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It’s Up To You

24 Tuesday Jul 2018

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Happiness is a choiceIt has been a while since I have written. There are many reasons, the obvious or easy answer is I have been busy. The real answer is I haven’t felt that I can be honest or real and that is tragic in this blog. I have not been what I would call happy. I have missed writing and I feel like getting away from writing has separated me from some of my feelings, honestly. It has bee hard in the Earl household lately. The Hubs and I have struggled. I believe we are getting back on the right track however. When I started this in 2015 I vowed to Sex Love and Washing Clothes everyday (#everyday2015). I was writing this blog to help teach women that being just a mom and wife was okay and to give purpose to myself, so I created Sex Love and Washing Clothes. It superficially helped my relationship back in 2015, gave the Hubs what he desired (more sex) and gave me purpose in my writing ans sharing my story with others like myself who needed to feel whole and were “just a mom.” Well, part way into that year I went back to work because I wanted to help our family afford a new car and help take pressure off the Hubs for the whole financial liability. So I went from being a stay at home mom to being a working mom and at one point I was working two jobs. To say the least the focus of my purpose got lost. It took a turn away from the original purpose and life got in the way…

I still did Sex Love and Washing Clothes everyday in 2015. In 2016 we kept it up pretty well and then I went into private practice and had many struggles to stay happy in our relationship. We spent 2017 trying to figure out how our family could survive with my being in private practice and decided I should work from home. So in 2018 I have been working my private practice from home and starting to feel settled and good together again. It has been rough. Many days I have thought about just giving up and writing a divorce blog. But we are stubborn and won’t give up that easily. Which brings me here today. Writing for me has been to justify my feelings and process my emotions. I just bought the book by Daniel Goleman called Emotional Intelligence. I am familiar with Emotional Intelligence and it is very important to understand that it comes from within.

In relationships understanding your emotions, where they come from and the fact that you are solely responsible for them is a valuable lesson. What you do with your emotions is on you. Being happy makes you more desirable and makes more people want to be with you. You have to own your happiness. Your partner can contribute to that happiness but they cannot provide that happiness, it’s a hard lesson sometimes to learn but once learned both people in a relationship can take their happiness to the next level. I am ready for the next level. Let’s do this and see what kind of sex comes out of it… I am ready to get back to writing about the crazy things in life and inspiring lovers to take it to the next level!

We are looking forward to changing our ways and living happy! Join us friends, it’s a choice come along with our journey!

#Change2018

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Porn vs Plot

12 Thursday Apr 2018

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It’s late but we need a Hump Day Challenge. It’s tough because the Hubs is gone right now. I have struggled with Hump Day Challenges lately. Our lives have been busy and the relationship is tough when you feel overwhelmed and stressed and that makes sex tough. When I started this blog it was to capitalize on our great sex to ground our marriage in. But lately the great sex is not coming as easy, our kids are getting older, staying up later (our bedrooms are in a line) they are more interested in what we are doing and they are busy multiple sports competitions and involved in school projects etc. Makes a sex life tricky! So many excuses! So here we go Ruby it’s time to get help. I pulled out my drawer in my night stand and saw my superhotsex deck by Tracey Cox. It’s a deck of cards (flash card size) that have suggestions of sexual session topics. Very interesting and detailed! Use tools like this to spice up your sex life! Don’t be shy get open minded and let down those walls of judgement!

Today I drew randomly and pulled a “lust lessons and fantasies” card titled Porn Versus Plot. I have written a few Porn and Poking Hump Day Challenges so this is the direction we are going to go again. If you have your own pull those out and put them in the DVD or Blue Ray player or whatever device you use. Some people have a subscription to a magazine or website or others use free sites such as Worldsex.com. Pick one a motion picture version. Male fantasies tends to be more direct up close and getting it on very visual focused on the act of sex and the physicalness they usually don’t care what the people look like as long as they see dick and pussy or even up close girl on girl. Women on the other hand usually prefer at least a little bit of plot and romance and pretty people. They want to see a hot guy come up and be romantic watch him licking her pussy and other tantalizing pleasurable fore play actions, where as the men typically gravitate right to the sex.

My challenge to you is to grab your laptop or pull up your videos on the big screen if you prefer, and find your favorite scene. Scrolling through a website works well for this because you have the thumbnails to preview what your clicking on. Watch a few scenes feel free to click away if you land on one that you don’t like. (If your new to porn it will be when you both get warmed up and stop feeling weirded out by this exercise) Choose what you like. If the site you are on has a section for categories it may be easy to pick out one. Each of you pick your favorite category and possibly your favorite video. Note to the opposite partner the videos she/he chooses are what turns her/him on, so take notes on what you see and what you hear for future reference.

My suggestion is you both choose a video once you get enough of each others decide on one, maybe one of the same you chose or pick a new clip to watch and copy what you see or at least start to copy what you see. Maybe he starts going down on her and he goes down on you then you take off on your own sexcapade! The sexual energy you will feel from the movie and each other should be enough to take you through your whole sex session into a very fulfilling orgasm. You may not make it that far you might want to watch a few less warm up videos, use your judgement.

Remember to relax. If something comes up that makes you or your partner uncomfortable, turn it off because it’s not for you. Don’t ever pressure your partner to do or see things that make them uncomfortable! If you like it and your partner is cringing…still, turn it off! Talk about it later but tonight is for you and your partner to have fun and use the fantasy aspect of watching porn and figure out what you like. Maybe you will learn a new technique. Don’t be judgmental, if people in the movie are doing things you don’t like, don’t judge your partner for liking that, maybe they can teach you how to like it so be a little open minded but be honest with each other. Communication is important. Don’t get pissed at your man for getting turned on by two hot girls with one man. Just because he enjoys the fantasy on the screen does not me he is going to to act it out later, nor is she fellas! Trust is important porn can be used as a very good foreplay tool if you let it.

So go have some fun take your time and enjoy each other as you play voyeur and see what you like and play out some of those fantasies in real life!

Go fuck and be merry!

#HumpDayChallenge2018

XXX-Steak and BJ Day!

14 Wednesday Mar 2018

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steak and bj dayToday is the perfect day to get back here to start Hump Day Challenges again. Maybe tomorrow I will post a life update so you all can know where I’ve been and what I am thinking. But today is National Steak and Blow Job Day. Which basically was a male joke gone viral but hey, this is Sex Love and Washing clothes and it’s Wednesday and my sexual creativity lately has been lacking so here we go! Apparently some guys are all bitter over spending money for Valentines Day a month ago so they created this cute ‘holiday’. Ok, I’m down, I’ll play!

Today’s Hump Day Challenge is a Blow Job or Cunnilingus for the ladies. There is no slang for Cunnilingus for the ladies when I hear Blow Job however I think of Cunnilingus as the a blow job too, it is a female version. However I don’t think of cunnilingus as as much of a job as Fellatio… anyway digression! Women can get Blow Jobs too!

Give your lover oral sex! For the sake of this hump day challenge Steak is optional but who wants to miss out on a reason to have steak? Lick, suck and slobber your way to your partners orgasm! Then lay back and allow him to return the favor! Some like raunchy loud and slurpy the louder the dirtier the better. Yet others like to be quiet and pretty but I don’t care just do it and enjoy it! Relax and have fun giving your lover pleasure. Remember this is not just to the Male aspect of Blow Jobs it is to both partners. I am already excited for this one! Go get you some!

#SteakandBJ2018

XXX-Sext Up Some Interest-XXX

31 Wednesday Jan 2018

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if you never did you shouldHappy Hump Day! Today the Hump Day Challenge is to get out of your comfort level. Well for some of you, anyway. Since it’s the beginning of the year I want to ease into things sort of and get you communicating differently. The Hubs and I struggle hard core on communication. Believe it or not he is more sexually driven than me. He likes to have dirty talk and like sexual innuendo and most of the time I am stuck and confused about how to answer. Many times I respond with LOL or send back and emoji but he really wants is for me to get involved with the conversation. So, the best advice I can give you is PRACTICE and just do it. Write something back until if feels normal. The hump day challenge this week is, we are going to sext each other.

Start off by sending a text that says something like “I can’t wait to see your naked body” or some partners may want (or even need) more. Point is: Know your audience. If your man likes the details of how long and where you will put his member when you get home by all means go for it. However, if your wife is a stay at home mom who sometimes lets your kids play with her phone while she is shopping give her a warning first. “Hey, babe. Little man is not looking right?” she responds with “no” Then go ahead  with “when he goes to bed tonight I’m going to lick your luscious pussy until you beg for my cock” then she can respond back with a pic of her pussy (after she escapes from Little Man of course)

Sexting is a fine art. You have to be careful what and when you send texts and if your partner has a work phone probably don’t want to send it there…or maybe you do for some extra danger (but don’t say I didn’t warn you if negative backlash comes). I love the idea of sexting my spouse. He loves it. There’s not a whole lot of anything that can’t be cheered up with a nice shot of my tits… Get my smile in there too then he is set for the day!

If sending photos don’t worry about how you look there are not too many sexual positions you are in that you will think are attractive, but he will. I know it’s usually the girls who have that self consciousness. Men, some ladies love a good dick pic, however many of us can live without. My preference is to not get them. However, I love a good six pack paired with  boxer briefs… I love my husbands smile and I love a guy in sunglasses. My point is that we women are a little harder to understand and please, so do your homework and find out what your gal likes before sending the dick pic.

Your hump day challenge today is to sext up your lover! Give them a story or just a short tease what ever you feel like and make sure you know it is something they are into. The point is to start a playful conversation that leads to foreplay that leads to sex that leads to two orgasms!

#SLWC2018

Date Night Fun

30 Tuesday Jan 2018

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Happy Tuesday Date Night!!! I have missed date nights. Since being on Dry January the Hubs has not wanted to do date night because our date nights usually consist of going to a bar. He is not into going to a bar and not drinking. So tonight we planned a sober date night! We only have 2 more Dry January days but, still…

We are off to Castles Megastore for more Lube to start off the night. They are open until 10pm so we can make it there after practices.

Then we are going to see Greatest Showman. Some go out for dinner and a movie, we go get lube and a movie…Trial reviews coming, we bought 3 different lubes to try and some other sample thingy. It was some sort of stimulation cream, ‘Plump’ for him and something you put on your G-Spot for me. More details in a review to come later…

Back to date night, no more phones tonight!

#SLWC2018

XXX-Finger Lips-XXX

24 Wednesday Jan 2018

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oral sexHappy Hump Day! Today’s Hump Day Challenge kind of pairs with last week. Last week it was all about the boys, this week it is all about the girls. Lets start with getting a manicure. Go to the nail shop, there they will not only file and trim your nails but soak your hands and soften the skin on your hands to be smooth as silk. When your lady gets ready you are going to give her the lick of her life.

When you go down on her as your face closes in on her pussy, consciously breathe out while approaching her luscious lips to lick. That will draw her brain’s attention down there and she will just notice that something amazing is about to happen. Softly start kissing and licking her outer labia, work your tongue in between her luscious lips and find her clit. Play with that for a bit, you will feel it firm up, if it hasn’t already. Feel free to add some humming or moaning as you go along. The vibration will add yet another level of stimulation. As she is getting going and to add even more sexual stimulation, use your hands to touch her body. Touch her everywhere, but some maybe even most, women really like their nipples stimulated when they get oral, but don’t ignore the whole boob. Caress it, her whole boob, in your hand and then with two fingers roll the nipple around and rock your finger back and forth on her nipple, alternating this will be best. You will feel her body writhe with pleasure under you and she may even start grinding on your face.

If you are worried that you don’t know what to do, pretend you are making out with her, just like you would kiss her. Suckle, lick, suck and then when you are ready to take it to the next level, insert a finger (or two) in her pussy. Keep licking and keep your other hand caressing her breasts and stimulating her nipple. As she gets even more into it you keep your tongue going, she may even be grabbing your head and pressing it into her, insert another finger into her pussy. Feel her G-spot it is a bumpy area inside of her vaginal canal, on the front side of her body. Now, walk yourself up her body and kiss and make out with her, insert your cock inside of her and fuck her for a little while, but do not let her come yet, unless you plan on giving her multiple orgasms.

Before she climaxes, go back down on her finger her while you lick her and stimulate her sexual region. Make sure your fingers are super wet with saliva or even  considering grabbing some lube for the next step; gently insert a finger in her ass. (If anal play is new to her start with your pinky because it is small,  this is where the manicure comes in handy the anal canal is super sensitive don’t want to scratch her that will really turn her off to anal play and maybe all together.) Don’t need to worry about moving that finger much maybe a little back and forth or gently with the whole movement of her body and your whole hand. Keep your tongue going and keep a finger in her pussy as you add the anal play. Check in with her or at least make sure she is enjoying it. The Double penetration is sure to send her over the edge! The key is to go slow and make sure she knows what you are doing especially if it’s new. If you do it right she will be grinding on your face and you will have the taste of pussy juices on your upper lip for the rest of the night. And hey, maybe you will get a returned favor (but please don’t ask her for it, let her enjoy her “O” the same way she let you last week, let her offer it to you).

The combination of fingering her and oral is sure to get her going even if she is not that into sex! She will go from stressed to impressed by you in just a few licks and finger strokes. I prefer to finish with my man in my pussy and he knows that so that is how we do foreplay, but you are free to explore with your lover and decide how to go about this. Don’t hesitate to make oral a regular occurrence in your sex sessions. It is a great way to get your partners body going. My body, like many other women, tends to need a little more assistance getting horny than the Hubs, like most men you just say sex and they are standing at attention, and this is a go to for him and I top be on the same page. Honestly it is one reason we have such great sex. I remember when he got good at it and it is when our sex life hit the next level! I hope you enjoy it as much as we do!

#SLWC2018

XXX-Red Lipstick-XXX

17 Wednesday Jan 2018

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Happy Hump Day! Did you know Red Lipstick in the red light community means you give blow jobs? Today this is your challenge!

Greet you man with a huge smile with bright or dark red lipstick on. Put his cock in your mouth and then take it out and admire it with your color around it. Look at him and smile then go back down on that. Feel it fill your mouth and lick it all over. Feel every bump and indentation with your tongue. Every once in a while look up with a mischievous smile and maybe a wink. Let him sit back and just watch you work.

If you can’t go start to finish with your mouth it’s okay. He likes it when you ride him and when you go back and forth with your mouth. You can give yourself breaks with your hand as well, let him touch you. Grab his ass, if he is standing, and pull him in closer to you! Lick the top of his cock play and tease it with your tongue and with your lips suck and even blow on it for extra stimulation. Wrap your hand around the base of his cock and put your mouth on top of your hand with him in your mouth, he will like the full contact on his dick! Do all of these things until he comes!

Have fun with it! Guys, you’re welcome! Be proud of what you did for your man and maybe if he wants, and if you want, you can let him return the favor.

#SLWC2018

XXX-You Get and O!-XXX

10 Wednesday Jan 2018

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Give her an orgasmHappy Hump Day! I am still working on getting writing in my schedule before the end of the night! Once again today here I am at 10:03. Anyway update from yesterday it was a bit of a downer but later in the day after the couch sucked me in for the morning in the evening I went for a 3 mile run and felt much better. I didn’t want to stop and I wanted to go again today however schedule did not allow it! I went running in the evening and it was dark and I survived. We have a nice well lit running/walking trail along the water downtown so I felt pretty safe down there! So there I know I go in the dark and be safe. There is nothing like a runners high!

Well actually yes there is the feeling you get from an Orgasm that leads me to the Hump Day Challenge for today the first of 2018 (since we started SLCW Monday). Todays challenge is to get to the big “O” this may sound strange if you and your partner are always on the same page and orgasm together every time and are both as satisfied as the other. I love sex with The Hubs. He is great at taking time on me to make sure I get off and enjoy what we are doing. However as we get older and busier and life happens my mind gets side tracked and my body doesn’t always respond the way it should. I am pretty sure I am not the only one. So sometimes we either fake it, or just let our partner know the body is not working so go ahead and finish so we can get to sleep or because the longer you are taking the more stressed you are about it and just want to satisfy your lover and give him what he deserves for all the effort he is putting in.

So today you must fuck your partner until you both come! Remember it is not a rule that you come at the same time or even the same way. Some women cannot orgasm with intercourse. Some need your tongue to get the wetness flowing and a little G-spot stimulation to finishe the deed. While others need to self stimulate or many other combinations of those and many other methods. Remember for women the biggest sex organ is her brain, the one that won’t shut down counting chores that she needs to do and trying to remember what she needed at the grocery store. Give her permission to stop thinking.

Men are usually the easier sex to SEX. Some men however need a little more as well. Oral goes a long way, so does dirty talk. Tell him how hard and how big he is and how great he feels inside you. Let him see you! Visual stimulation is huge for men much more than women so if he needs help leave the light on! Feel free to move around positions places to allow him to fuck you, positions and even if he needs to give some self stimulation today’s hump day goal is for both to have orgasm while you’re fucking each other but that may not mean there is no self stimulation. Remember there are no rules! Anything goes as long as you both Get Off!

Cheers to your “O”!

#SLWC2018

Steamy Windows

09 Thursday Nov 2017

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FUCK!!! It’s Wednesday and it’s almost over and I forgot to post a hump day challenge!

Quickly, today challenge brought to you by sitting in a car dealership all day! Fuck in a car! This is harder than it sounds especially since cars of today are not like those in the 50’s. The back seat of that ’57 Chevy was much more conducive to fucking than that of today’s BMW 5 series…but minivans, that’s another story… You go soccer mom!

But get creative, go in the back seat, ride him on the passenger seat, fold down the back seats and don’t in the trunk. Get the gear shifter out of the way and pull out his big stick!

Find a place that is secluded to park with a view of the city take a moment to enjoy the view but even if it’s right when you pull in the driveway before you go inside…it’s hot to have sex in a car! Especially with the idea or the risk of getting caught…just don’t get caught!

No driving while giving it getting head, it’s dangerous! But you are adults now you can fuck him wherever it feels good! Enjoy the view and get it on in the car!

#Carsex

XXX-Doggie Style-XXX

05 Wednesday Apr 2017

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It is hard to fuck when sharing a room with your kids!! The Hubs had work meetings in Texas this week and it’s Spring Break, so the kids and I flew down with him to enjoy some sunshine and warm weather. We needed to escape the Gray PNW! So I’m laying here in bed thinking of a Hump Day Challenge while the kids are still sleeping. It’s kind of hard to even do that just to think about it. But I will try for those of you who have doors between you and your children!


The Hubs and I will probably end up taking a shower together to get our “alone time” and lock the door behind us! But I am really trying to add different types of Hump Day Changes here so this week is Doggie Style! 

She bends over on her hands and knees and he enters her from behind. There are plenty of options here! Men you can grab a hold of her hips and rub her ass as you fuck her. You will be able to look at and admire her sexy womanly shape her curves and waist and hips. Look at how sexy her shape is. If you have long arms play with her titties or reach around and play with her clit as well. 

If you two are adventurous you can even try anal from here. Just go slow make sure she is ready for it and use really good lube! This can be a really intense position so make sure you communicate and respect with each other.

Enjoy the ride tonight folks. Lock you door and do it! Hey, and you can even watch TV while your fucking! Gotta love doggie style!! Go get you some!

#Sex2017