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23 Friday Dec 2016

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I have had a rough few weeks. Last week I lost a friend, as a result of the circumstances that are fucked up. I know my friend was not ending our friendship because of anything that I did wrong but because it was what was the healthiest decision, probably for both of us. It is still sad to see a friend walk out of your life for no reason except the shitty things happening around you. Sometimes in lifewe have no control over the circumstances or things that happen to is we only have control over how we respond and live life after shiftiness happens. So for that reason my friend and I we had to say goodbye! At least for now. It was shitty. It still is shitty. Life is hard sometimes. Not every decision feels good and not every decision is a right and wrong some are deciding between shitty and more shitty, but as in this situation sometimes shitty is the healthy decision!

A Poem I memorized in Jr High school is in my brain from Langston Hughes 

“I loved my friend he went away from me. The poem ends soft as it began I loved my friend.”

I hope to one day reunite but for now we have to take care of ourselves. I promised my friend I would take care of me and I plan to keep the promise. It’s time to be positive and live life.

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Motivation, Get Some!

21 Thursday Jan 2016

Posted by in Do You, Friends, Love your body, Self Care, Uncategorized

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Many of you readers know I am a chronic dieter. Or not really a dieter but I am constantly watching my weight and I am in these weight loss challenge groups. Every 12 weeks or so me and about 40 other people are in this weight loss challenge, we put in $25 each and the top 3 get the money. It is a good way to get support and challenge each other. This challenge to change it up we are in teams of 2. My teammate I have never met. She and I have texted and for the last few weeks became each other’s cheer leader. Each week in the challenge we have mini challenges this week part of our mini challenge was to create something specifically to motivate out teammate. a couple of my friends are teammates with the mom or husband or BFF but me I don’t know my gal and I want to be extra motivational but don’t really know her. So I just pulled out some Quote pictures and made a little collage. I also wrote to her stating how thankful I am to have her to be accountable to. I am not always very self accountable. The most self accountability I have ever had has been writing this blog everyday. But when it comes to turning down the chocolate sittong on the counter at work or ice cream I usually make an excuse that I can have just one. Then I have just one more and one more until it turns into “Fuck It! I will be better tomorrow!” As I proceed to eat the whol bag of goodies! But for some reason when my success affects my teammate I tend to be a bit more driven to turn down that chocolate. Why is it that we can give up on ourselves so easily but it is harder to give up on someone else.

At least that’s how I am. I suck at getting to aerobics classes as a student but when I taught, I was always there! I love exercise classes, I would love to teach again too but for some reason I will constantly make excuses. I deserve a self to be better and to take care of me better. But at least for now I have a teammate who will benefit or not from my success which makes me more motivated to say no thank you when the daughter offers to get me ice cream after a long day. Now is a good time to be curious about that and maybe try to refocus my head to better take care of me. You know I preach self care all the time!!!!

So here is the motivational quotes I included in said collage. I found some that really spoke to me. I am hoping these quotes will speak to and inspire my teammate as well. My bet is she needed these quotes as much as I did. We have been a good fit for each other it is amazing how the universe works getting people together some how…almost like it was planned. Whatever it is divine intervention is awesome and I can’t wait to see where my teammate and I are heading in our weight loss/life battles.

To Self Care and Accountability

#Everyday2016

Don’t Let Fear Stop You

06 Sunday Dec 2015

Posted by in Be You, Do Your Thing, Massage Therapy, Self Care, Uncategorized, Working Mom

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It was Seahawks game day! We got a win! It was the first Sunday away game that I did not have to work. It felt right! I was so happy to spend the day with my family and friends! We had a great time! Seahawks won! Great game today they played well the whole game!

As much fun I had today and even this whole weekend it has been clouded with a bit of stress. I have to address it at the office. There are some changes happening at my office and I am feeling a little overwhelmed. I have wanted to sit down with the boss and chat about a few things but I have been to chicken to do so. Now things are coming to the surface and need to be addressed! “Please, Ruby, don’t chicken out. Stand up for yourself and be bold. Ask for what you want, how can you get what you want if you don’t ask. And nothing will change if you don’t speak up.” I have this really bad habit of not saying anything until I am way overwhelmed and it comes out harsh or bitchy or just plain not the way I wanted it to.

Fear-Quotes-32I want to ask for a raise, clarify schedules for me and the new massage therapist in the office, get some new supplies and make sure my role is defined and I know where I stand. I have considered asking about a partnership where I would take over or run the massage part of the business but I don’t know if I am ready for that or if I have time for that or if I could actually be a “partner”.  But right now with the acute issues that have been arising lately I am wondering if that all is too much to address all at once. But I am just going to go for it. Problem is that I have a full schedule and I don’t know when I can actually meet with my boss. I guess I just have to see if he can meet me after work one day or maybe before work.

My stomach is in knots just writing this! I am about in tears and I haven’t even wrote my list/outline to keep me focused during said talk with the boss. He is not a scary guy I actually like him a lot and he has told me in the past that he wants to keep me happy all I have to do is tell him what I need. So why am I so nervous about this talk. I am scared that he will decide now he has another therapist that will be there anytime, I have time constrictions to get the kids from school and such, so I am worried that maybe he will decide he doesn’t need or want me. She is fresh out of school and eager to work so maybe more flexible than I but really I just need to stand up for what I want and be happy.

I don’t want to work two jobs, I want to do massage. I want to promote wellness to my clients. I want to be happy. Why does it have to be so hard?!

Anyway, I am going to try to sit with this Seahawks win and the awesome weekend I have had with my family and be happy because that is what makes me happy! I am going to go look at some sexy videos with the hubs and end the day with a little attitude adjustment!

#Everyday2015