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Porn vs Plot

12 Thursday Apr 2018

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It’s late but we need a Hump Day Challenge. It’s tough because the Hubs is gone right now. I have struggled with Hump Day Challenges lately. Our lives have been busy and the relationship is tough when you feel overwhelmed and stressed and that makes sex tough. When I started this blog it was to capitalize on our great sex to ground our marriage in. But lately the great sex is not coming as easy, our kids are getting older, staying up later (our bedrooms are in a line) they are more interested in what we are doing and they are busy multiple sports competitions and involved in school projects etc. Makes a sex life tricky! So many excuses! So here we go Ruby it’s time to get help. I pulled out my drawer in my night stand and saw my superhotsex deck by Tracey Cox. It’s a deck of cards (flash card size) that have suggestions of sexual session topics. Very interesting and detailed! Use tools like this to spice up your sex life! Don’t be shy get open minded and let down those walls of judgement!

Today I drew randomly and pulled a “lust lessons and fantasies” card titled Porn Versus Plot. I have written a few Porn and Poking Hump Day Challenges so this is the direction we are going to go again. If you have your own pull those out and put them in the DVD or Blue Ray player or whatever device you use. Some people have a subscription to a magazine or website or others use free sites such as Worldsex.com. Pick one a motion picture version. Male fantasies tends to be more direct up close and getting it on very visual focused on the act of sex and the physicalness they usually don’t care what the people look like as long as they see dick and pussy or even up close girl on girl. Women on the other hand usually prefer at least a little bit of plot and romance and pretty people. They want to see a hot guy come up and be romantic watch him licking her pussy and other tantalizing pleasurable fore play actions, where as the men typically gravitate right to the sex.

My challenge to you is to grab your laptop or pull up your videos on the big screen if you prefer, and find your favorite scene. Scrolling through a website works well for this because you have the thumbnails to preview what your clicking on. Watch a few scenes feel free to click away if you land on one that you don’t like. (If your new to porn it will be when you both get warmed up and stop feeling weirded out by this exercise) Choose what you like. If the site you are on has a section for categories it may be easy to pick out one. Each of you pick your favorite category and possibly your favorite video. Note to the opposite partner the videos she/he chooses are what turns her/him on, so take notes on what you see and what you hear for future reference.

My suggestion is you both choose a video once you get enough of each others decide on one, maybe one of the same you chose or pick a new clip to watch and copy what you see or at least start to copy what you see. Maybe he starts going down on her and he goes down on you then you take off on your own sexcapade! The sexual energy you will feel from the movie and each other should be enough to take you through your whole sex session into a very fulfilling orgasm. You may not make it that far you might want to watch a few less warm up videos, use your judgement.

Remember to relax. If something comes up that makes you or your partner uncomfortable, turn it off because it’s not for you. Don’t ever pressure your partner to do or see things that make them uncomfortable! If you like it and your partner is cringing…still, turn it off! Talk about it later but tonight is for you and your partner to have fun and use the fantasy aspect of watching porn and figure out what you like. Maybe you will learn a new technique. Don’t be judgmental, if people in the movie are doing things you don’t like, don’t judge your partner for liking that, maybe they can teach you how to like it so be a little open minded but be honest with each other. Communication is important. Don’t get pissed at your man for getting turned on by two hot girls with one man. Just because he enjoys the fantasy on the screen does not me he is going to to act it out later, nor is she fellas! Trust is important porn can be used as a very good foreplay tool if you let it.

So go have some fun take your time and enjoy each other as you play voyeur and see what you like and play out some of those fantasies in real life!

Go fuck and be merry!

#HumpDayChallenge2018

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XXX-Steak and BJ Day!

14 Wednesday Mar 2018

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steak and bj dayToday is the perfect day to get back here to start Hump Day Challenges again. Maybe tomorrow I will post a life update so you all can know where I’ve been and what I am thinking. But today is National Steak and Blow Job Day. Which basically was a male joke gone viral but hey, this is Sex Love and Washing clothes and it’s Wednesday and my sexual creativity lately has been lacking so here we go! Apparently some guys are all bitter over spending money for Valentines Day a month ago so they created this cute ‘holiday’. Ok, I’m down, I’ll play!

Today’s Hump Day Challenge is a Blow Job or Cunnilingus for the ladies. There is no slang for Cunnilingus for the ladies when I hear Blow Job however I think of Cunnilingus as the a blow job too, it is a female version. However I don’t think of cunnilingus as as much of a job as Fellatio… anyway digression! Women can get Blow Jobs too!

Give your lover oral sex! For the sake of this hump day challenge Steak is optional but who wants to miss out on a reason to have steak? Lick, suck and slobber your way to your partners orgasm! Then lay back and allow him to return the favor! Some like raunchy loud and slurpy the louder the dirtier the better. Yet others like to be quiet and pretty but I don’t care just do it and enjoy it! Relax and have fun giving your lover pleasure. Remember this is not just to the Male aspect of Blow Jobs it is to both partners. I am already excited for this one! Go get you some!

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31 Wednesday Jan 2018

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if you never did you shouldHappy Hump Day! Today the Hump Day Challenge is to get out of your comfort level. Well for some of you, anyway. Since it’s the beginning of the year I want to ease into things sort of and get you communicating differently. The Hubs and I struggle hard core on communication. Believe it or not he is more sexually driven than me. He likes to have dirty talk and like sexual innuendo and most of the time I am stuck and confused about how to answer. Many times I respond with LOL or send back and emoji but he really wants is for me to get involved with the conversation. So, the best advice I can give you is PRACTICE and just do it. Write something back until if feels normal. The hump day challenge this week is, we are going to sext each other.

Start off by sending a text that says something like “I can’t wait to see your naked body” or some partners may want (or even need) more. Point is: Know your audience. If your man likes the details of how long and where you will put his member when you get home by all means go for it. However, if your wife is a stay at home mom who sometimes lets your kids play with her phone while she is shopping give her a warning first. “Hey, babe. Little man is not looking right?” she responds with “no” Then go ahead  with “when he goes to bed tonight I’m going to lick your luscious pussy until you beg for my cock” then she can respond back with a pic of her pussy (after she escapes from Little Man of course)

Sexting is a fine art. You have to be careful what and when you send texts and if your partner has a work phone probably don’t want to send it there…or maybe you do for some extra danger (but don’t say I didn’t warn you if negative backlash comes). I love the idea of sexting my spouse. He loves it. There’s not a whole lot of anything that can’t be cheered up with a nice shot of my tits… Get my smile in there too then he is set for the day!

If sending photos don’t worry about how you look there are not too many sexual positions you are in that you will think are attractive, but he will. I know it’s usually the girls who have that self consciousness. Men, some ladies love a good dick pic, however many of us can live without. My preference is to not get them. However, I love a good six pack paired with  boxer briefs… I love my husbands smile and I love a guy in sunglasses. My point is that we women are a little harder to understand and please, so do your homework and find out what your gal likes before sending the dick pic.

Your hump day challenge today is to sext up your lover! Give them a story or just a short tease what ever you feel like and make sure you know it is something they are into. The point is to start a playful conversation that leads to foreplay that leads to sex that leads to two orgasms!

#SLWC2018

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24 Wednesday Jan 2018

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oral sexHappy Hump Day! Today’s Hump Day Challenge kind of pairs with last week. Last week it was all about the boys, this week it is all about the girls. Lets start with getting a manicure. Go to the nail shop, there they will not only file and trim your nails but soak your hands and soften the skin on your hands to be smooth as silk. When your lady gets ready you are going to give her the lick of her life.

When you go down on her as your face closes in on her pussy, consciously breathe out while approaching her luscious lips to lick. That will draw her brain’s attention down there and she will just notice that something amazing is about to happen. Softly start kissing and licking her outer labia, work your tongue in between her luscious lips and find her clit. Play with that for a bit, you will feel it firm up, if it hasn’t already. Feel free to add some humming or moaning as you go along. The vibration will add yet another level of stimulation. As she is getting going and to add even more sexual stimulation, use your hands to touch her body. Touch her everywhere, but some maybe even most, women really like their nipples stimulated when they get oral, but don’t ignore the whole boob. Caress it, her whole boob, in your hand and then with two fingers roll the nipple around and rock your finger back and forth on her nipple, alternating this will be best. You will feel her body writhe with pleasure under you and she may even start grinding on your face.

If you are worried that you don’t know what to do, pretend you are making out with her, just like you would kiss her. Suckle, lick, suck and then when you are ready to take it to the next level, insert a finger (or two) in her pussy. Keep licking and keep your other hand caressing her breasts and stimulating her nipple. As she gets even more into it you keep your tongue going, she may even be grabbing your head and pressing it into her, insert another finger into her pussy. Feel her G-spot it is a bumpy area inside of her vaginal canal, on the front side of her body. Now, walk yourself up her body and kiss and make out with her, insert your cock inside of her and fuck her for a little while, but do not let her come yet, unless you plan on giving her multiple orgasms.

Before she climaxes, go back down on her finger her while you lick her and stimulate her sexual region. Make sure your fingers are super wet with saliva or even  considering grabbing some lube for the next step; gently insert a finger in her ass. (If anal play is new to her start with your pinky because it is small,  this is where the manicure comes in handy the anal canal is super sensitive don’t want to scratch her that will really turn her off to anal play and maybe all together.) Don’t need to worry about moving that finger much maybe a little back and forth or gently with the whole movement of her body and your whole hand. Keep your tongue going and keep a finger in her pussy as you add the anal play. Check in with her or at least make sure she is enjoying it. The Double penetration is sure to send her over the edge! The key is to go slow and make sure she knows what you are doing especially if it’s new. If you do it right she will be grinding on your face and you will have the taste of pussy juices on your upper lip for the rest of the night. And hey, maybe you will get a returned favor (but please don’t ask her for it, let her enjoy her “O” the same way she let you last week, let her offer it to you).

The combination of fingering her and oral is sure to get her going even if she is not that into sex! She will go from stressed to impressed by you in just a few licks and finger strokes. I prefer to finish with my man in my pussy and he knows that so that is how we do foreplay, but you are free to explore with your lover and decide how to go about this. Don’t hesitate to make oral a regular occurrence in your sex sessions. It is a great way to get your partners body going. My body, like many other women, tends to need a little more assistance getting horny than the Hubs, like most men you just say sex and they are standing at attention, and this is a go to for him and I top be on the same page. Honestly it is one reason we have such great sex. I remember when he got good at it and it is when our sex life hit the next level! I hope you enjoy it as much as we do!

#SLWC2018

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10 Wednesday Jan 2018

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Give her an orgasmHappy Hump Day! I am still working on getting writing in my schedule before the end of the night! Once again today here I am at 10:03. Anyway update from yesterday it was a bit of a downer but later in the day after the couch sucked me in for the morning in the evening I went for a 3 mile run and felt much better. I didn’t want to stop and I wanted to go again today however schedule did not allow it! I went running in the evening and it was dark and I survived. We have a nice well lit running/walking trail along the water downtown so I felt pretty safe down there! So there I know I go in the dark and be safe. There is nothing like a runners high!

Well actually yes there is the feeling you get from an Orgasm that leads me to the Hump Day Challenge for today the first of 2018 (since we started SLCW Monday). Todays challenge is to get to the big “O” this may sound strange if you and your partner are always on the same page and orgasm together every time and are both as satisfied as the other. I love sex with The Hubs. He is great at taking time on me to make sure I get off and enjoy what we are doing. However as we get older and busier and life happens my mind gets side tracked and my body doesn’t always respond the way it should. I am pretty sure I am not the only one. So sometimes we either fake it, or just let our partner know the body is not working so go ahead and finish so we can get to sleep or because the longer you are taking the more stressed you are about it and just want to satisfy your lover and give him what he deserves for all the effort he is putting in.

So today you must fuck your partner until you both come! Remember it is not a rule that you come at the same time or even the same way. Some women cannot orgasm with intercourse. Some need your tongue to get the wetness flowing and a little G-spot stimulation to finishe the deed. While others need to self stimulate or many other combinations of those and many other methods. Remember for women the biggest sex organ is her brain, the one that won’t shut down counting chores that she needs to do and trying to remember what she needed at the grocery store. Give her permission to stop thinking.

Men are usually the easier sex to SEX. Some men however need a little more as well. Oral goes a long way, so does dirty talk. Tell him how hard and how big he is and how great he feels inside you. Let him see you! Visual stimulation is huge for men much more than women so if he needs help leave the light on! Feel free to move around positions places to allow him to fuck you, positions and even if he needs to give some self stimulation today’s hump day goal is for both to have orgasm while you’re fucking each other but that may not mean there is no self stimulation. Remember there are no rules! Anything goes as long as you both Get Off!

Cheers to your “O”!

#SLWC2018

XXX-Just Touch Me and Fuck Me Now!

25 Wednesday Oct 2017

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Happy Hump Day!! I don’t know about you but I have had a long day! Not in a bad way but just long. I got to have lunch with the Hubs and watch the Girl perform. At some point today I had a feeling come over me, one that I have experienced for a while off and on, and that is that I have no idea if I am doing ok or not. I have been a bit cranky this afternoon and feeling a bit inadequate…which is making it tough to write this blog today!

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Today is Hump Day and last week I made the decision to writing and to start it would be a Hump Day Challenge at least once a week. So, here I am trying to write a hump day challenge be inspiring and sexy. So here goes…

Just FUCK! Tonight go to bed and have sex with your lover. If you have to do it just because I said so. It is Hump Day after all! Sometimes the best feelings come from just having sex. First the power of being naked is overwhelming. Skin to skin contact affects the brain and your hormone levels. Just rub his back as he lays there. Feel with your hands the curves and bumps and crevices. Cup his ass in your hand feel her breasts as your rub from her shoulder down her chest to her smooth belly. As the skin to skin contact arouses you, move in closer. Wrap your arms around each other and feel your whole bodies touch every inch of your body touch.

Use your fingers, your hands, even your feet to feel your partners body. Then climb on him and ride his big cock, men hold her hips and watch her as she rocks back and forth. Then lean down on him and let your breasts rub against his chest. Feel how his chest hair tickles your nipples just right. Allow your sense of touch to open up and feel. Stop thinking and just feel!

Don’t wait for your partner to tell your they want to have sex, don’t expect them to ask if you want to or even tell you to. Just touch him. Touch her softly move in for the kiss as you feel how good it feels to touch, do more! Until you are fucking!

Enjoy your touch let it lead to sex! Go soft, slow and accept what happens. Don’t expect your lover to do anything in return give them pleasure and take pleasure in that. (I bet she will enjoy returning the pleasure, but do not expect it! Love on her as she loves on you and then you both will have a great love experience!

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05 Wednesday Oct 2016

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Happy Hump Day! Today I had The Boy home sick from school. So I got very little work done today but it would have been perfect for me to write my blog but of course I didn’t think about it while we were snuggling on the couch watching Pitch Perfect. So here goes while I sit here watching football. It is a nice crisp fall night I am loving the quiet down time just watching the boys. I am struggling with my mommy muscles to go rescue the boy from getting yelled at when he makes a mistake. I just want to say give him a break he’s sick. But in the real world, it doesn’t slow down because you’re sick. They boy has to learn to be tough and to put in the work and tough it out if he wants to be there and be great. As I sit back and watch I just smile watching The Hubs and all the other coaches putting their passion and their love for the game and these boys out there. All of these men could be at home in a warm living room with their feet up but they are here with our boys making them better players, better students of the game and eventually, better men.

show-off-your-bodyI digress though. Today’s Hump Day Challenge is about feeling confident in your skin. Today I want you to seductively strip for your partner. As you may know The Hubs and I have sex a lot. We try for every day but don’t always make it. We always go to bed at the same time. Sometimes, many times especially as we get busier and life gets crazier we sort of just go through the motions of sex. We get in bed naked usually one of us in in bed and covered up before the other. We snuggle close and get on with it. We enjoy each other and sex even on these normal go through the motion kind of nights. Tonight I want you to make it different. Tonight as I always suggest go to bed together and seductively take your clothes off for your lover. If you are like me add some music.

As you set the stage think about what you like about your body and how your will showcase it for your lover. Think about what your lover has told you he/she loves about your body. How would they love to see it showcased? Throw out your insecurities about your body. Yes, you may have a bit of a muffin top or you don’t like your stretch marks, but I guarantee your lover does. Show your body off to him be sexy be romantic, be playful. Lap Dance or grind on him when you get completely naked take her clothes off in a seductively sultry way. Kiss each other’s body lick her pussy, suck his cock. Be slow and feel your body touching theirs. Sit back for a second and check out your lover can you believe you get to fuck that? How amazing is that? Treat your lover’s body with the ultimate sensual sexual energy and attention.

A few notes to those who may struggle with this whole confidence thing. When you are stripping look at the part of your body you are trying to showcase, this takes his eyes there too. If there is a part of your body that you are less confident about, just let it go. Stop worrying about it! You are beautiful! You are sexy! Your lover wants that body show it to him!  She chose you for a reason you are sexy!

#Confidence2016

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31 Wednesday Aug 2016

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I have missed you all. One reason I haven’t blogged much is due to some thumb and wrist pain I’ve been having. It is exacerbated by typing on my phone (which I am doing now) and that (using my phone) really is how I got through most of 2015. But I really have missed writing everyday. I promised last week that I would be back for a Hump Day Challenge every week, so here we go.
For this Hump Day Challenge break out the mirrors! Watching yourself and you lover make love is so erotic and sexy. I love mirrors in general. I don’t always love my reflection but there is something about catching us mid romp that hits me in the right spot,I lose all the normal body judgements. I love watching our hips rock against each other. I even enjoy watching the extra “body issue” areas jiggle as we fuck. 

I would love to mount a mirror over my bed, always have wanted to. I settle with a full length mirror next to the bed rested on the window seal. We used to have a big mirrored closet doors floor to ceiling wall to wall, it was awesome! The Hubs enjoys the mirror at the end of the bed he likes the spread eagle shots between the legs. If you don’t have an extra full body mirror laying around and nothing by your bed try your shower, you may have one next to the shower you can watch yourselves in the shower or have a romp in the bathroom in front of the vanity. 

Get creative, lock the doors and watch your selves (don’t judge your body) watch the love between you bodies. Enjoy the feeling and the look of your sex together. There is something about a visual that just boosts that sexy feeling and sensation in the body and connection to your lover! Enjoy that reflection of the two bodies together and get that great big “O”

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10 Wednesday Aug 2016

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So today’s Hump Day Challenge is brought to you by what I want to do but can’t do to a sleepover. I don’t know where it came from but knowing that I have an extra kid in the house is like having a sprained ankle and wanting to go for a run. How many days did you sleep in and say you will go later and when you get an injury all you want to do is go for that run.

Reverse CowgirlI would love to feel my husband’s dick inside my pussy as I am on his lap in reverse cowgirl position. We have this chaise as part of our sectional sofa and he is sitting there now. I keep imagining myself on his lap, we could even continue watching T.V. You see I have been super distracted with my business move and getting the football season started and have spent many evenings falling asleep before anything sexy happens. Some nights the Hubs has been able to arouse me and get me going and some nights he is just too tired to put in the effort, and now, tonight the boy has a buddy over and all I want to do is jump his bones and ride him reverse cowgirl! Why the fuck do things happen like that.

So today’s Hump Day Challenge is to take a ride ladies! Ride him reverse cowgirl. Let him hold your hips and rock them up and down and back and forth. Then turn and let him see your boobies bouncing as you ride him cowgirl and face him. Let him touch you, let him twiddle you nipples and enjoy the attention! I must say I love nipple play when we fuck!

So today may have been another on of those TMI posts but I needed some inspirational juices to get flowing and riding my husband reverse cowgirl was what was inspiring me! So go ride your man ladies!

#SEX2016

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28 Thursday Jul 2016

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women-should-be-obscene-and-not-heard-14Hello! Happy Hump Day!!! It is 11:45pm on this hump day! It has been a crazy busy week. I have been moving my massage practice and starting my own private practice so that entails a lot of paperwork, filings, fees, phone calls and faxes just a lot of work! Then this Saturday is gear check out for peewee football. It is my big day as the equipment manger and there is a lot to get ready and to make ready for that before Saturday. All in all I feel like I have done an okay job balancing all of my different tasks that I need to get done and things I need to do so far. But it has left little room for my write a hump day challenge!

So for todays hump day challenge I am going to just say go get you some! Just fuck and be happy! Girl on top, boy on top, oral, kissing making out heavy petting all of the fun stuff include that like you are back in college. Just get close get naked and let nature take over. Don’t push anything! I personally need a low pressure good sex high intensity orgasm type sexual experience. I am so in need of one of those kinds of attitude adjustments! It’s time to go!

#Recommit2016