really reassured me that we are doing at least some things right. We spend a lot of time together. Today we even cleaned together! We love having sex together. Maybe today we worked so well together because we started the day by having sex before we started cleaning! I don’t know if that was it or not that made the Hubs more patient with me than normal or maybe I was more focused than normal or we have been able to figure out jobs for me to do that I can do that works with my brain beter than we usually do. I think it was the sex. Maybe that’s a new ADD treatment that I need! Regardless, it worked.

Maybe what worked was one of my tasks was to go through my night stand and here is a sample of what I found in this pic! Maybe one reason I could focus was because this stuff is so interesting and fun to go through! 

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28 Wednesday Sep 2016

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Happy Hump Day! Today’s Hump Day Challenge follows the number of today. Today’s number is 273 and our Hump Day Challenge is coming from the book 365 Sex Moves (There is a link to purchase this book in the Sex Love and Washing Clothes Amazon store link on this page) by Randi Foxx. Day 273 is Dracula’s Kiss and it requires some props (how fun!) So grab some cuffs they will be for her feet and then grab your feathered riding crop (or something similar maybe a scarf to tie up her feet and a ruler if you don’t have a riding crop) and get ready. Have I mentioned how amazing these photos are in this book?
With the woman stretched out on her stomach with her feet cuffed or tied together the man straddles her upper thighs and enters her from behind. He gently uses his riding crop to coax her throat upward so he can kiss and nible on her neck and throat like a vampire.

Feel free to use your imagination add in some whipping if she is naughty. Ladies arch your back it’s all sexy for him and accentuates your curves. Then reach back to caress the back of his neck while he kisses you. Remember your feet will be cuffed not your hands so explore what you can do…maybe you can grab the riding crop and use it on him. Bend your knees up to hold his hips in place or press them in deeper as he penetrates you. As you flow through this sex session explore the fun and teasing as well as the different positions you can try and interesting things you can do and maybe not do as your feet are cuffed.

As always be creative, be patient and go at your lovers pace. Don’t push them into something they are not comfortable with. Being tied up, spankings and/or entering from behind can always give some a little anxiety. Encourage her she is in control. Tell him what your limits are and respect each other. See if this is something you will continue to include to keep things interesting or if it’s just a one night thing. Either way be brave love with you everything and relax and explore sex tonight.

#Exploresex2016

Productive Weekend

06 Tuesday Sep 2016

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Happy Monday, wait, it’s Tuesday! Happy Tuesday! This was Labor Day Weekend. Did you get in some end of summer R&R? Or were you uber productive and finished cleaning out the closets before the kids go back to school? We had a very chill weekend. The kids went to Gma’s one last time before they leave for AZ for a few weeks and the Hubs and I just relaxed. He had worked Thursday night all night. He went back to work Thursday evening at 10pm and then came home at 11:45 Friday morning. We had originally planned to go away one last weekend camping at the ocean but being up all night working has a way of altering those kind of weekend plans.

dream hungry demonsSo instead, Gma and Gpa came to get the kids so they could “steal” them for the weekend. I was quite thankful because  I needed an adult only weekend kind of a break. Gma and Gpa picked up the kids around 11am then the Hubs and I went back to bed when they left. We slept, fucked, watched football, fucked some more, then got out of bed had dinner and did it all again. We met up with friends we haven’t seen in a while Sunday evening and then Monday we went shooting.

We had a very productive weekend. Not in a sense of getting things accomplished but we made some really good connection, with each other. No doors to lock, didn’t have to be quiet and didn’t have to be anywhere! It was a relaxing chill weekend. No washing clothes, no schedule, no demands except the way we felt about each other. We had lots of sex this weekend. I did get a few ideas for Hump Day Challenges but do you think I wrote them down or remember my ideas at all? Not currently, I will get better at writing things down one day! We had a great reboot this weekend.

The Hubs and I really needed a reboot kind of weekend. Not really because things have been bad (although it has not been smooth sailing) but because we are busy. It’s hard to stay connected when you are going in so many different directions and have schedules and other people that take priority just because of the demands of the schedule of life. When this happens we all need to get grounded and focus on priorities and give each other a little grace. The Hubs and I talked this morning about not letting the busy-ness and demands of kids, school, work, jobs, coaching duties get in the way of knowing that we love each other and staying connected. We all get tired but we all need to take the time to nourish our relationships.

One day there will be no kids to take to practice and work will slow down and we may even retire, we need to make sure that we still know and love our partner, when life slows down, that’s when life will get really good. I am not saying mine is a model relationship, we have our problems and struggles. We still have more good than bad and nurturing our relationship is important to us. We do that by taking weekends like this one. I would love to do it once a month but that is just not realistic, but when I start to see and feel that lack of connection, arguing over washing clothes and just that bluh feeling about my relationship that is the time to look at the calendar, contact one of the Grandparents or some really great friends to take the kids so we can have adult time. Sometimes we go away and sometimes we send the kids with Gma but we get alone time!

We also take a date night, every week. Right now we are on Tuesday, it is our weeknight date night. We usually also do get in a Weekend date night as well. I know there are many people who judge us and how much we go out and take date nights and weekends sans kids. But, I really think it is important for every marriage or partnership to have that time. When the kids are grown and gone we need to still know and love the one we met and had those said kids with.

It is important to take the time to nourish the relationship with your lover and almost as important to teach your children how to do that. Children see us fighting, I know studies show we shouldn’t fight around our kids, we try not to, but let’s be honest they see it, they need to see us make up and they need to see us loving each other as well. It is important to take care of ourselves individually as well. I want to inspire you to take the time to take care of your relationship with your lover. One of the easiest ways to do that is to have more sex! If you can’t get away or have no one to take care of the kids, lock your bedroom door turn up some music and enjoy the naked physical love of your partner. I promise it is well worth it even when you are tired!

Go make connection with your mate, have more sex! Of course being nice, helping each other cook and clean and keep up with the tedious tasks of a busy life helps too, but there is nothing like having a great relationship with you spouse and having great sex with them as well!

#Havesex2016

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31 Wednesday Aug 2016

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I have missed you all. One reason I haven’t blogged much is due to some thumb and wrist pain I’ve been having. It is exacerbated by typing on my phone (which I am doing now) and that (using my phone) really is how I got through most of 2015. But I really have missed writing everyday. I promised last week that I would be back for a Hump Day Challenge every week, so here we go.
For this Hump Day Challenge break out the mirrors! Watching yourself and you lover make love is so erotic and sexy. I love mirrors in general. I don’t always love my reflection but there is something about catching us mid romp that hits me in the right spot,I lose all the normal body judgements. I love watching our hips rock against each other. I even enjoy watching the extra “body issue” areas jiggle as we fuck. 

I would love to mount a mirror over my bed, always have wanted to. I settle with a full length mirror next to the bed rested on the window seal. We used to have a big mirrored closet doors floor to ceiling wall to wall, it was awesome! The Hubs enjoys the mirror at the end of the bed he likes the spread eagle shots between the legs. If you don’t have an extra full body mirror laying around and nothing by your bed try your shower, you may have one next to the shower you can watch yourselves in the shower or have a romp in the bathroom in front of the vanity. 

Get creative, lock the doors and watch your selves (don’t judge your body) watch the love between you bodies. Enjoy the feeling and the look of your sex together. There is something about a visual that just boosts that sexy feeling and sensation in the body and connection to your lover! Enjoy that reflection of the two bodies together and get that great big “O”

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20 Wednesday Apr 2016

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Today’s Hump Day Challenge is inspired by my business dress that I wore to work today. It is a cute little knee length black and white dress. My hair pulled up in a structured messy bun. I wear glasses too so it’s a little librarian looking. So, today’s Hump Day Challenge is role play.

You be the sexy librarian and he can be the studious lawyer studying for the Bar exam. He wants your help but you play hard to get and make him trade you sexual favors. But the only help you give him is relieving the pressure in his pants!

Play up the roles! Relax and have fun but stay in character! Feel free to make up your own characters as well. Teacher student (naughty) or Boss and Assistant work better for you run with that! Use costumes and props and stay in character until your librarian self get swept away by that romantic swooning of that lawyer!

Enjoy, escape reality and have fun!!!

#Recommit2016