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Change is Coming

14 Sunday Jan 2018

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Today we are sitting watching NFL football and reminiscing about our Football team, the Seahawks. It’s been a few years since we haven’t been at a playoff game or had a game to watch during the playoffs. It’s great to be a good team but it takes constant work and effort and dynamic adjustments on many levels. Football is the ultimate team sport. The team has to work together as whole in order to win games and even more work to stay on top.

Football is dynamic in the game and even in-between seasons. Our team, the Seahawks, have seen so many changes. We’ve seen a lot stay the same as well. But if things that are dynamic and things that are static don’t groove together, you struggle. That is what happened this season. This is also what happens over time with relationships and families as well.

So many things are static but yet so many things are dynamic in life. It’s great if your loving the things that don’t change but if you are one who wants to embrace the dynamics of change and live with one who does not it can cause difficulty and struggle. The key is balance in life and football. There will always be change and there will always be things that stay the same. You cannot always affect them, be it to change or keep them the way you want.

We must, in order to be happy, embrace it all. Look for the things you love in every situation. Savor the passing moment as you are not guaranteed to have it again as much as you wish or want to or even try to keep it you will never get it back. It’s always good to remember what works, but realize you may not be able to duplicate it and that is okay. Change is really the only constant in life and change is not constant.

Acceptance, love, appreciation for the good is what we need to focus regardless of it’s what we think we want or need. Search for the good focus on the good enhance the good and put in hard work to affect change in the way you want it to go. If you don’t get the results you want, change is coming so don’t let it get you down!

Here’s to a better you, a better family, and a better football season, in 2018. It will take to perseverance to sustain and faith to change what needs to change.

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Live Stop Worrying

27 Monday Mar 2017

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worryingHello followers, let me start by saying. I am struggling.  Acutely today I have so much on my mind, so much that has happened, so much I want to accomplish and so much to write and share (because I haven’t written much lately)  and also some to keep private and not write about (we all know that is hard for me not to over share) and since I haven’t been blogging much this may be a little disjointed, I mean, more than normal. I was asked the other day to remove my filter…they obviously don’t read my blog or maybe they do because they know it’s possible for me to do so. But yes, in real life I have this filter. Call it a mask of sometime professionalism, sometimes shyness, just a filter that I don’t say everything I am afraid to be judged or I want to make sure I am being appropriate…I don’t really know why. So hear goes sans filter Ruby is going to spill and hopefully today organize my thoughts and life and get back on track where I want to be. And for you I hope you can be inspired by my thoughts either by realizing you are not as messed as me or by realizing you are not alone out there.

Why the fuck is it so hard to just live? I want to do so much but for some reason I am so tired. I get going and then my energy fizzles out. Today I wanted to get in a run, do some admin business stuff, some billing and returning phone calls, also wanted to clean and organize at the house catch up with laundry. This morning was a great breakfast. I was able to get the kids lunches made, then I made them breakfast. I made eggs, English muffin toast, strawberries and smoothies for the kids. The boy we struggle with eating and he ate his whole breakfast today. I was on a roll. Then they both got to school and I got home and had to do some computer stuff. Then it was almost 10:00 and I had to decide what to do…go for a run, or get ready and get to a business networking thing at 11:30 or do something else like clean or write in my blog…

Why the fuck can’t I just make the right choice for myself? Why don’t I do what I want to do to get me closer to where I want to be. I want to be a great mom that takes care of her family by cooking and cleaning and having a relaxed calm home environment. I also want to have a successful business and sometimes that means making sacrifices at home but I hate choosing which has to sacrifice. Balance is just not always an option!! But it has to be! We need balance to be healthy! Everyone does! Sometimes I feel like I am getting it and then the next day shit hits the fan and I am feeling fucked and not in a good way! I just want to figure life out why this fuck is it so hard?!

And why is it that when I feel like I have things under control the bottom drops out? So even when things are good, really things are pretty goo right now. Business is doing alright, life is good the Hubs and I are getting along and happy but this is how I felt in December when my life got turned upside down! I was getting in the groove of working the business, The Hubs and I were happy. I had some great (I thought) friends in my life all was well. Then the bottom dropped out. I am kind of waiting for that to happen right now. Life has really felt like it has slowed down. You know the way that commentators talk about the game slowing down for rookies in the NFL. Nothing changes they just get used to seeing the speed of the NFL vs College etc. Life has really felt like it’s slowed down and we are in the midst of competition and tournament season! What horrible thing is about to happen or has already happened that I am about to find out? Why the fuck do I have to think this way? Why can’t I relax and enjoy life? Why can’t I remove the filter? What am I afraid of?

PLAN: Here is my plan what I want anyway. I want to write more, exercise more, enjoy the moments I have with my family and have moments with myself and one on one time with the Hubs, and be successful in business so I can help my family do everything and have everything we want. Just that sentence brings tears to my eyes because it feels like so much and I am sad I have to say it out loud, how did I let myself get here away from these things? I should plan time for everything. Time for writing and exercising in my schedule and push myself to follow it. Get my house cleaned up and organized and then take time to keep it that way and having the business I may need to hire a housecleaner to help keep up on the house thing. I need a better plan and more than just giving myself grace I need to trust myself when I am feeling like things are slowing down. The game really is slowing down for me! I need to accept that. It’s time to pass the ball to my trusted teammates and manage this game in a way that will most benefit the team! I need to be MVP in my life so my team can win and winning is when we are all happy and healthy and enjoying life! That is balance!

What the fuck did I just say?! I really need to stay focused and push myself to get where I want to be and I need to pass the ball to those who can advance our life when needed. I need to stop worrying about the lineman who is going to hit me from the blindside and focus on the play and execute! I have a team to support me and need to use that. But it’s my job to manage this game I can and I will rock this. I need to allow myself to live and enjoy and celebrate the good times and stop worrying!

#Live2017

Women Are Artists of Balance

08 Wednesday Mar 2017

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I struggle sometimes with the happiness of each moment that is shrouded with sacrifice in another arena of life but that is what being a woman means to me: You can do anything you want, you can even do everything but you can’t do it all, at the same time, physics and laws of the universe like gravity limit you! That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t relish in your joy of work even when your missing you kids basketball game. And when you’ve blocked yourself out from work to catch a game trust that it will be there for you when you return. 

Surrounded yourself with good support be it a great friend or aunty who can take photos so you don’t miss a shot when you Aube to work. Also, have great employees or coworkers or referral partners that can hold down the fort so you can catch the kids basketball games and such! It is balance my friends and we as women are artists of balance! 

Let’s stop beating ourselves up because of gravity! We can balance the weight of the world on our shoulders, practice your son’s curve ball and nail the new dance hairstyle and have dinner on the table (even if it’s pizza on a paper plate) and still hold the eye of our husbands because fuck him like crazy when it’s time, because we are women who are artists of balance and we do it with a smile! 

Allow yourself to feel the same smile, give yourself grace. You put it on for everyone else because you are an artist, you are a woman! You know what matters, your love, your family, your work, your husband and your house matters, but everything has its time. It’s okay to pick and choose and give yourself grace. It’s okay to give your children a few chores and it’s okay to have dishes in the sink! Be you, love you! Always do your best you know what matters each moment that so focus on that everything else will have its time.

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Massage Therapist Must Be a Model Of Self Care

08 Tuesday Dec 2015

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“A massage therapist who cannot budget adequate time for her own relaxation, rest, and fun may be a poor example for a client who struggles with over commitment and poor self-care. It is not enough to say, “Do as I say, not do as I do.” A massage therapist must be a model of healthy choices regarding self-care.”

I just read an article about massage and PTSD. This quote jumped out at me and reaffirms that I need to practice what I preach. Teaching Self Care has always been a big part of my massage practice. I would love to work with clients who have and are struggling with PTSD from former Military or formerly abused or traumatized by car accidents or work injuries. It has been passion on my heart recently. These patients need me to be 100% into their massage. I can’t go in tired of stressed about work, or home, or money, or anything that all has to stay outside. Which is why I need to be on top of my self care game. It is hard to serve from an empty vessel.

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I am having a chat with my boss about getting a raise so the need for me to work two jobs will be decreased. My family and time with them is very important to me and working the bar job puts quite a hindrance on that. I went back to work to pay for a car that we need and the Hubs really wants. I am pretty sure even without the bar job we could cover that right now, however with the bar job we have a good cushion for extra expenditures and don’t really have to be as “careful” with our spending. But self care and family time is more important!

Also in this quote, it talks about having time for fun and relaxation as a part of self care. I miss having time to run or go to the gym. I use my running time for thinking and clearing my head and managing my ADD. I haven’t fit that in since I have been so busy… Well, kind of with my blog but even time for that has been interfered with since I started working. Then, there is sleep and quality family time. I need to only work one job. I may be able to squeeze in one late night shift that starts after bedtime at the bar…maybe….

Anyway…I have a lot to do on this Tuesday ‘no schedule’ day, house cleaning, some BNI stuff, meal planning and even Grocery shopping… I want to make today very productive and I am feeling motivated!

#Everyday2015

Need: Create Boundaries, Schedules, Plan and Menus Focus on My Why

28 Monday Sep 2015

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So I don’t know about this whole working mom thing. Going from a Stay at Home role to a working mom role has been tough. There are a lot of differences between being a Stay at Home Mom and being A Working Mom. I really don’t feel like I do much less at home now, being a working mom vs when I was not working. I just have more to do. I have to be more organized and I don’t have the time. For example, I used to wait until the down times to go to Costco, you would not catch me there on the weekend. But now that I have a day time job, but now, I have to go when I can go (and sometimes that is the weekend when it is busy). It is things like this that I was not prepared for when I chose to go back to work. I plan to to schedule my life better.

I My family is my everythinghave talked about this thought about it but it is time to actually do it. I found a few minutes of extra time tomorrow I will use that to sit down and plan life. I want to plan when to cook, when to shop, when to clean, when to work. I want to continue to do it all, I don’t want to have to sacrifice anything (but I do). I want to continue to volunteer at school (which is getting a bit less as the kids get older there is not as much that the teachers need, at least not this year). I want to keep the house clean and organized (not that I was very good at that even before I worked). I want to still have time for date nights with the hubs and of course have time to actually work and work on growing my business.

So here is the plan: Compress my working days and times, schedule a laundry and house work day and schedule a day to work on business and volunteer at school. Consider what amount of money I need to make each month and how to better utilize it. Figure out work logistics and make sure I set very good boundaries and am satisfied with work and don’t get resentful about my work.

I had a great massage this morning. My client was very appreciative and gave me great feedback. I felt trusted and like I knew what I was doing. Sometimes it feels like I am working so hard and the client doesn’t like what I am doing or I don’t know, and sometimes, they don’t get better or they don’t like what I do and blame me for it, or at least I feel like they do. Then I question myself like “do I really know what I am doing” Today I felt like I knew what I was doing. I have been doing this for almost 17 years and I have taught massage therapy and I really do know what I am doing! I like doing massage but burn out has been kind of setting in and I need to get back to loving what I do and that comes from having a better plan and better boundaries and more realistic expectations at work. In my work, I want to do more work with PTSD patients and more work with folks who are healthy but in pain or stressed and need my help to feel righted, like my client this morning! I would like to figure out where I can get a grant to do work with Military Vets who struggle with PTSD and re-entering the real world after being in or being trained to be in a war. I think massage is a valid and important piece of whole health and wellness!

I just want to do good work and I want to make impact on people who need me and want me. I want to be happy with my life and by my life what I mean “my life” includes providing support emotionally, physically, and now financially to my family! I also want to be able to take care of myself, my family’s mom and wife so that I can do the best that I can for them and for my clients! My family is my why. Why I do what I do is for them!

#Everyday2015

Balance and Living In The Moment

02 Tuesday Jun 2015

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Happy Tuesday! Today is the first day in two weeks or so that I haven’t had an appointment or had to be somewhere until later today. I have a hard time getting going. I am so tired. I think that my body just kind of collapsed since I had no schedule today at least not until later. It happens a lot. I have a hard time getting going when I have no schedule. I wish I could just get my self going. This is one reason I need a schedule but also, down time is needed too. It is all about balance.

I have a hard time achieving balance. I always have! I over do it all the time! I am either over doing it or undergoing it! Why can’t I just get my shit together and be 697c17db31ce9270a51b2a5d8404abf3balanced? I know this is a struggle for more people than just me! It is something that I want to work on for sure! I always struggle with balance. I want to live in the moment more to enjoy what I have right now but I fail to prepare for dinner. I want to lose weight so I cut out crabs and sweets and then I can’t just let myself have a little bit of cake I end up eating a whole cake! I am doing better with this one: I go out with friends for dinner and drinks and end up hung over (like I said I am doing better with this one but still…a struggle). I want to work out and be healthy so I do half marathons and if I don’t have time for a 5 mile run I decide I don’t have time to work out. Seriously this is annoying. I am annoying to myself in these situations and I don’t really even know what the answer is. Yes I do, the answer is balance.

I am just venting, getting this off my chest. One day I will figure it out, I hope. I know preparation is key. Planning is key but that takes time and attentions span that doesn’t come naturally to me. I just have to sit down and plan and focus on what is important. Stay in the moment but don’t forget to plan dinner or that you have a budget. Any exercise is better than no exercise forget the ego of having to go for a long run and just run! I live on a pretty easy and pretty nice two mile loop that will take less than a half hour I can get that in everyday without tanking my day. There are a lot of easy solutions like this. I need to be mindful of what I want in life and the results I want out of each day. I need to not over commit myself, that is probably not going to happen so, I need to plan my life to make life easier and better and healthier!

The good part is these are easy fixes in my life. I can do it! I just have to stop getting overwhelmed and stop and look at what is in front of me and what I want out of each day, situation, and be more efficient. I can do it! So can you! Now, after I take a nap I will get going on today….LOL jk.

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