04 Sunday Feb 2018
Posted in Dance, Dance Like No One is Watching, Do You, Kids, Live in the Moment, Love, Nothing Meaningful, Parenting, Schedule
It is mid dance convention weekend. There has been some stress, but the Girl has danced her heart out and done amazing as have her teammates! The kids are doing an amazing job! I love watching her dance! We we’re there at 7am until 10:30pm I’m spent. I had a great day and will talk about my day more as the week goes on and when I am not so exhausted!
#SLWC2018
15 Monday Jan 2018
Posted in Connection, Everyday, Love, Sexting
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Be Positive, Community Service, focus on what is good, Let's stop fighting what we hate and start saving what we love, MLK, speak out for what is right
Speak out against what is wrong speak up for what is right! Stop the hate! Put more energy into saving what we love than fighting what we hate! I’m not saying don’t fight against what’s wrong, not in any way. I am just saying in order to encourage love and all that is good let’s focus our energy there!
So much negativity is going around right now. Some is for good reason fighting for what is right and just but what I want to see and hear is people saying what is good amd right not only what is wrong! I want more attention put on people doing good things and less on those doing bad, even if their reasoning may be in the right place. A right platform, in my opinion, does not justify bad behavior.
Like Dr King, I believe we should be judged by the content of our character, not by the color of our skin, where we live, where we were born, how much money we have or can make, who we love, where or even if we worship, what sex we are or claim, what kind of car we drive, how fast we are going or by how many mistakes vs good we have done.
What I am saying is that in this moment you are the content of your character not any of those other things but at the same time all of those other things decisions you’ve made mistakes and accomplishments as a whole. One word, one phrase is not what defines you, it is the body of work. What kind of body of work are you putting out there? All of it, all the time even when no one is looking.
Today Dr King’s family asked for us to in remembrance of him that we serve one another. Many communities hosted programs to serve less fortunate in their community. I served my family, which is one thing I am focusing on this year in Sex Love and Washing Clothes. I have been feeling depressed lately. Everything everyday has been a bit of a struggle, not so much that it has consumed me but enough to make everyday a struggle. I worked through today by just doing one project at a time. I felt very unproductive however made a pretty good dent in my work. My family thanked me for it. Especially the hubs when he got some sexy pictures from me. It made me happy to make him smile, then he brought me flowers
Sometimes we think we have to do something great big, like March on Washington, but the small efforts in your family and community and towns and cities make a huge dent.
If we spend more time defending and saving what we love and less time fighting about what we hate what would our world look like? Think on that.
#SLWC2018
25 Monday Dec 2017
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Family, Framily, husband provider, I love Christmas!, Marriage is Hard, Marriage takes work!, Sex Love and Washing Clothes
The kids are in bed, presents all wrapped and set up for them to find in the morning. The Hubs is sleeping next to me after a long fun filled day of Seahawks away game party and the Christmas Eve gathering we have at our house. Today was a beautiful day. Our team won! Go Hawks! We had some of our best friends with us for dinner, drinks, cookie decorating, and spending quality time together.
Growing up Christmas Eve in my house was very similar. My Dad’s tradition was to set up the Christmas Tree on Christmas Eve. We would have an open house friends would come by and out an ornament on the tree and eat food and spend time with us. It was at that event on this night in 1996 that The Hubs and shared our first kiss. Who knew we would end up here 21 years later. I would not change it for the world.
We have had many bumps and turns in the road of our life. This last year has been a really rough year and I fear some roughness in our future, but at the end of the day, I look at this man and all we have created together and count my blessings and remember why I am here. I love this man who is snoring next to me. He is, sometimes, really hard to live with and sometimes, I want to ring his neck but he is my soulmate. We clash in many things but those are the things that balance us. We a have busy chaotic life that adds stress but one day the kids will be grown and we will slow down and we will cherish these years the most.
My goal for 2018 is living in the moment more and really enjoying our kids. We spend a lot of money and a lot of time on them. Sometimes that distracts us from enjoying them. They are fun to watch don’t here thing. The girl is an amazing dancer. I want to appreciate her dance more especially since she is talking about not dancing after this year. The Boy plays 4 sports now. He added Basketball once Christmas break is over wrestling will start and booked ending those are Football and baseball. He is a good athlete he has a good attitude and really enjoys what he does. I want him to know it’s about playing hard and doing well but mostly it’s about having fun while you do it. Same worth The Girl it’s not about winning scholarships at competition it’s about having fun, putting yourself into the dance and let it move you.
Today I sit here in appreciation of my family. The Hubs takes really good care of this family with his work and providing for us. We are able this year to help my mom out and got her a car that should last her a while. It is a nicer car than she has and most of all SAFE! I feel pretty thankful that my husband will also take care of my mom like that. I like to be able to play Santa to my mom, I know she will appreciate it and I am thankful she will have a safe car to use when she is transporting my children around town. She does that a lot! It’s a way of paying her back for that.
I am just in awe of my family right now. The Hubs and I have had a really rough year but right now in this moment I feel joy and love and appreciation. I want to hold that feeling close to my heart and focus on that in 2018.
#LoveAlways2017
09 Thursday Nov 2017
Posted in Hump Day Challenge, Just Do It, Love, Sex, Sex Love and Washing Clothes, XXX
FUCK!!! It’s Wednesday and it’s almost over and I forgot to post a hump day challenge!
Quickly, today challenge brought to you by sitting in a car dealership all day! Fuck in a car! This is harder than it sounds especially since cars of today are not like those in the 50’s. The back seat of that ’57 Chevy was much more conducive to fucking than that of today’s BMW 5 series…but minivans, that’s another story… You go soccer mom!
But get creative, go in the back seat, ride him on the passenger seat, fold down the back seats and don’t in the trunk. Get the gear shifter out of the way and pull out his big stick!
Find a place that is secluded to park with a view of the city take a moment to enjoy the view but even if it’s right when you pull in the driveway before you go inside…it’s hot to have sex in a car! Especially with the idea or the risk of getting caught…just don’t get caught!
No driving while giving it getting head, it’s dangerous! But you are adults now you can fuck him wherever it feels good! Enjoy the view and get it on in the car!
#Carsex
26 Thursday Oct 2017
Posted in Love, Marriage, Marriage is hard, Marriage is work
These are my wedding flowers. I walked down the isle 17 years ago holding these flower proudly in my hands looking at my best friend at the end of the isle. These flowers are significant. I have saved them in this vase that I received as a wedding gift.
17 years later, they look tired and old and dead but there is something about them. I don’t want to toss them. When I look any them I reminisce about that day about the planning that lead up to that day. About all the flowers the Hubs had got me in Corsages before that day and since then the flowers he brings me home, which is why I chose the color I chose. Those flowers represent the day we chose to be together for better or worse. Through the years these flowers have seen better but even in there old tired (some may say dead) state there is a beauty that I just can’t throw away!
I don’t want to be tired old or dead in my relationship. I know I’m tired but on bad days maybe when the Hubs and I aren’t in the “for better” moments I look at their ugliness and think just throw it away! I have grabbed them in anger and frustration, probably trying to clean up clutter that we were arguing about, and thought “why even save these they are dead!” But I can’t bring myself to throw them away!
In that moment, like today, I look at the ugly dead flowers and remember the beauty they once were They inspire me to see past sadness of how they look and cherish the beauty they represent.
Maybe I should make this vase the fresh flowers vase that I keep fresh flowers in, it takes maintenance to keep beautiful fresh flowers and cycling out the old but these flowers aren’t going anywhere. Just like my marriage I did not say “I do” to just the beauty. I said “I do” to all of it. That includes the ugly the sad and tired. I am happily married because of that decision and those words that day. Not everyday is happy, today has not been a happy day. That doesn’t mean I’m not happy.
These flowers are beautiful in there way and I am happy to have them. It is a reminder that things need maintenance and marriages need maintenance to stay beautiful but there is always beauty in love. These flowers should probably go, according to some clutter expert but for now they will stay. I will hold on to this reminder that even in ugly stages love conquers and may the best shine through. May you be loved.
#Loveconquers
25 Wednesday Oct 2017
Posted in Hump Day Challenge, Lock your door!, Love, XXX
Happy Hump Day!! I don’t know about you but I have had a long day! Not in a bad way but just long. I got to have lunch with the Hubs and watch the Girl perform. At some point today I had a feeling come over me, one that I have experienced for a while off and on, and that is that I have no idea if I am doing ok or not. I have been a bit cranky this afternoon and feeling a bit inadequate…which is making it tough to write this blog today!
Today is Hump Day and last week I made the decision to writing and to start it would be a Hump Day Challenge at least once a week. So, here I am trying to write a hump day challenge be inspiring and sexy. So here goes…
Just FUCK! Tonight go to bed and have sex with your lover. If you have to do it just because I said so. It is Hump Day after all! Sometimes the best feelings come from just having sex. First the power of being naked is overwhelming. Skin to skin contact affects the brain and your hormone levels. Just rub his back as he lays there. Feel with your hands the curves and bumps and crevices. Cup his ass in your hand feel her breasts as your rub from her shoulder down her chest to her smooth belly. As the skin to skin contact arouses you, move in closer. Wrap your arms around each other and feel your whole bodies touch every inch of your body touch.
Use your fingers, your hands, even your feet to feel your partners body. Then climb on him and ride his big cock, men hold her hips and watch her as she rocks back and forth. Then lean down on him and let your breasts rub against his chest. Feel how his chest hair tickles your nipples just right. Allow your sense of touch to open up and feel. Stop thinking and just feel!
Don’t wait for your partner to tell your they want to have sex, don’t expect them to ask if you want to or even tell you to. Just touch him. Touch her softly move in for the kiss as you feel how good it feels to touch, do more! Until you are fucking!
Enjoy your touch let it lead to sex! Go soft, slow and accept what happens. Don’t expect your lover to do anything in return give them pleasure and take pleasure in that. (I bet she will enjoy returning the pleasure, but do not expect it! Love on her as she loves on you and then you both will have a great love experience!
#TouchChallenge
27 Monday Mar 2017
Posted in Be Present, Be You, Do You, Don't judge me, Family, Love, Uncategorized
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Balance, Don't Judge Me, Embrace life, Focus, Live Laugh Love, Stop worrrying, why can I trust life, Why can't I Just relax and enjoy life, worried something bad is happening
Hello followers, let me start by saying. I am struggling. Acutely today I have so much on my mind, so much that has happened, so much I want to accomplish and so much to write and share (because I haven’t written much lately) and also some to keep private and not write about (we all know that is hard for me not to over share) and since I haven’t been blogging much this may be a little disjointed, I mean, more than normal. I was asked the other day to remove my filter…they obviously don’t read my blog or maybe they do because they know it’s possible for me to do so. But yes, in real life I have this filter. Call it a mask of sometime professionalism, sometimes shyness, just a filter that I don’t say everything I am afraid to be judged or I want to make sure I am being appropriate…I don’t really know why. So hear goes sans filter Ruby is going to spill and hopefully today organize my thoughts and life and get back on track where I want to be. And for you I hope you can be inspired by my thoughts either by realizing you are not as messed as me or by realizing you are not alone out there.
Why the fuck is it so hard to just live? I want to do so much but for some reason I am so tired. I get going and then my energy fizzles out. Today I wanted to get in a run, do some admin business stuff, some billing and returning phone calls, also wanted to clean and organize at the house catch up with laundry. This morning was a great breakfast. I was able to get the kids lunches made, then I made them breakfast. I made eggs, English muffin toast, strawberries and smoothies for the kids. The boy we struggle with eating and he ate his whole breakfast today. I was on a roll. Then they both got to school and I got home and had to do some computer stuff. Then it was almost 10:00 and I had to decide what to do…go for a run, or get ready and get to a business networking thing at 11:30 or do something else like clean or write in my blog…
Why the fuck can’t I just make the right choice for myself? Why don’t I do what I want to do to get me closer to where I want to be. I want to be a great mom that takes care of her family by cooking and cleaning and having a relaxed calm home environment. I also want to have a successful business and sometimes that means making sacrifices at home but I hate choosing which has to sacrifice. Balance is just not always an option!! But it has to be! We need balance to be healthy! Everyone does! Sometimes I feel like I am getting it and then the next day shit hits the fan and I am feeling fucked and not in a good way! I just want to figure life out why this fuck is it so hard?!
And why is it that when I feel like I have things under control the bottom drops out? So even when things are good, really things are pretty goo right now. Business is doing alright, life is good the Hubs and I are getting along and happy but this is how I felt in December when my life got turned upside down! I was getting in the groove of working the business, The Hubs and I were happy. I had some great (I thought) friends in my life all was well. Then the bottom dropped out. I am kind of waiting for that to happen right now. Life has really felt like it has slowed down. You know the way that commentators talk about the game slowing down for rookies in the NFL. Nothing changes they just get used to seeing the speed of the NFL vs College etc. Life has really felt like it’s slowed down and we are in the midst of competition and tournament season! What horrible thing is about to happen or has already happened that I am about to find out? Why the fuck do I have to think this way? Why can’t I relax and enjoy life? Why can’t I remove the filter? What am I afraid of?
PLAN: Here is my plan what I want anyway. I want to write more, exercise more, enjoy the moments I have with my family and have moments with myself and one on one time with the Hubs, and be successful in business so I can help my family do everything and have everything we want. Just that sentence brings tears to my eyes because it feels like so much and I am sad I have to say it out loud, how did I let myself get here away from these things? I should plan time for everything. Time for writing and exercising in my schedule and push myself to follow it. Get my house cleaned up and organized and then take time to keep it that way and having the business I may need to hire a housecleaner to help keep up on the house thing. I need a better plan and more than just giving myself grace I need to trust myself when I am feeling like things are slowing down. The game really is slowing down for me! I need to accept that. It’s time to pass the ball to my trusted teammates and manage this game in a way that will most benefit the team! I need to be MVP in my life so my team can win and winning is when we are all happy and healthy and enjoying life! That is balance!
What the fuck did I just say?! I really need to stay focused and push myself to get where I want to be and I need to pass the ball to those who can advance our life when needed. I need to stop worrying about the lineman who is going to hit me from the blindside and focus on the play and execute! I have a team to support me and need to use that. But it’s my job to manage this game I can and I will rock this. I need to allow myself to live and enjoy and celebrate the good times and stop worrying!
#Live2017
08 Wednesday Mar 2017
Posted in Be Present, Be You, Family, Live in the Moment, Love, Working Mom
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Always do your best, artists of balance, Balance, do family, do work, Do You, Do your husband, Love, Women are artists
I struggle sometimes with the happiness of each moment that is shrouded with sacrifice in another arena of life but that is what being a woman means to me: You can do anything you want, you can even do everything but you can’t do it all, at the same time, physics and laws of the universe like gravity limit you! That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t relish in your joy of work even when your missing you kids basketball game. And when you’ve blocked yourself out from work to catch a game trust that it will be there for you when you return.
Surrounded yourself with good support be it a great friend or aunty who can take photos so you don’t miss a shot when you Aube to work. Also, have great employees or coworkers or referral partners that can hold down the fort so you can catch the kids basketball games and such! It is balance my friends and we as women are artists of balance!
Let’s stop beating ourselves up because of gravity! We can balance the weight of the world on our shoulders, practice your son’s curve ball and nail the new dance hairstyle and have dinner on the table (even if it’s pizza on a paper plate) and still hold the eye of our husbands because fuck him like crazy when it’s time, because we are women who are artists of balance and we do it with a smile!
Allow yourself to feel the same smile, give yourself grace. You put it on for everyone else because you are an artist, you are a woman! You know what matters, your love, your family, your work, your husband and your house matters, but everything has its time. It’s okay to pick and choose and give yourself grace. It’s okay to give your children a few chores and it’s okay to have dishes in the sink! Be you, love you! Always do your best you know what matters each moment that so focus on that everything else will have its time.
#Art2017
#WomensDay2017
07 Tuesday Mar 2017
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So this post was supposed to happen Wednessday! This previous Wedness was Ash Wednessday. Every year Catholics and some others of Christian faith participate in giving something up for Lent. Lent is the time that Jesus spent away praying before he was crucified. (I never “celebrated” Lent my family did not participate so this is all I gather from the outsiders point of view.) So now in the time of Facebook and social media I see posts every year of friends who are giving up social media or chocolate or French fries or some who vow to do something good for themselves. Every year for the last few years I have toyed with the idea to do “Lent” but have never followed through. So this year since I remembered it on a Wednessday I am making it a bit of a hump day challenge! Lent is 40 days Jesus spent 40 days and 40 night praying. It’s about 6 weeks until Easter. 6 weeks is a very biblical time frame if you haven’t figured it out there is more than science around why so many programs to better yourself are 6 weeks long.
So here goes let’s do Lent Sex Love and Washing Clothes style! We are going to break it down here:
Sex: Fuck as much as you can. Everyday if possible but realisticly most of us won’t. So, Do every Hump Day Challenge and have sex as much on the off days as you can! But EVERY DAY sext your lover! Especially if you can’t fuck! Send a dirty picture, maybe it’s your boobs maybe it’s a sexy story you tell or a full on play by play text/sext story! It can be a shot of your naked boobs, your naked pussy or a sexy shot of your cleavage. You go to the bathroom how many times a day? Take your phone at least once and grab an opportunity to take a naked or partially naked picture.
Love: Say “I love you” EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Kiss goodnight, go to bed at the same time, go on dates and/or write love notes! Love notes via text or hand written…BOTH! For some of you this is easy, if it’s not easy I bet you can remember a time when it was. Do you know what will make it easier again? PRACTICE!!! So get to showing love ladies and gents!!! This should be easy it just takes effort and time it really is not hard to say I love you or to write a love note! Take time and write a few when you have a little time and use them under your partners pillow or in their lunch box. When you don’t have time to write on paper…write a text telling them you favorite thing about them!!
Washing Clothes: This is the tough one! Make a commitment to wash clothes everyday. If this is easy but you and the spouse fight about dishes then make a commitment to do the dishes. Remember when I started this I said “washing clothes” is a metaphor for all the house work and homemaking tasks that need done. If you really need to vacuum everyday do that but make it the same thing everyday! My kids do the dishes and The Hubs really wants the laundry to not get out of control and yes two years after starting Sex Love and Washing Clothes I still need to work on the actual washing of the clothes, so that is my task. I will be starting a load of laundry in the morning (FUCK I already forgot today) then in the afternoon transferring it to the dryer and in the evening the kids will be able to fold and then I will put my clothes away… Or some way or another I will wash clothes and get them put away. No more laundry piles regardless of clean or dirty until after Easter…
So there your have it for Lent you are doing Sex Love and Washing Clothes! …We are doing Sex Love and Washing Clothes! I need a boost in my relationship I think this will help. It is a focus on eachother what better way to reconnect than to Sex Love and Washing Clothes. Everyone in the relationship is working at bettering it! It a relationship focus not a me or you focus! Let’s do this and by Easter let’s check in and see how it helped!
Good luck Challengers here we go!
#Lent2017
18 Wednesday Jan 2017
Posted in Hump Day Challenge, Lock your door!, Love, Relax, Sex, XXX
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balance is good too, Be careful, Hump Day, sex in the shower, Shower Sex, Shower sex is detoxing, takes some agility
Hello readers! Happy Hump Day. Better late than never right?! Especially since it has been a little bit since I wrote! I am not gone just busy and working on organization! I will get this whole working mom, business owner, wife and blogger thing down if it kills me!
Today’s Hump Day Challenge is inspired by our weather here! It has been pouring down rain! something like 2-3 inches in the last 24-48 hours. We here in the Seattle area get really annoyed and tired of the rain but there is something really detoxifying and cleansing about water running down your face and flushing the soul. So today’s Hump Day Challenge is to have sex not in the rain (that would be weird but pretty hot so if you want go for it!) but to have sex in the shower. Turn on the water stand close to your lover and feel each others skin on skin. Rub your bodies together like your spouse shoulders then neck and kiss with the water coming down over you. As you make out with your lover under the shower head think of that water as cleansing your relationship flushing out the doldrums of every day life and filling it with fresh love and excitement!
There are steps and cool apparatuses you can buy for foot supports and hand holds go for it check out our A-store link on this page where you can purchase some. I have found that lifting a leg on the side of the tub (if you have a tub in your shower) helps open your pussy up to your lover. He can grab you leg and enter you as he wishes. Make sure you have somewhere to balance and are grounded it is slippery on the shower floor be careful. Keep towels handy so that when it gets hot and heavy you can towel eachother off and climb into bed to finish off. You will love licking the water off your lovers body and you will feel refreshed loved and inspired by your cleansing hot and sexy experience with your lover in the shower!
Be safe and sexy relax and lock the door because you will get clean, refreshed detoxed and filled with love and more with this challenge! Now go take your shower!!
#HumpDay2017
Sex Love and Washing Clothes 