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It’s Up To You

24 Tuesday Jul 2018

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Happiness is a choiceIt has been a while since I have written. There are many reasons, the obvious or easy answer is I have been busy. The real answer is I haven’t felt that I can be honest or real and that is tragic in this blog. I have not been what I would call happy. I have missed writing and I feel like getting away from writing has separated me from some of my feelings, honestly. It has bee hard in the Earl household lately. The Hubs and I have struggled. I believe we are getting back on the right track however. When I started this in 2015 I vowed to Sex Love and Washing Clothes everyday (#everyday2015). I was writing this blog to help teach women that being just a mom and wife was okay and to give purpose to myself, so I created Sex Love and Washing Clothes. It superficially helped my relationship back in 2015, gave the Hubs what he desired (more sex) and gave me purpose in my writing ans sharing my story with others like myself who needed to feel whole and were “just a mom.” Well, part way into that year I went back to work because I wanted to help our family afford a new car and help take pressure off the Hubs for the whole financial liability. So I went from being a stay at home mom to being a working mom and at one point I was working two jobs. To say the least the focus of my purpose got lost. It took a turn away from the original purpose and life got in the way…

I still did Sex Love and Washing Clothes everyday in 2015. In 2016 we kept it up pretty well and then I went into private practice and had many struggles to stay happy in our relationship. We spent 2017 trying to figure out how our family could survive with my being in private practice and decided I should work from home. So in 2018 I have been working my private practice from home and starting to feel settled and good together again. It has been rough. Many days I have thought about just giving up and writing a divorce blog. But we are stubborn and won’t give up that easily. Which brings me here today. Writing for me has been to justify my feelings and process my emotions. I just bought the book by Daniel Goleman called Emotional Intelligence. I am familiar with Emotional Intelligence and it is very important to understand that it comes from within.

In relationships understanding your emotions, where they come from and the fact that you are solely responsible for them is a valuable lesson. What you do with your emotions is on you. Being happy makes you more desirable and makes more people want to be with you. You have to own your happiness. Your partner can contribute to that happiness but they cannot provide that happiness, it’s a hard lesson sometimes to learn but once learned both people in a relationship can take their happiness to the next level. I am ready for the next level. Let’s do this and see what kind of sex comes out of it… I am ready to get back to writing about the crazy things in life and inspiring lovers to take it to the next level!

We are looking forward to changing our ways and living happy! Join us friends, it’s a choice come along with our journey!

#Change2018

Not So Perfect Lake House

26 Saturday Mar 2016

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So today we went to look at the lake house I’ve been day dreaming about. I absolutely loved the house especially the kitchen was AMAZING! I really like it. However, it not our dream home. The Hubs is very particular and like specific things done specific ways. The house had Vinyl siding which was a draw back for him. There were also a few others, the garage door was only a 10 foot door, the end of the lake that the house is on has Lilly pads so you couldn’t even get a boat to your dock with out having to flush the engine a lot or risk getting weeds in your prop.

All in all I am glad we went to see it. I am sad it was not perfect for us. I am glad that we now know and I can stop daydreaming (yeah right) about where the kids will go to school next year and having a lake party this summer! It also gives us a chance to get our house in order. We really need to do some stuff to our house. We have our bathroom to finish, some issues with the exterior of the front of the house by the chimney out front.

Looking at a new house helps you realize the things you have that you like and the things you can do differently at your house. The Hubs and I sat on the front step of our house today trying to decide what to do with our yard. We have some curb appeal type upgrades to do. We are waiting to meet with our friend about the bathroom and then the chimney and front of the house project.  Then maybe refinance if there is not another lake house that catches our eye. Or should I say “My” eye.

We will stay content for now in our happy first home! Until we find a “perfect” reason to up and move or are really ready to go somewhere else! This way we can enjoy our date nights and dinners out. I can hire a house cleaner and not feel scared that it too much money to spend. Here’s to living life and not wishing it away! Love the life you live.

#Recommit2016

New Years Eve 2015

31 Thursday Dec 2015

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Well we made it through 2015. I received sad news yesterday that a Dance Dad and friend passed away yesterday so when I wrote “we made it through” I felt something morbid or said or guilty that we made it and not everyone in that family did. While we are all planning our events of how we are going to bring in the new year that particular family is probably planning a memorial of how they will remember their father and husband’s life. He was a great guy and will be missed. I don’t believe he would approve of any of us morning or slowing down our celebrations or joy because of him. He probably would love it if we could take “good photos” of all of it! He was what my children lovingly referred to as our own paparazzi. He will be missed. This is a good reminder for me to not live in sadness and to live life to it’s fullest. Not everyday is guaranteed.

Dr-Seuss-Youer-QuoteSo for a bit of a review of 2015. Last year I had decided to Have sex, wash clothes/clean house every day. I was sure it would help my relationship, and house organization skills ect. Well I blogged everyday. I had sex most days but I am not certain that it made my relationship better. I think my relationship is better today than a year ago but we still have rough times. I think sometimes the pressure of sex everyday put a lot of pressure to make sex a great big thing and one or the other of us expected more than what we got. So that caused some tension. However we learned that being intimate, loving each other happens in many ways. Great sex is a good part of a good relationship but you don’t have to have it everyday. Sometimes just a snuggle or blow job is fine….

As for the “Washing Clothes” part, yeah that was going to be the stretch for me. When I started I was a stay at home mom trying to figure out how to ‘schedule’ my ‘unscheduled’ days. I was doing well until that week of bartending school. Since then it has been chasing clothes and picking them out the laundry baskets. The kids did great picking up chores over the summer and I hired a house keeper to come in every two weeks but was not pleased with her work and stopped having her come a few weeks ago and now I am needing to get a new house cleaning service, but haven’t had time to interview one. However, I feel my in-between house cleaner visits, my keeping up with it work is shining! Last time my Gma June Cleaver was here, she complimented how well I had been doing! Made me feel good (even though it was the day after house cleaner day) it is a process of constant work folks there’s no way around it. You just have to do it! (Bluh!!)

So I love to blog, I love my family, I love my life! I excel in the Love piece of this trinity! I want to keep doing it. I may not do it everyday in 2016 but I haven’t decided yet. I’ve thought of many scenarios including doing 3 a week one sex blog, one love blog and one washing clothes blog. But that may be too much structure for me. I may just blog on weekdays or when I feel so lead. I don’t know I want to try to keep them long enough to be enjoyed but short enough to give readers a chance to read in one trip to the bathroom or a bus ride or something. This post is reaching that “too long to read” limit but I have so much more to say!

You all have learned a lot about me this year. Maybe too much TMI but I have really enjoyed being free to write and put my thoughts out there and I am also pleased to say I never wrote anything I had to remove, or felt regretful about. There was one day I blogged angry, the hubs said he hated my post that day I said I know you do. and I gave him the option to write a “rebuttle but he declined) and the next day I posted about “making up” and how I felt I maybe shouldn’t have blogged so angry and may have painted the Hubs side in a bad light. I got a few likes on the I may have been wrong post vs the angry rant I made got zero …I see who side you are all on! Just kidding, it’s not about taking sides in life. I wanted to be real and that was real and so was the next day about making up you fight and you make up it is all part of life! It is about living free. So here are some last thoughts and lessons from 2015, okay maybe some advice:

  • Live Free
  • don’t get offended if someone “takes the other side” (they probably have not
  • Don’t feel like you have to pick a side.
  • Love with reckless abandon!
  • Have crazy sex just for fun …as much as you want
  • Have romantic sex aka Make Love …as much as you want
  • Don’t be afraid to try something new, in life, love or in bed
  • Be the lover you want, and the one your lover wants
  • Love the lover you have, be with the one you love
  • Push through the hard times they are temporary
  • Have sex more!
  • Love more!
  • Wash clothes more
  • Be You
  • Love yourself
  • Don’t judge

Okay that list was long so I cut myself off. It’s funny how some things on that list although different are much the same! I have loved this year blogging! I am loving being a working mom but still hate labels! Every mom is a working mom some just work outside the home as well! I don’t have my 2016 plan yet but I will keep blogging and keep Sex Love and Washing Clothes-ing! I am feeling the “Sweet 16” will need to be part of my plan or goal or resolutions for the year. So have fun tonight. Be safe and cheers to a Sweet 2016! May you live life to the fullest have no regrets and be the best you that you can be!

Maybe 2016 will be a publishing year?????

And for the last time, bitter sweetly,

#Everyday2015

 

You Can Always Be Better

28 Saturday Nov 2015

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Hello Saturday! We have almost nothing scheduled. The Hub’s and his buddies played their turkey bowl today. I normally like to go and watch and see the guys but I decided to be more responsible and stay home and clean. My house needed some time from me cleaning. It still needs more but my attention span is over it. I still have to put a ton of laundry away. Maybe I can get the hubs to help with that!

This is going to sound weird but it was actually nice to get some time to clean up my kitchen and my house. All I did was dishes wipe down counter tops and dinning room table ect. I have a couple piles of paperwork to go through but it was nice to be cleaning I enjoyed the homemaker feeling again. Then I got sad that I don’t have more time to do that stuff. I enjoy the extra money I make working my two jobs but I wish, schedule wise, I had more freedom or could figure out how to better to manage my time!

Being super busy does not help. Every weekend we have stuff to do. Today is abnormal that we have nothing planned. Next weekend is show weekend and also a banquet for football volunteers that I have been very involved in organizing and they are on the same night! Shit! How am going to be two places at once? I guess I will be late to the banquet and hopefully there will still be peopleAlways compete be better there that I want to see and that there will still be food there! The event runs 5-11 and the show starts at 6 and I think it is supposed to be an hour and a half. So I am thinking we could probably get to the banquet by 8:30 or 9:00. Then Saturday we have a bazaar fundraiser that I am supposed to be sewing some hand warmer covers to sell for fundraising for dance but I think this year we will skip it. Our fundraiser for dance is me working two jobs! But I like doing crafty things so it is sad that I don’t really have time for it right now.

Anyway I am enjoying this down time I have today. I love being busy but I also love being able to fill my time with cleaning when I want to or crafting when I’d like to. I miss making cakes for everyone’s birthdays too. But I have to say is I am happy to be able to help financially with the family maybe one day I will be an owner and can hire people to work for me and then maybe, work less and do more of what I want… that will probably retirement! I don’t want to sound like I am complaining, I am not! I love my life. I love my family. We all should be happy where we are and do our best to be where we want to be but in the meantime love the life we have. I love my work, I love being busy, I love being able to have my daughter in dance, my son active, have season tickets and nope have to worry if we can afford new shoes. I do still take the time for myself to dance and enjoy life (I, like most people, should probably take more time for self care). Life is good! That doesn’t mean I want some things to be different or better. It’s that ‘Always Compete’ motto in life there is always room for improvement, never settle but always work hard to be better!

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Live, Laugh, Love Today

12 Thursday Nov 2015

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quotes-life20Life is a gift. The people in our life are gifts. Stop taking your life for granted and live in the moment and enjoy it. Tomorrow is not promised and will be different. Enjoy tomorrow too, but don’t forget about today in thinking, dreaming or worrying about tomorrow. Today, right now, is the only thing promised. Live in this moment and take it all in!

We get caught up in planning and logistics and forget to enjoy life. We are all doing a lot, there is a lot on our plates we have to cook meals, clean house, go to work, call clients, follow up on that go to the doctor, exercise, eat right pick up the kids from practice coach their team. So much to do such a long list! But there are so many moments that if you blink you will never get back. Stop being sad these moments are passing, start enjoying them. Live in the moment love and laugh and just be in that moment!

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You Do Not Have To Choose, You Just Have To Live

24 Monday Aug 2015

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Today may have been the first day, all summer, that I had a full shopping trip at Costco. So yeah I dropped almost 4 bills for groceries today. But now the fridge is stocked and we can eat every meal at home (however I probably should have bought more eggs, oops). When I got home from the store I had to weight for the garbage truck to move out of my driveway, but I then cleaned out and organized my freezer. I did not scrub the bottom but I picked up all the crumbs and random french fries that were there from some weird science type experiment that my kids did one day probably 2 years ago. I filled up a trash bag full of old food and things that needed to be thrown away from freezer burn or that I just neglected to toss out before, and of course this was right after the garbage truck left. That garbage can is going to be ripe next week!

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Today I also went back to my counselor for the first time since the end of April. Since before I got busy at the massage office and before I started bartending. I sort of reflected on the summer and updated him with my life and what has been going on. We talked about how in the time that I have been seeing him (over the past few years), I have gone back and forth about being a stay at home mom and being a working mom. Similar to how my blog has gone this year. It was a very eye opening visit. It gave me a lot of perspective. I think he was surprised I am still doing my blog. The way it has shifted and changed and evolved but also stayed the same is similar to my adult life. Very interesting insight today.

A friend of mine said to me the other day that I should pick what I want to do. Stay at home mom or work…I do go back and forth all the time with what is “right” and today in my visit I talked about this. I don’t think I have to, nor should I “pick one”. Once I pick one or the other that makes one the right way and the other the wrong way. I am so, sometimes too, focused on what I am supposed to do or what the right thing to do is and that makes what I do right and/or wrong, and I don’t want to be wrong, I want to be me. I need to do me!

In life there never really is a right or a wrong. So I think for me my focus needs to be to do me. Whatever that is in that moment some days it is one thing and others it is another. As always my life and everyone’s life is very dynamic. It is always evolving and changing. The one constant is change and I am working on living in the moment and loving every moment and accepting ME just where I am.

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Sunday~Friendday

23 Sunday Aug 2015

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It was so enjoyable staying in bed until 10:30 this morning! We had great sex last night, then slept until 10:30 right past the alarm at nine-ish. We ended today at our crazy friend’s house. The friends the kid watch movies with the “Friend Rule” if it’s something Friend would say, the kids are not allowed to repeat!

It is fun hanging with Crazy Friend! Crazy Friend was in our wedding, he has been at my house many nights sleeping on my couch and playing X-Box until 4 or so in the morning on occasion or more! I love Crazy Friend, not sure about the influence on my kids though!

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These are the types of friendships that last forever! Lots of fun and lot of laughs and lots of special moments! I love these moments, I am sure our kids will have lots of ” Crazy Friend” stories, which are always fun to share on late drunk and even non drink nights! I love our friends!!!!

I hope and wish you all to have a crazy friend like ours these moments don’t last forever and Crazy Friend types are the one’s there for you when you need them!!!

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Savor The Annoying Moments…every moment

22 Saturday Aug 2015

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Today as I write we are in the midst of what I am calling operation surprise a friend. They Boy has been asking for his buddy to spend the night all week. I kept forgetting to ask his mom and then I got a text inviting The Boy to his buddies Surprise birthday. Since the boy is horrible at keeping secrets I told her I wasn’t going to tell him until Saturday, that is when she got the idea to do this. So I am waiting on a phone call from Friends mom to let me know when to “come to pick the Friend’s bag” that he forgot….

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Tonight The Girl is at a friend’s house and the Boy is  obviously going to a friends house so The Hubs and I are going out on a real date. Our anniversary is this coming Wednesday so I told the restaurant we are celebrating our anniversary! We have been married almost 15 years we can celebrate an Anniversary Week/or two Anniversary Weekends!

This week, with our anniversary coming up and football starting and thinking of school starting soon (and working more hours at both jobs than I want to right now) I have been kind of nostalgic. As we get older and years go by you realize these moments don’t last forever! You realize that what I have been saying for so long “live in the moment and take it all in” really means something. Some times life seems hard and tedious and and annoying and just plain tough, but we need to realize that these moments are precious and deserve to be savored. Savor every moment and appreciate the milestones, don’t be sad! Enjoy it and live with no regrets. It is a reality that we have to miss some important moments in our kids and family members lives at sometimes but the moments we get to spend together we should make it worth every moment. Live laugh love, take it all in!

I plan to do just that tonight with The Hubs! (haha take it all in double meaning there)

Love your life don’t be sad in the tediousness or frustration in it. Be happy that you have it to live and happy you have those moments that make you crazy because one day you will wish you had more of them!

Love the life you live!!! ALL of it!

#Everyday2015