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All You Need Is a List And a Deck Of Cards

07 Thursday Jul 2016

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Happy Hump Day from vacationing at the beach! Today’s Hump Day Challenge is inspired by playing cards with the fam tonight! It is a sex card game! You could be vanilla and play strip poker but who wants to be vanilla?! If you have a sex card deck grab it out and follow the rules of play. Since we do not have a sex deck here I had to think up (aka Google) ideas or this. 

So, make a list of 10-13 sex acts that you both are up for (or down for however you like to say it). You can both come together with a list of 7-8 each then eliminate 1-2 from each list to end with 13 or so. Each card Ace-10, Jack, Queen and King will have a designated foreplay act, sexual position or sex act. I suggest making he higher card values harder core acts and the lower card values the warm ups. You could even expand you list to inc if you lack ideas make face cards the same. Of you have a long list of sexual ideas or if you want it to be more difficult or play poker or another game with your lover tonight make your list include pairs, straights, flushes and/or other winning hands for various card games.

Ideas can include: places to kiss for example, kiss partners neck. Positions to fuck or make out in, clothing to take off, anything that ranges from foreplay and leads to orgasm.

Have fun and be loose with it. Don’t be a prude and put some edge a little danger in there tonight. Love on your partner and if he or she is going out of their normal comfort zone, acknowledge it, appreciate it and take it slow. Remember they always have  say if they change their.mind don’t ever force yourself in your partner. If you do that particular sex act may be off the table for good or they may never stretch out of their comfort zone again. It will set you back a long ways in being adventurous with your lover! Have fun take it slow but have fun and get a little kinky tonight! All you need is a list of a deck of cards!

Another simple idea is draw a card and pleasure your lover however they choose for the face value of that card for that amount of time! (This is for you lazy folks who won’t get creative and write a list!

Go fuck, it’s Hump Day!!!

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I Have Made Decision, To Be With my Family

11 Monday Jan 2016

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Okay, I think I have decided what I want to do in life. I, as you all have read, am overwhelmed with my schedule working. I miss being a stay at home mom but I enjoy the benefits of being a working mom. I like getting some outside conversations, adult time, and feeling like I have something in my life the defines me, to lift my self-confidence to be a person to the outside world other than somebody’s mom or somebody’s wife. Not that it’s bad to be somebody’s mom or somebody’s wife, it just sometimes feels empty. Especially for an extroverted social butterfly like myself. The reason I started this blog Sex Love and Washing Clothes in 2015 was to inspire moms to feel fulfilled by being “just  a mom”.

However, after just a few months into 2015 the hubs and I decided, collectively, that we kind of needed me to work financially to help support our lifestyle. I was 100% on board with getting back into the workforce. I had decided to go back to work a couple days a week doing massage during school hours. Then when business was slow, that’s when I decided to try my hand at bartending. Which is fun and I really enjoy that job but now I am busy working during the day and work two nights a week bartending. I am overwhelmed and miss my family. I spend two nights a week and sometimes more away from my family when the kids are out of school and The Hubs is off work. I miss them. I had a break down last Friday after a day of massage and a mid shift at the bar. I need to be home with my family at least when they are home

So my decision is to do massage full time, and full time for a massage therapist is 20 massages a week. I will have to do a few evening appointments during the week but should be done by 7ish and still be able to see my kids after practices and maybe even have late dinner with the fam. I just want to be together with my family. The money is nice at the bar and doesn’t hurt my body like massage does, but I need to be with the Hubs and the kids. I need my mojo back and lately, its just not there. I know time with the family will do it. And I can sort of control when I work with my massage schedule hopefully enough to be able to be the volunteer mom at school and still make enough financially to make it worth it.

So there I made my decision. Now I just have to figure out how to break the news to the bar (Shshshshsh don’t tell them until I do please) That is the hard part. Do I keep a shift here and there, be a fill in wait to see how my massage schedule picks up, as it has been a slow time at the massage office, or completely quit. What if I can’t fill my massage schedule? Oh the agony of not knowing! I just have to be bold and be the best Ruby, the best mom and the best wife I can be!

#Everyday2016

I Have Made Decision, To Be With my Family

11 Monday Jan 2016

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Okay, I think I have decided what I want to do in life. I, as you all have read, am overwhelmed with my schedule working. I miss being a stay at home mom but I enjoy the benefits of being a working mom. I like getting some outside conversations, adult time, and feeling like I have something in my life the defines me, to lift my self-confidence to be a person to the outside world other than somebody’s mom or somebody’s wife. Not that it’s bad to be somebody’s mom or somebody’s wife, it just sometimes feels empty. Especially for an extroverted social butterfly like myself. The reason I started this blog Sex Love and Washing Clothes in 2015 was to inspire moms to feel fulfilled by being “just  a mom”.

However, after just a few months into 2015 the hubs and I decided, collectively, that we kind of needed me to work financially to help support our lifestyle. I was 100% on board with getting back into the workforce. I had decided to go back to work a couple days a week doing massage during school hours. Then when business was slow, that’s when I decided to try my hand at bartending. Which is fun and I really enjoy that job but now I am busy working during the day and work two nights a week bartending. I am overwhelmed and miss my family. I spend two nights a week and sometimes more away from my family when the kids are out of school and The Hubs is off work. I miss them. I had a break down last Friday after a day of massage and a mid shift at the bar. I need to be home with my family at least when they are home

So my decision is to do massage full time, and full time for a massage therapist is 20 massages a week. I will have to do a few evening appointments during the week but should be done by 7ish and still be able to see my kids after practices and maybe even have late dinner with the fam. I just want to be together with my family. The money is nice at the bar and doesn’t hurt my body like massage does, but I need to be with the Hubs and the kids. I need my mojo back and lately, its just not there. I know time with the family will do it. And I can sort of control when I work with my massage schedule hopefully enough to be able to be the volunteer mom at school and still make enough financially to make it worth it.

So there I made my decision. Now I just have to figure out how to break the news to the bar (Shshshshsh don’t tell them until I do please) That is the hard part. Do I keep a shift here and there, be a fill in wait to see how my massage schedule picks up, as it has been a slow time at the massage office, or completely quit. What if I can’t fill my massage schedule? Oh the agony of not knowing! I just have to be bold and be the best Ruby, the best mom and the best wife I can be!

#Everyday2016

Be Bold and Prosper

07 Monday Dec 2015

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So follow up to yesterday, I did schedule a meeting with my boss, the Doctor I work for. It is funny and interesting that he can always tell when I am stressed. Whether I am stressed aboutWhen I am stressed out he always asks, “are you doing okay?” I feel like I try hard to not show my stress but he always sees through it. Usually I don’t want to talk about it but I did appreciate today him walking up to me to give me a hug and check in with me. That is when I said “Can we meet up to chat through some things?” So tomorrow we are going to lunch.

I wrote out all my feelings and points I want to make to him in letter form. I am stressed and emotional and hope I can make it through this conversation and stand up for myself and hopefully have a better understanding of what my boss wants from me and he have a better understanding of where I am at as well. He said, at one point, Be Boldthat he wants to work with me until he is 80. I told him I don’t want to work when I am that old but he is a bit older than me. I want to feel at home when I am at work. Today felt better than Friday. It was crazy Friday! Too many unexpected moments and surprises that were not good surprises. The day was just a bad day on many levels. I am glad it’s over and I was glad to, today, come back and a lot of that negative energy be gone away.

It is going to be tough tomorrow to talk about some of these topics and to put myself out there in a way that I normally don’t. But I want to be in this office for a while and if I don’t get this out I will end up leaving angry. I feel like this is my first attempt to stay in a “grown up” job and actually stick it out and speak out about what I want and need. Maybe I will be brave enough to use the “Partner” word. In the office it has been me and the Doc for a while now and we work well together. Adding new people and providers is bound to add stress. We just have to communicate and be on the same page and we can make it through this. I am looking forward to see what the future has in store, for us, for me and for our office. Today I am much more positive than I felt yesterday or even this morning! I just need to be bold. Speak up and say what I feel and need.

No excuses just speak up. Stand up for yourself. Say what you need. Don’t make assumptions. Communicate and be honest. This is my passion I want it and I know I can do it! I will be happy and I will live my dream. I will not let fear stop me!

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Don’t Let Fear Stop You

06 Sunday Dec 2015

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It was Seahawks game day! We got a win! It was the first Sunday away game that I did not have to work. It felt right! I was so happy to spend the day with my family and friends! We had a great time! Seahawks won! Great game today they played well the whole game!

As much fun I had today and even this whole weekend it has been clouded with a bit of stress. I have to address it at the office. There are some changes happening at my office and I am feeling a little overwhelmed. I have wanted to sit down with the boss and chat about a few things but I have been to chicken to do so. Now things are coming to the surface and need to be addressed! “Please, Ruby, don’t chicken out. Stand up for yourself and be bold. Ask for what you want, how can you get what you want if you don’t ask. And nothing will change if you don’t speak up.” I have this really bad habit of not saying anything until I am way overwhelmed and it comes out harsh or bitchy or just plain not the way I wanted it to.

Fear-Quotes-32I want to ask for a raise, clarify schedules for me and the new massage therapist in the office, get some new supplies and make sure my role is defined and I know where I stand. I have considered asking about a partnership where I would take over or run the massage part of the business but I don’t know if I am ready for that or if I have time for that or if I could actually be a “partner”.  But right now with the acute issues that have been arising lately I am wondering if that all is too much to address all at once. But I am just going to go for it. Problem is that I have a full schedule and I don’t know when I can actually meet with my boss. I guess I just have to see if he can meet me after work one day or maybe before work.

My stomach is in knots just writing this! I am about in tears and I haven’t even wrote my list/outline to keep me focused during said talk with the boss. He is not a scary guy I actually like him a lot and he has told me in the past that he wants to keep me happy all I have to do is tell him what I need. So why am I so nervous about this talk. I am scared that he will decide now he has another therapist that will be there anytime, I have time constrictions to get the kids from school and such, so I am worried that maybe he will decide he doesn’t need or want me. She is fresh out of school and eager to work so maybe more flexible than I but really I just need to stand up for what I want and be happy.

I don’t want to work two jobs, I want to do massage. I want to promote wellness to my clients. I want to be happy. Why does it have to be so hard?!

Anyway, I am going to try to sit with this Seahawks win and the awesome weekend I have had with my family and be happy because that is what makes me happy! I am going to go look at some sexy videos with the hubs and end the day with a little attitude adjustment!

#Everyday2015

XXX-Talk Dirty to Him-XXX

15 Wednesday Jul 2015

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I am pretty sure we have had a talk dirty hump day challenge before. Let’s face it men like hearing their girl sound like a porn star. So for today for the purpose of this blog (and for my own research) for my Sex life I asked my favorite man what his top ten dirty things he likes me to say to him to get him in the mood, keep him in the mood or progress the flow of sexual energy. He said the following: (these are things he wants me to say to him)

1.  I want you inside of me.
2.  I’m so wet for you.
3.  I wish that was in my mouth right now.
4.  Put it in my ass.
5.  How’s that pussy taste? (Go really dirty and say cunt)
6.  I’ll be right where you want me when you get home.
7.  You fill up my _____________ (pussy or ass or mouth) up so well!
8.  Shoot it in my mouth.
9.  Take me however you want.
10.  Smack my ass and pull my hair from behind!
+1 Give me an anal cream pie.
+2. You’re dessert is wet and warm

So there you have it right from the horses mouth. The dirty things I can say to get him going or keep him going or enhance the sexual experience. My guess is your man may not differ much, or maybe he does. I was surprised it was not more graphic or raunchy. Bottom line here is he likes me to talk dirty and I don’t ever known what to say, but now I do. I am always stuck when he says “talk dirty to me”  when we are having sex… “Uh I don’t know what to say…” Now I have a starting point.

So you’re hump day challenge is to interview your lover. What is the top ten sexy or dirty things you want to here him or her say? Write it down! Study it and use it later tonight as you head off to bed! This is a good relationship exercise too. Any reason to get talking to eachother.

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I would be jumping the Hubs’ bones right now if we weren’t driving because this was a fun conversation and would have been more fun if we were sitting in our bedroom or on the patio sans kids!

Talk dirty! Ladies, your man wants a lady in the streets and a freak in the bed that can start on the phone when he calls you at lunch… Be bold use your research that you will get from today’s hump day challenge. I would love for you to post your favorite quotes in comments! Have fun with your lover. Lock your door and be loud!

#Everyday2015