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Vacation for Me talk Health

18 Monday May 2020

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Happy Monday SLWC-ers! This post is coming to you from our rented Hertz Hendrick SS Camaro. The Hubs and I are road tripping to visit a friend today. We took our family on vacation to see their Grandparents and we have friends who live a few hours away. Everytime we come to the in-laws we always consider this road trip but have never done it. Since we’re all in quarantine and can’t do much anyway we figured this is the best trip to road trip it.

What I have noticed about this vacation so far is that I really needed it. It is no secret I have not been doing well with this whole quaratine thing! I am surrounded by people who I don’t feel really understand what I am lacking and why I am so off kilter. When you go from seeing and connecting with people everyday to only seeing your family it affects you, and for me it has been a negative affect. For some it has been super positive, they are living their best life and are dreading going back to “normal” that’s just not me. We are all trying to figure out how to manage I this new circumstance and in reality maybe they do understand and I don’t understand them? Or we don’t know how to communicate this right now. What I do know is that they love me and I love them and I am going to work to bridge this gap as I believe it exists in a lot of places I. Our world right now. The word is acceptance, of others and ourselves. As well as acceptance of not knowing or understanding and not being okay.

Moral of the story today is that I want to encourage you to live your best life. First, take a step back and figure out what you need. That is way easier said than done, but it is essential! I kind of needed this shut down in a way, I was burnt out and I needed a reset. I needed time to slow down and figure out what I needed. I need connection. For me I get connection from human contact and human touch. I kind of suck at text message or phone call relationships be it business or personal, it is hard for me to not see touch or feel a person’s presence. I need touch and eye contact. I feel whole with connection and that connection is not made without touch. I have seen friends and we do the nod, or wave and it pains me to not connect with a hug or hand shake. So I have learned I need touch.

Second, make sure the ones you love know what it is you need. If you need touch or eye contact, to hear their voice or be in the same place (6 feet apart of you have to) tell them! It took me over a month of the stay at home order to figure out why I was going so crazy. It hit me one day that I am so used to being so intimate and connected to people, even in the professional level of therapeutic massage, that my whole life relies on that. There have been multiple studies on this but if you work with inadamant objects like computers or refrigerators you may not understand half of what people who normal work with people are missing in life in the stay at home order. My point here in this paragraph started as tell those around about this so they understand where you are coming from.

Your people need to know that you know what you need. I want to tell you, it’s okay if it’s not what your partner or rest of your family needs and it makes communication even more important. I still struggle with this. I know I need human connection but how do I tell my family and how do I get that when we are in quaratine and social distancing orders? And when I say that and they look at me like I’m speaking Greek how do I explain more? The answer is, you don’t. Stop trying to justify yourself. So instead of explaining and justifying to those around you that you think don’t understand you, accept yourself. It’s okay if they do t understand,now they know what you need. Tell them what you need and leave it at that. I need human connection. I need hugs and hand shakes. I need face to face in person connection with people. I thrive at being the highlight of a person’s day, which is why I became a Massage Therapist. It feeds my sole to help someone get out of pain and be able to manage their life better with less pain. These are my why’s of doing my job. I have accepted that and it’s my job to be sure to make that happen in my life. That is part of me taking care of me. The tough part is for the last 8 weeks, I haven’t been able to do that.

Taking this vacation was so much needed for me. I needed to get out of my head where I was upset with myself for not feeling good enough for not being able to feel good. I have struggled, why isn’t this life good enough? Our family is blessed that The Hubs still has his job and we have been able to save money not going out that all our bills are paid and we have even put money away in savings during this time. We are blessed so many people are so much in a harder place. So why am I struggle so hard? Stop judging yourself! Human connection is a real need. I’m not getting as much as I was before and that’s the missing link. Taking this vacation I have been better able to stop judging myself and stop hating on myself. I’m not killing my side hustle sales business and the house is not spotless and I’m not a steller homeschooler, I don’t even know if my kids are really doing school some days. On vacation, here, I have been able to let that shit go! I have been able to look at my kids who are healthy and young who should be enjoying life as much as learning. They will never get this young age back again. They should be seeing their mom take care of herself in a way that she wants them to take care of themselves when they grow up. That’s my job right now. With this vacation I have been able to reset myself. Kind of hit the reboot for my brain. To look at what’s important and guess what ( sorry for saying this Hubs) chores being done, dinner on the perfectly set table, kids studiously learning and not fighting, everything in its place, is not really the most important. The most important thing is what’s going on in our heads. Do we love ourselves? Do we love what we have? Are we appreciating eachother? Are we taking care of what we need in our own lives? Are we allowing the ones around us to do the same? That is what is important!

So, forget the fucking dishes, go to bed early and fuck like bunnies. Teach the kids life lessons like how to change the oil in your car or change a tire when you can’t figure out how to help with math. Do something you all enjoy and enjoy each othermaybe take a walk.

Manage your me talk health. Exercise is the most underused medication for mental health. Mental health is just that how well are we mentally? Can we handle our emotions? Me talk health isn’t always being happy,it is handling life when we are sad or frustrated or not getting everything we want or need and knowing how to go about making it right. Talk about your feelings,good and bad they are all okay there are healthy ways to ha dle all of our emotions!

It’s the people that matter in life most of all the person who you are ultimately responsible is you. Make your self happy and you will see the world opens up! Take a vacation if you can it’s easier to see yourself.

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Monday after Vacation

10 Tuesday Apr 2018

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Today is Monday after our much needed and very relaxing vacation. Am I the only one who has a weird lull after vacation. I usually plan that Monday off to be able to regroup unpack, do laundry etc. during those days seem to be kind of depressing, the sad reality that you just don’t have that elated vacation feeling like you can do everything and fix all your problems just after one week off. You are met with the real life situation and now have to take action or you realize you thought it out and solved the problem but forgot your biggest road block is…reality. Or maybe you’re like me and decide you will be different. This time you will unpack right away keep the clutter gone and not let things pile up but then you realize you bring a pile with you back from vacation. And as much as the sun lured you into believing you were a changed woman who would relish at the opportunity to be proactive with laundry you come home to realize that it still doesn’t make your heart sing the way that sun on you cheeks and the warmth on your skin did. You realize you are still you…wait is that just me?

Then to top it off for me the Hubs left for a work trip today as well. I do want to admit that I know the reality that if I didn’t live with The Hubs I would either be on TLC’s Hoarders or My 600 Pound Life. The way I treat myself when he is gone is absolutely astounding and disgusting. I let myself eat crap, I let my kids eat crap. I count down the minutes until he leaves to have a donuts or eat a whole large pizza. Today after weighing in last night on my first day of my weight loss challenge I had a chocolate Easter Bunny for breakfast (I told this to my girlfriend and she laughed out loud at me because I said I ate a Easter Bunny for breakfast) She was probably confused because of my low carb diet she probably was laughing out of shear disgust that I may have eaten a real bunny like maybe roadkill cafe style or something. Then I fed the kids Taco Bell for dinner with a side of jelly beans and yes I had that too. I had a list of chores a mile long I got a couple started maybe one done but really it seems like I still have a list a mile and a half long.

I spent a lot of time on Facebook today. Am I bored? Do I need attention? Am I sad or lonely. Yes probably lonely the kids were at school the Hubs is away and I have spent the last week with two or more extra people in the same house with our family. It is quite a change. It’s like a crazy morning after or weird hangover. When the kids used to go to Grandma’s for the weekend when they were little they would come home with these crazy cranky attitudes. I always called it the Grandma Hangover. (One Grandma got pretty offended by that term) I seriously believe in this though and now I think I have the vacation hang over. Not puking from drinking although I had one of those the other day, it’s a weird crazy let down from Vacation!

How to combat this? Well two weeks ago in my therapist’s office I scheduled my next appointment for tomorrow. Thinking the Hubs will be gone it will be after vacation I might need time to process how it went how to proceed with the week (or it may have been her only opening for the next two weeks) but I feel like I kind of need it. When the Hubs is gone I get a lot of time to think. Which I don’t take often enough and that day after vacation I am always filled with thoughts so doing this all at the same time is different for me. One therapist told me one day to allow myself to be me give myself more of what I want and my response was “I don’t even know what I want” I am too busy being wife and mom and make them all happy I don’t think of me.

Dude, you would think I have some really messed up mental health state right? Schizophrenia or maybe BiPolar or even clinical or manic depression but no. I don’t, my message here is that I need a therapist to help me process, and I have no diagnosed condition. I know I a m not alone in this. If left alone I may create some horrible story about why I feel this way. What did my mother or father do to me in childhood that made me like this. What did the hubs say that made me so angry or what did he not say to make me so sad and lonely. That’s called blame and, folks the reality in my uneducated opinion is this is what real life is. You don’t have to be schizo or even clinically depressed or diagnosed with any psychosis to experience some mental health struggles. To get help or even need help with a counselor or a self help book or meditation trainer is not a sign of weakness or breaking down to the mental condition it is taking control and teaching yourself how to handle the mental condition associated with real life.

I am not saying there is no diagnosed psychosis or that a patient can just decide to snap out of it or fix it with out drugs or treatment, what I am suggesting is that this condition we call life sometimes does not need a diagnosis to need treatment. Get that treatment. Go to a counselor or talk to your pastor or a good friend. Don’t self medicate, and don’t beat yourself up internally with your words or worse by hurting yourself or anyone else for that matter! Find what works for you, if you don’t you may push away those you love by blaming them or by just being withdrawn. Go exercise what I didn’t do today. Eat right the brain needs fuel to process emotions in life. Take care of you. One step in self care is to take that vacation another is to get back to taking care of being healthy when you come back from vacation. Sometimes Self care involves mental health counselors, massage therapists to help with your pain or your stress or to just give you an hour of time away. It involves nutrition, exercise and brain work. Don’t be afraid to do it, figure out what it is that you need for your mental health and be your mental health advocate. Always do your best it is okay to take time to figure it out but figure it out, don’t give up!.

I don’t want this to turn political, which it kind of did for a minute we need to take care of our mental health because that is who is taking care of our families and kids. Whatever your role is, your kids need the best mom, dad, brother, sister, uncle, or grandparent that you can be your family deserves the best you! I tell mom’s all the time, don’t you want your family to have the healthiest mom they can have, don’t you think that mom will be better than the tired run down ill taken care of thing you are? Treat yourself the way you want your family to be treated! Take care of you, you owe it to them!

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You Are Doing Good Keep It Up

22 Tuesday Mar 2016

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I wasn’t going to post today. I have been busy and “in the moment” (and by inthe moment I mean I spent the morning procrastinating that I have e to get the house ready for carpet cleaners tomorrow) but the Hubs is snoring before I finished setting the alarm so here’s a quickie! Being a working mom is hard! I have spent years trying to feel OK and reason with myself that being “just a mom” is quite enough! It is a full time job! Someone needs to be there to help the children when even they don’t know they need it, Right?! My stay at home mom brain says “yes it’s a mom’s job and privilege to rescue her babies”

Well, yes and no! Now that I am a working mom I have learned the value and joy and privilege of those moments of being there to pick up the pieces and fix i t all but also the value of the kids learning how to do it when mom’s not their to rescue them is very important as well! I would usually much rather be there for them but I do have to leave to go to work. I agonize over it. Leaving to go to work and be there in time is not putting your work ‘first’ it’s being responsible! I ask myself am I neglecting them, will they be in therapy because I wasn’t there? Can they handle it themselves? What DID they pack in their lunch boxes? And then setimea it comes from them today was when they told me that I needed to go grocery shopping…OK, I might have time Wednesday to do that….

Will any of those things kill them? No. But I want to be there packing their lunches and writing cute lunch notes that I saw on Pinterest (probably procrastinating something important that I only had 5 minutes to do so I was on Pinterest instead) and making invitations to their birthday parties and never missing their birthday lunch…. The list goes on and on, but I also want to the mortgage paid and eventually to get a house on the lake, have season tickets to the Seahawks and not have to remove the children from their activities that costs thousands of dollars either! I want to do it all. But I can’t! No one can!

Now, I know there are working moms who’ve mastered this better than me! I know I could use a time management lesson or two and multitasking and organizational skills, and leta not forget my procrastination gene, but I also know that really, I’m doing pretty damn good! Even when it doesn’t feel like it. Examples are my kids can get themselves ready for school by themselves, they can pack their lunches and have figured out if they screw it up they pay for it in the way they feel. They know (better than I) obviously when to go grocery shopping (can’t wait to give them that chore) and they are learning they can buy me off by doing the dishes and other chores (yes that’s a parenting win!). The Boy doesn’t like to have to go to work with me or having tonhang out with Grandma sometimes, it’s boring. He knows if he does the dishes and the chores I set out for him, he gets to stay at home by himself! They also know when the chore list is too long that it’s time to go be bored at Grandma’s or that they have a great book to read during my evening massages. (I ain’t raising no fools here!)

What I want to say in this blog is that your worth as a mom and/or wife is not defined by the cleanliness of you house, or you perfect make up and clothes or by your salary or your husband’s. You are not defined with how put together your kids are or if their socks match, or even if their pillow case matches their sheets or even if they turn in their homework, it doesn’t make you a bad mom! You worth is defined by you and you alone! Not your husband (he will always want the house cleaner or more sex) Not your children (they will always want you to come to see them at school when you have an important meeting but that time you take off work for a field trip they won’t want to be in your group.) You’re not defined by your parents (don’t get me started) just as your chikdren will not be defined by you! Definitely not by your work (they can say how much they want to pay you but that does not equal your worth) And let’s not forget the scale, it is gravity and who the fuck cares about numbers anyway! (I know we all do but I had to include this, we all do it. Take care of yourself and be healthy and exercise, but don’t be stuck on the number!)

Your worth is defined by you! What’s important to you? Is that where you are putting your energy? If not, make changes! If it is important for you to see your kids grow, take the time off for the school play that they have only one line in, take the day of the field trip off and chaperone. If it is important for you to pay bills…do whatever you have to to get a good job and keep it. If it is important to give your kids a kiss at night, change your schedule at work so you are home by bedtime!

But by all means DO NOT DEFINE YOURSELF BY THE FAILURES YOU MAKE EVERYDAY! You will have a lot of mom fails, like when your kids tell you the household needs groceries and you don’t have time in your schedule for two days. Or the time you got spit up all over your new blouse the day of a presentation to your boss, or when you have to make a mad dash into every room when the carpet cleaners come because you didn’t have time tobget everything picked up! We will have plenty of failures and we will survive, our kids will survive (by the grace of God and alcohol hand wipes) and our husbands will brag to his about what a “bad ass my wife is because she did_______” (which you will have to remind him you heard him brag about it the next time he tells you you need to do it better).

So stop worrying, the simple fact that we worry about it probably means we are good enough and sometimes….Good enough=Supermom!

So wether you are a stay at home mom or a working mom, you got this!!! Define ourselves by being present in Motherhood. Be it with a screaming baby that needs walked up and down the hall at night or the teenage kid out on a date that we are waiting up for knowing they will be home 1 minute before curfew and we have to get up to go in early in the morning… Mom’s, we got this!

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Target: Moms

18 Friday Mar 2016

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So the other day I was chatting with the person I hired to make a logo for my massage business and she asked who is your target market? My first response was people interested in health and wellness and fitness. I kind of rambled a bit but it came out that moms are my target. She had to convince me of this one being a good idea after the fact too. She said you have to have a target. You get those people’s attention and they will tell everyone else they know.

In BNI today we were tasked with telling a story that will make people cry. My story was about self care about people who walk in my office and can barely move and walk out chatting and smiling because they feel better. Then talking about how we tend to neglect our selves and our families especially those who have a business and those who take care of others for a living. Mom’s tend to out the kids, the husband,the house, their job and friends before them. They feel guilty going to the gym and/or going to get a massage for an hour and then spending the money on them. I used to say to moms in my momand fitness class “Your child’s mom deserves to be taken care of” for some reason when you look at it like that it makes you feel better. Why has self care become such a luxury eyes of us moms?
It is important to take care of ourselves. This body we have is the only one we get! We need to teach our kids that taking care of self is the most important and how important it is to be you best advocate for health. This is why moms are my target. I want to help teach this phenomena and hopefully end the self destructive behavior of putting everyone else’s needs above our need to be healthy in our own body!

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Self Care Everyday

02 Saturday Jan 2016

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take-care-of-youToday is the second day of the year! I still have no idea what my yearly goal will be. I need to go for a long run to think it out I think. I definitely need to make me priority. I need to refocus on fitness. I have my normal two half marathons scheduled but I want to accomplish more this year. I am going to put the effort into Everyday 2016. I am going to focus on Sex everyday with the Hubs. We are actually going to do it for real this year, But I am not going to make it put too much pressure on us. I have spoken with the Hubs and he agrees. But I feel bad not making up a new 2016 challenge. As much as 2015 was a success in the #Everyday2015 we did not make it everyday having sex. The first day we missed was Valentines Day because we got home late and tired and maybe had a few too many to drink. Then some frustrations of normal life and arguments ect made a challenge in the middle of the year.

We as a couple are planning to focus on “More kissing” and less arguing. We had a better 2015 than 2014 in that arena but we had a few big fights that we over reacted and blew up some in front of the kids. We need to stop that. Communication and patience and calmness and understanding of each other needs to happen. I know when I get flooded I need time to breath and calm down. The Hubs has a hard time stopping or pausing for that to happen so the whole thing escalates. We both need to work on our rolls in those moments.

Self care needs to lead the way, both of us. Both people in a relationship need to be healthy coming from a spot of selfcare and wellness. It is ones own responsibility to take care of ones self! We cannot expect our spouse or lover or partner or best friend to make us feel better or treat us better. It is our job to keep our self healthy. As they say you can’t serve from an empty vessel. Do what you need to feel grounded and centered especially in challenging times and/or times of conflict. Be it getting a massage, running, meditation, seeing a counselor, singing, playing an instrument, tinkering on a project car, building a model airplane or flying a kite do what you need to keep you happy. Do what makes your heart happy. Especially if you have a job that drains you or that does not exactly do that for you, it is your job to fill you heart and soul, no one else’s!

It is all part of a delicate balance that is life. Taking time for you sometimes takes time away from you family. It is important to use that time wisely. This is a tight rope walk that I have not learned how to manage very well. 2016 I will work on figuring that out and share my findings with you. It is tough to be mom (or dad), employee, business owner, homemaker and prepare and eat healthy foods, get kids to activities in the evening, monitor homework do housework, take time with your spouse, watch your favorite TV show and take time for you! But it is a job we need to take time to take care of ourself. Just schedule it in your day.

So go forth in 2016! Take care of yourself! Fuck your partner everyday! Be happy take care of you!

#Everyday2016

Massage Therapist Must Be a Model Of Self Care

08 Tuesday Dec 2015

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“A massage therapist who cannot budget adequate time for her own relaxation, rest, and fun may be a poor example for a client who struggles with over commitment and poor self-care. It is not enough to say, “Do as I say, not do as I do.” A massage therapist must be a model of healthy choices regarding self-care.”

I just read an article about massage and PTSD. This quote jumped out at me and reaffirms that I need to practice what I preach. Teaching Self Care has always been a big part of my massage practice. I would love to work with clients who have and are struggling with PTSD from former Military or formerly abused or traumatized by car accidents or work injuries. It has been passion on my heart recently. These patients need me to be 100% into their massage. I can’t go in tired of stressed about work, or home, or money, or anything that all has to stay outside. Which is why I need to be on top of my self care game. It is hard to serve from an empty vessel.

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I am having a chat with my boss about getting a raise so the need for me to work two jobs will be decreased. My family and time with them is very important to me and working the bar job puts quite a hindrance on that. I went back to work to pay for a car that we need and the Hubs really wants. I am pretty sure even without the bar job we could cover that right now, however with the bar job we have a good cushion for extra expenditures and don’t really have to be as “careful” with our spending. But self care and family time is more important!

Also in this quote, it talks about having time for fun and relaxation as a part of self care. I miss having time to run or go to the gym. I use my running time for thinking and clearing my head and managing my ADD. I haven’t fit that in since I have been so busy… Well, kind of with my blog but even time for that has been interfered with since I started working. Then, there is sleep and quality family time. I need to only work one job. I may be able to squeeze in one late night shift that starts after bedtime at the bar…maybe….

Anyway…I have a lot to do on this Tuesday ‘no schedule’ day, house cleaning, some BNI stuff, meal planning and even Grocery shopping… I want to make today very productive and I am feeling motivated!

#Everyday2015

Busy? Keep calm and Meditate

25 Wednesday Nov 2015

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This is awesome. I saved it earlier in the day so I could when I got a minute of down time I could post for today’s (Tuesday’s) blog. Well I just got down time. Half the town’s power is out and The Bar’s was not so lots of people came in to order food and be in a place that had lights and heat. It was a steady night we did pretty well. But time for me to go home and get as much sleep as I can before getting up for my massage job, 5 massages tomorrow and then leaving in the camping trailer (that’s not ready to go, and I am not packed) for the Holiday with the In Laws!

It should be fun! Have a good night I hope you all get time to meditate I am going to try to take some time to do that!
..if I ever can figure out how and when!

#Everyday2015

Rest Rest and More Rest….

20 Friday Nov 2015

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Today I woke up feeling worse than the rest of the week! What the fuck?! Seriously I have taken two days off and I should be feeling better! But, no!

The Girl said I HAD to go to the doctor today! She said “Mommy, you need to get better, NOW!” So I told her I would go to Urgent Care then she started crying. We were laying in my bed I had yet to get up and I wanted to cry because I felt so crappy. What the Heck? “Why are you crying?” I inquired to her. She said she didn’t know. Then after a few minutes she said “maybe, I just don’t want you to have to have a surgery” well, little does she know that’s not how you have surgery. LOL it was sweet that she was concerned and touched my heart to see her so worked up over me not being 100%. It broke my heart to see her crying out of worrying about me. So I decided I must go now. If she came home from school and I told her I didn’t go to the doctor she would be so upset, then if it was something then she would be even more mad!

Doctor said it’s a Virus! FUCK!!! That means I just wasted my time driving out here waiting then driving back home to be told rest and wait it out!

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I guess there is something calming about knowing I don’t have pneumonia or something bronchial that can’t heal on its own. However, had I not gone to the doctors I would have gotten more rest.

So here I sit after coming home taking a nap and then going through with some errands, actually volunteer work for football, I love being equipment manager this weekend is football gear check in and tonight I got there to realize that the clubhouse has flooded! UGH, more work, I love being equipment manager, no, really I do. If I didn’t enjoy it I would not do it, it is just a lot of time and work…did I mention unpaid even while sick! Anyway we are closer to being ready than we would be if I hadn’t gone in.

Now I need to rest. I am hoping to get up in the morning batteries charged and ready to face my 4 massage day. The Doc O work for said to assess myself that I feel good and am 100%. He made a good point “if you look like poop and feel like poop, your clients will see that you are not up to par” basically saying don’t come in sick. It is important to always put your best foot forward! And if you can’t stay home to get well! So I am going to do that. Turn off the phone lay head on pillow and get your rest, Ruby! Your body needs to heal and can’t when you burn the candle at both ends! So good night folks.

#Everyday2015

Time to Focus an Do The Hard Work of Self Care

09 Friday Oct 2015

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I am not adjusting well to this “working mom” role. I need to take more time for self care. I have gained 20 pounds since going back to work. Fuck this bull shit I am not letting my life slip away. I will get this in control. Self care is important. Balance is import. Taking care of me is as important as taking care of everyone else!

It’s time to work and by that I mean work on me!

#Everyday2015

Take Time to Take Care of Yourself!

16 Sunday Aug 2015

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Happy Sunday! Today was a fairly productive day for me and my family, the Girl and I played a game, we cleaned up some clutter in the house, did dishes, laundry…. then I had to go to work at the bar. And now I’m on my way home to the Hubs who’s making steaks for all of us. It was a super slow day at the bar today, I think I had five customers and at one time there were 3 there. I tried to but I didn’t even give out any pull tabs jackpot! I was filling in for the regular Sunday mid shift person… Made $25 in tips so not really worth missing my family for 5 hours, but it is more than I would have had without working right?!

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Sundays are for families, but this is bartender life right? …Something like that. I get home at 9:30 to a family who hasn’t eaten dinner so they are all cranky then, we eat (yummy steak made by the Hubs) kids go to bed, the Hubs and I sit down to relax only for me to spill a whole pounder glass of Cocktail (Eddy Palmer) all over the couch!! Fuck me! Really?! I dropped a glass of Bitters and Soda earlier today the same way all over the food menus at work. Got all the menus wiped down today though! But now I am entirely on the opposite side of the couch from the Hubs because of the wet mess!

Am I being flaky and not paying attention or is their something going on with my hands and muscles …I need a massage. I need to take care of my body, I only have one. Maybe it is a bit of Carpal Tunnel Syndrome flaring up! Note to self: Take care of your body, Ruby. You won’t be able to take care of your family if you don’t! …And that goes for all of you too!!

Take the time to take care of yourself! This is my business motto! It used to be on my business cards I need to start follow my own advice! Time to relax with the Hubs (on two ends of the couch!)

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