Happy Hump Day everyone! OK so I teased it the other day and I am finally (sorta) ready to write about this topic: Anal Sex. Actually I am not, I have been procrastinating all day! Why?! Probably the same reason you all just gasped because for some reason it is one of those unmentionable, unspeakable even taboo topics. Now before your stop reading and start judging me, read the rest. I have not only decided to just write about this topic I have decided to make it a Hump Day Challenge. Now back down fellas and ladies RELAX.
The topic has long been a bit of a Taboo. Especially for your’s truly here. It took me a lot of convincing and a lot of research to make sure I wouldn’t be in adult diapers forever! That was a main concern of mine. I don’t know what changed me. WebMd for one and other articles and books I read written by Anal Sex experts. I used to be a prude when it came to everything sex including anal sex. (Underscore used to as in past tense, not anymore!) My husband, however, was not. His first sexual experience was with a girl who would only have Anal Sex, at a very young age might I add. When we first started having sex (remember he was my first) I was not super comfortable with the idea of sex at all, let alone anal sex. When he said anal sex, I was like “WTF is he in the closet and really gay?” (Actually it would have been more like “Oh my word” I was a prude when it came to cussing too.) Contrary to what my young inexperienced self thought, that is not it either. Many straight men (and women too) enjoy and desire anal sex, it is very normal.
Maybe I should have worked up on this subject rather than throwing it into a Hump Day Challenge right away. We will ease into this settle down ladies and gents. Let’s start with saying there is no such thing as Taboo! There are no forbidden things here, here being in your bedroom or where ever you choose to privately do it. Anal sex can be very enjoyable, and it can be excruciatingly painful! (I have experienced both). Since we were young when we got married, I was very inexperienced and did I mention we were young? My husband was less than suave, patient and slow about approaching the subject… Let’s just say with experience, age and maturity on both sides of this relationship we have come to really, REALLY enjoy anal sex. You have to RELAX, you have to be ready for it and it has to be mutual decision. You cannot sneak up on you lover and shove it up there!
You must go slow be soft use lots of lube! The anus does not self lubricate the way the vagina does. This may be the biggest help for you to understand if you are just getting started having anal sex. I have experimented with a lot of different lubes my favorite is Jo Premium (you can buy it from my amazon store click on the link to the left in the sex section). I suggest that you start with some fore play. There are a lot of nerve endings in the area. Use lube, even when just starting foreplay near the back door have your fingers lubed up, some saliva from so good oral will do fine too.
If you are not into full on anal (at least not yet) make this challenge an anal play challenge it does not have to be all anal! You all know I am pro oral sex. I love the licking of all things sexual! Both ways. Ladies your man likes his balls licked and may also enjoy some anal licking.
Start off today’s adventure with some fun foreplay. Licking sucking fingering more licking. Some pre-grooming in the area may help the giver feel more comfortable and less squeamish (I personally am not a fan of hair down there at all, but that might be just me). If you get into some really good oral use the fingers to slide into the vagina and play with the G-spot use those fingers around the opening of the back door. Just feel it, let her feel it what it feels like. As you are still licking and sucking her gently push on her opening and on into her back side. She may get excited or may back off. Please, it should go without saying, make sure that she is into this and ready for it. Don’t make it weird and awkward. Don’t sneak up on her, if you do she will probably lock that back door and throw away the key! If you do it right she will be in heaven!
Once you two get comfortable with the fingering part (try one in each hole that DP affect is a really nice feeling for her) try a little pressure against her back entry with your manness. (This is where it gets weird trying to figure out positioning and such but try to be a comfortable and relaxed as possible) figure out which position you want to try from. Doggie is the most obvious that people think of. In my experience it is the most uncomfortable however I have heard some women prefer it because you can stimulate her G-Spot from that angle and an anal G-spot orgasm feels amazing for both participants. Try spooning the lady can lean back into him and control the speed and depth and the man can also push towards her slowly as well, and it kind of limits how far he can actually go in. We have had success with man on top ladies legs kind of up and she relaxes her legs down on him and he pushes into her (this may be a bit advanced for beginners it is a little confusing and tough to see where you are going but it is my preferred position) then he can lean down on you and rub up on you chest to chest in a missionary position. You can also try girl on top cowgirl style this way she controls how fast he enters her and can rock forward and fuck chest to chest (I am a huge fan of chest to chest fucking, back door or otherwise).
Bottom line as with every week when I do these Hump Day Challenges there are two of you, you both need to be into it. If he is timid take it easy if she is scared try the oral with a little anal licking and fingering around it no insertion yet. I highly recommend you leave you judgments outside! Forget how Taboo it might have been before you gave it a try. Anal sex is not just for birthdays any longer ladies! I am telling you anal sex orgasms feel amazing not just to me but to the hubs as well. We all enjoy making our lover orgasm we get pleasure by pleasing each other. When I finally relaxed and enjoyed anal and the Hubs saw me have my first “Anal O” he was so excited that I finally enjoyed it he was in awe! If we smoked cigarettes we probably would have lit up! (I’ve never understood that smoking thing but I think you know what I mean.)
If you are one who is a little timid and scared of Anal Sex for many reasons here is a link to an article that I think you would like it’s kind of a Girls Guide to Anal Sex. I had some of the concerns about anal sex when I first started and I go back and forth on some of them occasionally. Biggest thing you have to have consent, you have to use lube. You have to be all in. Meaning if you don’t relax enough you won’t enjoy it. If it hurts you are probably doing it wrong but just remember the more you relax and the more you are into it the better and smoother it will be. Use these articles, books, and good lube (lot’s of it) and love to communicate in a way that both people feel comfortable.
If you don’t want to do this challenge your wimps way out is Oral with Fingering. I hope I did not just lose a bunch of readers I hope you give a new thing a chance and enjoy. Remember everything is not for everybody! Go at your own pace and that of your lovers as well. Que up some fun porn that the two of you like, drink some grape vodka, get loose and have fun back door or front door. Sex is sex and it all feels good! Have some fun good sex tonight lovers!