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New Years Eve 2015

31 Thursday Dec 2015

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Well we made it through 2015. I received sad news yesterday that a Dance Dad and friend passed away yesterday so when I wrote “we made it through” I felt something morbid or said or guilty that we made it and not everyone in that family did. While we are all planning our events of how we are going to bring in the new year that particular family is probably planning a memorial of how they will remember their father and husband’s life. He was a great guy and will be missed. I don’t believe he would approve of any of us morning or slowing down our celebrations or joy because of him. He probably would love it if we could take “good photos” of all of it! He was what my children lovingly referred to as our own paparazzi. He will be missed. This is a good reminder for me to not live in sadness and to live life to it’s fullest. Not everyday is guaranteed.

Dr-Seuss-Youer-QuoteSo for a bit of a review of 2015. Last year I had decided to Have sex, wash clothes/clean house every day. I was sure it would help my relationship, and house organization skills ect. Well I blogged everyday. I had sex most days but I am not certain that it made my relationship better. I think my relationship is better today than a year ago but we still have rough times. I think sometimes the pressure of sex everyday put a lot of pressure to make sex a great big thing and one or the other of us expected more than what we got. So that caused some tension. However we learned that being intimate, loving each other happens in many ways. Great sex is a good part of a good relationship but you don’t have to have it everyday. Sometimes just a snuggle or blow job is fine….

As for the “Washing Clothes” part, yeah that was going to be the stretch for me. When I started I was a stay at home mom trying to figure out how to ‘schedule’ my ‘unscheduled’ days. I was doing well until that week of bartending school. Since then it has been chasing clothes and picking them out the laundry baskets. The kids did great picking up chores over the summer and I hired a house keeper to come in every two weeks but was not pleased with her work and stopped having her come a few weeks ago and now I am needing to get a new house cleaning service, but haven’t had time to interview one. However, I feel my in-between house cleaner visits, my keeping up with it work is shining! Last time my Gma June Cleaver was here, she complimented how well I had been doing! Made me feel good (even though it was the day after house cleaner day) it is a process of constant work folks there’s no way around it. You just have to do it! (Bluh!!)

So I love to blog, I love my family, I love my life! I excel in the Love piece of this trinity! I want to keep doing it. I may not do it everyday in 2016 but I haven’t decided yet. I’ve thought of many scenarios including doing 3 a week one sex blog, one love blog and one washing clothes blog. But that may be too much structure for me. I may just blog on weekdays or when I feel so lead. I don’t know I want to try to keep them long enough to be enjoyed but short enough to give readers a chance to read in one trip to the bathroom or a bus ride or something. This post is reaching that “too long to read” limit but I have so much more to say!

You all have learned a lot about me this year. Maybe too much TMI but I have really enjoyed being free to write and put my thoughts out there and I am also pleased to say I never wrote anything I had to remove, or felt regretful about. There was one day I blogged angry, the hubs said he hated my post that day I said I know you do. and I gave him the option to write a “rebuttle but he declined) and the next day I posted about “making up” and how I felt I maybe shouldn’t have blogged so angry and may have painted the Hubs side in a bad light. I got a few likes on the I may have been wrong post vs the angry rant I made got zero …I see who side you are all on! Just kidding, it’s not about taking sides in life. I wanted to be real and that was real and so was the next day about making up you fight and you make up it is all part of life! It is about living free. So here are some last thoughts and lessons from 2015, okay maybe some advice:

  • Live Free
  • don’t get offended if someone “takes the other side” (they probably have not
  • Don’t feel like you have to pick a side.
  • Love with reckless abandon!
  • Have crazy sex just for fun …as much as you want
  • Have romantic sex aka Make Love …as much as you want
  • Don’t be afraid to try something new, in life, love or in bed
  • Be the lover you want, and the one your lover wants
  • Love the lover you have, be with the one you love
  • Push through the hard times they are temporary
  • Have sex more!
  • Love more!
  • Wash clothes more
  • Be You
  • Love yourself
  • Don’t judge

Okay that list was long so I cut myself off. It’s funny how some things on that list although different are much the same! I have loved this year blogging! I am loving being a working mom but still hate labels! Every mom is a working mom some just work outside the home as well! I don’t have my 2016 plan yet but I will keep blogging and keep Sex Love and Washing Clothes-ing! I am feeling the “Sweet 16” will need to be part of my plan or goal or resolutions for the year. So have fun tonight. Be safe and cheers to a Sweet 2016! May you live life to the fullest have no regrets and be the best you that you can be!

Maybe 2016 will be a publishing year?????

And for the last time, bitter sweetly,

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8/7/15

08 Saturday Aug 2015

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Today is still Friday! I did a couple massages, cooked for the family and pre prepped a dish for a baseball potluck that is tomorrow, fitted gear on football players, participated in opening ceremonies for football, then met our new team and rushed to work at the bar and just got home was a busy day and night. I am about to fuck my husband and that is all!

There it is, a blog for today (8/7/15) since I have not been to bed yet, I work again at the bar at 8am! Good night!

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Enjoy More Sex!!!

12 Tuesday May 2015

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So I heard on the radio this morning a debate about a study recently released that said couples who were asked to increase the amount of sex they had, by 40%, were not happier than before they tried to increase their sex. What the

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heck? That doesn’t make sense, or does it? My guess is that these couples trying to increase the amount they have sex are now viewing it as a chore. They are not using it as an expression of love and a feeling of connection or just a fun time. They are trying to accomplish a task and it is feeling like a chore.

I must say I can relate. At times this year you have read my pseudo complaining about feeling tired and just having to so it because I committed to having sex everyday of this Sex Love and Washing Clothes year. The whole #Everday2015 seemed like a great idea until life gets busy and you are tired or sick or angry. When something turns into a “job” it becomes less fun and exciting and more responsibility and we in, our culture, don’t like to “have” to do anything. Even if it is something we will enjoy. We get lazy. If it takes effort we decide it is too much work.

Well, guess what? Sex takes effort. It is work! It is worth it. On so many levels. Mental, emotional, even physical benefits come from having sex! It is worth not watching the end of that show so you are not too tired! It is worth planning it into your schedule or leaving the bar earlier from date night so you can have that physical connection, that image

release, that feel good thing with your spouse! Sex feels good. It is fun. We release oxytocin and other feel good hormones and chemicals in our brain when we have sex, especially when we orgasm! So stop making excuses to not do it! And definitely stop complaining about the effort it takes! Just do it and enjoy it! What are you missing? There is nothing better than sex with you soul mate, your spouse, your best friend! Just do it!

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Let’s Have a Great Week!

04 Monday May 2015

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Happy Monday! Today the Hub’s and I woke up kind of late. Only by about 30-40 minutes. I, in turn, woke up the girl a bit late too, I did tell her she had 30 minutes to get ready. Because of that, I made her and The Boy’s breakfast and lunch, which I have been trying to get them to do own their own. She was still late, same with the Boy! Seriously they have to be more responsible to be on top of getting up getting dressed and eating breakfast then grabbing their stuff and going to school on time. Monda a job for coffeeWell, then I was late too! I had a massage  I was thinking that when the kids go to school I have 45 minutes but then the kids were late so I took the Boy to school at 8:30 instead of 8:15. Then I had a moment when I thought my massage was at 10 and then remember it was a 9:00 appointment (tomorrow is 10:00). Ugh! I hate Mondays that start like this!

Also my house is a disaster! I have cleaning up from the Girl’s party to do and catching up still from the wedding cake a week ago…WHAT?! I just need to get caught up in real life. Then, next week I have the Bartending school thing so I will be away all week. I think when I cook this week I will cook two meals and freeze one so the kids and the Hubs can just toss stuff in the oven, or something. Actually…they usually don’t have time heat up stuff in the oven it has to be crock pot meals next week…let’s plan that but still focus on this week. I asked the fam what they would like for dinners this week…all I got was ‘Cheesy Rice Soup Thing’ that I make in the crock pot from the girl. At least that is one day I don’t have to plan dinner.

I will also be stepping up the last-minute half marathon training! I have two weeks until my first half of the year! Last year I ‘cheated’ and ran the 10K instead of the half. I want to do the whole race! I think if I run even a short distant every day I can do it. I also need to not be too focused on the time just get the race finished! I am excited to run my first race and get it under my belt. The energy of race day is like nothing else and the feeling of crossing the finish line is even better! Gotta watch the nutrition and hydration too!

Monday OKSo I have a lot of work today folks. Not a whole lot of time to be super inspiring with my writing, other than by just doing my work! So I am going to get my work done, cleaning, then running and planing the meals for the week. I am think tomorrow will be shopping day. This week is teacher appreciation week so don’t forget to let your kids’ teachers know they are appreciated and loved.

Have a great week friends!

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XXX-Tequila Makes Your Clothes Fall Off

29 Wednesday Apr 2015

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Hello friends! Happy Hump Day! Today’s hump day challenge day! I was having aTequilla shots hard time feeling inspired but gathered some inspiration in my new adventure in bartending. Yes I am going to try my hand at slinging drinks. A bit of a hobby job to maybe buy my husband and son their dream ‘family’ car and the Girl to Nationals and the Boy to Football camp? Then after all that maybe my dream family home on the lake. Well now to get down to the challenge.

Body Shots is your challenge. (If you don’t drink try replacing the boose with sprite or lemonade or water) Yes I know it sounds like a sorority night in college but the goal is to be playful with your mate. You can start with your favorite shot. Most people choose to do Tequila this way, but you do what you like and be creative. Tequila is often times served with Salt and Lime you lick some salt take the shot and then bite on the lime. To do a body shot prep their body by licking a particular spot let’s say on her breast, then give her a lime to hold in her mouth. With shot in hand lick the salt off your partner take the shot and then bite the lime while still in her mouth. Body shots picAdd a sensual squeeze of her breast and finish it off with a sensual passionate kiss. Then get ready to trade positions.

This is a great jumping of point to a fun night of play. Sometimes even when you have sex regularly you want something more. You are tired of the same old foreplay and always having to be the one who starts the action. Well, I can understand the way this may feel being the one who likes my partner to work on me first. I do sometimes feel ‘bad’ that I am not as good as he is at starting things up and getting him going. He is phenomenal at it he really knows how to get my going but he gets tired of it. My idea of starting things up is rubbing my boobs up against the Hubs. Although he does like that I know he would like more action from me. So I am looking for a way to start up a passionate fire and get the ball rolling. Yes I need something tangible like this to light the fire…don’t judge me I do write about sex a lot, I just am a bit shy in real life with the hubs… Stop, I can feel you getting judgmental!

The idea of body shots leading into some great passionate kissing touching and Fucking! I personally love the sensation of salt falling on my skin and the sensation of the tongue licking it off then a kiss with the taste of tequila and the lime all the while being naked and making out with your love. SHOTS SHOTS SHOTS!!! Many times drinking and taking shots like this is a social event with a big group or crazy party, we are trying to capture that energy and bring it into your bedroom! Play some fun music and dance a little. Be happy with each other have fun with it! Maybe start at your favorite restaurant or bar for date night to get in the mood.

If you don’t like tequila or are not a person who likes shots try it with a daiquiri or margarita. Sprinkle sugar on your partners body, with a daiquiri instead of salt on if you like it more fruity. Make it daiquiri body shots. The sensation of the sugar sprinkle take a drink of the frozen daiquiri and then passionately kiss your lover the cold drink cooling your mouth and going to to warm body is a very “hot” sensation! Temperature play can be very sensual pay attention to the details of temperature and textures and the different touch sensations. Talk about changing things up and lighting a fire! Your partners tongue all of a sudden 20 or so degrees cooler. Even try taking an ice cube out and running it along their body as you heat up in the bedroom.

I personally love the cold sugary play on my skin, especially on the nipples but only after we get warm. So for my hubs, give me a few shots off your body first and then even squeeze a cold lime on my nipples and then lick it off. Let’s see where this takes us and you readers too! Have fun and enjoy your shots and your partners body and your make out session and whatever it leads to! I plan to!

Variation: Try taking your tequila with a Cinnamon and Orange instead of salt and Lime for a more Hawaiian twist. Also last week I tried Cinnamon Tequila called Cinge a Cuervo product way better than Fireball especially if you like cinnamon with your tequila…

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XXX-Don’t Get Caught-XXX

22 Wednesday Apr 2015

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Sex under a bushHello Friends and adventurers! Happy Hump Day! Happy Hump Day Challenge Day! Today’s challenge is a bit risky. Please don’t use my name if you get in trouble but if you play it safe and plan ahead you should be just fine. We have played with sex in different areas of the home but now we are going out of the house. Sex in “public” first thing to do is pick or scout out a place first.

Be creative and inventive. Safest bet probably is in your car. Go to a remote spot, maybe even a look out point that you maybe when to when you were young to go to make out overlooking the city lights. If you choose the front seat pick the passenger seat so you don’t set of the horn. Girl on top works best here. If you have a truck or SUV or even a mini-van with the ‘privacy glass’ you are golden! Slide the seat back or the front seat forward if you are in the back slide down your pants and get it on. If you are like me, I prefer naked sex, do it either at night in the dark, in a very remote location to avoid people seeing us and/or in the back of the truck since we have the privacy glass.

Maybe try a park late at night. You can find a gazebos in a shaded area or a bush to hide behind go on a school night after the kids are home and in be. (I am talking about the neighborhood kids not just yours you don’t want a kid to find you in the act, that is a way to mess up a childhood). Play on the picnic table or a good stump to move around on, or just romp right on the ground, bring a picnic blanket. Feel nature taking it coursebecome one with nature. Sex in the open air under the stars…AMAZING!

If you have an office job work ‘late’ one night and after all the coworkers go home invite your wife in to your office. Beware of security cameras, night guard and/or janitors. Wouldn’t want anyone to find you and tell your boss. If you are the boss and/or own the business more power to you, you know how to not get found out.

One of my favorite scenarios, scout out a restaurant that has a lock on their bathroom doors and maybe even that their bathroom is away from the crowd of people like the hallway of a shared office building. Either before you get seated for your meal or during dinner after apps and before the main course or after you have ordered dessert both of you go the restroom together. Lock the door behind you, lift up your skirt and have a quickie right there! It is the best kind of dessert and so hot! (We did it in an elevator in the building of the restaurant. The Hubs works on elevators and has keys. It was love in an elevator, wonder if he’ll give me tips to share to you all about that…)

Your ‘wimps way out’  go on your back patio after dark and get it on! Or if you have a major privacy fence you can do it before dark. (No one is suggesting you are a wimp lets just call this the warm up you will get hooked on sex outside and the excitement and maybe try it somewhere else one time.) Being naked outside in the dark is so hot and sexy! Use lawn chairs or a hammock in your yard if you have one. Or if you are scared do a quick stand up sex act! But turn off the motion detecting lights first. Then in the morning when you look out on your patio your little secret will make you smile!Sex outside middle of day

There are so many options to have “public sex” and not get caught! Please be careful and subtle as you could get arrested and charged with a lewd act or worse. Be mindful of trespassing laws and such! But have fun. There is nothing like taking a risk to feel a rush of excitement.

A few things to consider and remember:

1. Depending on where you choose to do it and your privacy concerns you may want to focus on a quickie.

2. Consider clothing carefully. Are you going to shed the clothes? Do you have time? Where will your clothes be while you are in action? If you are keeping the clothes on make sure you are not wearing a neon green ‘here I am’ shirt. Wear something that will blend in.

3. Ladies wear a skirt. Decide if you are going to wear underwear or not. Maybe pre-plan your positioning. If you are going to do a quickie in a bathroom no panties are the best option (isn’t it always when wearing a skirt on a date anyway?). If you are meeting your husband at his office job and you will be doing the deed in his office consider dressing up complete with pantyhose and letting him rip the crotch out but still no panties.

4. Consider skipping foreplay. Time is of the essence. Talk about it on the drive there, have your story in your head be excited…you may not need foreplay. However, if you are in your car on a remote road that no one will be there feel free to take your time.

5. The idea of getting caught may be kind of fun if it is an adult. The exhibitionist in you will get even more excited at the risk of getting caught. Be ready to bail out fast if needed and have a story ready…”I lost my ring in her vagina I had to find it.” Or we were so hot we had to relieve ourselves…that is if the person who finds you is a janitor with a sense of humor, it might at least give everyone a laugh and break the ice and stop him from calling the cops. You are already caught may as well have fun with it!

6. Be comfortable! Be it comfortable with the idea of the situation or in the back seat of your car while boning…it is all about having fun and being crazy not pinching a nerve and needing a massage therapist (however I know a good one).

7. Consider the children. Please do not expose any children to dirty lewd acts.

Enjoy the excitement the rush of being crazy. Remember the excitement we got when we had our first make out session in a dark movie theater? We thought no one was watching us. Well yeah we are older now and know how to not get caught so work your talents do your magic and see what you can do. Let me know what places you are Hump Day Challenging!

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5 Ways to Have More Sex and a Better Relationship

21 Tuesday Apr 2015

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Happy Tuesday! This morning has already been pretty productive for me. Must be because I started the day with a bit of morning sex with the Hubs!  Last night we were both ‘in the mood’ but it was late we stayed up watching Die Hard (a fave of ours) and I was working on his feet (doing massage) so both of us were sleepy. Morning sex better than coffeeIt just doesn’t feel right if we don’t have sex between him coming home from work and then going back to work the next day. I appreciated the wake up help! He actually sent me the featured image today! I am the coffee drinker (not that coffee really helps waking me up but I like coffee). However, the morning sex does help get me up and at ’em!

We both enjoy each other. We would rather be in bed cuddling than be on time for work! Not that we are irresponsible people we just like to be together. This may explain why we can recover from some of the ‘fights’ we have! We love being together. When we first met we spent every minute we could together! Walking to classes together and knowing it took 4 seconds to make it to class from that particular corner! We were always talking on the phone until we fell asleep and now almost 17 and a half years later we are the same. We go to bed at the same time, get up at the same time. Sometimes one of us will stay in bed but we wake up with each other and have a few moments together even if it is just a quick chat and I love you and off to work! We just like to be together.

I have read many articles about what successful couples do here are 5 things that make almost every list that the Hubs and I do and they all work at keep us close even in the bumpy times! 1. Go to bed at the same time. 2. Sleep Naked, 3. Have Date Nights, 4. Be Friends and 5. Don’t be afraid to have morning sex! Well those are the bullet points that I would like to share with my readers that you should start doing if you are not doing them yet!

1. Go to Bed at the same time. It is hard to be intimate or sexual if you go to bed at different times. One person is already asleep the other comes into bed and wakes up the sleeping partner for sex…yeah, how is that working for you? Or are you the one who stays up to avoid sex, intentionally? Not to be harsh but you are sabotaging your relationship. Going to bed at the same time gives you time to have pillow talk, and gets your schedules synced up, it is much easier to make good positive physical connection everyday if you are going to bed at the same time. There is no TV, Computers, Books or work allowed leave your phone alone too. You can’t sleep with all that anyway make your spouse and your relationship important and go to bed together sans TV, Computer, Books and Mobile devices. If you can’t sleep you can pull it out after sex and/or after your partner is asleep after you have had your pillow talk and cuddle time after sex. (If you work different schedules, I get it. You have to do what you have to do, but make an agreement to wake up for a while to have those intimate moments be it when one partner gets home or the other is getting up for work one way or another make time for each other to share moments of pillow talk and intimacy in bed.) Note: You may want to make your bed time earlier to accommodate your wake up schedule the Hubs and I usually take an hour or so for our ‘bedtime routine’ don’t rush it enjoy!

2. Sleep Naked. Why have to bother taking off clothes in bed? Not only does sleeping naked help make sex easier so you don’t have to take off clothes but skin to skin contact has been researched and proven to heighten health and feelings of connection. Moms and newborn babies are spending more time enjoying skin to skin contact due to such research, it is the same for the Moms and dads or just couples. It is a human thing, not just a baby thing, we can’t thrive without it! Don’t be ashamed of your sleepwearbody and hide it and don’t shame your partner if it is not perfect. Your partner needs to touch your skin with their skin. There are hormones released, and happy chemicals are being stimulated, pheromones are getting released! If you are afraid to be naked with your spouse or lover, get comfortable being naked! I bet your lover will love seeing all of you. Remember you are under the covers so it’s not like anyone actually sees you and the skin to skin contact can still happen while under covers. Just do it! Tell you lover you love them naked too!)

3. Have Date Nights: Go out get out of the space that needs cleaning, needs work or is just boring because you have been there all day. You date night can be to a local bar for one drink during happy hour or to a restaurant for dinner or just appetizers or desserts. Just get out of the 4 walls you spend everyday!

4. Be Friends: If you are friends you will want to be together. If you don’t, get to know each other! You should know who your spouses go to friends are. You should know their favorite food, favorite flower and favorite movie. You should also know their biggest fear, who they love and who they hate and who they just put up with to be with you… If you have not ever do a love map exercise you can purchase the Gottman book The Seven Principals for Making Marriage Work and Love Map Exercise (click on links) or I am sure you can search some questions. Just get to know each other and remember you were once friends that how you became lovers. If not, you need to be friends so you can stay lovers forever is a long time to spend with someone you don’t know.

5. Have Morning Sex. Or any kind of sex. Just have sex! Sex everyday may not be doable but more sex is doable I guarantee it! This is coming from a girl who has sex everyday! Sex is positive touch. More positive touch, even if it is not full blown intercourse, will height the quality of your relationship! Just do It more!

Ok, there are my 5 easy things to do to make your relationship and sex better. Start tonight with going to be at the same time and sleeping naked! You will never turn back, I promise! No excuses, if you get cold sans your flannel PJs go grab another blanket!

Go have a great day and we will see you for the Hump Day Challenge tomorrow!

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XXX-Shower Differently Today-XXX

15 Wednesday Apr 2015

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shower sex 2Happy Hump Day Challenge Day! Today’s challenge will get you naked and down and dirty while getting clean all at the same time! You guessed it, your challenge is Shower Sex! We have updated the Sex Love and Washing Clothes amazon store for today’s challenge. There are products to help you have a fun and safe time in the shower! Click the link under the Blogroll section or Click on the Sex Love and Washing Clothes Store tab at the top of the page.

Start by just taking a shower together or if you decide you want to make it a production from the beginning you can seductively take each other’s clothes off and make it a big event. Or you could sneak into the shower while your lover is taking their daily shower. The shower it is a great time for naked skin to skin contact! What is better than seeing you lover naked and rubbing up against him/her? Seeing him/her wet and naked in a hot steamy shower!

First start with warm water…hot water the kind that is almost too hot but bareable. (Tip if you like the idea of a steamy situation don’t turn on the fan and let the steam just build up around you). Make out with your lover. Wrap your arms around each other, notice the skin to skin contact and what does that do to your insides when you are both naked. Feel the water running down your bodies! Men swoop down and suck on her nipples, ladies grasp his cock and feel it get hard in your hands. Press and rub your hips against each other. Cop a feel if you haven’t yet. Take your time feeling each other’s body and kiss, caressing and sucking and licking the whole time.shower sex

When you are ready to get to the actual business it takes a bit of creativity. You can face each other, ladies (especially if you are shorter) lift one leg, let him hold it up while he adjusts to enter you. Or have him lift you and you can kind of bounce on him with your legs flinging around in the air. However, he must be very strong and balanced and be careful because the floor of the shower is not only slippery but also very hard! Any standing position can work in the shower.   This is where the suction cup handles and foot rests can come into play and be very helpful!  We have a shower door so I sometimes grab hold of the top of it and use the side of the bath tub to get a lift (be careful bathtubs are slippery and shower doors and/or curtain rods are not always strong enough to do that). The hubs and I have quite a difference in height so we have experimented a lot of options. Try try and try again, be careful. The position that works the best to get the job done, for us, is a modified doggie style. I turn around bend over and he enters me and holds on to my hips.  I rest my hands on my thighs or knees or sometimes on the edge of the tub as well. If you have handicap bars in your shower from someone who lived there before, consider that a shower sex bonus!

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Now, lets get the negatives out of the way! Some people don’t have huge showers, everyone’s everything is different sizes and we all find a way to make those smaller things work just fine…see what I did there size doesn’t matter! If you do have a smaller shower you will enjoy more skin to skin contact. Enjoy as you accidentally brush her breast on your forearm as you reach for the soap. Another issue is the floor is slippery when wet. Move consciously and slowly. If you want, swing by a local store grab a nonskid bath mat. (Remember to take it out at the end to let it dry after each use so to not trap mildew and mold under your mat.) Just be careful not to fall or push against your lover if you lose your balance. You can purchase the suction cup handles that suction cup to the walls and foot rests to help. Also know that water is not the same thing as lube. Water is a horrible sexual lubricant (my fave is in the Sex Love and Washing Clothes store as well) so you may want to bring some of your silicone based lube with you into the shower. Just don’t spill it as it is very slippery and will not wash away with the water.

For an added bonus most bathrooms have mirrors, so pull back the curtain or watch through a glass door your bodies rubbing and loving up on each other. Ladies, embrace the water running over your face and body, make your breasts little water falls I bet he will suck that water right up off of them. After you have your first shower sex together you may realize you enjoy that extra skin to skin contact. Feel free to try just showering together more regularly. The Hubs and I shower together all the time. The extra time we have being naked together really adds a positive energy to the relationship that is unexplainable and definitely worth adding to your routine! Experiment and try different things don’t give up too soon and don’t ever give up having sex in the shower. Most of the time in my life shower sex is sex that starts in the shower. Sometimes it is hard to finish in the shower we like certain positions to “finish” and the shower is not the easiest place to accomplish that. So use the shower as foreplay no harm in that!Trouble in the shower

Suds up and lather your lovers body. Wash your lovers back let them wash yours be ready for him to get your boobs extra clean. Maybe even try helping to “groom” each others private areas into a new shape or into a look that you might like. Relax and enjoy this time. One great thing about shower sex is that most bathrooms have locks and it is a great thing to do on vacation especially when you happen to share a hotel room with your kids or other people. We shower together all the time and probably only 10% or less do we have shower sex. Showering together is just a fun good routine and the kids think it is normal because we always have (but they know that it’s only a mom and dad thing to do.) Enjoy today’s challenge everyone. Please feel free to keep me posted on what you like and what your success are or any funny stories that may come from these Hump Day Challenges!

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All Hail Plankton and Best Friend Time

11 Saturday Apr 2015

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Marine Science Afloat is where we did our field trip. I highly recommend the trip!

Happy Saturday! I had so much fun and learned so much at the Girl’s field trip yesterday! I learned a lot about plankton! They got plankton samples and looked at them under a microscope. It is amazing how much life there is in just a small drop of water! I learned about a copepods and arrow worms, we also learned about phytoplankton and zooplankton. So much excitement around plankton! ALL HAIL PLANKTON! Also the one important word that they wanted the kids and us adults too, to learn was watershed. We live in the Puget Sound Watershed. Everything we do with water somehow ends up in the Puget Sound! So be mindful folks if you live near the water or not, everything that goes on the ground some how affects our environment and especially those of us that live in the Puget Sound area if you can see the water or not, be mindful of what you put in our water.

Today is Saturday. I made a ham scramble for the family to have a family breakfast around the dining table. We all sat and ate together then we all cleaned up together. The Hubs kept the cleaning energy going as he is currently cleaning out and organizing my utensil drawers in the kitchen. Since this kind of involves me sitting and saying yes I use that or no I don’t I decided to multitask my blog time! I actually enjoy these family moments. The girl is sitting on the counter with me and the boy is entertaining us while he tucks in his jersey and is just being goofy getting ready for his game in a couple of hours. The good part is for now there is no one is yelling we are what you would call “working together” I love these moments. The Hubs is a great organizer and I suck at it. We work well the way it is going right now.

Tonight we are going to a Keith Sweat concert. Keith Sweat is the artist who sings Twisted our ‘song’ the first song we dance to at a high school dance. Not our wedding song, that is From This Moment by Shania Twain. It was after a football game vs Mt Tohoma, of course the Wolves won! He was in a relationship so it was a dance, just as friends, we were best friends before anything romantic happened. It was high school we were kids and sometimes you just can’t control who you fall for especially at 17! We have had a bunch of ups and downs in the last 18+ years and some really low and obviously some really high moments. I am glad I met that super cute football player in Washington State History probably 6 months or so before our first dance. He was there to listen to me cry when I was stood up for the first time from a date and when my dad had a fire in the kitchen one day while I ws at school (a longer story about that exists not getting into it now) he was also there when my Grandpa and my Dad passed away. We are and have always been good friends. It is very cliché to say that you married your best friend these days but I think when we met and got romantic and got married it was not quite as common as it is today.Best Friend Sleep Over

I really did marry my best friend. In the midst of life and kids and work and bills we tend to forget that we even have a best friend let alone live with our best friend, but we do. I love my best friend. I am happy for the opportunity to be reminded of that night we had our first dance! That may very well be the most important dance of my whole life!

To everyone out there who may or may not be struggling in your relationship, remind yourself what got you together in the first place. Take moments to go back there every chance you get. As we get older we realize we don’t get those opportunities very often. Life really does get in the way but we need to peel away time to get those moments in and sadly for them, the kids may need to have a boring night at grammas in order for us to make that time… guess what, they will survive and you will be better parents for it!

Now go love on your spouse weather they are your best friend or not!

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Let’s Up The National Average

09 Thursday Apr 2015

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I just spent the morning reading up on Talent Agencies. The Girl went to a recruiting agency that I think wants you to pay them to develop her. I have to call back at noon to find out if they want her or not, but they loved her pictures. My gut is telling me that if she really does want to explore show business we are going to have to do something else. If this company thinks my daughter is marketable, when it comes to this business they would get her a job, find a company that likes her look and get the commission off of that. If I pay them to ‘develop’ her they are already making money and what incentive do they have to actually get her a job, if they are already making money off of me paying for her ‘training’. Anyway…if there are any of my readers out there who know the business feel free to contact me with details of things I need to know. I will probably be sending out pictures and emails to agencies in the area to see how she can explore this since it sounds like she really wants to explore this, along with her dance.

As I sit here writing I hear a story on the news that perks me up. A stat: 37% of Grilled Cheese lovers have sex 6 times a month vs only 23% of non grilled cheese lovers (credit Q13 Fox News not sure what their source was, I could only pay so much attention and retain that much of the information). Apparently there is a link between relationships and Grilled Cheese. This got me thinking a couple of things. For one, who figures out this stat? (It’s like baseball they have broken down stats for everything down to batting averages when the pitcher takes a bathroom break this is sarcasm. I love baseball, this is not a dis). And two: is 6 times a month a lot? Does having sex 6 times a month make your relationship good? Because, I don’t think I like the idea that 6 times a month is a ‘good’ number for a months worth of sex!Frequency

If 6 times a month makes your relationship good I bet all my readers have amazing relationships. I guess that does bring up the average to more than once a week. Which sounds better than just 6 times a month. What is the national average anyway? …hold please need to tab over to do a search… That was not as easy as I thought it would be. I had to do math and get a bit creative combining some of the information that I found. With quick math averaging out the information I found from the Kinsey institute the national average is about 89 times per year (averaging the age groups 18-29 112 times/year 30-39 86 times/year and 40-49 times/year). Which is about 7 times per month so the grilled cheese stat is close to the national average with some obviously being higher and some couples being much lower and the number I looked at were not necessarily coupled individuals. If the national average is 7 and grilled cheese lovers have it 6 I would say grilled cheese loving does not necessarily correlate to “good relationships”….

Does it matter? I think, after yesterdays hump day challenge, lovers of whipped cream and chocolate probably have sex more than 7 times a month. Did you do the challenge. I did, and I was enjoying the sensation of the cold whip cream on my nipples almost as much or more than the sensation my husband licking and sucking if off of them. What was your favorite part? (I forgot to mention to be careful with sugary substances near the vaginal opening as sugar can increase yeast in the area so always be careful when using sugar during sex.)

How often is sex necessary for a good relationship? My husband would just simply say more or there is no cap on it. For me it is not about frequency but depth, and not depth in a physical way but in an emotional way. Connect with your love. Open eye sex when you look at each other and see in their sole as your bodies rub against and into each other. Also the moments when you are not having sex matters too. For now we, the hubs and I, are on the everyday plan and I kind of like it. I know the hubs likes it. Sex is a positive touch anything positive you should have more of it in your life! I think it has lead to less arguments and more sex. Not that we have sex to avoid arguments (although we have at times) but the thought a good sex can sometimes lead you to not want to anger your love so they won’t want to have sex later. It causes us to be more conscious of what the other is feeling and sometimes that means being less argumentative and more understanding and careful with their emotions. Leaving more room for that positive emotional and physical connection during sex.

Sex Love and Washing Clothes has been great for me this year. How is it doing for you? Are you on the everyday plan? For sex love and/or washing clothes? Do you do at least one of these things everyday or do you do all of it everyday? I try to do it all but there are days the clothes get forgotten and a small few days, 5 or less, where the sex has not happened due to fighting, tiredness or being TDTF and sometimes just life. But we are definitely well over the national average and our relationship still has it’s ups and downs but doing something proactively to be positive has helped us stay together and not fall into the really low low valleys that we were in last year and in years previous.

A new goal I have for this blog is to up the National Average of times couples have sex! Can we get to 10 times per month? Here’s to being part of upping the National Average.

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