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40 Days to A Better Connection

07 Tuesday Mar 2017

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40-day-challengeSo this post was supposed to happen Wednessday! This previous Wedness was Ash Wednessday. Every year Catholics and some others of Christian faith participate in giving something up for Lent. Lent is the time that Jesus spent away praying before he was crucified. (I never “celebrated” Lent my family did not participate so this is all I gather from the outsiders point of view.) So now in the time of Facebook and social media I see posts every year of friends who are giving up social media or chocolate or French fries or some who vow to do something good for themselves. Every year for the last few years I have toyed with the idea to do “Lent” but have never followed through. So this year since I remembered it on a Wednessday I am making it a bit of a hump day challenge! Lent is 40 days Jesus spent 40 days and 40 night praying. It’s about 6 weeks until Easter. 6 weeks is a very biblical time frame if you haven’t figured it out there is more than science around why so many programs to better yourself are 6 weeks long.

So here goes let’s do Lent Sex Love and Washing Clothes style! We are going to break it down here:

Sex: Fuck as much as you can. Everyday if possible but realisticly most of us won’t. So, Do every Hump Day Challenge and have sex as much on the off days as you can! But EVERY DAY sext your lover! Especially if you can’t fuck! Send a dirty picture, maybe it’s your boobs maybe it’s a sexy story you tell or a full on play by play text/sext story! It can be a shot of your naked boobs, your naked pussy or a sexy shot of your cleavage. You go to the bathroom how many times a day? Take your phone at least once and grab an opportunity to take a naked or partially naked picture.

Love: Say “I love you” EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Kiss goodnight, go to bed at the same time, go on dates and/or write love notes! Love notes via text or hand written…BOTH! For some of you this is easy, if it’s not easy I bet you can remember a time when it was. Do you know what will make it easier again? PRACTICE!!! So get to showing love ladies and gents!!! This should be easy it just takes effort and time it really is not hard to say I love you or to write a love note! Take time and write a few when you have a little time and use them under your partners pillow or in their lunch box. When you don’t have time to write on paper…write a text telling them you favorite thing about them!!

Washing Clothes:  This is the tough one! Make a commitment to wash clothes everyday. If this is easy but you and the spouse fight about dishes then make a commitment to do the dishes. Remember when I started this I said “washing clothes” is a metaphor for all the house work and homemaking tasks that need done. If you really need to vacuum everyday do that but make it the same thing everyday! My kids do the dishes and The Hubs really wants the laundry to not get out of control and yes two years after starting Sex Love and Washing Clothes I still need to work on the actual washing of the clothes, so that is my task. I will be starting a load of laundry in the morning (FUCK I already forgot today) then in the afternoon transferring it to the dryer and in the evening the kids will be able to fold and then I will put my clothes away… Or some way or another I will wash clothes and get them put away. No more laundry piles regardless of clean or dirty until after Easter…

So there your have it for Lent you are doing Sex Love and Washing Clothes! …We are doing Sex Love and Washing Clothes! I need a boost in my relationship I think this will help. It is a focus on eachother what better way to reconnect than to Sex Love and Washing Clothes. Everyone in the relationship is working at bettering it! It a relationship focus not a me or you focus! Let’s do this and by Easter let’s check in and see how it helped!

Good luck Challengers here we go!

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Ruby’s New Focus Tool

06 Sunday Nov 2016

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Today we spent the day cleaning. I love when my husband helps to get the house cleaned and organized, but I also hate it when he does too. Most of the time, the Hubs and I clash on so many levels. He doesn’t understand why I can’t focus and I can’t understand what the heck he is doing and how the fuck I am supposed to do it his way!!! Today was a little different. We had a good day and little stress and no blow fight! Which is very surprising because we are oil and water when it comes to cleaning and organizing, but I am not complaining. I even got to watch my husband vacuum at the end of it! My bathroom that we have been remodeling is done and my bedroom is clean! We pulled everything out of drawers and reorganized everything. The Hubs even went through the gun safe and under the bed. I handled the stuff that got takend out of the medicine cabinet and the drawers of the new vanity. So everything is back in the bathroom area.

I also went through my night stand. It has two drawers in those drawers I found everything from old receipts from 1999 to sex toys. I also found index cards from Kinesiology class in massage school and yoga flash cards. There were a lot of books on a lot of subjects from sex to yoga to old Bible studies I did when my kids were babies. There was also a baby shoe and burp rag from the baby years. I loved going through all of it. There was also some costumes (If you can call the small pieces of fabric that) old creams and flavored lotions. Basically my whole sexual history in a nutshell was right there in front of me. Was pretty entertaining remembering where I came from. I was a very sheltered and prudish when The Hubs and I first got together. I have bought books about giving blow jobs, to anal sex and lotion products to go with it, and now here I am writing a blog about sex and relationship.

The Hubs and I have been through some rough spots but where we are now has really reassured me that we are doing at least some things right. We spend a lot of time together. Today we even cleaned together! We love having sex together. Maybe today we worked so well together because we started the day by having sex before we started cleaning! I don’t know if that was it or not that made the Hubs more patient with me than normal or maybe I was more focused than normal or we have been able to figure out jobs for me to do that I can do that works with my brain beter than we usually do. I think it was the sex. Maybe that’s a new ADD treatment that I need! Regardless, it worked.

Maybe what worked was one of my tasks was to go through my night stand and here is a sample of what I found in this pic! Maybe one reason I could focus was because this stuff is so interesting and fun to go through! 

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This Does Not Happen Often

05 Sunday Jun 2016

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I haven’t wrote since Thursday! It’s Sunday night! I was having crazy head anxiety Thursday. Friday, the Hubs and I had a talk. A talk that started off and sound very similar to fight! But things settled down and we actually had a good talk where we cleared the air and made progress instead of fighting in circles like we used to! (What the fuck changed that? I think we are maturing in our old age.) Anyway it was good to get on the same page and not have lingering issues that didn’t get resolved.

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The Hubs was sick last week. He is still not 100%.  I am a bit worried about him. He doesn’t get sick often and it doesn’t normally last. This is stomach stuff. I’ve been feeling frisky and he is feeling too sick to want to even have sex! This is a man who does nothing but think about sex with me. He still is making comments about how he loves my sexy body but climbs into bed lays down and closed his eyes. Sadness. Not only for me and not getting my sexual energy out but for him that he is feeling that bad.

This weekend was a fun chill weekend. We had two baseball games time with friends at their lake house and some family time outside this evening. It’s been a great weekend. My running buddy feels better so she and I finally got together this morning, after almost a week, and got in 5 miles which felt amazing! We are meeting tomorrow AM at 5:30.

So there is a quick synopsis of my normal chill weekend. What did you all do? I hope yours involved more sex than mine but there was a whole lotta love here in the Earl household. And there was even some washing clothes, I caught up and we folded and out away the massive piles of laundry. My countertops are visible now and there is food here for dinners through Tuesday! It was a successful Love and Washing Clothes week, sex was there but not as much as I’d like and not as much as the Hubs would like but he just can’t get past this tummy issue. (I’m making him go to the Dr if it doesn’t clear up in the near future!)

I’m going to snuggle my naked body against his (as long as it’s not too sweaty) and try to sleep. Tame this sexual energy and get some rest for the work week!

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Chill to be Productive

10 Sunday Apr 2016

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Happy end of the weekend. Oh sad!

less stress more sexThis weekend has been pretty calming and relaxing for the Hubs and I! The kids have been gone with Grandparents since Wednesday. I had a long day at work on Friday but since then it has been very relaxing. We had no schedule this weekend. We went to a detail shop where they had a car show, then drove the new car around to get help break in the engine. We took it easy yesterday. Then today we did some work around the house before the kids got home.

It’s amazing how not having a schedule is so affective on you sense of relaxation. It was very nice to get some stuff done around the house without having to finish in time for {fill in the _____}. The Hubs did some outside yardwork and I worked on some deep cleaning inside. It is nice to get stuff done on your own schedule. It sucks because it has to be done anyway but it is definitely nice to be able to go at my own pace for once. Which my cleaning pace it not very fast but it was nice to make progress! Then when the kids got home they folded clothes and got that task done too, YAY!

This weekend felt very productive, it was but really maybe I have such a positive feeling because the Hubs and I got in some pretty good sex too. We had morning sex both Saturday and Sunday. I know this may be TMI but that is not new for this blog. I know this weekend was productive but it’s not like we have been working and accomplishing a lot everyday just been on chill mode everyday. Maybe it is that euphoric and positive energy that is the byproduct of good sex. Who knows, does it matter? No. I think it is a little bit of both. Oh to have a calmer life and no schedule and be able to be in chill mode all the time…I guess that might be what retirement feels like!

Moral of the story:  Have more sex!

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XXX-Dirty Dishes-XXX

30 Wednesday Mar 2016

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Does your partner wash the dishes?

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While she is doing dishes (even if its not dishes make and effort when she is washing her face at night or when she’s brushing her teeth, make a romantic moment out of a chore) walk up behind her, wrap your arms around her and caress her. Not too tight so she can still finish the dishes. Pull her shirt off and play with her tits. Still, don’t constrict her movement she may get upset and thwart your efforts if she has to finish them in the morning! As soon as she outs that last dish on the drain board turn her around and kiss her start a big male out session. Take the rest of her clothes off miss and lick her whole body. Take her to bed and give her a proper thank you for taking care of you dirty dishes….

Be dirty with her! Give her a big O, she deserves it! Always appreciated those who clean up your mess!

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Massage Therapist Must Be a Model Of Self Care

08 Tuesday Dec 2015

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“A massage therapist who cannot budget adequate time for her own relaxation, rest, and fun may be a poor example for a client who struggles with over commitment and poor self-care. It is not enough to say, “Do as I say, not do as I do.” A massage therapist must be a model of healthy choices regarding self-care.”

I just read an article about massage and PTSD. This quote jumped out at me and reaffirms that I need to practice what I preach. Teaching Self Care has always been a big part of my massage practice. I would love to work with clients who have and are struggling with PTSD from former Military or formerly abused or traumatized by car accidents or work injuries. It has been passion on my heart recently. These patients need me to be 100% into their massage. I can’t go in tired of stressed about work, or home, or money, or anything that all has to stay outside. Which is why I need to be on top of my self care game. It is hard to serve from an empty vessel.

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I am having a chat with my boss about getting a raise so the need for me to work two jobs will be decreased. My family and time with them is very important to me and working the bar job puts quite a hindrance on that. I went back to work to pay for a car that we need and the Hubs really wants. I am pretty sure even without the bar job we could cover that right now, however with the bar job we have a good cushion for extra expenditures and don’t really have to be as “careful” with our spending. But self care and family time is more important!

Also in this quote, it talks about having time for fun and relaxation as a part of self care. I miss having time to run or go to the gym. I use my running time for thinking and clearing my head and managing my ADD. I haven’t fit that in since I have been so busy… Well, kind of with my blog but even time for that has been interfered with since I started working. Then, there is sleep and quality family time. I need to only work one job. I may be able to squeeze in one late night shift that starts after bedtime at the bar…maybe….

Anyway…I have a lot to do on this Tuesday ‘no schedule’ day, house cleaning, some BNI stuff, meal planning and even Grocery shopping… I want to make today very productive and I am feeling motivated!

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You Can Always Be Better

28 Saturday Nov 2015

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Hello Saturday! We have almost nothing scheduled. The Hub’s and his buddies played their turkey bowl today. I normally like to go and watch and see the guys but I decided to be more responsible and stay home and clean. My house needed some time from me cleaning. It still needs more but my attention span is over it. I still have to put a ton of laundry away. Maybe I can get the hubs to help with that!

This is going to sound weird but it was actually nice to get some time to clean up my kitchen and my house. All I did was dishes wipe down counter tops and dinning room table ect. I have a couple piles of paperwork to go through but it was nice to be cleaning I enjoyed the homemaker feeling again. Then I got sad that I don’t have more time to do that stuff. I enjoy the extra money I make working my two jobs but I wish, schedule wise, I had more freedom or could figure out how to better to manage my time!

Being super busy does not help. Every weekend we have stuff to do. Today is abnormal that we have nothing planned. Next weekend is show weekend and also a banquet for football volunteers that I have been very involved in organizing and they are on the same night! Shit! How am going to be two places at once? I guess I will be late to the banquet and hopefully there will still be peopleAlways compete be better there that I want to see and that there will still be food there! The event runs 5-11 and the show starts at 6 and I think it is supposed to be an hour and a half. So I am thinking we could probably get to the banquet by 8:30 or 9:00. Then Saturday we have a bazaar fundraiser that I am supposed to be sewing some hand warmer covers to sell for fundraising for dance but I think this year we will skip it. Our fundraiser for dance is me working two jobs! But I like doing crafty things so it is sad that I don’t really have time for it right now.

Anyway I am enjoying this down time I have today. I love being busy but I also love being able to fill my time with cleaning when I want to or crafting when I’d like to. I miss making cakes for everyone’s birthdays too. But I have to say is I am happy to be able to help financially with the family maybe one day I will be an owner and can hire people to work for me and then maybe, work less and do more of what I want… that will probably retirement! I don’t want to sound like I am complaining, I am not! I love my life. I love my family. We all should be happy where we are and do our best to be where we want to be but in the meantime love the life we have. I love my work, I love being busy, I love being able to have my daughter in dance, my son active, have season tickets and nope have to worry if we can afford new shoes. I do still take the time for myself to dance and enjoy life (I, like most people, should probably take more time for self care). Life is good! That doesn’t mean I want some things to be different or better. It’s that ‘Always Compete’ motto in life there is always room for improvement, never settle but always work hard to be better!

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Cleaning Out the Closet

11 Wednesday Nov 2015

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Today I organized my closet! I wish I took a Before pic but did not. The above is part of the after I feel like I was very productive today! I have a confession, I hired a professional organizer! We emptied and reorganized my closet in 3 hours. I was money well spent! I plan to keep it this way and springboard off to be a more organized working mom!

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It’s Only Weird If It Doesn’t Work

01 Sunday Nov 2015

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I am tired! I had to work at the bartending job today for the Seahawks game. Boo! I hate working on weekends and especially hate working during the Seahawks game! The Seahawks won, YAY!

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The Hubs and I had our ceremonial pregame sex ritual and it obviously worked! So, from now on we will make that happen before every game. (It’s only weird if it doesn’t work!)

I’m tired, I just finished making dinner and just about fell asleep eating dinner while watching Sunday Night Football. The leftovers are put away but there are dishes that need to be done (even those from breakfast) and cleaning of countertops ect but I don’t want to do it! I have already kicked my ass working today and I made breakfast and dinner! They can wait until tomorrow (unless I get a random sport of energy) I am done “working ” today. So that means I am done writing too! So have a good night everyone!

Go Hawks!!!

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XXX-Lost In You Day 301-XXX

28 Wednesday Oct 2015

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Happy Hump Day! If you read everyday you know I have had a bit of a stressful week. I have a hump day challenge for you, pick nits and comb bugs out of your off spring’s hair then ask you spouse to do the same to your hair and then get turned on and fuck like animals… Sounds sexy right? Yeah, that is similar to my day, I may have over dramatized that…  The Girl has “nits” that needed to be combed out of her hair, so I learned the literal meaning of the phrase “nit picking” today. Today, the school nurse found about 6 or so in my hair, which makes sense due to the fact that we only found one bug. Still none on the boy! Yay!

Anyway….back to the Hump Day Challenge. I am going to my trusty 365 Sex Moves book that you can purchase in my Amazon store on this page. Today is day 301 and the move today is super sensual, sultry and intimate! (I love it!) It’s called ‘Lost In You’ the man (or first partner) sits on the bed with his legs bent and slightly open. The female sits in between his legs and straddles him and makes herself

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comfortable. They are in perfect position to make eye contact make out, talk, have sexy dirty talk staring into each other’s eyes. I love this type of sexual position. I like the connection you feel with your partner!

Now go fuck and get lost in eachother! You don’t have to stay in this position the whole time but play with it. The speed and rhythm rocking forward and back with the hips vs bouncing or lifting up and down the shaft of the penis with your drippy wet pussy. Give eachother sloppy wet kisses, men this puts her nipples right there, suck on them and lick them. As always have fun with your partner! Grind on that ladies!

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