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It’s Up To You

24 Tuesday Jul 2018

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Happiness is a choiceIt has been a while since I have written. There are many reasons, the obvious or easy answer is I have been busy. The real answer is I haven’t felt that I can be honest or real and that is tragic in this blog. I have not been what I would call happy. I have missed writing and I feel like getting away from writing has separated me from some of my feelings, honestly. It has bee hard in the Earl household lately. The Hubs and I have struggled. I believe we are getting back on the right track however. When I started this in 2015 I vowed to Sex Love and Washing Clothes everyday (#everyday2015). I was writing this blog to help teach women that being just a mom and wife was okay and to give purpose to myself, so I created Sex Love and Washing Clothes. It superficially helped my relationship back in 2015, gave the Hubs what he desired (more sex) and gave me purpose in my writing ans sharing my story with others like myself who needed to feel whole and were “just a mom.” Well, part way into that year I went back to work because I wanted to help our family afford a new car and help take pressure off the Hubs for the whole financial liability. So I went from being a stay at home mom to being a working mom and at one point I was working two jobs. To say the least the focus of my purpose got lost. It took a turn away from the original purpose and life got in the way…

I still did Sex Love and Washing Clothes everyday in 2015. In 2016 we kept it up pretty well and then I went into private practice and had many struggles to stay happy in our relationship. We spent 2017 trying to figure out how our family could survive with my being in private practice and decided I should work from home. So in 2018 I have been working my private practice from home and starting to feel settled and good together again. It has been rough. Many days I have thought about just giving up and writing a divorce blog. But we are stubborn and won’t give up that easily. Which brings me here today. Writing for me has been to justify my feelings and process my emotions. I just bought the book by Daniel Goleman called Emotional Intelligence. I am familiar with Emotional Intelligence and it is very important to understand that it comes from within.

In relationships understanding your emotions, where they come from and the fact that you are solely responsible for them is a valuable lesson. What you do with your emotions is on you. Being happy makes you more desirable and makes more people want to be with you. You have to own your happiness. Your partner can contribute to that happiness but they cannot provide that happiness, it’s a hard lesson sometimes to learn but once learned both people in a relationship can take their happiness to the next level. I am ready for the next level. Let’s do this and see what kind of sex comes out of it… I am ready to get back to writing about the crazy things in life and inspiring lovers to take it to the next level!

We are looking forward to changing our ways and living happy! Join us friends, it’s a choice come along with our journey!

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Where’d You Go?

15 Thursday Feb 2018

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I just received a question if I really decided to quit blogging. I have not. I have considered it. I miss blogging everyday and being free to write about anything I want. I still am free to write about anything but I have placed judgements on myself lately and that has made me censor myself. I don’t like that. I don’t want to censor myself. I love my writing to be open and honest and real. But lately I have censored myself and I hate that I need to relax and just fucking write my feelings, thoughts and encouragement.

To my readers who have been wanting to hear from me, apologies. I will be back. I want to be back better than ever! I am having self esteem issues. I am being super judgemental of my everything. My inner prude is coming out again with my conservative parenting. What happened to my “Fuck It” attitude?

Maybe now I just have too much to lose? Stop fucking judging yourself Ruby!

Maybe if I win the HGTV Dream house tomorrow and don’t need an income it will come back sooner. Maybe if I can learn how to make some money blogging or writing, then I can make it my second job and put in the energy I really should in order to have a successful blog!

Anyway that’s the update in my this here Ruby Earl! I am still here, I have not left you. Just needed some time to rethink and reset…

#SLWC2018

Productive Weekend

06 Tuesday Sep 2016

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Happy Monday, wait, it’s Tuesday! Happy Tuesday! This was Labor Day Weekend. Did you get in some end of summer R&R? Or were you uber productive and finished cleaning out the closets before the kids go back to school? We had a very chill weekend. The kids went to Gma’s one last time before they leave for AZ for a few weeks and the Hubs and I just relaxed. He had worked Thursday night all night. He went back to work Thursday evening at 10pm and then came home at 11:45 Friday morning. We had originally planned to go away one last weekend camping at the ocean but being up all night working has a way of altering those kind of weekend plans.

dream hungry demonsSo instead, Gma and Gpa came to get the kids so they could “steal” them for the weekend. I was quite thankful because  I needed an adult only weekend kind of a break. Gma and Gpa picked up the kids around 11am then the Hubs and I went back to bed when they left. We slept, fucked, watched football, fucked some more, then got out of bed had dinner and did it all again. We met up with friends we haven’t seen in a while Sunday evening and then Monday we went shooting.

We had a very productive weekend. Not in a sense of getting things accomplished but we made some really good connection, with each other. No doors to lock, didn’t have to be quiet and didn’t have to be anywhere! It was a relaxing chill weekend. No washing clothes, no schedule, no demands except the way we felt about each other. We had lots of sex this weekend. I did get a few ideas for Hump Day Challenges but do you think I wrote them down or remember my ideas at all? Not currently, I will get better at writing things down one day! We had a great reboot this weekend.

The Hubs and I really needed a reboot kind of weekend. Not really because things have been bad (although it has not been smooth sailing) but because we are busy. It’s hard to stay connected when you are going in so many different directions and have schedules and other people that take priority just because of the demands of the schedule of life. When this happens we all need to get grounded and focus on priorities and give each other a little grace. The Hubs and I talked this morning about not letting the busy-ness and demands of kids, school, work, jobs, coaching duties get in the way of knowing that we love each other and staying connected. We all get tired but we all need to take the time to nourish our relationships.

One day there will be no kids to take to practice and work will slow down and we may even retire, we need to make sure that we still know and love our partner, when life slows down, that’s when life will get really good. I am not saying mine is a model relationship, we have our problems and struggles. We still have more good than bad and nurturing our relationship is important to us. We do that by taking weekends like this one. I would love to do it once a month but that is just not realistic, but when I start to see and feel that lack of connection, arguing over washing clothes and just that bluh feeling about my relationship that is the time to look at the calendar, contact one of the Grandparents or some really great friends to take the kids so we can have adult time. Sometimes we go away and sometimes we send the kids with Gma but we get alone time!

We also take a date night, every week. Right now we are on Tuesday, it is our weeknight date night. We usually also do get in a Weekend date night as well. I know there are many people who judge us and how much we go out and take date nights and weekends sans kids. But, I really think it is important for every marriage or partnership to have that time. When the kids are grown and gone we need to still know and love the one we met and had those said kids with.

It is important to take the time to nourish the relationship with your lover and almost as important to teach your children how to do that. Children see us fighting, I know studies show we shouldn’t fight around our kids, we try not to, but let’s be honest they see it, they need to see us make up and they need to see us loving each other as well. It is important to take care of ourselves individually as well. I want to inspire you to take the time to take care of your relationship with your lover. One of the easiest ways to do that is to have more sex! If you can’t get away or have no one to take care of the kids, lock your bedroom door turn up some music and enjoy the naked physical love of your partner. I promise it is well worth it even when you are tired!

Go make connection with your mate, have more sex! Of course being nice, helping each other cook and clean and keep up with the tedious tasks of a busy life helps too, but there is nothing like having a great relationship with you spouse and having great sex with them as well!

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We Made It To The Beach

05 Tuesday Jul 2016

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Well we made it to the beach! We got off to a late start leaving the house (surprise surprise) then as we stopped for lunch and for cash at the bank The Hubs heard air coming from the tires. Earlier this season he had flat tires one morning when him and The Boy were on a trip for baseball. So we knew it had to be addressed. We did not want to have a blow out or flat on the side of the road so we stopped by Les Schwab and took care of he tires. Nothing $600 wouldn’t fix! 
Luckily we were close to a Wetlands area that has hiking trails and board walks that we took advantage of and went for a 3.5 mile walk around the wetlands. Then we were on our way a couple hours later it only took is about 7 hours to get here and usually takes 1.5-2.

We were met by our neighbor camper who was on his second ‘Margameeta’ he liked watching us set up because we were a young couple and young couples always have cool gadgets! I think it will be a fun week of camping. I love the waves and the sound of the ocean. Can’t wait for our typical yoga and kite flying sessions out on the beach tomorrow!

I love vacation!

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Weekend Getaway Sex!

26 Sunday Jun 2016

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It’s Sunday! The Hubs and I went away for the weekend. I stayed home sick with oain from a bladder infection Friday so we even got out a little earlier than planned. We headed south to Portland. It was a fun time and a nice escape. We started the mini 7 day sex challenge Thursday (which was a struggle with a bladder infection) so actually we started it Friday.

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We had a great sex-e-scape thus weekend. We did it when we woke up Friday morning at home, before we went out to dinner Friday night, then  in the morning Saturday, before we went out Saturday Night and then when we came home Saturday night after hanging at the clubs, as well as before we left this morning! We went to bed early Friday (weird for vacation but the Hubs worked all night Thursday git home at 4:15am) and I was not feeling well still and had to pee every 5 minutes slept in and got up around 10:30 Saturday. We had a really relaxing weekend! Not super touristy it adventurous but filled with sleep and sex which for us is somehow what we needed!

So now we are heading home north on I-5 we have a baseball party tonight, so I have a dish to make and some shopping to do on the way home for drinks and plates and napkins etc for the party. We are chilling contemplating our life quietly as we drive. Sometimes recently we get to over thinking our life and over analyzing and causing stress. Hopefully we will stop doing that because that is a sorce of stress we don’t need in our life right now.

The Hubs and I are as always working out some kinks in life that cause stress. Since it is summertime we have got to organize life so house cleaning gets done, laundry gets done etc. I have been working so much and have so much other commitments it has been rough around the house lately! Probably way past time to schedule a house cleaner to help out! And to out together a chore chart!

But for now I am going to sit back enjoy the tunes and the ride in the car just relaxing before I have to get home and cook and unpack and get ready for a baseball party! How is everyone doing on the Mini 7 day challenge? I think the Hubs and I have completed it with the amount if times we fucked this weekend but we will continue and today is set up to be another two-a-day!

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Hooray for weekends away!

12 Saturday Mar 2016

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It feels good to be heading out of town for a little weekend away! The Hubs will be working, however, it still will be a nice escape. He is helping out a buddy with a house project. I hear there is snow where we are going. Not sure I am prepared for that but I am sure there are heaters and blankets in our room at the B&B we are staying.

I have never stayed at a Bed and Breakfast. I am excited. I called our friend to see if they can set The Hubs up with a little surprise in our room because it is his Birthday on Sunday!! I didn’t think about it until this afternoon. I also told him it was no big deal so no worries. We’ll see what he comes up with, if anything. If I would have thought about it I could have made a sign to hang in the room or on the door with a little care package! But oh well. That’s the normal crazy Ruby shit that I do, think of after the fact or too late.

It’s about a three hour drive. I am a bit nervous, is a Bed and Breakfast just a big house? Or is it actually like a hotel? I hope the walls aren’t paper thin. The Hubs and I plan to test out some new lube in the Jo Premium line. They have a huge selection of products now and even sell some supplements and cosmetic type stuff. We just selected two this time. We have All Natural Organic Lube with Chamomile to try and a new type of water based Anal Lube…oops here I go being TMI again. Most of you don’t mind and many of you probably miss that from when I first started, right? Well, Jo Premium has redone their whole line of products. New packaging, new products and options, ingredients and all. Our local sex megastore has been redone. It is not as much of a “Megastore” any longer it is much smaller and feels more boutique-y. Which is nice, especially for shy girls like me. So the new Jo line anchors it over on the side wall. Right before you get to all the Higher end toys!

FYI, the new Anal toy that I wrote about yesterday was nice. We brought it with us in the suitcase. (No leaving it on the nightstand here!) Anyway, I am hoping for a safe trip we have about an hour left or so to drive. Can’t wait to experience a Bed and Breakfast see some old friends (including one of my besties who I miss desperately) It will be a great weekend trip. Quick but much needed weekend away!

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Negative Bluh

28 Sunday Feb 2016

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Today started out shitty! The Hubs and I got into am argument! Then we had baseball practice for the Boy. Then came home watch TV and the Hubs worked on the Boys glove (I snoozed in the couch), then we had dinner and took the kids to see Star Wars: The Force Awakens again. So it ended well (not that it’s over).

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I am stressed and exhausted I don’t see a way out of this. I work, I am still the momand feeling like I will always be behind and running  from “what the fuck am I doing” and “when will I get time to ______?” I am feeling a bit negative, it frustrates me and I want to be positive and just can’t shake this negativity. Writing about it is making it worse so I am going to go back to watching Mythbusters and maybe pour a glass of wine and have some chocolate. Hopefully some attitude adjustment sex that doesn’t lead to an argument later would be good tonight!

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Ready To Turn it Around

23 Tuesday Feb 2016

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Quote_AlwaysRecommitDontBeatYourselfUpOk, so it’s confession time! Yesterday’s blog was a new beginning and a recommitment and I failed! The Hubs worked late teaching and by the time he was home I was spent. I didn’t feel good, made excuse after excuse and he took my sexual “advance” as not a serious bid for sex, can’t blame him it was weak. So today is the new beginning! We kind of got into an argument over it but regardless we didn’t have sex yesterday! Today is a new day!

Today, actually I feel normal again. After being sick last week and kind of in a fog for a while I feel focused and in control of my life again. I am super busy at work but I kind of feel like I have a new rhythm and routine. No working at the bar tonight, no kids or husband sick, not sick myself and now I am ready to commit to this life and regain control! No more playing from behind the 8 ball, not that I really understand that analogy I don’t play much pool, but I am ready to start 2016 again! So here we go!

I had a good day, did one load of laundry (even though it is still in the dryer) cooked dinner for the fam, the house is clean-ish and I feel accomplished for the day! The kids are in bed and even got in their reading today now it is time to sit next to my husband on the couch and snuggle then mount up for some naked adult fun before we drift off to sleep for the night! I am ready for this. I know I have a lot on my plate but I am ready to conquer this thing called my life! Here we go Ruby get ready to turn this life around! I got this!

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We Have Landed

26 Saturday Dec 2015

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Well, we have arrived home on Christmas Night. Before we left California we had a nice-ish Christmas dinner (The Hubs normally make prime rib and that is the bomb so that is the reason for the ‘ish’). The flight was fine but The Girls suitcase did not make it down the ramp to baggage claim. So hopefully it will be delivered unharmed tomorrow but if not then we will have to buy her a new wardrobe. I helped pack her  suit case with the extra  stuff she didn’t know she needed. Oh well a shopping trip is in order. There actually are new boots for her under the tree from her Auntie.

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My heart is happy. I hope yours is too. If your kids opened gifts and gave you a warm fuzzy feeling I hope it lasts longer than the toys work and get played with and longer than the new clothes fit. I am so grateful that we had the opportunity to take the kids to Disneyland for this Christmas! We made memories that will last a lifetime! Christmas is about drawing back to your family. Whatever accomplishes that for you..a church service, gifts or a trip, I say do and do it big! Hug your kids and your parents hard and long. Kiss your partner or spouse and fuck hard and long! Take this moment to reflect and be in it! Live and love to the fullest. Say I love you, out loud, to your family. If you traveled get home safe and take these moments with you and savor these memories!

I look forward to my own bed and pillow and my husband naked beside me and inside me. (Leave it to me to make a sappy Inspirational post about sex.) Merry Christmas everyone!

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It Was a Perfect Day!

23 Wednesday Dec 2015

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Today was our first day in Disneyland of our Christmas Vacation! We had so much fun! It did rain but hey, we are from Western Washington we are used to the rain! We rode Splash Mountain early and I took the front seat and proceeded tobget my pants soaked! They just got somewhat dry the pockets and seems are still damp! We we there from about 7:30a to 11:30p. We rode Star Tours, Space Mountain, The Matterhorn, Big Thunder Mountain, Pirates of the Caribbean and Indiana Jones twice!

The longest wait was at the Matterhorn a total of 1 hour and that included about 15 minutes for a shut down for a quick repair. While there we spoke with the head Maintenance guy. He told us silly jokes and then after he gave us VIP access to skip the line for Peter Pan and then gave us a front the line pass for anything ride we wanted. It was so sweet what a nice guy he was, Thanks to Jeff!

We had a great day! Loved it all. The kids did awesome! They were well behaved enjoyed themselves, didn’t fight too much. The Hubs really was amazing too! I love it when we can just go with the flow and really be in the moment! Loved it!!!

One of the best Christmas’s ever!

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