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Procrastination and Ovewhelmed

02 Monday Nov 2015

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77-Dont-Be-OverwhelmedHappy Monday! I have had a lot on my brain today. I am feeling overwhelmed and want to get a handle on my life! I need to get into a weight loss program, I need to organize my house and plan menus and just get ahold of this stuff. Some days I feel so under control and “with it” but other days I feel so out of control and overwhelmed that I will never get a handle on it! I need to figure out how to make enough money to take pressure off of our budget but also take pressure off of my mom schedule! Some days I don’t know if this is even possible.

My plan so far is to look at my massage income and see if there is a way I can make it work for me to only do massage and/or adjust my bar schedule to interfere less with family life. I need to make about $2000 a month. I don’t know exactly where I am at with the bar income since I just put my tips in a safe to save for later for when we ac tally purchase a car (or when my current car needs work). I am at about $1000 (or just under for massage work lately). The tricky thing is I HATE CONFRONTATION. Asking for a raise or talking to the bar owners about changing my schedule is confrontation to me and I don’t know if I can handle it, but what choice do I have? Tomorrow I will go into the bar and talk to the scheduling owner about what I want and need my schedule to look like and let her know just where I am at with this job. Then I will work on a proposal to My Chiropractor that I work for to see if I can adjust my percentage or switch to being a sub contractor paying rent. I also am going to look into offering Couples Massage Classes and other types of classes to market and/or draw in supplemental income as well.

I have a lot going on and I am feeling overwhelmed and it is my job to take care of me and get what I want out of life. Right now I need to, together with my family figure out what will work for all of us! This is the hardest thing to do right now. I always feel bad making myself a priority when it comes to making someone else life harder, like my employers ect… But I have to make myself and my family a priority. I may need to make a decision that leaves my employers without me. But what is happening now is I am leaving my family with out me instead. I want my family to have me and I want to help financially as well. I have a lot to figure out. My family has a lot to figure out! The Hub’s and I need to sit and chat and we will but what is hard is to look at not only money and not only time with the family and our feelings of what we want. We have to look at the big picture and make sacrifices in every area and balance wants and needs. We ultimately need to be happy with the decision and right now I am not happy with where I am right now, I have happy moments but overall I am not happy. I miss my family and I don’t even have time to get a pedicure or better yet escape for a weekend away and use this extra money I am bringing in!

Tonight,Procrastination I kind of have wasted the time worrying and procrastinating the work that needs done. Workout, meal planning, grocery list making….. none of it happened! Duck me I am so frustrated I know what I need to do but I don’t do it. Self sabotage at it’s finest! Fuck Fuck Fuck! Well, at least I got my writing done… wish I got paid for this… How do I do that?!

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Busy #Bartenderlife

14 Wednesday Oct 2015

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Today was so busy at the bar. I cooked so much more food than normal and made lots of drinks and pull tabs! No big winners 😦 anyway, I had a busy massage day and had no time to blog! #Bartenderlife right? Maybe #Momlife or better here’s one #Workingmomlife

Goodnight folks, the Hubs “green lighted” me so I am headed home and you know yep we’re gonna have sex before I go to sleep! Enjoy!

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Why do I do this?

07 Wednesday Oct 2015

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It is a slow Tuesday! I had some extra time today and some now to think about what I want in my life. How can I make enough money to help my family not over work but work enough to have what I want. I miss my family and bring able to take care of them.

Days like today at work when it is slow and I have time to think it depresses me and makes me question why I am doing this!

Then some more people walk in, just as the Hubs stops by to say hi, good night etc… Just after a creapy guy leaves that was here with me alone. Then later my back started hurting…

Thank goodness for other bartenders in town closing up early and then coming to hang out at my bar where we stay open until 2! They always save my slow nights and they are pretty easy to deal with. They understand the other side of the bar and are great tippers!

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Tuesday… The Armpit of the Week!!

04 Tuesday Aug 2015

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As the Girl works hard at Dance the Boy and the Hubs head to football for their second day of practices working their butts off, I too am at work at The Bar holding down the fort. It is so super slow!!! I gotta figure out how to get people here on Tuesdays!!!!!

I have a featured drink  the ‘Urbanite’ with Wildroots Vodka triple sec, lime juice, simple syrup shaken with ice. Just made this for a Bartender friend who said “nothing too sweet” so we skipped the simple syrup. She loved it!

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There my featured drink tonight. Hoping to have a surge of people later who are good tippers and like my drink!  Or just good tippers.

So far not so good. It is a slow night but the people who have tried my drink liked it! =SUCCESS

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I Need A Gimick

21 Tuesday Jul 2015

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I am at work at the bar. It is slow. I want to figure out something for my Tuesday to get people in here. If the bar isn’t making money then I’m not making money. I have two customers right now. 

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A ladies night, or a game night, we have been trying Cards Against Humanity but only 2 people showed up for that. I wonder if we did line dancing or just dancing… Would people come out on a Tuesday. Tuesday is kind of a lull day and night anyway! There is a reason movie theatres do $5 movies… I wonder if we could do a movie date night and offer a special when they buy drinks and dinner we buy them a $5 movie ticket or what about some sort of date night special to bring people in… We need a niche! I believe if we have a niche we can get people…
Any Bartenders or potential customers have any ideas?! 

We need a Tuesday thing….to bring in new people a new crowd who want to hang out and buy two or three Cocktails and maybe food…

Think. Think. Think.

Suggestions greatly appreciated….

I am sure there is something I can go clean or reorganize behind the bar…

When I get home I need to wake the Hubs up and fuck him after this slow night it may be the only tip I get!!

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Down Time = Non Productive Time

14 Tuesday Jul 2015

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Happy Tuesday!!  Today is the first weekday in two weeks that I haven’t had massage scheduled. I work at the bar tonight at 6 and have a bunch of stuff to get caught up on. But when I have too much unscheduled time I get nothing accomplished. I have busywatered the lawn (probably overdosed the lawn), started laundry, made myself lunch and slept in. I have made some calls for Pee Wee football event I am organizing and planning. Next up I am going to vacuum, clean up kitchen, take a shower, go tanning then go shake up some cocktails at the bar tonight!

I have decided that tonight I will feature Mai Tais since we have a beach party coming up. Hopefully I will have people share the invite for the Party we are having at the end of the week. Yes I have been very productive. A good thing is that the Hub’s Softball uniform did get washed earlier this week so I don’t have to stress about it. I think now that summer massage schedule is going into effect I need to balance out my time. Working and homemaking need to balance out. I do only work part time, I can balance both. (can’t I?) I want to balance both! This is what my struggle is and has always been!

I really want to be a rock star mom, wife, bartender and massage therapist. I think I have done a pretty good job lately just keep my head above water. But I want to be great at it all. I know I can’t do everything. I am trying to be realistic and I am slightly unrealistic about all I want to do. I feel that with some delegating and preplanning and work, just doing it, I can be great! This family can be great and happy. I just have to stay balanced. But I don’t know if I really know what that means.

What I do know is that I have got work to do! So I am going to go start in the kitchen, unload dishwasher clear counter tops and wipe down counters. Then I am going to head back to my bedroom finish putting clothes away and clean the counter in the bathroom then, I am going to vacuum the whole house and take a shower and get ready for the day (night) at work. And grab my husband as he changes before he gets his softball uniform on and have a quickie naked moment with him….

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Relaxing Orgasm

16 Tuesday Jun 2015

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So today was the first day in quite a few weeks that I really had nothing on the schedule. I did take advantage of the down time with some much needed couch time! I did get some minor chores done, had to take the Boy and the Girl to get some dance shoes and the Boy woke up with an earache so had to take him to the Doctor today too. First All-Star practice today too, that was intense and weird. Now I am with the Hubs on the way to his softball game.

So sticking with my lazy-ish day here is kind of a lazy post too. I saw this meme “What Is Your Summer Cocktail Name” mine is: Relaxing Orgasm! Couldn’t be more fitting for me right?! As a massage therapist, bartender and sex blogger … I plan to make a Relaxing Orgasm Cocktail… I think it will be Vodka based, made with some sort of lavender infused simple syrup…

Let me try this: Grape flavored Vodka, Lavender Simple Syrup, sweet and sour and sprite. Muddle with some lemons and limes shake and serve in a sugared rim glass.

I so could use this right now…guess what I’ll be making when I get home? I feel edgy and stressed for some reason. Busy week with baseball (I’m stressed about All-stars), Dance and I totally forgot the Boy is dancing and he has baseball at the same time as dress rehearsal! (Aahhh!!!!). Anyway, just got to the field time to go watch the Hubs!

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Saturday Work Day, What?

06 Saturday Jun 2015

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So last night’s Birthday party was so much fun. A bunch of my peeps came out and so did a friend who shares my Birthday week. It was her actual birthday yesterday! Was so fun celebrating with her! Her and I got to take Blow Job shots from the laps of our husband’s. With the crew went to the next bar and sang karaoke and then the night faded away from me. Apparently we came back to the house and I put myself to bed. (Good choice drunk Ruby!) Regardless it was a blast!! No hangover either whoo hoo!

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And then today I had to bartend. There was a pool tournament and beer pong tournament at the place I work so I was brought in for reinforcement. It was fun. Well, as fun as working inside on beautiful hot sunny day when your family is home can be. Pretty uneventful but had the first experience deciding when to cut someone off and made lots of food. I got a compliment from a customer too he said “You’re a really good bartender” made me feel good. Although I did break the ice machine lid (not my fault it has issues) and a glass today. (Totally my fault I was reorganizing the chilled glasses, I am a bit OCD that the cold ones don’t get mixed with the hot ones just coming out of the dishwasher, it slipped out of my hand.)

Anyway I am sitting here on the couch with my family enjoying some downtime on a Saturday night. Thinking it would be fun to go have some adult time with the Hubs but also enjoying just relaxing. Have a good Saturday night folks!

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