Dance Stress

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It is mid dance convention weekend. There has been some stress, but the Girl has danced her heart out and done amazing as have her teammates! The kids are doing an amazing job! I love watching her dance! We we’re there at 7am until 10:30pm I’m spent. I had a great day and will talk about my day more as the week goes on and when I am not so exhausted!

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Forgot

I forgot to blog earlier. It was day one of the girl’s competition weekend. Solo day! She did awesome. There was a part in the dance that she really put in the emotion. It was like she got comfortable and it finally clicked how to emote on stage it was beautiful! She scored a Gold medal which means she scored somewhere between 90-93 out of a possible 100. Pretty good kid! More on this tomorrow.

Call Your Friends

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Why people are sad

Happy Thursday!!! So, there has been no alcohol consumed on this First day of February but for some reason the mood in here is light and airy, unlike it has been for the last month of Dry January. It is a good day here in the Earl household! The boy is well into his first year of Middle School Wrestling and doing great. He has had 2 matches on Varsity as a 6th grader, 2 wins, 1 with a pin and one by points. Today was the points match. It was intense the kid he wrestled was good but the Boy was better. He kept focus was strong and held him off and managed to score more points even when the ref was screwed up in his scoring (he had to score a couple Take-downs before he even got points). I love watching him wrestle he is doing great!

The girl is gearing up for her first full convention and competition this weekend. She will be on her own deciding what she can do per her knee pain. She has taken today and tomorrow’s classes off to give a rest before the big weekend. I hope she can hold up with minimal set backs but sometimes when you rehab from injury and reintroduce sports and workload, that happens. This is the competition that she won their title award a few years ago. I love seeing her win awards and get scholarships but I try not to attach to much emotion to that, but it’s hard! I just love watching her dance!

Today I had a girlfriend come over for coffee. OMG was that refreshing and so enjoyable! I really needed that and I think the two of us need to do that more often! It is refreshing for the soul. Women need supportive women friends to support each other. I am so happy to have reconnected. I met this friend through my daughter. The Girl and this friends daughter have been friends since 2 grade or so. The daughter is a great friend to the Girl and the mom to me. I am just so thankful and grateful for her. We had a great visit talking about everything under the sun even gossiping about our kids and their drama with their friends. We made a “we won’t tell anyone what we talked about today” pact. I love that! I love my friend!

You need people! We all need people especially us ladies. We thrive on each other we process emotions by talking to each other and it helps us to not kill our husbands and children and for ourselves. Men need that sense of community to but they process things differently sorry guys but I don’t know how to tell you to do it, but grab a guy friend go shoot hoops or play golf, boys don’t seem to need to talk as much as ladies they need to move, work on cars together or play sports. Bottom line we all need community and friends. Ladies tend to compete with each other and get petty and find faults we need to stop that! I am thankful that this mom friend has never made me feel like we are competing, Nor has she judged me, she’s a good friend! Not to mention she has been available to take my kids to and from school and even take the boy at times and she doesn’t have boys. She is really a great gal pal and I love her and we all need more of them.

Go be with your community! Be friends with your spouse and Have a friend group to hang with and confide in together but also separate from your spouse. Being loved and being social is one thing that helps us thrive. We need connection sometimes we need to ask our friends over for coffee and stop waiting for them to call us!

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XXX-Sext Up Some Interest-XXX

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if you never did you shouldHappy Hump Day! Today the Hump Day Challenge is to get out of your comfort level. Well for some of you, anyway. Since it’s the beginning of the year I want to ease into things sort of and get you communicating differently. The Hubs and I struggle hard core on communication. Believe it or not he is more sexually driven than me. He likes to have dirty talk and like sexual innuendo and most of the time I am stuck and confused about how to answer. Many times I respond with LOL or send back and emoji but he really wants is for me to get involved with the conversation. So, the best advice I can give you is PRACTICE and just do it. Write something back until if feels normal. The hump day challenge this week is, we are going to sext each other.

Start off by sending a text that says something like “I can’t wait to see your naked body” or some partners may want (or even need) more. Point is: Know your audience. If your man likes the details of how long and where you will put his member when you get home by all means go for it. However, if your wife is a stay at home mom who sometimes lets your kids play with her phone while she is shopping give her a warning first. “Hey, babe. Little man is not looking right?” she responds with “no” Then go ahead  with “when he goes to bed tonight I’m going to lick your luscious pussy until you beg for my cock” then she can respond back with a pic of her pussy (after she escapes from Little Man of course)

Sexting is a fine art. You have to be careful what and when you send texts and if your partner has a work phone probably don’t want to send it there…or maybe you do for some extra danger (but don’t say I didn’t warn you if negative backlash comes). I love the idea of sexting my spouse. He loves it. There’s not a whole lot of anything that can’t be cheered up with a nice shot of my tits… Get my smile in there too then he is set for the day!

If sending photos don’t worry about how you look there are not too many sexual positions you are in that you will think are attractive, but he will. I know it’s usually the girls who have that self consciousness. Men, some ladies love a good dick pic, however many of us can live without. My preference is to not get them. However, I love a good six pack paired with  boxer briefs… I love my husbands smile and I love a guy in sunglasses. My point is that we women are a little harder to understand and please, so do your homework and find out what your gal likes before sending the dick pic.

Your hump day challenge today is to sext up your lover! Give them a story or just a short tease what ever you feel like and make sure you know it is something they are into. The point is to start a playful conversation that leads to foreplay that leads to sex that leads to two orgasms!

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Date Night Fun

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Happy Tuesday Date Night!!! I have missed date nights. Since being on Dry January the Hubs has not wanted to do date night because our date nights usually consist of going to a bar. He is not into going to a bar and not drinking. So tonight we planned a sober date night! We only have 2 more Dry January days but, still…

We are off to Castles Megastore for more Lube to start off the night. They are open until 10pm so we can make it there after practices.

Then we are going to see Greatest Showman. Some go out for dinner and a movie, we go get lube and a movie…Trial reviews coming, we bought 3 different lubes to try and some other sample thingy. It was some sort of stimulation cream, ‘Plump’ for him and something you put on your G-Spot for me. More details in a review to come later…

Back to date night, no more phones tonight!

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There is no wrong art

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find and lose yourselfToday is another day at convention with the Girl. Last night she performed her solo for the first time. The solo that she didn’t want me to see it was all a surprise. I loved it, I loved the costume (except would add some rhinestones to the straps but she wants nothing to do with that!) She got some really great critique from one of the instructors here at the convention. She did great if I critiqued it (which I have not, I am trying to let the professionals do it) I would say get more emotionally into the dance. However, in talking to her she said she messed up a couple parts and felt that she did terrible. I looked pretty good so I know she is a critic of herself so that kind of showed only because she was thinking through it and only I could tell because well, I am her mom. I am glad I made her perform it here to go once through it before she competes next week!
Right now, I am watching Tap. The girl is taking tap off since her injury was her gastric which is a calf muscle and tapping works the calf muscle a lot. They are dancing to a song called “This Is Me” from the Greatest Showman. I am loving this song. My favorite line is “I make no apologies, This is me” I want to live this in my life more. I want my kids to live this way. Live out loud and make no apologies!
That’s part of dance and art in general! One purpose of art is to express of feelings our emotions. Or at least for a place to put our emotions. We put ourselves in a dance we do what the choreographer tells us to. But in dance we bring our life out own emotions. The choreographer saw a picture or had a thought of what they want that dance to look like or feel like and the dancers takes it applies their own experience and transforms it into…. well, ART! This is why I love dance, the performer may bring one thing that the choreographer did not intend but in that moment both emotions are realized along with the emotion and interpretation of the audience! Whatever you feel when you see art is right even if it was not the intended emotions or experience. Nothing is wrong in the world of art…it’s heaven!
I love how you can watch a performance and be inspired to grow, express, love, move or just be loud. You can be the performer and go to the darkest place in your world and get it out and at the end someone saw it and thought it was beautiful even when for you, it came from your ugly place. That’s where the inspiration happens. Like a phoenix our of the ashes of loneliness comes the most beautiful love song. All it takes is getting to the core, you, dancing, from that place that no one sees. Yet even when you dance from that place, they see your most vulnerable piece of you coming out in the safety of dance but they may still not see you they see themselves…that is what makes art of dance so beautiful and gorgeous!
Here this is where transformation happens! Be you be real dance like no one is watching because no one really sees you, they see the deepest most personal and beautiful part of you. They see you for who you are, but they decide who you are and that is okay it doesn’t change you because you are, or your art is who or what they need you to be. That is okay, that is what makes it beautiful!!
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What Was I Thinking?

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don't forget you love danceI really don’t know what I was thinking when I thought that I would blog during a dance convention. The Girl is at her first convention of the season. She has been injured so she missed the convention part of the last one her team did. She has sat out 2 of the classes so far because of pain, but is now in the last class of the day which is Hip Hop. I love watching her dance and I love watching these instructors teach. I brought a book to read, my Surface to blog and of course there is always the social media distraction on my phone, and all my mom friends. I really don’t need any distraction! I would be quite content just watching!

I am enjoying watching the Girl dance and sad that she is still having some knee pain. I hope that she can overcome this and dance to her hearts content witout pain. I want her to enjoy  her hobby. Not to mention she is so good, I want the world to see her!

I am super excited that I get to watch her solo tonight. She has sheltered me from seeing any of it. She chose a song from the newest Linkin Park album. She was selecting songs and this was my favorite of the top three. She of course didn’t select it because of that, if she knew it was my fave, she probably would have probably taken it off her list. (She is so much a teenage girl right now, “don’t let mom see I am having fun and no way will I enjoy something she suggests.”) She is dancing to “Nobody Can Save Me” She was listening to it today and I almost started crying just listening to the words and everything that is that song; What happend with Chester, emotions and her dancing to it! OMG so powerful. That whole album is so emotional. It was the last one before Chester Bennington committed suicide he wrote at least part of it for Chris Cornell who also committed suicide. I have listened to that album different since Chester passed away and have thought, “it sounds like a really detailed and long suicide note.”

Then my crazy mom head goes…she’s not depressed or having suicidal thoughts is she? Am I there for her enough? Is this teenage girl attitude really normal or a warning sign? It is  normal, right? I think so. I am doing my best to let her be who she is. There is fine balance, I hope to continue to walk the tight rope, that she likes me enough to come to me in times she needs someone but hates me enough to be a normal teenager…I let her be who she is, I love that girl. She talks about her feelings but she holds a lot in too. I think dance helps her ‘express’ herself but sometimes she holds back especially when I am watching. I can’t wait to see her solo and I hope she is going to put her emotion into it and I think it will be phenomenal!

I am really enjoying watching her learn and get into the new moves she is learning and having to adjust to protect that injured knee but as I watch her I can tell she is loving it. In her movements she is happy. It is so refreshing to watch. What is fun about these routines is that they can learn them and just dance. They don’t have to worry about being judged or performing it, they get to just have fun with it! They need more time like this to just dance for the love of dance.

Anyway, I am going back to watching dance! This is what I pay for right?!

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Sleepy Blog

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birthday partyHappy Friday!!!! It really was nice to be back to a normal schedule today! I had 3 massages, then had to get the house and cake ready because today/tonight is The Boy’s birthday party! We have 8 boys here for a sleepover. They came over around 6 and will be here until 10am! In all actuality it has not been that bad. The Boy has some really good friends. Most of them have had The Hubs for a Coach and sometimes I think that helps in the respect factor but really these kids are just good kids with good parents who care so it shows in their kids.

Today I made a Basketball court Cake. It is nice but there are a few details that needed more attention. I have toyed with the idea of going pro with my cake biz but cakes like today tell me I am not goo enough to charge for my cakes. However, the entrepreneur in me says if I was pro I would take more time and the issue of being short supplied would not be one because I would make sure I had enough in every color and I would be making cakes more often so I would be able to make fondant for example, in bulk so that I don’t have to just make a whole batch just to have a small amount for one project I, in theory would have a regular amount of buttercream and fondant so that I could just decorate and not worrying about how the supply is.

I have a confession, I am super sleepy right now. The sleepover is going well. the Boys are watching Waterboy right now, The Girl and her friend (I always let the siblings invite a friend over when the other is having a party) are in The Girls room, The Hubs is playing Forza (a video game) and I am sitting in the corner of the couch falling asleep as I type. So just know today was a good day for me to reset I make a cute cake (far from perfect) had 3 great massages, even made it to Spin (RPM) class today, it was great.

Goodnight!

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Emotional Draining

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jury dutyToday was an emotional draining day. I was summoned for Jury duty this week. I had to report on Tuesday for the first part of it. They had summoned 120 jurors for this case, seriously? Don’t they only need 12?! They knew it was going to be tough to fill the jury, so they summoned a lot of folks. In the final day today of questioning for the jury they had already vetted out quite a few, down to around 50. It took a good 10-20 minutes at the beginning of the week to just read the charges for the defendant as there were a total of 45 charges and that is with the judge summarizing a lof of it. It was overwhelming and as soon as they started reading the charges of the violent crimes that the defendant is charged with, I went in my head “No! I wanted a case where I was going to find fault in a traffic violation or a wrongful termination or something” just not a violent crime. As much as I was willing, and have wanted to forever, to serve and curious to see the whole system work, I still wasn’t sure I wanted to hear the details of the case.

However today, was mentally draining. Questions to the potential jury about what predetermined biases that we may have. Do you think most people agree with you? Do you think it is right? Who would choose to have this kind of a lifestyle? Does a badge make a person more credible? What determines credibility? Will your answers affect your ability to be bias and impartial? Etc etc…. and it continued for a few hours bouncing back and forth prosecution back to the defense then back to the prosecution they went a few rounds at this. There were a few people who were really grilled about their opinion as if they were the ones on trial. At one point the prosecution challenged me. I said well can’t you generalize what “most” people think. I feel that everyone thinks differently and sometimes it’s dynamic, when in the presence of certain people with certain opinions or at least their stated opinions change depending on the situation or crown they are in. One person may feel one way but say differently because of the company they are around. She challenged me saying generally most people agree on this subject don’t you think. I said “well, I can’t speak for ‘most’ people and I just don’t do that, I am not a judgmental person”. But I am here to do just that, if chosen. However my point was, we are asked to judge the LAW impartially not to judge what most people think the law should be. What really matters is what does the law says, right? In that moment I thought, wow this is going to be a tough trial and bring up a lot of uncomfortable emotions and the worst part is, I can’t talk to anyone about it until it is all over!

In the end I was not selected. I was 5 people behind the next person up. So I am relieved to not have to sit through the gory details of the violent crimes that the accused was charged with. The way I feel right now is emotionally drained. I have actually considered cancelling my day tomorrow. I am a social person I like to be around people and right now I don’t really feel like being around people. I am so glad I don’t have to spend the next three weeks feeling like this! One thing I do know is true that the judicial system is working. At least in our community we have 100% show up rate for the jurors so that a defendant can get a fair trial by a truly impartial jury. Apparently that is not the case in other communities people just don’t show up. I think one thing that helps is there are a lot of employers in this community that will pay employees their regular wages while serving on jury duty so there is less people who have hardships so they can be selected and it can truly be a good diverse jury of peers not just those who don’t have jobs.

Tonight would be a night, with the way I feel, that I would eat a full box of Girl Scout Cookies and drink a whole bottle of Champagne or wine to drown my feelings and emotions. However, it is still “Dry January” and I am living the no carb life. So I have had to come to grips with the shitty feeling that there are some bad things that happen in the world and it is not always an easy judgement. (I avoid news stories and dramatic CSI type TV shows for a reason) but life still goes on. Tomorrow, I still have a birthday party, 3 massages and a slew of other things to do tomorrow. You must go on with life. You must get up and put your best foot forward with a smile on your face, well you don’t HAVE to smile I just think it helps! Good sex also helps, so tonight since there is no alcohol or chocolate option, sex is it! I may redo this weeks Hump Day Challenge….

Go forward, continue and livejust keep going life to the fullest everyday!

#SLWC2018

XXX-Finger Lips-XXX

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oral sexHappy Hump Day! Today’s Hump Day Challenge kind of pairs with last week. Last week it was all about the boys, this week it is all about the girls. Lets start with getting a manicure. Go to the nail shop, there they will not only file and trim your nails but soak your hands and soften the skin on your hands to be smooth as silk. When your lady gets ready you are going to give her the lick of her life.

When you go down on her as your face closes in on her pussy, consciously breathe out while approaching her luscious lips to lick. That will draw her brain’s attention down there and she will just notice that something amazing is about to happen. Softly start kissing and licking her outer labia, work your tongue in between her luscious lips and find her clit. Play with that for a bit, you will feel it firm up, if it hasn’t already. Feel free to add some humming or moaning as you go along. The vibration will add yet another level of stimulation. As she is getting going and to add even more sexual stimulation, use your hands to touch her body. Touch her everywhere, but some maybe even most, women really like their nipples stimulated when they get oral, but don’t ignore the whole boob. Caress it, her whole boob, in your hand and then with two fingers roll the nipple around and rock your finger back and forth on her nipple, alternating this will be best. You will feel her body writhe with pleasure under you and she may even start grinding on your face.

If you are worried that you don’t know what to do, pretend you are making out with her, just like you would kiss her. Suckle, lick, suck and then when you are ready to take it to the next level, insert a finger (or two) in her pussy. Keep licking and keep your other hand caressing her breasts and stimulating her nipple. As she gets even more into it you keep your tongue going, she may even be grabbing your head and pressing it into her, insert another finger into her pussy. Feel her G-spot it is a bumpy area inside of her vaginal canal, on the front side of her body. Now, walk yourself up her body and kiss and make out with her, insert your cock inside of her and fuck her for a little while, but do not let her come yet, unless you plan on giving her multiple orgasms.

Before she climaxes, go back down on her finger her while you lick her and stimulate her sexual region. Make sure your fingers are super wet with saliva or even  considering grabbing some lube for the next step; gently insert a finger in her ass. (If anal play is new to her start with your pinky because it is small,  this is where the manicure comes in handy the anal canal is super sensitive don’t want to scratch her that will really turn her off to anal play and maybe all together.) Don’t need to worry about moving that finger much maybe a little back and forth or gently with the whole movement of her body and your whole hand. Keep your tongue going and keep a finger in her pussy as you add the anal play. Check in with her or at least make sure she is enjoying it. The Double penetration is sure to send her over the edge! The key is to go slow and make sure she knows what you are doing especially if it’s new. If you do it right she will be grinding on your face and you will have the taste of pussy juices on your upper lip for the rest of the night. And hey, maybe you will get a returned favor (but please don’t ask her for it, let her enjoy her “O” the same way she let you last week, let her offer it to you).

The combination of fingering her and oral is sure to get her going even if she is not that into sex! She will go from stressed to impressed by you in just a few licks and finger strokes. I prefer to finish with my man in my pussy and he knows that so that is how we do foreplay, but you are free to explore with your lover and decide how to go about this. Don’t hesitate to make oral a regular occurrence in your sex sessions. It is a great way to get your partners body going. My body, like many other women, tends to need a little more assistance getting horny than the Hubs, like most men you just say sex and they are standing at attention, and this is a go to for him and I top be on the same page. Honestly it is one reason we have such great sex. I remember when he got good at it and it is when our sex life hit the next level! I hope you enjoy it as much as we do!

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