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Own Your Vision

23 Tuesday Jan 2018

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Don't let others judge and define you, Home office, Home office and Professional can coexist, Jury Duty, love what you do, low overhead, Professional, Reschedule Everything

Awe man about the same time I realized I hadn’t written yet today, I also realized I hadn’t called in to see if I have to report for jury duty! Damn it, I have to report at 8am! I will do my Civic duty and go in tomorrow! Boo!

Today was a productive busy day of massage work, business networking and soul searching. Am I in the right place? I think I am and this is why, I met two great clients from a marketing gig I have done in the past year. They both seemed to be pleased with their appointment and one rebooked for two appointments for the following two months, the other didn’t have work schedule but said she’d call! It felt right like it was affirmation that I am in the right place and that I can build a home based practice.

I love working from home. I just want to stop getting “the look” from professionals when I talk about my home office. I feel judged when I tell networking partners that I work from home. As if I can’t be professional seeing clients in a home office. When I originally decided to be an LMT (Licensed Massage Therapist) I originally envisioned my work as a massage therapist, was me working from home. As a mom of Middle School Kids it is a perfect situation. “Own it Ruby! Stop letting others define and judge you.” Now if I could fill my books with paying clients that would be even better!

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Breaking Free

25 Monday Jul 2016

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be determined, Break out of your comfort zone, Don't let fear hold you back, Freedom, I will survive, Live The Life You've Imagined, Love, You can do this

FutureSo it has been a long week. I haven’t wrote since last Tuesday! Last week I spoke of things that happened that I didn’t want to talk about yet. Well then more things happened and happened so fast that I didn’t have time to stop and write. I have been overwhelmed this last week. the weekend previous to last Tuesday (the last time I blogged) I had looked at a new office to rent for my massage office. I have been contemplating private practice for a long time. I heard about this space available and decided to talk to the owner and then looked at it two weekends ago. I decided by Tuesday that I would talk to my boss and tell him I found a place. If he made an offer for me to rent the space I was in I would consider it but I was pretty sure I was done dealing with scheduling issues, done paying too much for rent on uncapped commissions and ready to have my own office.

Well I put in notice on Wednessday. I had decided I could wait until August 10 or so to stay at the chiropractic office to help out since the other massage therapist in our office just gave notice that she was leaving end of July. The Dr however decided that he didn’t want me to stay and help out he wanted me to leave. He said “Friday will be you last day” he must have thought I was a threat or something and the other massage therapist was not! I was kind of insulted but ok I guess I have work to do! Since then it has been a crazy busy time full of crazy unpredictable and un-understandable emotions. I went from feeling sad for leaving to feeling relieved to feeling angry that I have let the disrespect last so long! I was feeling not good enough, held back and stuck where I was at. I knew I was going to a better place but was scared and overwhelmed with too much to do in too little time. That made me emotional and the Hubs and I got in two arguments because he was frustrated he couldn’t understand me, well, neither could I! He is a typical guy who likes to and thrives on fixing things and when he can’t be a fixer he doesn’t know what to do and gets frustrated.

I was overwhelmed, I didn’t know how to feel or what to think. I was caught up in my head and couldn’t get focused. Once I got focused on working on my new office which happened this weekend when we started painting the new space and getting it ready it was invigorating, and inspiring. Then I was mad I spent so much time fretting about leaving the old place.

Today was my first day in my new office. I had 3 appointments most of my clients have chosen to keep the already scheduled appointments at my new place. So I am officially in private practice! I am renting space from another massage therapist working in an office of 4 therapists. I got to paint my own office, change out electrical outlets and pick out curtains and  decorate. I need to buy a new table soon, I need a chair for clients to sit while they change, I need a mirror (I found one that matches my curtains and will work well but it is $70 and I am running low on funds considering that I have to pay rent! I am excited and feeling free! I have 7 more massages until I cover rent and massage related expenses! I am feeling hopeful and ready to take on this challenge and I am happy to be living my dream live and in person!

It was sad-ish to leave. It was emotional, hard, confusing because I wanted to go but I am looking forward to this new adventure. I was scared to break out of my comfort zone. I am still scared but I know it is good. Good things come from breaking free from fear and breaking out and being bold! I will not stop until I have gotten to where I want to be and I will be happy. I will provide for my family and live in abundance! I am happy to stretch my comfort zone, no, I am happy to leave my comfort zone! I want to, but it is hard and it will hurt but it will be worth it!

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New Business Monday

23 Monday May 2016

Posted by Sex Love and Washing Clothes in Business, Massage Therapy, Working Mom

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Business Woman, Flying solo on Mondays, Long Day, Love My Work, New job

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Mondays kick my Ass!!! It’s Modern day at dance! I love Modern! But it is a long work day. Today I added a new job. Working at a business on staff members.

I love being the highlight of my clients’ day!

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Target: Moms

18 Friday Mar 2016

Posted by Sex Love and Washing Clothes in Homemaker, Massage Therapy, Mom Stuff, Self Care

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Building my brand!, Moms, Self Care, stop neglecting you, Take Care of Yourself

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So the other day I was chatting with the person I hired to make a logo for my massage business and she asked who is your target market? My first response was people interested in health and wellness and fitness. I kind of rambled a bit but it came out that moms are my target. She had to convince me of this one being a good idea after the fact too. She said you have to have a target. You get those people’s attention and they will tell everyone else they know.

In BNI today we were tasked with telling a story that will make people cry. My story was about self care about people who walk in my office and can barely move and walk out chatting and smiling because they feel better. Then talking about how we tend to neglect our selves and our families especially those who have a business and those who take care of others for a living. Mom’s tend to out the kids, the husband,the house, their job and friends before them. They feel guilty going to the gym and/or going to get a massage for an hour and then spending the money on them. I used to say to moms in my momand fitness class “Your child’s mom deserves to be taken care of” for some reason when you look at it like that it makes you feel better. Why has self care become such a luxury eyes of us moms?
It is important to take care of ourselves. This body we have is the only one we get! We need to teach our kids that taking care of self is the most important and how important it is to be you best advocate for health. This is why moms are my target. I want to help teach this phenomena and hopefully end the self destructive behavior of putting everyone else’s needs above our need to be healthy in our own body!

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Massage Business Life

15 Tuesday Mar 2016

Posted by Sex Love and Washing Clothes in Be Present, Be You, Business, Massage Therapy, Working Mom

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Business in my future, Take the time to take care of you, Work on your business not just in your business

Today was a business day! I bought a logo today! I put a deposit down to design a professional logo for my massage business! I will be getting a domain name soon too. I am super excited to have a logo, a brand! I had a BNI one to one with a web designer she was super helpful and interested in my business. She will be bringing me samples at this week’s meeting. I also am a Beach Body Coach and Young Living Essential Oil Distributor! I want to have more time with my family but I can’t “build” 3 businesses and since my forte is massage I decided to “go pro” with that. I will keep the others in my back pocket but my focus is massage! It’s time for me to move to the next level with it.

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My next adventure with massage is to expand. I have a plan to start doing on-site massage. If I can get some contracts with businesses to do seated massage for their workers, I can keep all the profits and then hire employees to go to the sites to give the massage. I will have the opportunity to train and mentor other massage therapists and also have a residual income when I get older and don’t want or can’t continue massage! That’s the theory anyway! I am hoping and looking to grow my business and increase my income, help people who are stressed at work and help other business owners offer an extra benefit to their own employees and increase morale and productivity in their office!

I want to spread stress relief! I am hoping my new logo will help start a revolution to destressing, help business owners take care of their employees and teach my children hard work and professionalism pays off! I am so excited for this but need to remind myself not to get too big in my head before I have my plan in place and stay focused.

I am pretty sure I have written about this before, I want to be synonymous with relaxation and de-stress and calm. I want to be the highlight of people’s day!

I know I am the highlight of my Husband’s day! Time to give him some of my attention!

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Education and New Ideas

06 Sunday Mar 2016

Posted by Sex Love and Washing Clothes in Massage Therapy, Working Mom

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CEUs are expensive, Educations, I have taken some great courses, necessary evil, Not Fair

Happy Sunday!Investment of Knowledge Today I worked on the computer to complete a correspondence CEU course to keep my Lisence and insurance current. I am an AMTA member so I have to do more than double what the state requires but it is due soon. The Hubs also did his 8 hours of CEUs today in about an hour. It was a course he has taken before and his is free and it took him and hour to get 8CEUs. I am required to do 12 CEU hours a year, his is required 8 hours every 2 years. My 2 hour course cost me $60, his was free. So not fair! For the AMTA we have to submit every 4 years. I have about 16 hours more that I have to do before the end of the month. I would prefer to do live courses but it is hard for me to get the time and spend the money. Nothing has appealed to me that worked with my schedule that was not sold out.  I get 1 CEU per hour in a live class so a weekend class I can get up to 24 hours for a three day weekend and it will cost anywhere from $300-$500 some are up to $800 or more depending on the specialty! It is so expensive but a necessary evil! It usually is good knowledge and I am grateful for the education I get out of every class I take. The state requires a certain amount of live classes as well as a certain amount of ethics training. I need to take time off work to get it in and it costs me money to do it. Sometimes I learn a service I can raise my fees for but usually it is a new technique that adds to my career but not to my paycheck. It costs me about $1000 or more a year to be licensed. It takes me more than 2 weeks to make that.

One thing this week I had an idea to expand my business. Right now I am an employee at the Chiropractic office that I work at. I am considering taking at least one day a week to start with and doing corporate massage. I want to get accounts or contracts with companies to offer massage to their employees. I could offer seated or table massage. If the corporation has a conference room or an empty office or classroom or something that is private I can take my table and do 50 minute full body massages. They would be away from their desk for an hour but the place of employment would gain be productivity, better morale, an added benefit that they could use to keep and even recruit better employees and it would only cost the price of the massage. I was thinking if I go to a business there would be a travel fee as it takes time to drive to the location and time to set up and breakdown costing me on average about an hour the travel fee would probably be anywhere from $15-$50, haven’t decided, this is a very new idea not thought out much. Then there would be the cost of the massages. I think I would probably have a minimum amount of massages, as well as a maximum. But, normally I charge $60 per massage I would possibly consider dropping the price to companies signing contracts for regular appointments maybe if they schedule 4 or 5 massages possibly $50 per massage.

The point of this business would be for me to start a business that I could hire employees. I would do more “working on” the business not so much in the business. I need a plan, a business plan and marketing plan, what to I pay employees, how to get contracts ect… first I must talk to the Doc I work for to let him know I am considering this business adventure and that it is not a conflict of interest since I will be doing corporations and if I gain personal clients they will be coming to my office that I already pay him commissions. I need time to sit an plan this, I probably need to talk to a business attorney and get a business license.

I want my business to become a household name. If only in the town that I live and work in, I want to be great and make money and relax and relieve pain and stress! I want my corporate clients to offer massage as benefits. For smaller businesses it would be a great recruiting tool. Especially the health benefits and prevention of work injuries and boost in morale massage would create for those companies! I can do this! This is a great idea I will be successful with it. I just need to plan it and make smart business decisions and start off right. Not give up before I get started and be prepared to follow through with it! I can do it!!!

Time for me to remove myself from in front of this computer my eyes are playing tricks on me from being in front of this screen for so long today! At least I have an excuse for typos today…I can’t see!

Time for some sexy time with the Hubs!

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TGIF!!!!

27 Saturday Feb 2016

Posted by Sex Love and Washing Clothes in Be Present, Do Your Thing, Everyday, Family, Live in the Moment, Massage Therapy, Mom Stuff, Parenting, Raising Kids, Working Mom, wrestling

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Busy, Family Life, Life, Mom Life, Working Mom

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Today is Friday! I had 18 massage appointments this week plus 2 Wrestling matches, a PeeWee football equipment meeting and a baseball team mom meeting and Dentist appointments for the kids, oh and had my Dance class (but only made one class this week) I also hand washed my car and fed my family everyday and only had Pizza once! It has been a crazy busy week! The girl hurt her knee at dance and I keep forgetting to call the orthopedic Dr about it! I do t thinknitnisnmore that bad but of it is I am going to feel so bad for ignoring it!

Bottom line is I am tired today. I had a headache from last night until today at 2 or so I finally gave in and took Alieve. I tried my EOs, got an adjustment and drank water and nothing helped. I think it may have been my body telling me I was tired and doing a lot more than normal this week. But this is what “normal” is going to be soon (or right now obviously). I am striving for 20 massages a week which is considered a full time schedule for an LMP. Our family is busy and we are involved parents! I am going to have to hire a house cleaner (and maybe even a house nanny to/do laundry and cook dinner do they have those?) I am busy but honestly the house is not too disastrous surprisingly enough!Especially considering I am the only one who does laundry and dishes unless my mom babysits early enough that she is not too tired to fold laundry ( I love that about her) this week she had time to fold my clothes when we were on Date Night!

I really am enjoying my job and my life lately. I feel good about myself. Work is going well the kids are doing awesome (The Girl just got two awards today at school and The Boy took two reading tests to meet his monthly reading goal!) Blogging is going well-ish too! I am writing this one in bed while the Hubs snores next to me. We are sexing inthe morning because tongiht as we went to bed I was working on his knee and started rubbing his back too and he got that sleepy look so I asked him and he said yes let’s do that, the alarm is set for early, it’s Wrestling End of Season Tournament Day! But we are going to get up even earlier do “It” (lol I said “do It”)

Things are going well in the Earl household here! Loving life enjoying family and making it all work! Good night folks!

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First Massage For The Girl

18 Thursday Feb 2016

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Benefits of massage, Happy Mom, I think I created an addict, Massage, Massage for Self Esteem, Positive Touch

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Woops…this was from Saturday…..
Week, today was the day I finally gave The Girl her first real massage. She got a full body massage in my office. She really liked it. I so enjoyed sharing my talent and my skill and my profession with my daughter. I also really enjoyed her being able to relax and benefit from the massage. Benefits of massage are stress relief, relaxation, sometimes a feeling of increased energy and euphoria, which The Girl experienced. She said “This week is going to be the best week ever!then she elaborated, “I am going to make this week the best ever!” If you read my blog you know this made me so happy to hear. And to think I may be encourage that happening from relaxing her and giving her a massage.

Basically I am feeling blessed. I am feeling like a good mom giving my daughter something many moms will never be able to. I can feeling a little guilty too, being that she is 11 and this is the first real massage she has gotten, real table massage anyway! They really all are real massage. She has gotten full body massages as a baby and regularly she gets me to work on her neck or shoulders when she is stiff and/or sore. So she has a long history of receiving massages. But today was the real deal in mom’s office with the music going and everything! I loved it and so did she!

Positive touch isnso important for people. Not just for kids but especially for kids. Particularly preteens and into the term years. Touch is beneficial for self esteem and feelings of acceptance and love. Hopefully it will help her to avoid bad relationships and scary situation teenagers sometimes get into! Regardless I will keep trying everything I can to give her advantage over everyone else! I love my kids and can’t wait until I get to give The Boy his first massage. I need to get the fam on a rotation! I gave the Hubs a massage recently when I had a cancellation. I love giving my family massage! It makes my heart happy!

What do you do to connect and give positive touch your family?

#Everyday2016

What are you doing

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Just one more

23 Saturday Jan 2016

Posted by Sex Love and Washing Clothes in Bartending, Family, Massage Therapy, Working Mom

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too busy to blog

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It was a full day at the massage office with 5 massages, followed by a 5 hour shift at the bar. Now, it’s Star wars movie night with the kids.

That’s all for today!

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Define Your Priorities, Define Your Life

21 Thursday Jan 2016

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Carole Tunnel Syndrome, Love Bartending, Love Massage, Love My Work, No Night Job, Overuse Injury, Pain, Rest, Want To Do It All!, Wrist Pain

Ummm oops, I wrote this Saturday and apparently it did not ever get from saved drafts to published.

Happy Saturday friends! It is NFL Divisional Playoff weekend. I noticed as I opened my blog today that I had something like 394 posts. Wow! That’s right I went everyday in 2015 #Everyday2015 and then now I am doing everyday 2016 or #Everyday2016. I am sort of proud of that but really what does that mean? I hope it means there is a 394 days of trying to inspire people if nothing else at least showing that it is okay to be real. I would love to have these amazing wise posts everyday but sometimes I am just normal, Ruby. Even kind of blah! Mostly lately I have been busy Ruby so trying to squeeze in posting and writing witty and wise posts just doesn’t happen, and when they do they are laced with typos and mistakes. But I am okay with that. I love to write everyday. Sometimes I think maybe it would be more meaningful if I wrote less but if I wait until I have time it will not happen. I just prefer to keep going and one day, maybe one day I will get one of those posts that a ton of people with repost and retweet and share on Facebook, or maybe not. I will keep writing.

Today I am contemplating my big decision this week. My decision to go full time doing massage and quit the bartending gig. I love bartending I really do enjoy it and have fun meeting people. Yesterday I even gave away a big pull tab win to a friend! Yesterday, I got to work the late shift 9-close. It was nice to be able to go out to dinner with my family and take the girl to her friends sleep over and then go to work as the boys decided they were going to build Legos. The bar was busy and rambunctious it was image

actually pretty fun. Annoying at times whent eh D.J. decided to let the crowd run the shoe instead of taking control himself but it was not horrible. The other bartender that I worked with is one of my friends. She is a little high stung and a lot of the other bartenders get intimidated by her. I do too but I know that the things she says when I am making mistakes will only make me a better bartender. And I know that she is not mad at me she is just direct. I hate it how a woman who is direct and outspoken is often times labeled a bitch. I wish I could be more direct more often. She just says what she thinks and most times says what everyone else wants to say but are too chicken to say it. Any way the work day was fun, and today being Saturday I got to sleep in so going to bed at 3am wasn’t as hard as it is on Tuesdays when I have to get up for school and work on Wednessdays.

Since I have given notice at the bar however my arms have been killing me. My Carpal Tunnel Syndrome has been acting up. I also had a lot of cancelations this week and my schedule started out kind of slim! I am worried I Fucked up and need that bartending gig. However I am thinking of other options that don’t involve me having to work late nights! I want to do massage bit even as I type my wrists are hurting and with every stroke I feel it more. I need to probably get more massage and maybe physical therapy or something but the crazy head Ruby part of me has diagnosed me with career ending injury! …I did say cray head! Anyway I just want to work, make enough money to keep our family comfortable and not stress about every extra dance fee or the need for new cleats. I love my work both jobs! I will miss bartending but I need to be with my family. I will not sacrifice my family for money. I will work through this and be creative and keep you readers posted with my ideas and options! To living life the fullest and making priorities and sacrifices at the right time and no regrets!

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