10 Monday Oct 2016
Posted in Be Present, Be You, Do You, Love, Relax
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accept you, be nicer to yourself, I will let go of indecision, I will not let others judgements affect me, Let Go, let go of other's judgements, Love you, trust yourself
I started this blog to inspire people. That’s why I write. I am learning to let go. I am not there yet but this inspires me!
#LetGo2016
24 Sunday Apr 2016
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always strive to be better, Be Realistic, I am healthy and happy with me just the way I am, Love you, set goals, You are worth it!
It’s been a while since I have talked fitness/weight loss struggle lately. I am still, like I have been for what seems like my whole life, working on getting thinner and fit! Last week was a tough week in that arena. Last week I was dragging, I so tired. I woke up with a headache 4 days out of the week. I didn’t get up early to work out like I have been. I also didn’t really follow my eating plan either. Why is it so hard for me to take care of me?
I know that I feel better when I work out and rat right. Eating well is tough when I don’t get to the grocery store. I am probably going to start doing shopping on the weekend DS or schedule it so I can actually get it done. It’s not that tough, it just takes time.
This week I. the Facebook Change group I am in we are challenge to write down our goal for the competition as well as wake up everyday and focus on a daily goal. Well my goal for the weight challenge is to loose 5 more pounds in the next 3 weeks. I will achieve this goal by drinking mor e water, I will be drinking 90 oz a day that is 4 1/2 fills of my water bottles! I will also be getting up and working out every morning. Getting up when my alarm goes off at 4:45! I will set daily goals day by day but it will be something attainable that I can focus on and that will be positive.
Last week was rough for me. I am hoping to have a more positive week. To be successful and to look at myself positively. And to be realistic! That is my hardest task to be realistic and to be positive! I am going to work on my self talk too. I am worthy of the time and dedication it takes to take care of me!
Are you up for that challenge? It positive self talk week! Join me?
#Recomitt2016
01 Tuesday Mar 2016
Posted in Be You, Do You, Family, Homemaker, Kids, Live in the Moment, Mom Stuff, Respect, Self Care, Working Mom
Today felt like a very productive day! Happy Tuesday! I had a massage worked on getting some paperwork stuff taken care of and I went grocery shopping! For the first time in a while I went grocery shopping, have planned meals for the week and feel like I can really get this whole working mom thing done!
The power went out all over town tonight because of the wind and crazy weather here in town. Which kind of thwarted my plans to get some more shit accomplished around the house. I was going to try to get the pantry organized. The house has been clean-ish and I am not super behind on the other chores, laundry is even partially caught up. (Time to get a house cleaner hired tobget the deep cleaning, that I don’t have time for, done.) Thanks to the kids doing the chores of folding clothes when I tell them to. I finally feel like I have a plan and a schedule or at least I am getting stuff done! I am feeling happy about that and after the last few days I have needed a boost!
Sometimes we all just have to put our nose to grind and get our work done. Just getting up from the couch and doing dishes, laundry and cleaning up after meals are cooked and consumed. And sometimes you have to realize when you are doing or expecting too much! I was doing too much before I quit at the bar! I now have more time to get meals done and meals cleaned up (maybe one day the Hubs and/or the kids will help with that) and this week, I even had time to grocery shop for a real week of groceries! My massage schedule is a bit slow this week compared to last week though, so there is a bit of a delicate balance and trade off!
Being a successful mom is hard. Being a working mom is hard. Being both is hard. Knowing how to define “successful mom” is really, impossible. We all have expectations and desires. Those of us with lower self esteem and insecurities and anxiety struggle defining success because we are always trying to be better because we think we are not good enough! We are perfectionists. Well, we are good enough! Our children are breathing, our house isn’t burning down. Our husbands bellies are full and later our vaginas will be! That is success my friends. Try not to over expect things of yourself you are doing so much and that hour you spent watching HGTV or Say Yes To The Dress was well deserved and even more, much needed! We are raising our future, we want our children to have it better than us! Let’s teach our children to be realistic and honest with themselves! We cannot do it all, most of us cannot afford a house nanny that will do everything June Cleaver did and we need energy to help with homework, to clean house, take a shower and fuck our partner at night! We can’t do everything and not feel bitter!
So, don’t over extend yourself, your family needs you! You, need you. Be kind to yourself, always do your best! I promise you are good enough, teach your family that! If they don’t tell you, I guarantee, they know it!
Love yourself!
#Recomitt2016
21 Thursday Jan 2016
Posted in Do You, Friends, Love your body, Self Care, Uncategorized
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accountability, LIfestyle changes, Love you, Motivational quotes, Take care of you, teammates, Weight loss
Many of you readers know I am a chronic dieter. Or not really a dieter but I am constantly watching my weight and I am in these weight loss challenge groups. Every 12 weeks or so me and about 40 other people are in this weight loss challenge, we put in $25 each and the top 3 get the money. It is a good way to get support and challenge each other. This challenge to change it up we are in teams of 2. My teammate I have never met. She and I have texted and for the last few weeks became each other’s cheer leader. Each week in the challenge we have mini challenges this week part of our mini challenge was to create something specifically to motivate out teammate. a couple of my friends are teammates with the mom or husband or BFF but me I don’t know my gal and I want to be extra motivational but don’t really know her. So I just pulled out some Quote pictures and made a little collage. I also wrote to her stating how thankful I am to have her to be accountable to. I am not always very self accountable. The most self accountability I have ever had has been writing this blog everyday. But when it comes to turning down the chocolate sittong on the counter at work or ice cream I usually make an excuse that I can have just one. Then I have just one more and one more until it turns into “Fuck It! I will be better tomorrow!” As I proceed to eat the whol bag of goodies! But for some reason when my success affects my teammate I tend to be a bit more driven to turn down that chocolate. Why is it that we can give up on ourselves so easily but it is harder to give up on someone else.
At least that’s how I am. I suck at getting to aerobics classes as a student but when I taught, I was always there! I love exercise classes, I would love to teach again too but for some reason I will constantly make excuses. I deserve a self to be better and to take care of me better. But at least for now I have a teammate who will benefit or not from my success which makes me more motivated to say no thank you when the daughter offers to get me ice cream after a long day. Now is a good time to be curious about that and maybe try to refocus my head to better take care of me. You know I preach self care all the time!!!!
So here is the motivational quotes I included in said collage. I found some that really spoke to me. I am hoping these quotes will speak to and inspire my teammate as well. My bet is she needed these quotes as much as I did. We have been a good fit for each other it is amazing how the universe works getting people together some how…almost like it was planned. Whatever it is divine intervention is awesome and I can’t wait to see where my teammate and I are heading in our weight loss/life battles.
To Self Care and Accountability
#Everyday2016
02 Saturday Jan 2016
Today is the second day of the year! I still have no idea what my yearly goal will be. I need to go for a long run to think it out I think. I definitely need to make me priority. I need to refocus on fitness. I have my normal two half marathons scheduled but I want to accomplish more this year. I am going to put the effort into Everyday 2016. I am going to focus on Sex everyday with the Hubs. We are actually going to do it for real this year, But I am not going to make it put too much pressure on us. I have spoken with the Hubs and he agrees. But I feel bad not making up a new 2016 challenge. As much as 2015 was a success in the #Everyday2015 we did not make it everyday having sex. The first day we missed was Valentines Day because we got home late and tired and maybe had a few too many to drink. Then some frustrations of normal life and arguments ect made a challenge in the middle of the year.
We as a couple are planning to focus on “More kissing” and less arguing. We had a better 2015 than 2014 in that arena but we had a few big fights that we over reacted and blew up some in front of the kids. We need to stop that. Communication and patience and calmness and understanding of each other needs to happen. I know when I get flooded I need time to breath and calm down. The Hubs has a hard time stopping or pausing for that to happen so the whole thing escalates. We both need to work on our rolls in those moments.
Self care needs to lead the way, both of us. Both people in a relationship need to be healthy coming from a spot of selfcare and wellness. It is ones own responsibility to take care of ones self! We cannot expect our spouse or lover or partner or best friend to make us feel better or treat us better. It is our job to keep our self healthy. As they say you can’t serve from an empty vessel. Do what you need to feel grounded and centered especially in challenging times and/or times of conflict. Be it getting a massage, running, meditation, seeing a counselor, singing, playing an instrument, tinkering on a project car, building a model airplane or flying a kite do what you need to keep you happy. Do what makes your heart happy. Especially if you have a job that drains you or that does not exactly do that for you, it is your job to fill you heart and soul, no one else’s!
It is all part of a delicate balance that is life. Taking time for you sometimes takes time away from you family. It is important to use that time wisely. This is a tight rope walk that I have not learned how to manage very well. 2016 I will work on figuring that out and share my findings with you. It is tough to be mom (or dad), employee, business owner, homemaker and prepare and eat healthy foods, get kids to activities in the evening, monitor homework do housework, take time with your spouse, watch your favorite TV show and take time for you! But it is a job we need to take time to take care of ourself. Just schedule it in your day.
So go forth in 2016! Take care of yourself! Fuck your partner everyday! Be happy take care of you!
#Everyday2016
Sex Love and Washing Clothes 