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Don’t Be Afraid

16 Monday May 2016

Posted by in Be You, Business, Do You, Don't judge me, Live in the Moment, Live life, Marriage is work, Mom Stuff, Raising Kids, Running, Schedule, Self Care, Take the time to take care of yourself, Volunteering, Working Mom

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I have gotten away from posting and/or writing everyday. I miss it! I want to write more but I am so busy, and other things get in the way. I want to take care of myself better too and the same things get in the way! It is my time! I am Ruby, I am a Mom, I am a Wife, I am a Massage Therapist and many other things. I am a woman who deserves the best from herself and I have not been giving myself the best. It is scary to leave what works and go to the unknown. I know I am better than this, I know I deserve better. I even think I know how to get it. But I am scared and as with every part of my life so far I sabotage and make excuses! STOP IT RUBY! JUST, STOP IT!

Don't be afraidI am a dreamer I believe we all deserve the best and we all are worthy but for some reason I accept less, always. Especially when it is me that is responsible for making it happen. It is so easy to stay in the now especially when things are good enough and maybe even better than most. I still sit here wanting the best, wanting more am I really capable? How can I do it? Will it really work? If not then what? Will I lose everything I have worked for so far? Probably not, but possibly. That is always possible. Am I making the best effort all the time? am I always doing my best? Am I always expecting the best or am I always accepting less? I am always accepting less, for me, I can sacrifice. As long as everyone else is happy. My best happiness does not always matter to me. I want everyone else to be happy I want them to have it easy, I will do the harder work to make you happy and hope that you will do the same for me…guess what, they don’t!

So here is my charge to myself, it is time to make the best decision for me. It is time for me to go be great! I know what I have to do. I almost know how to do it. I don’t know how I am going to but I am going to do it! I will be great. My life will be great and I will get what I deserve. I will not shy away from work to get there!

Do you need to do the same? Let’s support each other!

#DoYou2016

Target: Moms

18 Friday Mar 2016

Posted by in Homemaker, Massage Therapy, Mom Stuff, Self Care

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So the other day I was chatting with the person I hired to make a logo for my massage business and she asked who is your target market? My first response was people interested in health and wellness and fitness. I kind of rambled a bit but it came out that moms are my target. She had to convince me of this one being a good idea after the fact too. She said you have to have a target. You get those people’s attention and they will tell everyone else they know.

In BNI today we were tasked with telling a story that will make people cry. My story was about self care about people who walk in my office and can barely move and walk out chatting and smiling because they feel better. Then talking about how we tend to neglect our selves and our families especially those who have a business and those who take care of others for a living. Mom’s tend to out the kids, the husband,the house, their job and friends before them. They feel guilty going to the gym and/or going to get a massage for an hour and then spending the money on them. I used to say to moms in my momand fitness class “Your child’s mom deserves to be taken care of” for some reason when you look at it like that it makes you feel better. Why has self care become such a luxury eyes of us moms?
It is important to take care of ourselves. This body we have is the only one we get! We need to teach our kids that taking care of self is the most important and how important it is to be you best advocate for health. This is why moms are my target. I want to help teach this phenomena and hopefully end the self destructive behavior of putting everyone else’s needs above our need to be healthy in our own body!

#Recommit2016

Massage Therapist Must Be a Model Of Self Care

08 Tuesday Dec 2015

Posted by in Be Present, Be You, Self Care, Washing Clothes, Working Mom

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“A massage therapist who cannot budget adequate time for her own relaxation, rest, and fun may be a poor example for a client who struggles with over commitment and poor self-care. It is not enough to say, “Do as I say, not do as I do.” A massage therapist must be a model of healthy choices regarding self-care.”

I just read an article about massage and PTSD. This quote jumped out at me and reaffirms that I need to practice what I preach. Teaching Self Care has always been a big part of my massage practice. I would love to work with clients who have and are struggling with PTSD from former Military or formerly abused or traumatized by car accidents or work injuries. It has been passion on my heart recently. These patients need me to be 100% into their massage. I can’t go in tired of stressed about work, or home, or money, or anything that all has to stay outside. Which is why I need to be on top of my self care game. It is hard to serve from an empty vessel.

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I am having a chat with my boss about getting a raise so the need for me to work two jobs will be decreased. My family and time with them is very important to me and working the bar job puts quite a hindrance on that. I went back to work to pay for a car that we need and the Hubs really wants. I am pretty sure even without the bar job we could cover that right now, however with the bar job we have a good cushion for extra expenditures and don’t really have to be as “careful” with our spending. But self care and family time is more important!

Also in this quote, it talks about having time for fun and relaxation as a part of self care. I miss having time to run or go to the gym. I use my running time for thinking and clearing my head and managing my ADD. I haven’t fit that in since I have been so busy… Well, kind of with my blog but even time for that has been interfered with since I started working. Then, there is sleep and quality family time. I need to only work one job. I may be able to squeeze in one late night shift that starts after bedtime at the bar…maybe….

Anyway…I have a lot to do on this Tuesday ‘no schedule’ day, house cleaning, some BNI stuff, meal planning and even Grocery shopping… I want to make today very productive and I am feeling motivated!

#Everyday2015