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Women Are Artists of Balance

08 Wednesday Mar 2017

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I struggle sometimes with the happiness of each moment that is shrouded with sacrifice in another arena of life but that is what being a woman means to me: You can do anything you want, you can even do everything but you can’t do it all, at the same time, physics and laws of the universe like gravity limit you! That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t relish in your joy of work even when your missing you kids basketball game. And when you’ve blocked yourself out from work to catch a game trust that it will be there for you when you return. 

Surrounded yourself with good support be it a great friend or aunty who can take photos so you don’t miss a shot when you Aube to work. Also, have great employees or coworkers or referral partners that can hold down the fort so you can catch the kids basketball games and such! It is balance my friends and we as women are artists of balance! 

Let’s stop beating ourselves up because of gravity! We can balance the weight of the world on our shoulders, practice your son’s curve ball and nail the new dance hairstyle and have dinner on the table (even if it’s pizza on a paper plate) and still hold the eye of our husbands because fuck him like crazy when it’s time, because we are women who are artists of balance and we do it with a smile! 

Allow yourself to feel the same smile, give yourself grace. You put it on for everyone else because you are an artist, you are a woman! You know what matters, your love, your family, your work, your husband and your house matters, but everything has its time. It’s okay to pick and choose and give yourself grace. It’s okay to give your children a few chores and it’s okay to have dishes in the sink! Be you, love you! Always do your best you know what matters each moment that so focus on that everything else will have its time.

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I Want to Be Better

18 Sunday Sep 2016

Posted by in Be Present, Connection, Schedule, Sex, Sex Love and Washing Clothes

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goals-exciteI know I have been MIA! I apologize to those who like reading my posts and to my faithful followers. I am really working on getting into a routine to keep my blog up to date and keep inspiring and entertaining people. My goal is to inspire couples to have more sex and to be more connected and to stay together, support each other, and love each other more. It has been about a week and a half since I wrote. The Hubs was gone all last week, I conducted Drill Team tryouts and did the normal stuff I do every week. It was a good busy week. The boy’s football team had a bye this weekend but we all went to the afternoon games this week. It was fun to just watch football and not really be connected to a player. I mean I am connected too all our teams in our league but it was nice to be sort of neutral.

The hubs and I had some catching up on connecting this weekend since he was gone all week. We had a slight little argument when he got home. Not too shocking because we usually do. Whenever one of us leaves or comes back we usually go through a bit of re-connecting and getting back on the same page. It’s normal and usually doesn’t last long but it sucks. It’s from stress and we just take too long to recognize it until we are both arguing and then realize we are making the same argument and the one who lets their ego go first is the one who creates change and stops the argument. We went out for a few drinks had some hot tub time and then some alone adult time.

I really missed him. I have said this before he had some mad skills when it comes to oral sex. It makes me inspired to get better at blow jobs. I have books and have researched but really probably what I need is to practice. I know this sounds weird and maybe a little TMI but oh. my. word. my husband deserves it. When our sex life got really good is when he got really good at oral! So it is my goal and my task to myself to work on this and get better! I love the pleasure I get from him and I only hope I can return the favor. I am sure he is satisfied, I know he is but I just want to accomplish this so I can reciprocate better and more.

So this week’s goals are to get more organized and write more, give more blow jobs and really work on figuring out what he likes and what works for him. And getting in my workout!

So, what are your goals in life right now? We all have to be focused on what we want to accomplish and what we want to get better and sup[ort our selves and our family. If you know of something your partner is working towards, a goal they are trying to accomplish, support them. Notice them when they are trying and give feedback. Don’t pressure them and don’t criticize them when they are not doing the best at achieving the goal. Build them up, I guarantee they know what they are slipping on they need to know someone notices the good things that are working.

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Bumpy Road

10 Wednesday Feb 2016

Posted by in Marriage is hard

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I work so hard for my family! I try to incorporate things for myself on top of that. Self care is important. I believe it is more important than dusting and doing dishes sometimes too, sometimes it’s not. I am so defeated when I am told that what I do is not good enough. Sometimes (lately a lot) I have felt that all that happens wrong is always boiled down to be my fault! I forgot to do something or did something wrong or didn’t do something… So that makes it my fault ultimately. The list goes on and it is ultimately my fault!

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A marriage is a partnership. Both partners have their jobs. One is to be fun loving and keep things light and happy and the other is the attention to detail partner to make sure bills get paid and accounts are not over drafted. In the end it balances out. Until one partner decides that they don’t like their job. Or that their job is heavier and ate tired of carrying the other through those situations and tells the other partner to be more like them or else. Well that just happened with me and the Hubs! I am flaky and forgetfully and try to do too much all at once. So things get forgotten or only done part way and left! The Hubs thinks of this as an attack on him and the family.

I don’t know what is going on here. We are struggling and I don’t know how to right this ship. I am feeling defeated and want to give up. Climb in a hole and cry until its over. I feel like we have gone back in time 3 years to when things were really bad. The only thing that has changed recently is that I started working full time again, I quit at the bar, that was supposed to make itnso I had more time tondo things around the house and be with the family. Am I destined to be a stay at home mom? Would that help? Does the Hubs need to lighten up on me? Or do I need to just be better?

I am confused and lost and sad. I just want it to be fixed! And I don’t know what to do I can’t just “be better” if you are a person who is forgetful and trying their hardest and still not doing well enough for your situation around you, you understand where I am at. I can’t live up to the expectations that I am held to. I am a failure and not good enough! Do I just have to go back to focusing on sex everyday? Things seemed better then!

Learning To Trust Myself…will I ever?

11 Friday Dec 2015

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Happy Friday! It was slightly blissful in that I worked my massage job had 4 appointments then did not have to work the bar job! That was the bliss part. However, the Boy came home sick from school and my in-laws came over (unannounced) so my tired self had to throw together a dinner suitable for in laws! Luckily I cleaned the kitchen and washed all dishes and picked up the house yesterday just because so my house was actually Mother-in-law clean.

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One thing I can’t stand is feeling like people in my life treat me or think of me as “not good enough” and I usually get that feeling around my MIL. It sucks. It’s all part of my insecurities, similar to what I was writing about yesterday! I just want to feel like I am master of what I do. I know that I know my kids and how to treat them and require them to be responsible for certain things. But when someone else with a stronger personality gets around (like my MIL) I clam up and question myself as if I have no clue WTF I am doing?! Why do I do that? It’s annoying.

What I need to do is trust myself! Be confident in what I know and trust my instincts! I am good. I was chosen to be The Hub’s wife for a reason. I was chosen to be The Girl’s Mom and The Boy’s Mom for a reason! Even the Boy had my back earlier. Every now and then he supports and trusts me when it counts or I need it, the Hubs does too and The Girl is always there for me. Part of taking care of myself is trusting and having confidence in myself! I can do this, I am good!

I am good!

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Final Game is a W!!!

24 Saturday Oct 2015

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So today was our Pee Wee Football team’s last game! Our season has been rough. We had a team with a lot of beginners and they really exceeded my expectations. They were a better team than the record showed.

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Today’s game we won 24-0. The Boy played out of his mind! He was amazing! I am so proud of him. He had 3 forced fumbles, recovered 2 of them, sacked the QB, multiple tackles for losses. The boy has done all of this all season but today it was a stand out day! A great way to end the season.

It was a team win. A lot of boys played well. They were doing well on all fronts! It is funny how the team starts playing really well at the end of the season (well not that funny, these are 8 & 9 year olds they take some time to gel together and learn new things)! This team made me proud. We may not have got a trophy this year, but we made a lot of football players better and that is what I am most proud of these coaches for!

I started my day this morning driving an hour plus from the dance convention the Girl is at for the game and now we are driving back down to dance convention where the Girl is! I hear she is doing great dancing. So the reports from other parents say. The day has been a long day for me but was so worth it, being able to watch the boy play, especially today as great as he played!

I am looking forward to some fun tonight at the water park and then tomorrow. The girl has more dance and is done at 4:00 so we will be staying late to get some more play time in the water! The kids should have fun sleeping in out theme hotel room with bunk beds! It’s going to be great!

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