XXX-it is Hump Day!-XXX


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Hello Hump Day Challengers! Something occurred to me today and I don’t know what to think about it. Since I became a more busy working mom my prudishneas has came out more. When I started this blog I was more forward and unafraid to speak (blog) how I feel and just out it out there in thebficking world to see. Using foul language and coming up with sex challenges just flowed out of my brain and onto the page through my keyboard. Have I exhausted my sexual creativity? Am I destined to be a prude the way I was raised? Or am I a busy tired mom that I created this blog for to combat the tiredness and staleness in a relationship that tends to happen with busy couples? I might be thatast mom but I will not give in and I will note let that business win and ruin my relationship or blog. 

So here is my h ump day challenge. I received the above meme from a friend of mine. She captioned it with tonight is not THAT night for me. I responded with well, it is Hump Day!! 

With all of that in mind, here is my challenge to you. Fight that urge to be tired and stale. Turn off you device that you are reading this, turn off the TV go to bed. Or turn on a sexy movie or pull up some porn for inspiration with your lover and get it on. My plan is to publish this blog, take my clothes off and climb o top of my husband. You could cuddle next to you lover play with yourself under the blanket you are covered up with and put your fingers under his nose he will smell your pussy juices and probably suck your fingers for a taste. Or whisper sweet nothing’s like “let’s get away from the kids and fuck!” However you do it please turn down the noise of busy lives, kids, housework that needs to be done, and go fuck! Fuck untik you both come maybe one or both of you will twice! 

Stop letting”LIFE” get in the way of your sex life! Use today to fick each other! Happy Hump Day!


Be Thankful


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​Happy Thanksgiving. We want to thank Toby and Fred, our two Turkeys who sacrificed all for our Thanksgiving dinner. Toby got to smoke in the Traeger, and Fred got cooked in the deep frier. Here are pictures of Toby and Fred post cooking. Thank you Toby and Fred. You both tasted yummy and created mouth watering, orgasmic like flavor in our mouths! To Toby and Fred, thank you!

Fred who was Deep Fried

Toby who was smoked in the Traeger

For real though, I am thankful for yesterday, today, and tomorrow. Yesterday was a rough day. Today is a reminder that every moment in yesterday was yesterday. Today is a new day. Most bad days will end, and there will be a tomorrow. Worrying about tomorrow just ruins today. If today is bad, just remember there is always (not guaranteed, but most of the time) a tomorrow. Tomorrow is a new start, and promise of a new day. 

So, if yesterday was bad, LEAVE IT THERE!  If today is bad, take solace and find peace that tomorrow is a new day. When tomorrow becomes today we can throw away the toils of worrying, put tomorrow in the past and live today. We can leave behind the stress anger and negativity of yesterday, and enjoy this moment. Relish in the sun on your face or the rain washing your spirit clean. Rain or shine there is something to be thankful for in today! Live today, that’s all that matters and it’s all you can control!

Happy Thanksgiving readers, I am thankful for you coming to read my thoughts inspiration and encouragement. Love yourself and love your family. Take nothing for granted. Even the shittiness in a given day, there is no good reason to toil about yesterday or tomorrow. Today is a gift, Be thankful.

Rise Above the Negative


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Hello friends! Last week was rough for me! I am rising above the negativity and coming out of those ashes! I know that we mom’s expect much more out of ourselves than we should. Many times, we expect even more from ourselves than our worst critic. Sadly, sometimes, that critic lives with us and is one that we love most and the one we don’t want to let down. Which is why we are so hard on ourselves. Little does that critic know he or she, his criticism, is what not only drives us and motivates us to do better but also and more likely is what drives us to fall into dark places, kills us on the inside and shakes our confidence. 

So this quick post is to say to you, rise above you mom or sister or whoever is hard on you, magnifying you minor faults, most of all rise above that voice in your head shouting out your major faults! It’s time to realize, we are all worthy of the crown we wear! Yes we all wear a crown! We are all queens of our own universe and we are our best ally! So stop cutting youself short, stop focusing on the negative don’t letting them in your head! Don’t believe everything you think! You are not that bad you are the queen

Try to find a way to shake off their words and negativity and find positive. Call your friend who supports you. Go chat with you brother or dad instead of your unapproving mother. Have girlfriend time (or guy time if your a dude reading this post). Distract yourself away from the negative. Whoever that critical family member is trying to help you be better. But you can’t hear that it’s best to get away to distract yourself away from the negative situation. Read mom blogs like this one to remind yourself that you are normal! We are all normal and we are all queens! Our crowns do t always have jewels sometimes the have gray hair or as a friend of mine states Sparkly hair and sometimes it’s a ponytail thrown a baseball cap! Wear it proud. 

This critical loved one, they have a dark story and tjays where their negativity is coming from there. They probably need support and positivity in their life as well but you focus on you. They are not ready to focus on themselves maybe they don’t know how. Let them be. Share only love that is the only way to break the cycle, get yourself the loving support that you need and love your loved ones back. Break the cycle of negativity and Rise above!

You don’t have an alien living in your house, you doing just fine! You are the queen, keep it up! 


XXX-Fantacize Role Play-XXX


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Todays Hump Day Challenge is to be adventurous in a story. Do you have or does your partner have a fantasy that you just can’t bring yourself to do. My challenge for you today is to talk about the story of your fantasy not in a way to actually make it happen, just to dream about it and get turned on and make it a sexy time with your lover. If you have always fantacized about having a night with LL Cool J (who hasn’t, the way he licks his lips and he so hot!) After you two have decided to participate in this Hump Day Challenge when you are ready to get started, tell your lover a detailed story what LL would do to you. Maybe it’s your man who is telling you the story of what LL would be doing to you as he acts out the story. This may be a good way to explore that threesome fantasy without actually having to have the threesome. Your mate may actually like the idea and realize that it might not be so bad after the acting out and hearing the role they would play in it and how it would make you feel. However, the intention of this challenge is not to get your way or convince your partner to have said fantasy, it’s to give you the chance to vicariously live it and enjoy that fantasy. 

Does you man dream of a threesome with you and a hot super model? As you tell him the story act out as much as you can and let him just close his eyes and imagine he is there with you and her. Maybe it’s you wanting to fuck Captain America, get him the costume and play dirty with him. Stay open mined and relax. Don’t read too much into how much he enjoys the idea of you being someone else or having another lady to pleasure him. The same way he is not judging you when you are not so secretly fantasizing about Captain America.

Let it open your mind and his. Relax and don’t judge. If you get uncomfortable subtly veer the conversation or story to a place that your comfortable. Only go to where you both are comfortable! Don’t push and don’t ask to do it in real life this is for fantasizing. I believe it can be a real valuable tool to help with low libido and lack of interest. Sometimes sex gets hard to accomplish in the rat race of life, use these ideas to spice up your sex life. 

Just relax and have sex! The physical act of sex releases happy chemicals and hormones in you brain that combat stress and frustration. Endorphins can even affect pain levels so all of these are good reasons to have sex, and enjoy sex and put in the work for your partner to be satisfied during sex. Visualization and fantasy can be valuable but make it clear where the fantasy line begins and reality line ends. Be honest and clear with your boundaries and respect your partner’s! Now, go get that sexual release and enjoy the destress benefits! And enjoy the fantasy!


Ruby’s New Focus Tool


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Today we spent the day cleaning. I love when my husband helps to get the house cleaned and organized, but I also hate it when he does too. Most of the time, the Hubs and I clash on so many levels. He doesn’t understand why I can’t focus and I can’t understand what the heck he is doing and how the fuck I am supposed to do it his way!!! Today was a little different. We had a good day and little stress and no blow fight! Which is very surprising because we are oil and water when it comes to cleaning and organizing, but I am not complaining. I even got to watch my husband vacuum at the end of it! My bathroom that we have been remodeling is done and my bedroom is clean! We pulled everything out of drawers and reorganized everything. The Hubs even went through the gun safe and under the bed. I handled the stuff that got takend out of the medicine cabinet and the drawers of the new vanity. So everything is back in the bathroom area.

I also went through my night stand. It has two drawers in those drawers I found everything from old receipts from 1999 to sex toys. I also found index cards from Kinesiology class in massage school and yoga flash cards. There were a lot of books on a lot of subjects from sex to yoga to old Bible studies I did when my kids were babies. There was also a baby shoe and burp rag from the baby years. I loved going through all of it. There was also some costumes (If you can call the small pieces of fabric that) old creams and flavored lotions. Basically my whole sexual history in a nutshell was right there in front of me. Was pretty entertaining remembering where I came from. I was a very sheltered and prudish when The Hubs and I first got together. I have bought books about giving blow jobs, to anal sex and lotion products to go with it, and now here I am writing a blog about sex and relationship.

The Hubs and I have been through some rough spots but where we are now has really reassured me that we are doing at least some things right. We spend a lot of time together. Today we even cleaned together! We love having sex together. Maybe today we worked so well together because we started the day by having sex before we started cleaning! I don’t know if that was it or not that made the Hubs more patient with me than normal or maybe I was more focused than normal or we have been able to figure out jobs for me to do that I can do that works with my brain beter than we usually do. I think it was the sex. Maybe that’s a new ADD treatment that I need! Regardless, it worked.

Maybe what worked was one of my tasks was to go through my night stand and here is a sample of what I found in this pic! Maybe one reason I could focus was because this stuff is so interesting and fun to go through! 



Hello blog family! If you are reading this you may be one of the followers who have been missing me! I apologize for my lack of keeping up. I am trying to figure out my schedule and get back to blogging regularly. It has been a struggle these last few weeks. I love my blog I love being the person I can be here. No judgements no holding back just raw real Ruby is what you get!

The last few weeks life has been rough. Just like yours I assume everyone’s has! Between business owning, house cleaning (that never looks clean) and remodeling a bathroom, being a mom and Massage Therapist, Coaching and a slew of other things life has been…Life!

I’ve struggled recently toiling over what people think of me and to that I say Fuck it! I am Ruby I will be who I want when I want and I am not always the same crazy drinking swearing lady you read here, sometimes I’m a caring sweet mommy or a sexy wife or a prudishness dance coach, a professional and many other things depending on the hat I’m wearing! That’s my choice and  my decision. I am going to appreciate that and love it and own it! You should too Be You!


XXX-Seductive Show-XXX


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Happy Hump Day! Today I had The Boy home sick from school. So I got very little work done today but it would have been perfect for me to write my blog but of course I didn’t think about it while we were snuggling on the couch watching Pitch Perfect. So here goes while I sit here watching football. It is a nice crisp fall night I am loving the quiet down time just watching the boys. I am struggling with my mommy muscles to go rescue the boy from getting yelled at when he makes a mistake. I just want to say give him a break he’s sick. But in the real world, it doesn’t slow down because you’re sick. They boy has to learn to be tough and to put in the work and tough it out if he wants to be there and be great. As I sit back and watch I just smile watching The Hubs and all the other coaches putting their passion and their love for the game and these boys out there. All of these men could be at home in a warm living room with their feet up but they are here with our boys making them better players, better students of the game and eventually, better men.

show-off-your-bodyI digress though. Today’s Hump Day Challenge is about feeling confident in your skin. Today I want you to seductively strip for your partner. As you may know The Hubs and I have sex a lot. We try for every day but don’t always make it. We always go to bed at the same time. Sometimes, many times especially as we get busier and life gets crazier we sort of just go through the motions of sex. We get in bed naked usually one of us in in bed and covered up before the other. We snuggle close and get on with it. We enjoy each other and sex even on these normal go through the motion kind of nights. Tonight I want you to make it different. Tonight as I always suggest go to bed together and seductively take your clothes off for your lover. If you are like me add some music.

As you set the stage think about what you like about your body and how your will showcase it for your lover. Think about what your lover has told you he/she loves about your body. How would they love to see it showcased? Throw out your insecurities about your body. Yes, you may have a bit of a muffin top or you don’t like your stretch marks, but I guarantee your lover does. Show your body off to him be sexy be romantic, be playful. Lap Dance or grind on him when you get completely naked take her clothes off in a seductively sultry way. Kiss each other’s body lick her pussy, suck his cock. Be slow and feel your body touching theirs. Sit back for a second and check out your lover can you believe you get to fuck that? How amazing is that? Treat your lover’s body with the ultimate sensual sexual energy and attention.

A few notes to those who may struggle with this whole confidence thing. When you are stripping look at the part of your body you are trying to showcase, this takes his eyes there too. If there is a part of your body that you are less confident about, just let it go. Stop worrying about it! You are beautiful! You are sexy! Your lover wants that body show it to him!  She chose you for a reason you are sexy!


Put In The Work


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It was a great week for our Pee Wee Football team finally got it’s first win. It was only week three but we only have 7 weeks and 6 games! Our boys the team that is together this year has been to the Championship the last time they were together. They have great talent just raw talent and teamwork, when they decide to use it! They have not worked as hard as they should yet this season so the coaches took matters into their own hands and kicked the boys asses during practice this week. They ran them in wind sprints and bear crawls and more sprints. They worked hard they were tough and those boys responded so well. You should have hear some of the parents “my son is big he can’t run like that” “do they know what they’re doing” “they don’t run that much during the game” “They need to work on their plays” My feeling is no, they need to toughen up and get in shape. The last few games the boys were gassed in the 4th quarter.

motivational-quotes-for-work-hardWell, this week’s game, our kids went out and won 19-0. They kicked ass. They did pretty much everything they were asked to do. They held their positions the backs hit their holes the line held their blocks. Defense wrapped up and held their tackles. They hit hard took the hard hit. The boy actually took a tough hit in open field unprotected it was epic. They called a buck wedge play (that might make sense to some of you) and he was the ball carrier he is one of the smallest kids but he is usually a blocking back so he only gets to carry the ball a few times a game. So I remember when they put this play in the playbook, they always said, “this might be your break out touchdown play or you will get stuffed” they are banking and hoping the defense bites on a fake. Well this game they kind of did, so the boy gets the ball circles around like he is supposed to then starts up field running full speed and BAM here comes the linebacker unblocked and just hashmarks the boy. (When we were in high school the players earned hashmarks the ticks to go on their helmets in order to get a hashmarks  you had to change the direction of the players body 90 degrees) basically dominating the opponent. Well the boy takes the hit and pops right back up. We were all worried but it was an epic hit one that you would replay like 50 times if you were at home watching a professional game. Anyway it was awesome. The boy still gained about 3-4 yards.

Bottom line our boys played like we know they should and better yet they got the win. These moments in youth sports is what it is all about. You can’t just get the great coaches, the good team and show up at a game. You have to work hard at practice, and at the games every single day. It takes 100% all of the time regardless of how tired you are or how much homework you have or anything else! In the moment you are working on your craft, be it your job, your sport, your art…you have to go hard, you have to give it your all. Becaue your excuses don’t matter. When you make excuses you are left with results you don’t want and your excuse and regrets! Excuses don’t win games, your opponent doesn’t care! if you want him to win keep it up. If you want to win and get the results you want stop making excuses and put in the work!


XXX-Vampires Kiss-XXX


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Happy Hump Day! Today’s Hump Day Challenge follows the number of today. Today’s number is 273 and our Hump Day Challenge is coming from the book 365 Sex Moves (There is a link to purchase this book in the Sex Love and Washing Clothes Amazon store link on this page) by Randi Foxx. Day 273 is Dracula’s Kiss and it requires some props (how fun!) So grab some cuffs they will be for her feet and then grab your feathered riding crop (or something similar maybe a scarf to tie up her feet and a ruler if you don’t have a riding crop) and get ready. Have I mentioned how amazing these photos are in this book?
With the woman stretched out on her stomach with her feet cuffed or tied together the man straddles her upper thighs and enters her from behind. He gently uses his riding crop to coax her throat upward so he can kiss and nible on her neck and throat like a vampire.

Feel free to use your imagination add in some whipping if she is naughty. Ladies arch your back it’s all sexy for him and accentuates your curves. Then reach back to caress the back of his neck while he kisses you. Remember your feet will be cuffed not your hands so explore what you can do…maybe you can grab the riding crop and use it on him. Bend your knees up to hold his hips in place or press them in deeper as he penetrates you. As you flow through this sex session explore the fun and teasing as well as the different positions you can try and interesting things you can do and maybe not do as your feet are cuffed.

As always be creative, be patient and go at your lovers pace. Don’t push them into something they are not comfortable with. Being tied up, spankings and/or entering from behind can always give some a little anxiety. Encourage her she is in control. Tell him what your limits are and respect each other. See if this is something you will continue to include to keep things interesting or if it’s just a one night thing. Either way be brave love with you everything and relax and explore sex tonight.